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Since its inception, the Yeshiva's program for out-of-town students has had overwhelming success in
providing students with excellence in Jewish and secular education and in developing outstanding young
adults and future leaders. Students from out of town are completely integrated into the Yeshiva's
academic and extra-curricular programs. Their presence has added new dimensions to the school, and
has enhanced the educational, social and spiritual growth of the student body.

Over the years we have tailored our program for out-of-town students to meet the evolving needs of the
school and students. This year, high school boys will be dismissed at 6:10 PM; during the winter months
dismissal will be at 6:25, following Ma’ariv. Boarders are required to stay for night seder on Mondays.
They will learn from 6:45 to 7:45 P.M. Boys should eat supper between dismissal from classes and night
seder. All incentives given to non-boarding students for night seder apply to boarders as well. (See
Student & Parent Manual). Students in Rabbi Anemer’s shiur may have individualized schedules. On
days when there is early dismissal, boys will generally not have night seder or Mishmar.

On Thursday evenings, there is mandatory Mishmar from 6:45 to 7:45 for all boys in grades 9-12. Boys
should bring their own supper or they may purchase meals offered through the Student Council. During
most of the year, Ma’ariv will follow Mishmar from 7:35 to 7:45.

Other aspects of the program are included under "Student Life" and "Shabbos & Yom Tov."


The program is open to boys in grades seven through twelve. Applicants are carefully screened to assure
that they possess (a) the academic ability to meet the rigorous curriculum of the Yeshiva and (b) the
psychological makeup and maturity level to function well socially and emotionally away from home. All
students, however, can be expected to require some time to fully adjust to a new school and/or new living


Host families are selected to complement the personality of the individual student and to accommodate
his specific needs. Toward that end, host families are advised of any special educational or personal
needs of the student that are relevant to the boarding situation. Hosts also serve as representatives of the
Yeshiva. They implement the Yeshiva's regulations outside of school hours and bring violations of school
policies to the attention of the administration. In general, the goal is to select homes that provide a warm,
caring environment and which are able to integrate the student into the family and its activities. Many
boarders form close ties with their host families and keep in touch long after they have left the Yeshiva.


Boarding Fee
The host family provides the student with full room and board. The room and board fee for the 2002-03
school year is $4,000. These payments are separate from and in addition to payments made to the
Yeshiva for tuition, registration, school fees, etc.
The boarding fee due to the host family is in no way affected by the amount of time spent by the student
away from the host family in any particular month. Payments are to be made by either one lump sum at
the beginning of the school year or by post-dated monthly checks, dated on or about the first day of each
month of the school year, September through June. Boarding checks should be made payable to the

host family. Additionally, we recommend that you provide the “host family” with some additional money for
any unexpected expenses they may incur.

Spending Money
The student's parents should provide spending money for all entertainment, supplementary snacks and
eating out, and occasional transportation needs. Most school field trips have already been included in the
student fee. Fees for optional activities, such as playing on school sports teams, Shabbaton, ski trip, etc.,
and the round-trip, door-to-door costs of visits home are the responsibility of the student's parents.


The host family will provide the boarder with clean living quarters, comfortable sleeping accommodations
and ample light, heat, and storage space for the student's belongings.

Student's Room
The student is expected to keep his room in neat condition. Beds should be made daily and no clothing or
trash should be left on the floor. Lights and electronic equipment in the boarder's room should be turned
off when the rooms are not in use. All wall decorations (i.e. posters, calendars and pictures of any sort)
should be in good taste and reflective of the goals and values of the Yeshiva and the host family. The host
family or the Yeshiva may & will conduct brief inspections at reasonable times to determine that the room
is being kept in order.

The host family and the student should respect each other's privacy. Members of the host family should
always knock on the student's door before entering. The student's quarters are off limits to the family's
children unless the children are invited in by the student. The family's bedrooms are off limits to the
student unless the student is asked in.

If the student wishes to use the kitchen, dining room, or other "public" areas of the house for study or
other activities, he should ask permission to do so. The student's personal belongings should not be left
in those areas, and the student should always clean up after himself and turn off the lights and other
equipment if he is the last one to leave the room.

