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We are pleased that you wish to be married in Covenant Presbyterian Church and take this opportunity to acquaint you with our policies so that your wedding ceremony will be a meaningful worship service. The church is guided in the formulation of these wedding policies by the Directory for Worship of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.). A Christian marriage and family is a gift of God. It is possible to have a civil ceremony. Your decision for a church wedding presupposes your faith commitment and implies that you desire to found a Christian family, blessed by God and active in Christ s Church. In the Presbyterian tradition, the wedding is more than a social contract; it is performed as an act of worship and reflects a religious covenant. Certain understandings undergird and influence the way a wedding is conducted in the Church, and distinguishes the Church wedding from a secular ceremony. The Christian marriage ceremony is a service of worship before God. As such, reverence is expected on the part of all present. In the wedding ceremony, we gather in the presence of God - to give thanks for the gift of marriage, - to witness the joining together of wife and husband, - and to ask God s blessing so that they may be strengthened for their life together and nurtured in their love for God. In marriage, husband and wife are called to a new way of life, created, ordered, and blessed by God. -2-

Christian marriage should be celebrated in the place where the community gathers for worship. The marriage ordinarily takes place in a special service which focuses upon marriage as a gift of God and as an expression of the Christian life. The marriage service may take place during the Service for the Lord s Day upon authorization by the Session (the governing board of Covenant Presbyterian Church). Celebration of the Lord s Supper at the marriage service requires the approval of the Session, and care shall be taken that the invitation to the Table is extended to all baptized present (W -4.9003). Since the marriage ceremony is a service of worship, the pastor of Covenant Presbyterian Church will discuss the various liturgical possibilities with each couple and help them choose a ceremony which is in harmony with the Presbyterian tradition and appropriate for them. Weddings are not permitted: - on the Saturdays before Palm Sunday - on the Saturday before Easter - on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day Weddings for non-members must be approved by the Session and will be scheduled no less than two months and no more than six months in advance. Whether or not the persons to be married are members of Covenant Presbyterian Church, the service shall be under the sole direction of the pastor of the church. The choice of Covenant Presbyterian Church for your wedding assumes your willingness to respect the theological integrity of the Reformed tradition. -3-

One of the pastors of Covenant Presbyterian Church shall be the officiating minister at all weddings held in the church unless other arrangements are made. Others may be invited to participate as leaders in the service at the discretion of the pastor. Should a couple desire that a visiting minister officiate at the ceremony, the visiting clergy must be approved by the Session and invited to participate by the minister of Covenant Church. It is expected of all couples being married in Covenant Presbyterian Church that they counsel with one of the ministers in preparation for marriage. If a minister outside of Covenant Presbyterian Church is to do the service, the couple will be expected to counsel with that minister. It is the responsibility of the couple to schedule these sessions. The couple should contact the minister at least one month in advance of the wedding date.

When a couple wishes to be married at Covenant Presbyterian Church, reservations must be made in the church office as early as possible. ° Check with the church secretary about the availability of the date on the church calendar and on the pastor s calendar. Dates for weddings, rehearsals, and receptions will not be confirmed except through the church office. Complete the Wedding Information Form with as much detail as you have. Submit a deposit as explained in the Schedule of Fees with your application in order to hold spaces for your desired date. Review the wedding policy with the office staff. Call for an appointment with the pastor to discuss your plans. Further appointments as needed will be made at your first conference.

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Non-members who wish to be married at Covenant Presbyterian Church need to be sponsored by a church member of their acquaintance. Sponsors are expected to be present for the rehearsal and wedding, to open and lock the building, to coordinate the heat and airconditioning with the custodian, to answer questions, to locate equipment and to ensure that the policies of Covenant Presbyterian Church are respected.



The officiating pastor of Covenant Presbyterian Church will direct the rehearsal and the marriage service. Wedding coordinators, bridal consultants, musicians, and all other participants are under his/her direction. The rehearsal is important because it sets the tone for the marriage service itself. Rehearsals are scheduled for one hour, usually the day before the marriage service. All members of the wedding party should be present at the rehearsal. Only the wedding party and parents (those actually involved) should come to the rehearsal. Extra people complicate the rehearsal process. Please make every effort to have everyone at the church at the scheduled time. Proper and conservative dress is expected. No rehearsal or wedding will be conducted when any member of the wedding party is under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Prior to the rehearsal the bride and groom should give some thought to the order in which their attendants will stand and which ushers will escort the mother of the bride, the mother of the groom, and any grandmothers. The marriage license must be in the hands of the pastor no later than the rehearsal.

