St. Joseph Parish
Volume 1 Issue 15
4011 Alexandria Pike, Cold Spring, KY 41076
Volume 1 Issue 15
A WORD FROM FATHER REINERSMAN…….
How to get your 7th grader to mop the floor Dear St. Joe Parishioners About twenty student desks in a storage area near the first and second grade classrooms needed to be moved to the rectory attic, where some other school furniture is stored. The trip up three flights of stairs would have been more than the STP men could handle. So, Mrs. Holzmacher and Fr. Reinersman agreed that 7th grade students might be willing to move the desks on a day that rain forced them to stay inside for recess. They didn’t want to ask students to give up recess on a nice day. Wednesday, April 29th was the perfect rainy day. However, Jim Pelgen, our director of maintenance, had an appointment off campus, the other maintenance personnel were busy with duties in the lunch room and Lee Kessen, our business manager, was on vacation. That left Fr. Reinersman, who wanted the desks moved in the first place, to direct the seven 7th grade boys who volunteered to give up inside recess. They arrived very energetic (i.e. noisy) and willing (i.e. rambunctious). They could be heard throughout the rectory as they carried desks up the stairway laughing and calling to one another, and steel desks banging against the walls. However, the whole job got done in about 15 minutes. Since it was a warm and muggy day and they worked really hard, Fr. Reinersman invited the helpers to have a cold soft drink before going back to class. So the whole gang sat down at the table in the maintenance room used by the STP men. Father opened a bag of Tostitos that belonged to the STP guys saying, “I know the STP men would want to share their Tostitos with you.” One of the helpers asked, “Wouldn’t the STP guys want to share their pretzels too?” So they all had a cold soft drink, Tostitos and pretzels. The noise and laughter never stopped. When Fr. Reinersman said it was time for them to go back to class the seven volunteers became very anxious to find other jobs that needed to be done. “What about the chairs? Don’t the chairs have to go up to the attic?” they asked. “No, they can stay down here.” “What else can we do? We got math class after lunch”, as if it was obvious they couldn’t be expected to go back for math class. To test their desperation Fr. Reinersman asked if they would mop floors. “YEAH! No problem. Where’s the mop?” was their answer. So, here’s the lesson, parents. Schedule a math class for every day. Then try to get your teenager to mop the floor or do other chores just before math class. They’ll work all day long if they have to. Fr. Reinersman
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From Our Associate Pastor…..Fr. Martin Pitstick Wearing Your “Sunday Best” (and what not to wear to a wedding)
In days gone by, “Sunday clothes” were different from every day clothes. We dressed up in our nicest clothes to go to Mass. People would also wear their “Sunday Best” clothes for funerals or weddings. Recently I came across a blog on the internet entitled, “9 Things You Should Never Wear to a Wedding.” It was a little humorous to read this article as most of the advice seemed rather obvious. People know that you dress up for a wedding! Then I began to think about how people dress today for Sunday Mass and began to wonder, “Why it is that most people still dress up for weddings and funerals, but not for Sunday Mass?” Have we forgotten that the Mass is in fact, the Wedding Feast of Jesus, the Lamb of God, who marries his Bride, the Church? I cannot imagine very many people wearing to a wedding what most people wear to Sunday Mass - certainly not if it was for a wedding for an important dignitary, a head of state, or a king! And yet, Sunday Mass is the wedding celebration of Jesus, the King of Kings, our Lord and God, with us, his People - his Bride. Most of us would be surprised to see a bride show up for her wedding in jeans and a sweatshirt, and yet, this is how many of us come to Mass every Sunday! Now, the purpose of this article is not to make anyone feel bad or unwelcome. Nor do I wish to encourage anyone to look down on someone else or be judgmental of them if they are not dressed as we think they should. This is merely an invitation for each of us to reflect on how our dress reflects our attitude toward the dignity of the event we are attending. Here are a few quotes from the Yahoo blog entitled, “9 Things You Should Never Wear to a Wedding:”
Skip the Shorts Shorts at a wedding? It's just wrong; even if you dress them up with a blazer or a pair of sexy heels. Guys, no matter how preppy you make 'em, and, girls, no matter how stylish Charlize Theron looks in them, shorts just won't do at this affair. Keep it Classy Up-to-there miniskirts, shirts with more buttons undone than not, and bustier tops are best left for a night out with the girls (or that person you really want to wow). We know you're sexy, you know you're sexy, but a wedding isn't the place to show off. Play down the sassy and play up the classy. All That Glitters Is Not Gold Stay away from anything lamé, sequined, shiny, or glittery. It's distracting (both in person and in those precious keepsake photos). Again, the newlyweds are the star attraction, so resist the urge to be a "shining star." Dress to the Nines Don't be too cool to don your finest fixings. Honor the couple's union by leaving your jeans at home -- even the really nice ones! Unless the invitation mentions a beach barbecue or luau, forego the casual fare and plan on turning it up. It's a wedding after all!
