Children in general may have a hard time socializing due to being shy or not quite knowing how to interact with another child. Children with ADHD have an even more difficult time trying to build friendships because they lack the social skills almost all together to be able to form new friendships. The true bond of friendship is being able to relate to the other person and listen and react in a loving interested way. ADHD doesn't allow this to happen. The disorder often prevents children from seeking out new friendships. The number one mistake parents with ADHD children make are to isolate their children from other children because they fear the worst happening. This is the worst thing to do, isolating a child because "you" are afraid of their behavior will only make the child not want to go out and socialize and meet other children. The best way to handle this is to join a support group; there are many of these groups in every state. Make a play date with other children who have ADHD and get them together. It doesn't only have to be other children with ADHD, make sure your child interacts with all children whether it is on a school playground, neighbors or another child in the family. The more interaction the more at ease the child will be with meeting new friends. The best way to do this is by starting off with one new friend and seeing how the child reacts. If there is one-onone interaction, the child with ADHD may be able to focus their attention and not get easily distracted if there is too much activity going on around them. Watching on the sidelines is the best way to observe how your child is doing. If you stand over them they will feel uneasy and may get frustrated. If you do witness inappropriate behaviors by your child, then you can take them aside and explain the reason why their behavior is inappropriate. It is also important that the parent of the
new friend knows your child has ADHD so they can be better prepared if an altercation takes place with their child. The activities your child and their new friend are in involved in should be something face-paced and where other children can also participate. Children with ADHD are more likely to stick with an activity they can manage on their own as well as share an interest in with other children. Structured sports are an example of an activity that ADHD children do not do well in because of the difficulties in following the rules. Have an art inspired party where their imagination and creativity can shine. Or just simply take them to the park where they can pick and choose what they want to do and also interact with other children doing the same things. They are more likely to strike up a friendship with other children they see enjoying the same things they are. Providing a place where your child can interact and is not isolated can open up a whole different world they didn't know they could exist in. Social skills are important, not only for their behavioral health, but for their emotional health as well.