Behavior modification for children is most successful when you get an
Although it may sound like a mean thing to say (and I love kids!), it's
nonetheless true. Training and disciplining children is much like
training pets! Behavior modification for children needs to begin early in
order to be successful.
Think about it. If you brought a puppy home and just let him do as he
pleased for the first couple of years, can you imagine what an
undisciplined dog you'd end up with in your home? This strategy couldn't
possibly work out and your pet would be one unhappy camper, too!
While you won't be training and disciplining babies, once they start
talking and understand what you're saying, it's a good time to begin a
gently conducted program of behavior modification for children to weed
out unacceptable behavior. You've got to let Jimmy know that he cannot,
under any circumstances, whack his sister over the head because he was
mad. No spitting in the house. That sort of thing. You certainly don't
want to make your kids into little robots, jumping on their case for
every little thing. You just have to draw a line, beyond which an
appropriate punishment ensues as a consequence.
Some Moms are so harried, particularly with two or more kids who are
close in age, that it's difficult to keep their sanity, much less being
on top of every misdeed. When you're multi-tasking in the household, the
job can be overwhelming. However, behavior modification for children,
begun at an early age and mapped out in a consistent planned response,
will save you from having to yell at your kids in the grocery store, a
few years down the road, in order to control them. You love your kids so
much, they're so cute and lovable, it's difficult to crack down on the
little sweeties. This is why you need a plan.
Your successful behavior modification for children model may require a
bit of behavior modification on your part! As Franklin Roosevelt said,
it's best to walk softly and carry a big stick. What we mean here is that
you should not be yelling at your kids when you're correcting them.
You're the adult. You must adopt a calm, firm and gentle demeanor,
speaking in a normal tone of voice. When you lose control of your
emotions, how do you expect a kid will respond? He or she will assume
that everything's OK until you start yelling at them. They'll also learn,
by example, to yell at you when they're displeased. This can trigger
problems that last for many years, well into the teens and beyond. Avoid
losing your cool.
It might be a good idea to make a list of absolutely unacceptable
behaviors that you can look over with Dad and come to a mutual agreement
on the specific consequences of various infractions.
Let's say your child steals something from a friend or at a store. You
cannot condone this behavior. In this case, your behavior modification
for children plan should have a consistent consequence, delivered in a
no-nonsense tone. Tell the child that he must return the item, and
apologize for his action.
To drive home the no-stealing policy, you might augment the lesson by
taking the child's favorite toy or book (no teddy bears or other security
related items) and letting him know you will keep possession of the item
for a week. Gently let him know that you realize this is a disappointment
to him, but you want him to understand the feelings of losing something
by theft. Most likely, he'll find this outrageous, having a tantrum or
crying hysterically. However, at the end of the week, when you return his
'stolen' item, he will have gained some empathy for the person who was
There's no need for harsh words or meanness. Just the facts, delivered
firmly, with a consequence should do the trick.
When you set a well planned, behavior modification program for children
in place during the early years, you will have a much smoother road when
the kids hit their teens.