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From Our Associate Pastor…..Fr. Martin Pitstick
If this advice rings true for a wedding, would it not also ring true for our celebration of Sunday Mass? At the time I read this blog, there were 1390 comments posted in response to it. The ones I read all agreed that this was a pretty obvious dress code for weddings. Here are a few of the responses: “These are all obvious things. I haven't learned anything from this.” “I agree, they are really obvious.” “You'd think this was all common knowledge... but it sadly isn't.” “Yep nothing here to learn that "Normal" people going to a wedding should already know. “These things SHOULD be obvious, but I see more and more people going casually dressed to weddings. jeans, hats, and even shorts. Obviously people need reminded from time to time that this form of dress is inappropriate.” The question I would like to pose is: “If it is obvious to most people that you dress up for a wedding in order to honor the bride and groom on their special day, then why wouldn’t we want to dress up for the Wedding Feast of Christ with his bride, the Church?” Or don’t we realize that our invitation to Sunday Mass is an invitation to the Wedding Feast of the Lamb? Are we not aware that Sunday is our “special day” and that we are all the “Bride of Christ?” Have we forgotten that Sunday is when we celebrate our marriage union with God? Let us also not forget the parable that Jesus told of the man who came to the Wedding Feast of the King’s son but was not dressed appropriately for a wedding (Mt 22:10-13). By not wearing the appropriate clothes he dishonored the celebration and was cast out into the darkness outside. While we do not have any plans to start “casting out” people who come to Mass inappropriately dressed, perhaps it is good to remember that how we dress is a statement about what we believe about the dignity of the event we are attending. What types of events are we willing to dress up for? How do these events compare to Sunday Mass in importance? If we would not wear jeans and a T shirt to our friend’s wedding why would we wear them to the Mass? Should not the dignity of the host of the banquet affect how we dress? If we are invited to dine with royalty, would we not wear our best clothes? Have we forgotten that God himself is the Host at the banquet of the Mass? Why not return to the custom of days gone by of wearing our best for God on Sunday to honor the Lord our God and to proclaim to all that Sunday is indeed a special day? God calls us to remember to keep the Lord’s Day Holy. Dressing up for Sunday Mass is one way that we can help ourselves remember the holiness of this day and the holiness of this celebration of the Wedding Feast of God’s own Son with us, his bride.
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Meet the newest members of our parish community. . .