The student should bring the following items from home:
A. two complete set of linens, including bottom sheets, top sheets or duvet covers, pillowcases,
B. towels (at least 2 of each size used)
C. shampoo and other hairdressing supplies
D. special soaps and other bath/shower supplies
E. toothpaste, toothbrush, mouthwash
F. combs and brushes
G. laundry detergent and other laundry supplies
H. laundry bag/basket (See also "Laundry & Dry Cleaning," below.)
I. bathrobe
J. alarm clock or clock radio
K. school supplies, such as binders, notebooks, paper, pens and pencils
L. prescription medications, any over-the-counter medications taken on a frequent basis.

Boarders should replenish supplies on trips home whenever possible. If it becomes necessary to obtain
supplies at other times, it is the responsibility of the boarder to notify the host family so that items can be
purchased during a regular shopping trip.

Parents must inform the hosts of any allergies the student has, as well as any medication(s) the boarder is
taking, the correct dosage and frequency, and any side effects they should watch for. The hosts should
provide occasional doses of non-prescription drugs (e.g., for headache or stomach upset), as appropriate
in their judgement, unless the student’s parents object. Any concerns about the student's health or use of
medications should be brought to the attention of his parents and/or Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman.

Family Activities
In general, the host family should invite the student to join in its activities. When it is not feasible to
include the student, the host family should inform him in advance and discuss what alternative
arrangements will be mutually acceptable. Likewise, if the student does not wish to participate in a family
activity, the family and the student should discuss alternative plans, if needed.

The student should be assigned a daily chore (such as setting the table), if this is the family practice for its
own children. However, on evenings when boys eat out (such as before Mishmar), they should not be
expected to participate in family meal preparations or clean-up. Students should also help with family
preparations for Shabbos or Yom Tov as needed.

Hosts may ask the boarder to baby-sit as a favor for brief periods of time (such as when the host must
drive a carpool) when the boarder would be home anyway. However, if the boarder is asked to baby-sit
for longer periods of time, he should (1) have the right to decline the "job" and (2) be compensated at the
going rate for babysitters of the same age in the community.


Private Telephones
Before having a private telephone line installed in his room, the student must receive permission from
Rabbi Niman or Rabbi Idstein. A private telephone is a privilege, not a right, which will be granted on a
case-by-case basis. A student who uses the telephone inappropriately may have this privilege revoked.
Failure to gain permission before installing a private line will result in denial of this privilege. Students may
not have a personal cell phone without explicit permission from Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman. However,
even students with permission for a cell phone may not have it on school grounds during school hours.

Host Family Phone
The student may share the host family's line in a considerate fashion that does not conflict with the
family's usage of the telephone. We suggest a limit of 20 minutes of phone time per evening. If a call-
waiting signal comes through while the student is on the phone, he should interrupt his call. If the call is
for the host family, the student should relinquish the phone promptly.

The student may have an extension of the host family's telephone line with the consent of the host family
and the student's parents. However, an extension in the boarder's room is a privilege - not a right - which
may be denied or revoked by the administration if the phone is used inappropriately. If the extension is
installed at the preference of the hosts, the hosts should pay for all costs involved. If the parents request
the extension, they should pay for any costs. Before installing a separate line for the exclusive use of the
boarder the host family should consult with the Yeshiva.

Long Distance Calls
Parents of boarders must supply the student with a calling card, pre-paid phone card or 1-800 number for
long distance calls. Due to the taxing schedule of a dual curriculum it is advisable that students do not
spend an excessive amount of time on the telephone. We recommend that boarders not make or receive
phone calls after 10:45 P.M. The host family should monitor this and report excessive use of the
telephone to the Yeshiva. Obviously, an exception may be made for calls to parents. Parents should
discuss with the host family a time limit for incoming calls from parents. Host families may set an earlier
time limit on the student's incoming calls if the ringing phone would disturb the family.


The student may have a personal computer in his own room for doing schoolwork. Students are expected
not to use the Internet for other purposes. This includes visiting “chat rooms” or inappropriate websites,
whether on the student’s own PC, on that of the host family, or on that of a friend.

