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SEVEN THINGS CHILDREN NEED:

Significance , Security , Acceptance , Love , Praise , Discipline and
God.

The Need for Acceptance:

If a child lives with criticism.
                        He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
                        He learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
                        He learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
                        He learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
                        He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
                        He learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
                        He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
                        He learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
                        He learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
                        He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with Acceptance
and friendship,
                                  He learns to find love in
                                 the world.


BOTTOM LINES FOR PARENTS:

1.Scrupulously avoid arguing in front of your children.
2.Strive to model constant affection and self-sacrifice.

3.Avoid bad language, crass jokes, violence and objectionable material on
    Television.

4.Don't leave it up to others to provide stimulation for your child.

5.Don't be sarcastic or critical of persons who are not present.

6.Don't talk more enthusiastically about self-centered activities than about
    service to others.

7.Surround your children with hope and idealism.

WORK ON THREE VIRTUES SO ATTRACTIVE IN A PARENT:

8.Gratitude - Start with loving diligent care for your own parents.
    Children will imitate what they experience! Gratitude always brings joy.
9.Humility - opens the door to genuine respect. Learn to apologies.
    Resist the temptation to possess a child, or clone to accord with your
    image of yourself.
10.Fortitude - In a comfortable society, fortitude can be the rarest of
    character qualities. Follow up issues, but not with a hard-nosed
    demandingly. Unless it is driven by love for others, fortitude is
    worthless and not a good example for anyone.
FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS:

    Why should some rough-edged teenage boy get the first shot at a
    candlelight dinner with your girl? You be her first date. Invite her out.
     Choose a nice restaurant. Treat her like a princess. The future boy will
    have his hands full, trying to compete with you.

    When she's had some big event or success-graduation, recital,
    birthday---go nuts! Be the one to send her a card (really mail it) and
    flowers and candy and whatever else you can think of. Girls whose
fathers
    act like crazy about them feel much closer to their fathers and much less
    in need of finding it all "out there" Deliver the goods - along with your
    heart.



FATHERS AND SONS:

    When your boy starts acting "tough" you, as a father, have three choices
    for how you'll react. If you let it go or even egg these behaviors on,
    soon the behaviors will be out of control. Your son can't live
    successfully without self-control, and he won't like himself very
much—or you for allowing it--either. You can also respond to the tough-
guy stuff by squelching it with you own warrior spirit: "I'm bigger than you
and tougher than you, so I say sit down and shut up!" That's dad control,
BUT it fails to teach your boy self-control. The best way to handle your son
    is to be an example and show him the tough-and-tender aspects of
manhood, then help him develop self-control so he can live them out.

    It's great to hang out with your son, decide with your son that you're
    going to be true friends, and then do it.

    Guys have certain hair milestones that you and your son can share. You
    can take your son for his first haircut. Your son's first shave is also a
    biggie. At the first sight of a whisker (or fuzz), take him to pick up
    his own razor, smells all the shaving creams, and talk about how it's
done. And talk a bit about being a man while you're at it.
HEART:

       Some stormy night, tell your kids a story of a little girl or( boy) lost
       in a dark and unfamiliar landscape. Scary sounds come from the woods
       around her. The people she passes look unfriendly and refuse to help
her;
     some even laugh at her plight. She begins to panic: What should I do?
     Where should I go? Doesn't anybody care about me? Then she sees a
house
     with a light. As she gets closer, she's amazed to hear her favorite
     music from inside. On the door is a sign with her Name on it and the
word
     WELCOME. She goes in to love and safety. Tell your kids that house is
     your HEART ...... The music will always be playing, and the welcome
sign
     will always be out for them.

				
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