The following individuals were received into the Catholic Church through the sacraments of initiation at the Easter Vigil this year. Their pictures have been posted in the vestibule throughout the Lenten season. If you see them, please extend a warm welcome to them. Logan Coffey (Baptism) Logan is 6 years old, the son of Glen and Amy Coffey. He attends first grade at Cline Elementary and is enrolled in the PSR program at St. Joseph. He will prepare for his First Holy Communion with his second grade PSR class next year. His grandmother and godmother, Carolyn Corrigan, brought Logan to the Church. Joshua Coffey (Baptism and Eucharist) Joshua is 9 years old, the son of Glen and Amy Coffey. He attends fourth grade at Cline Elementary and is enrolled in the PSR program at St. Joseph. He is interested in video games and inventions. He is excited to finally be participating in the Eucharist. His grandmother and godmother, Carolyn Corrigan brought Joshua to the church. Melva Karnes (Baptism, Confirmation, and Eucharist) Melva has been married for 18 years and has two children ages 8 and 5. She works full-time at the University of Cincinnati. Melva has always had an interest in the Catholic faith. She is married to a Catholic and has been raising her children Catholic. She is happy to be participating in the faith life with her family. Lois Turner (Baptism, Confirmation, and Eucharist) Lois is single and has worked for the Post Office in Cincinnati for 24 years. Lois has developed a great love for the Bible and has found in the Church a peaceful, meditative atmosphere and has “noticed the evident love for God and reverence of members. . .I can see how being Catholic is a faith to be lived every day of the week.” Lois was particularly moved by receiving the Eucharist for the first time at the Easter Vigil. Debby Wisbey (Baptism, Confirmation, and Eucharist) Debby is divorced with one daughter, age 38 and an 18-year-old grandson. She grew up in Cincinnati and moved to Highland Heights 7 years ago. She is retired from the auto industry, but still works part-time. Debby’s father was Catholic, but she was not raised in the faith. She began attending Mass after his death last April. She is looking forward to being a part of the St. Joseph Church community. Karen Carr (Confirmation and Eucharist) Karen was baptized as an infant at the United Methodist Church, Mt. Blanchard, Ohio. She is married to Dave Carr, a Catholic, and they have one son, Roman Carr, age 4. Karen graduated from the University of Cincinnati and works for Fidelity Investments in Covington. Her family brought her to the Catholic Church. Rick Parker (Confirmation and Eucharist) Rick was baptized in the Baptist Church at age 16. He is married with 3 children and 4 grandchildren. Rick grew up in Newport, KY and has been a registered Nurse for 33 years. Rick became interested in becoming Catholic after years of observing the Church and having friendships with many Catholics. He recently attended the Christ Renews His Parish men’s weekend at St. Joseph just a few weeks before his initiation. Rick is thrilled to be able to celebrate the entire Mass after being dismissed with the Catechumens and Candidates for many months. Receiving the Eucharist was especially fulfilling for him. Michele Weyman (Confirmation and Eucharist) Michele was baptized as an infant at St. John’s United Church of Christ. She is married with two sons ages 17 and 11. Michele grew up in Bellevue, KY and now lives in Alexandria, KY. She works for Delta Airlines. Michele started attending St. Joseph Church about 17 years ago after her oldest son was born. Her husband and children are Catholic and she is so happy to finally be sharing fully in this faith with them. If you or someone you know is interested in exploring the Catholic Church, please call Vicki Klocke at
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Families for Life
4,000 CROSSES – Part 2
Recently our parish erected a display of 4000 crosses on the church grounds – one cross for every abortion that takes place each day in the U.S. Some people have asked why the crosses near the front doors of church were decorated with flowers and had names written on them. Following is an explanation from the team of volunteers that have taken this set of crosses to various schools and churches over the past 12 years. Also included are a few other stories about the effects of this display. Periodically, when the display is being taken down, it is found that someone has placed a name on a cross. No one is certain why, except for the cross inscribed with “Joshua/Donald – May 1973”. That particular cross was found by a child helping to dismantle the display at St. Cecelia Church in Independence. At that time, Fr. Paul Berscheid was pastor, and while giving his Sunday homily, he mentioned the cross. After Mass, a woman approached Father and told him she had placed the names on the cross in remembrance of her twins who were aborted. After talking with Father, she enrolled in Project Rachel and was able to begin healing. Four names – Dominick, Michelle, Angelique and Tommy – were found on crosses after a display at Our Lady of Lourdes Church. Also at that time, a passerby saw the display of crosses and could not believe the numbers. He was referred to a nearby pregnancy care center and after speaking to them, was moved to donate $4,200 to the center. (At that time the number of abortions was 4200 per day). The name Agnus was found on a cross at St. Augustine Church in Augusta, Kentucky and “My Black Baby” was found at a display at Baden High School in Columbus. Also at that school, the guidance counselor informed the volunteers that a student had been secretly pregnant and contemplating an abortion. While the high school students were setting up the display, she heard her classmates talk about not condemning girls for their decision and about the help and healing that was available to mothers. She changed her mind about the abortion because of the comments she heard from her classmates that day. Over time, a cross may become worn and need to be replaced. The names are always transferred to the new cross out of respect for the memory of these children. The flowers were placed on these crosses because of a note received by Father Arnsparger when the crosses were on display in Corbin. A woman wrote that she was speaking for thousands of women who are unable to place flowers on their children’s graves, because they left their bodies with the abortionist. Please pray for an end to abortion and pray for all those people who are suffering from it. Thank you to all who helped set up and take down the crosses at our parish. Please continue to do whatever you can to build a culture of life. As you can see from these stories, little things can make a big difference!