We caution all parents and students that the use of the Internet today must be selective and carefully
monitored due to the proliferation of inappropriate web-sites and other known dangers. If e-mail is
available to the student, we recommend a limit of not more than 20 minutes “on line” per evening.

Student use of the host family's computer or printer is strictly at the discretion of the host parents.


The student may not have a television in his own room. Although we discourage all students from
watching TV during the week, host parents may use their judgement to make exceptions to conform with
the family's viewing habits, provided all school work is done. Because of the nature of TV programming,
host parents – in consultation with the student’s parents - should monitor the student's choice of shows
and videos and set limits on the times and number of hours he may watch TV or videos.

Radios, tape decks, and CD players are permitted, but may only be used to play music or shows deemed
appropriate by the Yeshiva and the host family, at a volume that does not disturb other members of the
household. It is suggested that head phones be used or doors closed when playing music of personal
preference. We recommend Jewish tapes and CD's, as well as classical or instrumental music.
Inappropriate tapes or CD's may be confiscated. If you have any questions in determining what is
deemed “appropriate,” please call Rabbi Niman or Rabbi Idstein.
Laundry & Dry Cleaning
The student is expected to do his own laundry, including linens and towels. He should arrange with the
host family as to when he may use the washer and dryer. Some families find it helpful to assign a
particular day or days when the boarder may use the machines and the student should plan
accordingly. Parents should send enough clothing so that the student does not need to do more than
one white and one dark load per week. The student is responsible for all dry cleaning expenses.


Growing teen-age boys require more calories than most adults to meet their nutritional needs and
maintain energy throughout the day. The host family is responsible for providing three nutritious meals
daily, plus reasonable snacks. If there are any special dietary needs (e.g., food allergies, Cholov Yisroel,
vegetarian, etc.), the parents should notify the program coordinator in advance and discuss these needs
with the host family prior to finalizing the boarding arrangement.

The host family should provide the boarder with cereal of his choice to take to school. (Do not be
surprised if your boarder uses 1-2 boxes per week!) The Yeshiva supplies milk, juice, and utensils for

breakfast for all boys, which is covered by the yearly Milk Fee. It is advisable that a plastic container be
provided to store cereal from day to day.

Boarders can be expected to prepare their own lunches to take to school. The host family should
familiarize the student with kitchen procedures. The student should abide by all “kitchen rules” and should
clean up after himself promptly.

The host family is responsible for providing the necessary ingredients for lunches. The host family should
discuss lunch ingredients with the boarder and try to provide healthy foods that the boarder likes in
reasonable quantities. Since boys are in Yeshiva from 7:30 a.m. until 6:15 p.m., they will require extra
snacks to get through the day. A typical lunch would consist of a sandwich or other protein food, a boxed
or bottled drink, fruit, and one or two other snacks, such as chips, granola bars, cookies, etc. The student
should inform the hosts promptly when cereal or other food supplies are running low.

The boys' Student Council sometimes offers lunches for sale, such as pizza, Chinese, or deli. If the
boarder chooses to buy a lunch in school, he must pay for it himself. However, if the host family asks the
boarder to buy lunch, the hosts should pay for it.

On Thursday nights, Mishmar is mandatory for all boys in grades 9-12, as noted above. On those
evening, boys should bring their own supper or buy meals offered through the Student Council. If the
student chooses to purchase his supper, he must pay for it himself. However, if the host family asks the
boarder to buy supper, the hosts should pay for it.

On other nights – or when night seder or Mishmar is cancelled - the student should eat dinner with the
host family. (Note: On days when there is early dismissal, boys will generally not have night seder or
Mishmar.) If their dinner schedules are incompatible, the host family should make sure that dinner is ready
for the student in a timely fashion and the student should clean up after himself. As a general rule, supper
should consist of a protein food (e.g., chicken, fish, eggs, dairy products), a starch (e.g., potatoes, rice,
pasta), and a vegetable or salad.
The host family should supply fruit, juice, and inexpensive snack foods (chips, cookies, crackers) in
reasonable quantities on a regular basis for the boarder to "nosh" on at home. Snacks may be part of the
household supplies. Guidelines should be established when the student first arrives as to access to food
in the refrigerator and cabinets. Students should be considerate about the amounts of snacks he takes
and about notifying the host when a supply is running low.

