Family Feud Questions and How To Deal With Teenagers
Today's teenagers are generally considered as being egoistic, uncaring, and insolent spoilt brats who do not own any redeeming qualities whatsoever.
Contrary to the sceptics amongst us, this perception of teenagers is completely wrong in the majority of instances. Talk to your teen, on his or her
level, about sensitive issues or family feud questions that need to be talked about within the family, and you will see that your son or daughter does
rely on you, as a parent for guidance, and to ensure domestic tranquillity. It is never too soon to start talking about sensitive topics, however, it can
regrettably be far too late.
You may be pleasantly surprised to find that your teen really wants you to establish boundaries within the family. They may chew at the bit for a short
time, but they're really just trying you out to see how serious you really are about the boundaries you've set to ensure domestic tranquility. So whatever
you do, stick to your guns!
What are your views on matters such as sex, drugs, alcohol, dating, and anything else that goes on in the world or within your local community? Your
beliefs will influence your children, be that in a positive or negative direction, but affected they will be. Therefore they need guidance from you and they
need to know that you care about their concerns and beliefs. Parents ought to hash out matters with their kids, in a civil manner and not just give them
a list of rules they are expected to follow to the letter. Beware, if you play the role of dictator, you will start a rebellion! Kids require freedom, they need
it to explore and to mature. You must make sure they know that they can come to you to discuss anything and everything. If you cannot do that,
someone else will..!
* Tell your kids what you require of them both at home and in public.
* Respect them as the independent, young adults that they are and they will be a lot more respectful of you.
* Be attentive and supportive when they do approach you with problems or concerns.
It's natural your teen will have queries about topics that they are interested in, and it is important that you never make your teen feel like their
comments are stupid or their thoughts immature and don't ignore these matters. Always be up front and be completely honest with them and express
your concerns and share your experience with the subjects at hand. This is parent and teenager bonding at its best.
A great way to address your teenager's problems, even before they rise to the surface is to practice with your partner asking questions your teen might
ask you. Then discuss and find the answers that will cover their fears or concerns. By doing this, you will be prepared and will be better equipped to
enter into a dialogue with your teenager when the situation arises. For obvious reasons, you don't want your child to think his, or her, parents are
making fun of them, so only indulge in role play when you are alone with your partner.
Now and again teens will ask questions at the most inappropriate time, much like a toddler will. Try not to be caught off guard too much. Be forthright
with them rather than pushing the question to the side. Take the matter up at the time, rather than being forced to contradict any information they get
from their friends, at a later date, or anyone else who are more than happy to talk with them about it.
Tell your child if you don't feel comfortable discussing a topic, but that your relationship is more important than a little bit of discomfort. They may be
uncomfortable bringing the subject up as well. You don't have to spell out to your teen every single detail of your own teenage years, but using
scenarios and lessons you have learned should confirm that you aren't Neanderthal..!
At some time or another, most teenagers give the impression that they have the answer to everything, and the simple truth is - they don't. Like
everyone that has walked before them, they too need to learn as they grow into adulthood. Your duty as a parent doesn't cease when your child
crosses the threshold into adulthood, instead you just graduated to a new level of relationship. Take every chance to talk with your teen about
sensitive issues, puberty, boundaries in relationships, family feud questions and establish boundaries. Do it now while they are still under your roof,
and before it's too late to influence them.
About the Author
Vivienne Myatt has helped numerous parents set boundaries in relationships over several years applying her knowledge as a certified childcare officer
and moseveralr. On matters that concern moms and mums everywhere, Vivienne Myatt shares her interests via her various blogs and newsletter.