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Reflecting on CHRP
For the past four years, I have been sitting behind this woman at Mass, and this weekend, I finally got to see the other side of her. In case you’re wondering whom I sit behind, her name is Sis Wittrock. So, why do I care that you know whom I sit behind? Because Sis, along with other ladies and Father R, shared their faith journey with me. This weekend, I attended the CHRP (Christ Renews His Parish) Retreat. The acronym CHRP does not even describe the benefits that I received from this retreat. Just when you think you are alone, lost, struggling, exhausted, they reminded us that being a Christian is not always easy, but that Christ loves us and that he is with us always. I just don’t know how to describe it. It was dynamic, inspirational, supportive, moving. We cried, we laughed, we loved. I didn’t want it to end. I joined the Catholic Church because; I wanted what you had; now I also want what they have. Christ picked each of us who attended this retreat, the fact that you may be thinking about the next retreat means he has picked you.
Christ Renews His Parish (CRHP) reflections— Jack Rudnick, Jr. St. Joseph, Cold Spring, KY Christ Renews His Parish (CRHP) is one of the wisest investments of time I have made in awhile! The 33-hour time commitment for CRHP was wedged into an already packed schedule of personal, family and professional obligations. But, this break was appealing and came at an ideal time. I met a welcoming group of participants with like-type values at the outset of an incredible well-coordinated weekend. These “companions on the journey” (also the weekend’s theme) provided comfortable conversation and networking! Speakers with incredibly interesting witness and testimony linked personal believable experiences to religious and scriptural principles; and highlighted the resources of the church community (and I got to see the inside of the convent building resource for the first time!) I was enlightened me on the tremendous outreach offered to those in need. Instructional reflections offered information that prompted a renewal into the spiritual and emotional dimensions of my life.
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Our Amazing Students
For the second year in a row eighth graders from St. Joseph excelled in the Diocesan Pro-Life Essay contest. Five of the top twenty essays were from St. Joseph students; Micaela Smith, Kristin Winbigler, Alex Infante, Christina Seibert and Sarah Klump. Sarah won first place and Christian won second place. This is a credit to these students' parents and teachers. It also illustrates the strong pro-life sentiments that are nurtured in their homes and our school. Sarah’s beautiful essay is reprinted here:
A Poem for the Gift of Motherhood Today's my child's birthday. I look at my child and reflect on the joy and happiness she has brought me. I think about how empty our lives would have been without her. The joy felt when our child scores a goal in soccer or masters a new song on the piano. Her big eyes looking for approval. Her hugs and smiles when she knows she pleases me, her excitement when I praise her. Today's my child's birthday. I plan a big party with lots of small friends. I plan games, prizes, and lots of laughs. I plan cake, ice cream, and loads of good food. I watch the smiles and the joy of opening new gifts. I see her happiness because she knows that she is special. Today's my child's birthday. I reflect back to the day that I received this special gift. I always feared that it would all end until the adoption was final, that someone would want to take this great gift back and shatter my heart. The good Lord has given me this special gift so I could help my daughter grow and develop into a successful person. It's not my job to fly her around but teach her to fly so someday she can be on her own. "Empower your child by giving her a choice and a chance. Let them learn to make their own decisions, when appropriate, and learn to trust their feelings."