Music is always important at a wedding service. Music accompanying the ceremony should direct attention to God who sanctifies marriage. Special care should be taken to assure that the music chosen is suitable and reverent. Popular music is rarely appropriate for a service of marriage. The wedding reception is a more suitable setting for contemporary, pop, country and western and secular music selections that are meaningful to the wedding couple. There is a great variety of suitable music but many couples are not familiar with what is available. The director of music or the church organist will be happy to help you discover music that will be appropriate both for the service and for you and will add to the very special nature of your wedding. No decisions about the music to be used should be made prior to your conference with the minister. The minister shall review and approve all music for wedding services. All the music used in the ceremony shall be agreed upon in conference prior to the service. If organ music is desired, the church organist will play and will be compensated at a rate on which he/she and the participants agree. If the church organist is unavailable on the wedding date, he/she will recommend a substitute organist to the wedding party. Any request for a guest organist must be submitted in writing to the church organist. If a guest organist is accepted, it will be necessary to arrange a conference time between the two organists for the purpose of reviewing proper operation of the organ. Instruments other than the organ may be used provided that the music presented is suitable for a service of worship. -7-


FLOWERS AND DECORATIONS Flowers, decorations, and other appointments should be appropriate to the place of worship, enhance the worshiper s consciousness of the reality of God, and reflect the integrity and simplicity of Christian life (W 4.9005). Floral and other decorations should not be so large as to obscure or change the basic character of the church s architecture: pulpit, baptismal font, communion table, chancel area or cross. The sanctuary is expected to look like what it is a Christian church. No floral arrangements or other decorations shall be placed on the communion table, and it shall not be removed from its present location.
Decorations which require the use of pins, tacks, nails, screws, staples, or adhesives which may mar the furniture, walls, or floors must not be used. Nothing but bouquets or bows may be used on the ends of the pews and they can only be attached with wrapped wire or ribbon. In all cases, safety of decorations shall be of paramount consideration. The bridal party shall be responsible for any damage done by the florist and his/her equipment. Protective material must be placed under each candelabra or single candle. Plants or floral arrangements, whether real or artificial, will be placed in trays. It is expected that flowers will be removed by the bridal party following the service. If you desire to leave some or all of the flowers to be used by the church on the following Sunday, please contact the church office. This is a thoughtful gesture, but one we would be presumptuous to assume, so other arrangements are generally made. -8-

PHOTOGRAPHY / VIDEOTAPING Pictures are always popular at weddings, and some thought in advance will pay big dividends. Couples frequently find that posing for numerous formal pictures after the service consumes a great deal of time which they would rather be spending with their guests at the reception. If pictures are to be taken prior to the service, sufficient time must be allowed and the florist must be advised so that the decorations will be in place at the proper time. We encourage couples to discuss picture arrangements in advance with their photographer to determine how much time will be needed. If formal pictures are to be taken after the service, those including the pastor should be taken first.
The taking of flash pictures by anyone official photographer or guests is prohibited during the service. Silent time exposures may be taken from the balcony. Flash pictures of the bride entering the sanctuary and of the couple leaving the chancel may be taken only from the rear of the sanctuary. Some couples have expressed interest in having their service videotaped. This may be done from the balcony, without artificial light. At no time during the processional, the ceremony itself, or the recessional may a photographer or video camera operator occupy any position in the sanctuary forward of the front pew. Audiotaping of the service must be arranged in advance with the pastor.


