How to Handle a Bullying Boss by vinsads1


									How to Handle a Bullying Boss
A bullying boss can make your work life difficult, but there are ways to get this kind of boss to stop targeting you.

1. Write it down. This is really important. When your boss says or does something inappropriate, write a memo stating that the behavior is unacceptable, distracts from work, and you want it to stop. If it happens again, copy her/his boss, or an HR manager, on your second memo to the boss. 2. Contact the corporate ethics and/or employee assistance groups. Both of these groups should be confidential (hopefully), but may not exist in smaller companies. Talking it over with a confidant may help and at least enables you to clarify your thoughts. The fact that you contacted either group may be helpful later to confirm the duration of your complaint. 3. Formally document the boss' action (or inaction). The next time you are getting ready to work on a big project, run off a few documents and attach a formal memo, with the date and your name, to one of the documents stating "This looks good to me, but I wanted to run it past you. What do you think?" and date the note. Make a quick copy and tuck it in a CYA file. If your boss does not answer the memo, write another one saying, "Since you haven't responded, I am proceeding on this project with your approval." If others work on the project with you, copy them on the memo. 4. Update your resume and begin a job search just in case your boss continues to abuse you. 5. Recognize that it may be time to leave if you are becoming ill, physically or mentally. You may spend more on doctor's bill than you make, if you allow the abuse to continue. When you feel you must leave, give two weeks notice in writing. Try to have another job lined up first. Be aware that your boss may ask you to leave immediately--in this case, two weeks pay is often offered. Tips  Take look at this U.S. Government Benefits and Assistance site before doing any of the above.

 If you are discriminated against and in a protected demographic group, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission may help you:  For free examples of how to document issues with your bullying boss, go to  Keep your personal life private--do not discuss what you do outside of work, especially another job.

 Some bosses think that just because you work for them they can talk to you any kind of way especially if you don't produce well for them. The first time this happens let them know in a kind way that you made a mistake and you would appreciate that if you don't talk to me in a disrespectful way.

 Remember you're a man/woman first and if the abuse continues it's time to start looking for another job.

Warnings  A hot temper or "in your face" attitude will escalate any issue.

To top