¹ Today's my child's birthday. I stop and say a prayer to the Lord for the unselfish young woman who gave me my special gift. I was not there when my child was born. Someone else suffered the labor pains and felt the kicks in her stomach. Someone else suffered for my joy. Her suffering then, has been turned to joy now, by seeing and feeling my happiness. "Whatever your cross, whatever your pain, God always sends a rainbow after the rain."² Today's my child's birthday. Every year while we are celebrating, there is someone out there thinking: today's my child's birthday. Is she happy? What does she look like? Are her parents good to her? Did I do the right thing? Today's my child's birthday. I want to thank all the unselfish young women who have placed their children up for adoption. I want you to know that you are special and wonderful young women who will be rewarded someday. Your sacrifice has made someone else's life complete. "Amid the joy and preparation given to adoptive parents, society has a tendency to forget the suffering and heartache endured by the birth mother when she parts with her child."³ So Thank YOU and God Loves YOU. God thanks you for protecting and letting your child be someone else's blessing. If ever you feel down or that you made the wrong choice, God will always be there to help you get through the hurt when you think: today's my child's birthday.
¹.Doc Childre and Sara Paddison, HeartMath Discovery Program ². Poem "Whatever your cross" Author: nole22003 at jokeroo.com ³. Nameless, just grateful, Kentucky Post, Ann Landers Advise Column, Circa 1983.
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Noteworthy and CONGRATULATIONS…..
Abbie Kramer, a Freshman at Bishop Brossart and graduate of St. Joe, received the Michael C. Neltner Scholarship to Abbie is the daughter of Frank & Donna Kramer of Cold Spring. She was one of four students selected to receive $1,250.00 for the 2009-2010 school year.
Jenna Sharp, a Freshman at Villa Madonna Academy and graduate of St. Joe has been casted in her first movie role. The presentation is an “after school special” focusing on domestic violence. Funded by the Appalachian Violence Outreach Network, Jenna will be playing a teen age girl named Zoe. Production will begin in June. Great Job, Jenna!!!
T.J. Hizer earned 1st Honors at St. Xavier in the most recent quarter.
Great Job, T.J.
Alan Barth earned 1st Honors at Campbell County High in the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd quarters. Great Job, Alan
Congratulations to Nolan Johnson for being selected as one of two Juniors to represent Neport Central Catholic in the Governor’s Scholarship Program. Great Job, Nolan
The Newport Central Catholic High School chapter of the National Honor Society (NHS) is pleased to announce that the following new members were inducted on May 7th. Membership is based on four pillars of the NHS: Character, Service, Leadership, and Scholarship. The following are former St. Joseph students and current members of St. Joseph Parish: Sophomores: Allison Buchanan, Andrew Buchanan, Brittany Fryer, Olivia Hagedorn, Danielle Hausfeld, Abbigail Kinnett, Sean Murphy, Rebecca Schilling, and Ethan Trauth
TO ALL STUDENTS, FACULTY, and ADMINISTRATION: HAVE A GREAT SUMMER VACATION!!!!!!!!!!!
