How To Get A Divorce The Easy Way How to get a divorce is a question that should be taken very seriously. The actions you take or do not take in the very beginning can make or break you financially. Getting a divorce can be complicated and expensive. Dealing with the fact that your marriage is over is difficult enough, but unlike a breakup with a boyfriend, ending a marriage involves legal implications, property division and support and care of any children you may have together. Too often a divorce that should have been simple and clean cut turns into a nasty battle that can cost both you thousands in attorney fees, emotional stress, and psychological damage to your kids. So why isn’t there a simple, easy way to divorce without destroying your family, finances and any chance of a civil relationship with your ex? The answer may surprise you. Often the first thing someone does when trying to figure out how to get a divorce is hire a divorce lawyer. This is often done without much serious research, your neighbor may of recommended her attorney and you hire the first lawyer you interview. This is a huge mistake. You must be very careful about choosing a divorce attorney. Why many divorces end up in bitter, long drawn out battles, is because of the divorce attorney himself. Shockingly, many divorce lawyers do not want you to amicably settle your divorce. After all, this is how they make their living. If you or your spouse falls into the hands of an unscrupulous divorce attorney, your divorce can become a nightmare. Some of the signs to watch out for are divorce lawyers who encourage you to “get everything”. They reassure you that you will win your divorce and get the majority of the marital assets. They boost your confidence and give you false hope. The truth is that most states have specific laws about the division of property and assets in a divorce. Some states split martial assets between divorcing couples while others use equitable distribution. The divorce attorney’s goal is drag your case out long enough so that he can use up your retainer and get additional funds from you. Other ways he may do this is by not answering the opposing attorney’s phone calls and offers to settle. He may not file the appropriate court documents and have court dates adjourned, all while charging you by the hour. The easiest and most simple way to get a divorce is to first seek out a mediator. Now this will only work if your spouse agrees to this. Before hiring divorce lawyers, see if the two of you can settle things in a civil manner and divide you assets fairly. If this is impossible, then you need to do your research and find the best divorce lawyer in town. Ask people you know for recommendations and then follow up by visiting with several lawyers before making your final choice. You want to find a divorce lawyer who is ethical honest and has a history of successful cases. Ask for references. A lawyer, who is well known and has a good reputation, especially at your local family court, can be a huge asset. Most of all, keep in mind that divorce is not always fair and chances are neither of you will be completely happy with your settlement in the end. It is a give and take process. If you are faced with a vengeful, out of control spouse, you will need to protect yourself and your finances, by having the best representation you can hire. Learning how to get a divorce can be a draining, time consuming process, but if you do your homework and keep your emotions in check, you can have a positive divorce outcome. Christina Rowe is the author of the best selling divorce book "Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know". Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce. For your free chapter of the book go to:http://www.secretsofdivorce.com