Shabbos Meals
The boarder should eat Shabbos meals together with the host family and he should generally be included
when the family is invited out for a meal. If this is inconvenient, other arrangements should be made
which are acceptable to the student, the family, and the Yeshiva. (See "Shabbos and Yom Tov”, page 10,
for further information.)

The student must ask permission of the host family if he will be missing meals at home, either on Shabbos
or on weekdays. The student should ask as far in advance as possible, preferably by Wednesday for
Shabbos. Of course, the student must also ask permission from the hosts before inviting a friend for a
meal or to sleep over.

Any food brought into the boarding home by the student must meet the kashrus standards of both the host
family and the Yeshiva. Should a kashrus question arise, please contact Rabbi Binyamin Sanders at the
Yeshiva’s administrative offices (301-962-5111, ext. 1510). The student should take care to learn and
abide by the kashrus arrangements of the house (e.g., which items and surfaces are
The host family may set restrictions as to whether or not the student can take food out of the
kitchen/dining room area and, if so, where else he may eat. The student must abide by the hosts' wishes,
even when eating food he has purchased himself.


As a general rule, boarders are not allowed to have their own cars while in Yeshiva.                    In rare
circumstances, an exception may be made by the administration.

The host family must determine that the boarder has safe and reliable transportation to and from school.
Ideally, arrangements should be made for the student to join a carpool. If the hosts cannot provide or
arrange transportation, they are responsible to pay for the student to take public transportation, if
logistically feasible, or for any other travel arrangements to or from school.

Students who board within walking distance of the Yeshiva may walk or bike to school. Students who
bike or roller blade must wear HELMETS.

It is the student's responsibility to wake up and get to school on time. If the student misses his carpool,
ride, or bus, it is his responsibility to find another ride or pay for a taxicab, if necessary. The host family
may, of course, help by providing phone numbers, etc. Obviously, if there are circumstances beyond the
student's control (e.g., a power outage), the host family should help the student get to school as soon as

School Activities
Transportation to school activities (e.g., play rehearsal, team practice) is the responsibility of the host
family, unless other arrangements are agreed upon prior to the school year. The hosts may fulfill this
responsibility by driving the student or by helping the student make other arrangements. The host family
should also provide or arrange transportation for the student to go to the public library or to purchase
school supplies. The student, in turn, should make every effort to coordinate such trips with minimum
inconvenience to the host family.

Non-school Activities
Host families are not obligated to provide transportation to non-school activities, although they should
attempt to be helpful, as they would for other family members.

Trips Home
On trips home, arrangements and payment for transportation to and from the airport, train station or bus
station are the responsibility of the student and his parents. Students may NOT rely on other students to
provide transportation during school hours.


While the student's parents bear the financial responsibility for medical care, it is the obligation of the host
family to see that any required medical care is provided promptly. With the proliferation of HMO's, the
student's parents must research which doctors and hospitals in the Silver Spring area accept the HMO in
which they are members, and inform the Yeshiva and the host family prior to the school year. Also, some
HMO's will cover only emergency care outside of their home region. Parents should check their policy
and make provisions for care while the student is in school. If there are no restrictions on providers, the

host family can elect to use either their family physician or the physicians who serve Yeshiva students on
a regular basis.

Parents of boarders must provide the Yeshiva and the host family with an EMERGENCY MEDICAL
FORM before school starts, including a copy of both sides of their health insurance cards. This form is a
notarized legal document authorizing the Yeshiva to procure medical care for the student. The Yeshiva
will give a copy of this form to the host family, with a letter naming the hosts as agents of the Yeshiva for
this purpose. The student should also carry a copy of his insurance card with him. If their insurance is not
accepted locally, the student should have a credit card (or number) or extra cash on hand to cover the
cost of an office visit or prescribed medication. The host's "security deposit" (see page 2, above) may be
used for this purpose, if necessary.

The host family must notify the school and the student's parents in the event of any medical emergency.
If the student becomes ill (non-emergency) during the school day, the school or student will notify the host
family. It is the responsibility of the host family or a designated proxy to pick up the student from school,
as they would for their own child. It is not the responsibility of the school staff to provide such
transportation, except in cases of in-school emergencies. If the student is taken to the emergency room
and will be in the hospital for an extended period, a host parent should come to relieve the staff member
as soon as possible.

