Values = Goals = Behavior = Self-esteem
“If I had 8
chop down a
What is a goal?
Shrinking Circle Discussion:
n What happened when the goal to fit in the
circle got harder?
n How does that relate to our life?
n What are some of the things that
prevented us from achieving this goal?
Short vs. Long
n A short term goal is n Long term goals will
achieved quickly take months, years,
n Finish a term paper, all of your life.
n Wash dishes, n Graduate from college,
n Mail Christmas cards by n Become a pilot,
Friday, ect. n Lose ____ pounds, ect.
They help you
achieve your long
Why do we
Story: Oh the Places You’ll Go!
Make a list of things
you’d like to do before
Another Check Mark On The List
One rainy afternoon an inspired 15-year-old
Boy name John Goddard sat down at his
kitchen table in Los Angeles and wrote three
words at the top of a yellow pad, “My life
List.” Under that heading he wrote down
127 goals. Since then he has completed 108
of those goals. Some of the goals he listed
Excerpt from Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen.
These are not simple or easy goals. They
include climbing the world’s major
mountains, exploring vast waterways,
running a mile in five minutes, reading the
complete works of Shakespeare and the
entire Encyclopedia Britannica.
n What kind of person do you think John Goddard
n Some say that he had to be wealthy in order to
accomplish all of his goals, do you agree?
n Do you think that the length of time a person
holds a dream is in any way related to the
outcome? Why or Why not?
n What do you think is the main factor in a person
accomplishing a dream or a goal?
What is the difference
between a dream
and a goal?
A dream is a desire for something.
Whereas a goal is specific,
measurable, and has a deadline.
Would you like to
add to your “My
Setting Goals à Take Action
Activity: Ball Toss
Do you believe you can
n We need to learn how to dream
n Keep the dream alive, reach your goals
n Some people don’t decide or have a vision
of what they want out of life. NO GOALS!!!
n People with goals can see what they
eventually want to achieve and they can
see just how to get there.
Guidelines for Goals:
n Goals Must be Specific – a specific goal has a
greater chance of being accomplished.
n Goals must be Measurable – when you can measure
your progress, you stay on track, and experience
n Goals must be Attainable –
n Goals must be Realistic - your goal is probably
realistic if you truly believe you can accomplish it.
n Goals must be Timely – a goal should be grounded
within a time frame. With no time frame there is no
sense of urgency.
Use these Guidelines and
your goals will be SMART!
Hold on to someone else’s belief in
you until you believe in yourself.
If you do not believe you can do it,
this is why you won’t succeed.
Activity: The “I can’t” Funeral
n Write down on a piece of paper everything
you can’t do.
n Now write a list of “I CAN”. Keep this in
your note book/journal.
Play Song: I Believe I Can Fly
“Success is in the Bag”
n You need “purse”-severance.
n It requires the same amount of energy to
be successful as it does to be unsuccessful.
n 99% of your assets are standing in your
n 80% of success is showing up.
Build a bridge and get over
n You will have challenges
n You will have roadblocks
n You can have excuses or success but not
Story: “Circus Elephants and Limitations”
There are three types of people:
n People who make things happen.
n People who let it happen.
n People who don’t know what happened.
What one are you going to be?