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“The right to marry whoever one wishes is an elementary human right compared to which "the right to attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one's skin or color or race" are minor indeed. Even political rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights enumerated in the Constitution, are secondary to the inalienable human rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" proclaimed in the Declaration of Independence; and to this category the right to home and marriage unquestionably belongs.” -- Dissent, Winter 1959 Gay marriage has always been a heated topic for so many people because they are so very against this type of union, but why? Why are so many people against allowing two men or women that love each other the opportunity to spend their lives together in such a wonderful bond? Who has the right to say what marriage actually is and who can marry whom? Yes, it is only the norm to see one man and one woman together, but the only reason for this is that fact that we have not given gay couples the chance. Did you ever think that we could actually learn something from seeing two men or women sharing love for one another, rather than feeling disgust? Everyone knows that there is such thing as homosexuality, what we need now is to accept it. America needs to realize what marriage means and take into consideration the true aspects of a homosexual relationship, not stereotype them into what is believed to be true about these relationships. “Gay couples will ruin society”, well the rest of the world is just as damaging. Marriage, the vow of two people, expressing their love, loyalty and commitment to one another until death do them part (Answers). The key word in that sentence is “two people”. Deciding to take a leap of faith and marrying the one you love is your choice, whether it be a man and woman, two men, or two women. 58% of Americans oppose, where as 32% society approve of gay marriages (Kohut). Americans as a whole have taken it upon themselves to define marriage as a sacred commitment between a man and woman not leaving the opportunity for two men or two women to legally commit to one another. Judging a marriage should not be based on the gender of who is or would like to get married, but what should be seen is that two individuals that love each other so much want to legally experience that bond together, to be husband and husband or wife and wife. One important aspect of a marriage is the opportunities and rights that come with the title. A married couple is allowed to share insurance and benefits given through their jobs (Marco). Being able to have benefits when it comes to insurance can really save people money. Married couples do not have to look into spending an excess amount of money on making sure they can pay their medical bills, car insurance, etc (Cline). Together they only need to decide whose benefits are the best to go with. At the same time, if a gay couple spends fifty years together before one of the partners passes on, the other person has to go through all the legal troubles of trying to keep the assets they shared together over their lifetime. It is like when my family could not find my grandmothers will after she died. Luckily we found it, but if you do not have a will then the government takes everything that is under that person’s name. Many legal issues that take time and money come forth, and it is even harder when it comes to a homosexual couple because many do not see in their favor. Is there really a difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals, other than their preference in gender? One stereotype that is easily miscued is how feminine a gay male is and how masculine lesbians are, that you can actually pick a gay man or lesbian woman out of the crowd. Yes it is from my personal experience that some men are more feminine than others, but not all gay males dress in drag, spend hours getting ready, or know every musical on Broadway. With a majority of friends being gay men, I know how a day in the life of a homosexual works. For example, my best friend is twenty-two, goes to college at the University of South Florida, works at Publix and carries out a healthy and normal social life just like me. He is very wise when it comes to designer clothing, knowing almost every designer from Juicy Couturier to Versace. My friend loves to play, as well as watch sports, enjoy all types of movies, and acts just like any other male in society. To be perfectly honest, most of my friends at work do not believe him or I when they are told that he is gay. If it is such a shock to my friends, finding out that my best friend is gay, what does that tell you about other gay people in society? That people cannot always tell who is and is not gay, they are just like everyone else around them, except for their love for a person of the same sex. At the same time, denying that gay men do not act more feminine than others would be a lie. There are gay males that are very feminine. In many homosexual relationships one of the men tends to be more feminine and be considered the woman in the relationship and in a lesbian relationship sometimes one of the women takes a more masculine role. Men that like to put on make-up to make themselves look better can quote almost the entire play being shown on Broadway, and that tend to over dramatize or talk much like a woman would. Have you ever come across a beautiful woman, wearing business attire, holding a high status job position, seeming completely successful, when suddenly she walks up to another woman and passionately kisses her on the lips? I know I have. Yet, there are also woman who like to take the more masculine role in their relationship. They cut their hair short, wear baggy clothing, and may even give off a bit of an attitude. These women are likely to be considered “butch”. Just because they behave this way does not mean they are any different than anyone else. Baggy or tight, high heels or sneakers, chick flicks or horror films? No matter what everyone in society has their own sense of style and has days that they just do not care how they look, because whatever they are doing, watching, or wearing makes them feel comfortable. Do not tell me that you do not or have not ever fallen under one of those traits everyone does it. “I have two mommy’s” and “I have two daddy’s”. Is being raised by two parents of the same sex that much different? I believe that being raised by two gay parents could actually benefit the child. Rather than allowing society to continue frowning upon the homosexual lifestyles, these children can help improve the life of their parents. They will have a first hand experience and can help put forth a fundamental opinion on the rights that gays and lesbians deserve. A stereotype that tends to come up is that a gay family will raise gay or lesbian children (GatorGSA). Another friend of mine spent eighteen years living with his grandmother and her partner, another woman (Skelton). Jeremy is twenty years old, in college, with a very level head on his shoulders, and straight. There may be a little bit of an influence of to a gay lifestyle, but when it comes down to the truth you make the decision on whether or not you are gay, straight, or bisexual. The choice is up to you and how you feel, not someone else telling you who to be attracted to. Lastly, is religion. Just because The Bible does not say gay men and women are acceptable, not everyone in the world follows God. Books are rewritten, opinions and laws change, nothing every stays exactly the same, so why should gay marriage be based on the past? The outlook of a homosexual marriage should be changed just like everything else. Take into consideration how people decide to live their lives, see how the times have changed and adapt. It is okay to have a change of heart, no one will mind, it will actually help. Not everyone believes in God or goes to church, so we should not base these beliefs in a gay marriage, because not everyone will follow. In conclusion, my mother always said to me, “if there were no colors in the rainbow, the world would be a very dull place to live”. I agree with her. No person should be exactly like another that is what makes the world special. Everyone has his or her own voice, style, personality, and love for someone. Whether that love is for the different gender or the same, this difference makes the world go round. Gay couples deserve the right to get married. When you love someone as much as wanting to spend the rest of your life with them, that opportunity should be given no matter if it is a man and woman, two men, or two women wanting that bond. Homosexual couples should be allowed to get married, adopt children, and live their lives just like everyone else, without the everyday hassles of being accepted. They yearn to be accepted and we should all let them have that right. There are more important things in life to worry about, like the war in Iraq, schooling for our children, and how to stop criminals from striking again. Homosexual marriages do not ruin society because of who they are, this marriage does not ruin society at all. We are all the same type of person deep down; the only difference is the gender in which we seek to love. Live, love, learn and respect! Annotated Bibliography Bidstrup, Scott. “Gay Marriage: The Arguments and the Motives”. 2004. 31 Oct 2006. <http://www.bidstrup.com/marriage.htm>. I really enjoyed this article. It begins with an introduction on gay marriage and continues on into other sections. There are arguments against gay marriage, real reasons for why people are against gay marriage, civil rights issues, and last a touch on politics in gay marriage. The topics opposing gay marriage and the real reasons each have sub sections that are bolded explaining each reason. Lastly there is a little information about the author that wrote this article. At the end other links can be found to help find more information based on gay marriage and the rights of gays. Cline, Austin. “Arguments for Gay Marriage: Moral and Social Arguments for Gay Marriage”. 1 Nov 2006. <http://atheism.about.com/od/gaymarriage/p/ProGayMarriage.htm>. Just a short article on moral and social arguments for gay marriage. I found that is was a good reference page for ideas in my essay. Definitely not one of the best articles that I found but was helpful. After the article other sites are found for three different topics, marriage, gay & straight; gay rights, gay marriage, and rights; and last arguments against gay marriage. GatorGSA. “12 Reasons”. 18 Feb 2004. 1 Nov 2006. <http://grove.ufl.edu/~ggsa/gaymarriage.html>. This website was what my essay was based on. GatoraUsa had a list of twelve different reasons that gay couples would ruin society. I found that these ideas were ridiculous and that although a majority of them were of great arguing use, when it comes to the truth, they are very wrong. There are links and other websites about opinions on gay couples in society which some may find useful in research. Lewis, Jone Johnson. “Marriages Quotes”. 1 Nov 2006. <http://www.wisdomquotes.com/cat_marriage.html>. A great website for quotes. The particular quote I used was under the marriage category to help express the meaning of marriage for my essay. There are also many other categories of quotes, for example, love, respect, silence, and work. On the main page there are also random, new and recent quotes that can be found on the site. There are some great quotes that could be used as inspiration for many different people in many different ways. Marco, Anton N. “Gay Marriage”. 13 July 2002. 1 Nov 2006. <http://www.leaderu.com/jhs/marco.html>. Anton Marco wrote is article examining the aspects of gay marriage. He gives detailed facts of what gay couple gains if they are considered legally married. This page is definitely all for same-sex marriage. “Marriage”. Answers.com. 31 Oct 2006. < http://www.answers.com/topic/marriage>. Needing the definition of marriage I came across Answers.com, which gave me that definition. It is a dictionary online. There are also antonyms, encyclopedias, and quotes that can also be used for each word someone is trying to find the definition for. Skelton, Jeremy. Personal Interview. 30 Nov 2006. This was a personal interview with one of my best friends. I have known him for four years and knew that he was raised by two women, his grandmother and he life long partner. I asked him to tell me how he felt about being raised by a lesbian grandmother and if he ever felt himself to be gay. How he feels about gay marriage and his views on the rights that gay couples should have.
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