Girls everywhere go crazy for guys who they see as exciting, almost always those guys are dangerous too, which is why so many women ultimately suffer so much anguish and emotional pain. Most girls find a boyfriend and try to make him her own, they try to change him - turn him into the perfect boyfriend. Remember "people will never consitently do that which they are not", you can only change someone if they themselves want to change, I don't know if you are like this and I'm certainly not suggesting you are. I am "nice, but just friends" type, I think everyone would much prefer one good girlfriend/boyfriend over ten friends. Consider this: What is better - going out with an exicting boy who might get you into trouble and trying to get him to behave, or going out with a nice but safe boy and trying to make him more exciting? Which do you think is easiest? Which is most likely to comply and listen to your needs? I expect Beth has said how at age 23 I've still have never had a girlfriend. So how come I know all this? Why would you take relationship advice from me? Fact is I have a lot of free time and in that time I've read lots books and reports on Personal and Relationship Psychology. I understand that for most women, sex is a fun thing to do, but intimate communication - being listened to and loved is what really matters. Unfortunately the lads have it all back to front!