BULLETINS Sometimes a couple wants a printed order of worship, particularly if there are hymns. This can be done in consultation with the pastor. The church office does not prepare wedding programs. We can suggest sources for the publication of the bulletins, but the couple is responsible for the printing. NURSERY The nursery area is available to parents wishing child care during a wedding rehearsal and/or wedding ceremony. The wedding party is responsible for obtaining and paying the caregivers. Children may not be left unattended in the nursery. The rooms are to be left in good condition. Any breakage is to be replaced by the group using the nursery. Reservations to use the nursery should be made through the church office. ETIQUETTE Rice, wheat, confetti, sparklers, silly string, etc. are not permitted inside or outside the church at any time before, during, or after the wedding. Bird seed may be used outside the building only.
Alcoholic beverages are not permitted in or on Covenant Presbyterian Church s properties at any time (before, during, or after the ceremony and/or reception). Smoking and the use of tobacco products is not permitted in the church buildings. All facilities are to be left in their original order and condition. All rented items, flowers (except those you have notified the church you will be leaving for the following Sunday), gifts, and trash shall be removed immediately following the service. -10-

Wedding receptions may be held in Fellowship Hall or, for a small wedding, in the Parlor. Arrangements must be made through the church office at the time the wedding date is set and scheduled on the church calendar. It is assumed that receptions held in the church will observe all the standards of good taste and the policies outlined here. As a reminder, alcoholic beverages, smoking, and the use of tobacco products are not permitted in or on Covenant Presbyterian Church s properties at any time. Some equipment is available for use. The church office can supply information and the name of a representative of Presbyterian Women who should be consulted prior to using the kitchen. We expect you to leave what you use washed and dried with equipment returned to the cupboards. If you use disposable paper or plastic goods, they should be gathered and put in plastic trash bags which the church will provide. Church receptions are scheduled to last no longer than three hours. If more time is needed, special arrangements must be made.


The church custodian will have the sanctuary and other spaces you have requested ready and clean for your wedding. You are responsible for removing the decorations and returning any equipment to its accustomed place. All trash (dry cleaning bags, unwanted hangers, gift wrap, etc.) should be collected into plastic bags which the church will provide. The custodian or church liaison person will open and lock the church and be responsible for the heating and air conditioning. Please note the time limitation given under the Reception section. Since many weddings occur on Saturday night, the building must be prepared for Sunday worship and church school activities after the wedding party has cleared the building. Because of the nature of our cooling system, sufficient shut-down time must be planned in advance in order for it to cool the next day. Unless other arrangements are made, it is expected that all use of the buildings will be concluded not later than 10:00 pm on a Saturday night.

Wedding fees have been set by the Session to cover the services of the church staff, equipment, utilities, and facilities for both the rehearsal and the wedding. Fees for the organist are negotiated separately. One-half of the fee must be paid before the date is placed on the church calendar. The balance of all fees must be paid two weeks before the wedding date through the church office. Checks should be made payable to Covenant Presbyterian Church. Should the wedding service be canceled for any reason, the fees may be partially refunded. There is no charge for the use of the sanctuary, Fellowship Hall, parlor or kitchen if the bride, the groom, or the parent(s) of either has been an active member of Covenant Presbyterian Church for at least six months. For members of Covenant Presbyterian Church, there are no fees for the pastor s services. An honorarium may be given, the amount to be determined by the bridal couple. Fees for weddings in the sanctuary are: • $150 custodial fee for members • $500 for non-members • An additional fee of $50 if service is after 4:00 pm on a Saturday (both members and non-members) Fees for a reception in Fellowship Hall and use of the kitchen: • $150 custodial fee for members • $300 for non-members • An additional fee of $50 if reception extends after 10:00 pm on a Saturday (both members and nonmembers) -13-


No wedding may be performed without a marriage license. It must be handed to the pastor no later than the wedding rehearsal. The marriage license office nearest this church is the Grayson County Clerk s office, 100 W. Houston, Sherman. For complete information call 813-4243. Requirements for a marriage license in the State of Texas are: 1. Valid driver s license. 2. Social Security number. 3. Fee of $35 in cash. 4. Applicants must not be related by the whole blood, half blood or by adoption. 5. Applicants will be given an oath and must sign the application. 6. There is a 30-day waiting period for those who have been divorced in the State of Texas. 7. There is a 72-hour waiting period after the issuance of the license before one may be married. 8. A license issued in the State of Texas is valid in any county in the state for a period of 30 days.



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