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   PATRICK DOHERTY                                                                               The factual content of this obituary is
                                                          The deaths of the following            correct because Paddy, himself, wrote his
   Patrick, known as
   Paddy, was a                                           brothers are announced                 own brief life history, five years ago.
   Catenian for almost                                        with deep regret                     In January 2006 Paddy was diagnosed
   47 years, having                                                                              with dementia. His family and friends
   joined Macclesfield                                               2010                        saw a lovely capable man gradually lose
   Circle in 1963 and                                                                            his mental and physical faculties. In
   transferring to
                                                                    August                       January 2009, when a shadow of his
   Brooklands Circle in                              06 Michael O’Connor Southgate Circle        former self, he went to live in a
   1966. Being a                                                                                 residential home where he died on 21st
                                                     15 John Foster Somerset, West Circle
   Catenian was an                                                                               April 2010. Our lives were richer for
   integral part of                                               September                      having him as part of ours and now
   Paddy’s life. He was Secretary from                   16 Frank Rafferty Bolton Circle         sadder for no longer having him with us.
   1967 to 1973 and President in 1973/74.                                                        His Requiem Mass, celebrated by Father
                                                     29 Frederick Kelf South Shields Circle      Stephen Woolley at St Joseph’s, Sale,
   In 1976, he became Provincial
                                                          30 John Brophy Torbay Circle           on 14th May, was truly lovely and
   Councillor, which office he held until
   1982. From 1979 to 1982 he was                                   October                      befitting of such a special man.
                                                                                                                        May he rest in peace
   Provincial Covenants Officer. He and his            01 Brian Taylor Basingstoke Circle
   wife Pat gained many very good, lifelong
   friends through the Association.                            13 Kevin Keenan                   HARRY NICHOLLS
      Paddy’s sister Anne, and Brian Dempsey             Richmond & Twickenham Circle            Ken Regan writes:
   write: Paddy was born on 29th April 1924                   17 Patrick Costello                The death of Harry
   to John and Mary. Sadly, his mother died              London Northern Heights Circle          Nicholls in March
   shortly after his birth and for the first                22 Charles McGeown                   2010 was a sad
   seven years he was looked after by his                Ramsgate, Dover Cinque Port,            loss to all his family,
   mother’s parents and an aunt. His father,                    Swale Circles                    friends and
   also to be my father, remarried and                                                           Catenian Brothers.
                                                                23 Bill Nugent                   He was a very
   Paddy went to live with him and his new
   mum.                                                 Newcastle Upon Tyne City Circle          active and
      Paddy was educated at St Joseph’s                24 James Harold Davyhulme Circle          dedicated member
   Primary School in Sale and St Bede’s                           November                       of Oldham Circle
   College, Manchester. At 18 he                                                                 and, together with his wife Imelda,
   volunteered for the Royal Marines and                01 Peter Burchett Banbury Circle         attended all Circle and Provincial events
   served in the Orkney Islands, Malta,                                                          and was a regular attender at the AGM.
                                                                                                    His presidential year was a great
   North Africa and on landing craft in Sicily,
                                                       May They Rest in Peace                    success for Oldham Circle and he made
   Italy and Yugoslavia.
      After demobilisation in 1945 he worked                                                     many friends in Provinces 1 and 17 and
   for a firm of accountants, before going to       Green Wine Making Society and was            other parts of the country with the support
   Teacher Training College at Strawberry           quite successful in producing (and           he gave to the Association.
   Hill, Middlesex. Qualifying in 1949, his first   drinking) his own wine. Brian Dempsey           As a young man Harry joined the
   post was at St Joseph’s, Sale. In 1959           remembers the many hours Paddy spent         Merchant Navy and was seconded to the
   he was appointed to his first headship at        cooking at the frequent barbecues we         Atlantic fleet aboard an aircraft carrier.