I am the vine, you are the branches
From a commentary on the gospel of John by Saint Cyril of Alexandria, bishop
The Lord calls himself the vine and those united to him branches in order to teach us how much we shall benefit from our union with him, and how important it is for us to remain in his love. By receiving the Holy Spirit, who is the bond of union between us and Christ our Savior, those who are joined to him, as branches are to a vine, share in his own nature. On the part of those who come to the vine, their union with him depends upon a deliberate act of the will; on his part, the union is effected by grace. Because we had good will, we made the act of faith that brought us to Christ, and received from him the dignity of adoptive sonship that made us his own kinsmen, according to the words of Saint Paul: He who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. The prophet Isaiah calls Christ the foundation, because it is upon him that we as living and spiritual stones are built into a holy priesthood to be a dwelling place for God in the Spirit. Upon no other foundation than Christ can this temple be built. Here Christ is teaching the same truth by calling himself the vine, since the vine is the parent of its branches, and provides their nourishment. From Christ and in Christ, we have been reborn through the Spirit in order to bear the fruit of life; not the fruit of our old, sinful life but the fruit of a new life founded upon our faith in him and our love for him. Like branches growing from a vine, we now draw our life from Christ, and we cling to his holy commandment in order to preserve this life. Eager to safeguard the blessing of our noble birth, we are careful not to grieve the Holy Spirit who dwells in us, and who makes us aware of God’s presence in us. Let the wisdom of John teach us how we live in Christ and Christ lives in us: The proof that we are living in him and he is living in us is that he has given us a share in his Spirit. Just as the trunk of the vine gives its own natural properties to each of its branches, so, by bestowing on them the Holy Spirit, the Word of God, the only-begotten Son of the Father, gives Christians a certain kinship with himself and with God the Father because they have been united to him by faith and determination to do his will in all things. He helps them to
“I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.” John 15:5
Prayer of One Growing Old
Lord, thou knowest better than I know myself that I am growing older and will some day be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occasion. Release me from craving to straighten out everybody’s affairs. Make me thoughtful but not moody: helpful but not bossy. With my vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all, but thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end. Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details; give me wings to get to the point. Seal my lips on my aches and pains: They are increasing, and the love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of other’s pains, but help me endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cock-sureness when my memory seems to clash with the memory of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken. Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a saint… some of them are so hard to live with… but a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the Devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so.
from Short Prayers for the Long Day compiled by Giles and Melville Harcourt Triumph Books Liguori, Missouri
"The righteous…will still bear fruit in old age; They will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, 'The Lord is upright; He is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in Him'" (Psalm 92:14-15).
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St. Joseph Parish
OUR PARISH MISSION
The people of St. Joseph’s Parish strive to be a dynamic, Catholic faith community, following the example of Jesus Christ through liturgical, communal and personal prayer. We value education, especially education in the faith. Through parish ministries and organizations, we serve others by offering our gifts of time, talents and treasures. this We seek to fulfill this mission with the help of Christ, Who leads us to oneness with God.
4011 Alexandria Pike Cold Spring, KY 41076 Phone: 859-441-1604 Fax: 859-441-7681
We’re on the Web!
TODDLER TIME: The Youth and Family Committee of Parish
Monday, Tuesday, & Thursday: 6:30 a.m. & 8:30 a.m. Wednesday and Friday: 6:30 & 9:00 a.m. Saturdays: 8:30 a.m. & 5:00 p.m. Sundays: 8:00, 9:30, & 11:30 a.m. & 7:00 p.m.
Council is initiating a babysitting service for toddlers during the 9:30 mass. This is open to all children between the ages of 1 and 3 (those 3-year-olds who miss the birthday cut-off for the preschool program). The children will be in Kelley Hall with Virtus trained volunteers. This will be run as a cooperative program, meaning that those who bring their children would take a turn as the babysitters. Just imagine, watching all the kids once in a while and then having all the other Sundays to relax and focus on the mass! Any other parishioners who would be willing to volunteer are certainly welcome as well. If this is successful at the 9:30 mass, we will extend it to the other masses. If you are interested in volunteering or have any questions, please e-mail email@example.com.
Welcome New Parishioners……….
Robert & Betty Klotz Cold Spring Justin & Jennifer Landry Cincinnati
Matthew & Rebecca Bogen Erin Swift Alexandria Highland Heights Eric & Angela Reckers Alexandria
Margie Liggett Fort Thomas
Diane Bischoff & Family Cold Spring Thomas Hansman Cold Spring Nicholas, Elizabeth, & Elyse Fritsch Highland Heights, KY
Carpenter’s Connection Page 11 The Carpenter’s Connection is an official publication of St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring, KY. The primary purpose of this publication is to provide short informative articles about parish news, such as fundraising activities and current events. All articles should be parish related and have the name and number of a contact person. Please contact the rectory for more