If the student requires ongoing therapy or other medical services, the student's parents must arrange for
transportation to and from the practitioner.


The social conduct and appearance of the student should reflect the values of the Yeshiva. Any social
activity inconsistent with those values is prohibited.

Dress Code
Students are expected to adhere to the dress code in the Student and Parent Manual at all times when in
public, except when playing ball. A Yarmulka and Tzitzis should always be worn, even when playing ball.
At the boarding home, students may dress more casually, but always according to the halachos of tznius
(modesty) and in a fashion acceptable to the host family. The student must also dress appropriately on
Shabbos, both in and out of the house. On Shabbos boys must wear a suit or sports jacket with dress
slacks, white shirt, tie, and dark dress shoes and socks for shul. A lined trenchcoat or wool coat or jacket
is recommended for outerwear. Any clothing unacceptable for school should certainly not be worn on

Social Activities
As noted in the Student & Parent Manual, the Yeshiva reserves the right to regulate the attendance and
behavior of all boarding students at all school events and activities.

Solo or group dating, co-ed parties, get-togethers, and fraternization of any kind are prohibited. Any
involvement with girls, even by phone or e-mail, will be addressed by the administration with the student.
His parents will be notified and appropriate sanctions will be applied. In cases of extreme or repeated
violations, the student may be dismissed from the Yeshiva.

Smoking, the use of drugs, or alcoholic beverages is prohibited. Students may not be in any gathering
where any of these substances are being abused. Possession of illegal drugs or alcoholic beverages may
result in immediate dismissal from the Yeshiva.

Students - even those 17 and older – are not to attend or view any inappropriate movies or videos. Host
families should consult with the student’s parents about the suitability of movies the student wishes to see.
The Yeshiva reserves the right to restrict the student's movie viewing if it is impacting his educational or
religious growth.

The Yeshiva will sponsor activities on many Saturday evenings throughout the year, in addition to the
frequent Yeshiva Knights basketball games on Saturday nights and/or Sunday afternoons during the
winter. If he will not be attending a school-sponsored activity, the student must obtain permission in
advance from Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman.

Students may not "hang out" in malls or shopping centers, even on Sundays, days off or on afternoons
following early dismissal. If the student has occasional shopping to do, the host family should allow the
student a reasonable but limited amount of time at a mall, preferably during daylight hours.

Students should use Sundays primarily to catch up on school work, go to the library, etc. The student
must inform his boarder parents in advance of his plans for Sunday or other leisure time. (See below,
“Keeping Hosts Informed.”) If the student wants to go out of town on Sunday, including to Baltimore, he
must clear his plans with the host family and with Rabbi Idstein.


Students are expected to be responsible enough to get a good night’s sleep so that they can function the
following day. The Yeshiva suggests that students be back home at 10:30 P.M. on school nights,
including Sundays. Students who learn late at the Yeshiva may stay to daven Ma'ariv at 10:30, but only
with permission from Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman. Those students must be home by 11:00.

On school nights, boarders must go straight home from school and may not go out. If an exception must
be made, the student should discuss the situation with Rabbi Idstein and the host parents. A student may
be permitted to study at a friend's house, but only with permission from his host family and/or Rabbi

On Motzei Shabbos, the curfew is midnight. Boys should keep in mind that they must be in school at
7:30 Sunday morning for davening. The Yeshiva reserves the right to tighten a student's curfew if
tardiness becomes an issue.

Hosts may make exceptions to curfew only after consultation with Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman and, if
necessary, with the student's parents.

Keeping Hosts Informed
The student must keep his host parents informed of his whereabouts at all times. He must ask permission
before going out and must let them know where he is going, with whom, how he is getting there, and
when he expects to be home. If the student' plans change while he is out, he must check in with the host
parents to okay the new arrangements.



When Hosts Are Away
If the host family plans to be away, or if it is inconvenient that the boarder be in the house for a particular
Shabbos, Yom Tov, or other occasion, the hosts should notify the student, his parents, and Rabbi Idstein
as soon as possible. The hosts should discuss with the boarder where he would prefer to go and help
make the arrangements, if necessary. If the student prefers, the host family should find a place for him to

stay. The hosts may call on Rabbi Idstein for suggestions, if needed, and he should always be informed
of where the student will be while the hosts are away.

Boarders may not be at the boarding home if the host parents are away overnight – even if the family's
own children are staying home - unless there is a responsible adult present. Needless to say, he may not
stay at anyone else's home unless a parent or responsible adult is present. Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman
should be notified anytime the host parents plan to be away and informed of what arrangements have
been made for their boarder.


On Shabbos, boys should daven with the minyan of the host “father,” unless the student has permission
from Rabbi Idstein to daven elsewhere. Students should plan to attend any Yeshiva-sponsored Oneg
Shabbos in his boarding neighborhood.

As a matter of Kavod Shabbos, boarders are not allowed to "hang out" in Kemp Mill Park. Playing ball in
public is also not permitted on Shabbos.
Boarders should spend at least two out of four Shabbosos with his host family. If the student is invited to
another home for Shabbos or Yom Tov, he must receive permission from Rabbi Idstein, as well as the
host family, preferably by Wednesday. Boys are expected to return “home” on Saturday night, unless
otherwise authorized by Rabbi Idstein.

The student and his parents are responsible for arranging transportation if the student will be going out of
the local community. Host parents should confirm the suitability of the student's plans by verifying that the
other family is expecting him, that a parent will be home, and whether the student is expected to stay over
Saturday night, too (if authorized). If the family is unknown to the host parents, the hosts should consult
with the boarder's parents and/or with Rabbi Idstein or Rabbi Niman.


Students are permitted to return home for school holidays. Weekend trips home are also permitted if they
are arranged so as not to interfere with the school schedule. Parents should not purchase tickets that
will require the student to miss school time, unless authorized in advance by Rabbi Niman or
Rabbi Idstein. School vacations have been designed to allow boarders sufficient travel time, in some
cases including an extra "travel day" for boarders only.

A schedule will be mailed to you shortly detailing when students may leave and when they must return.
Parents should refer to this schedule when making future travel plans.

The Yeshiva reserves the right to decide that, for educational reasons, the student should not leave
school. Any travel undertaken without the express consent and approval of the Yeshiva is prohibited and
will be treated as a breach of discipline.

For all trips home or out of town, the student must notify Rabbi Idstein of the dates and times he intends to
travel and his mode of transportation, door to door. Arrangements for travel to and from home are the
responsibility of the parents.


When a student lives away from home, it is essential that the adults involved in his care work together in
the best interests of the child. Open lines of communication should be maintained between the school,
the host family and the student's parents. Weekly contact between parents and hosts is recommended.
Communications regarding the student's academic and behavioral progress will be sent directly to the
parents. We strongly suggest, however, that parents view the hosts as allies with whom they can share
academic, disciplinary, and social concerns, on a confidential basis. Hosts should, in turn, be prepared to
help the student succeed in these areas while at the Yeshiva.

Questions of attendance and tardiness will be addressed initially to the host family. If an attendance
problem becomes chronic, the school will notify parents as well. If the student is suspended for any
reason, the school will notify both the parents and the host family.

Hosts should bring concerns about the student's progress or adjustment to the attention of the parents
and/or the administration. Hosts should also notify the administration at once if they become aware of
infractions of Yeshiva policies by their boarder. Quick intervention can often prevent problems from
escalating. Of course, confidentiality and privacy should be maintained at all times.

If there is a need for clarification of school policies or when "judgement calls" arise on any issue, hosts,
parents, and students should not hesitate to consult the program coordinators.


Rabbi Pinchus Idstein and Rabbi Dovid Niman are the program administrators. They meet frequently with
the students and are the persons to contact with any questions or in the event of any difficulty
encountered with regard to the out-of-town program. All may be reached through the Yeshiva office
during the day, 301-649-7077. Rabbi Idstein’s extension is 1528; Rabbi Niman’s is 1535. In case of
emergency, they may be reached at home in the evening:

                        Rabbi Idstein           301-681-3508
                        Rabbi Niman             301-593-7512


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