   St Mary’s, Congleton. In 1964, he was            had on our many caravan holidays.            One of his main tasks was setting depth
   appointed Head Teacher at Our Lady of            Paddy also enjoyed ballroom dancing.         charges against the attacking German
   Lourdes, Partington, where he stayed               Paddy loved travelling. His early          U-Boats. During this time Harry also
   until his retirement in 1981.                    retirement allowed them to have some         became a Military Policeman rounding up
      Paddy was a quiet, gentle person ready        wonderful holidays in Australia, New         the drunken sailors in the ports!
   to help anyone in need. In 1949, he              Zealand, Hawaii, America, Canada and            Following his war exploits Harry
   married Patricia (Pat) at St Joseph’s in         Europe. They often went with their friends   returned home where he met the love of
   Sale, Cheshire. Paddy was a lovely               Frank and Daphne, Paddy having met           his life Imelda. He set up his own joinery
   husband, father, grandfather, brother and        Frank when he was stationed on Malta         firm making, among other things, draft
   uncle. To me, he was the loveliest brother       during the war.                              excluders which he and Imelda would
   I could ever have had. Paddy and Pat, as           Paddy was extremely fond of cats. He       assemble and then Harry would peddle
   they were known, had a long and happy            was introduced to owning a cat when a        from door to door on a hand cart.
   married life until 2006, when sadly Pat          pupil at St Joseph’s brought a kitten into      Unfortunately Harry suffered a setback
   died from melanoma. They had three               school for him. After that he was never      when he came off worst in an argument
   children, two sons and a daughter, who in        without a cat in his home. In the 1990s,     with a circular saw and lost the fingers of
   turn, produced six grandchildren; and he         he had two Persian cats, called Ming and     his left hand. Not to be deterred and with
   had three great grandchildren.                   Meesha, whom he adored.                      considerable encouragement from his
      In his younger days, Paddy played               Paddy’s paperwork at home was              friends in the trade, Harry continued in
   cricket for Sale Moor in the Manchester          meticulously kept. He lived by his lists,    business as a building contractor. It was
   Association. Later on he joined the Sale         which were colour coded, so he rarely        this that was to prove Harry’s greatest
   Conservative Club, not for the politics          forgot anything. After his father died in    achievement. During the housing boom of
   but for the snooker, playing with fellow         1962, Paddy looked after the financial       the 1960’s Harry Nicholls Builders went
   Catenians Gerry Lowe, Brian Dempsey              side of the family business. And as          from strength to strength and quickly
   and David Donlan, weekly for over 20             mentioned above, he was Circle               became established as a force in the
   years. He was also a member of Heald             Secretary for a number of years.             Oldham area.

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   A strong family man, Harry was the          but thankfully the Japanese surrendered           Ken was kind, intelligent and had a
father of three children, Maeve, Stephen       and he did not have to go.                     unique Lancastrian sense of humour. He
and Imelda; eventually becoming a proud           After the war he married Anne Finan         was always full of new ideas and liked to
and loving grandfather to Jacqueline,          and had one son, Ian, who married              communicate clearly.
Karen and Michael.                             Angela and was blessed with two                   His passion was the generation of
   Harry was also very fond of sport. He       grandchildren, Lewis and Alex, who made        electricity and following his retirement
was a keen fan of boxing having been           Harry so proud. Sadly his wife died on         continued to explore the field of
encouraged by his father as a boy to don       19th June 1988.                                renewable energy. A very generous man
the gloves and take to the ring (whether          He started his working career as an         in many ways and although converting to
he liked it or not!). Rugby league was         apprentice joiner and was employed by          Catholicism very late in life, he had
another game close to Harry’s heart and        Bass Breweries. He worked his way up in        supported many Catholic charities for
he had many stories of his and his             the building trade and finally retired as a    many years.
friends’ battles on the field!                 regional surveyor for the brewery.                Although a member of the Catenian
   The last Circle meeting Harry was able         One of his keen interests was brass         Association for a relatively short time he
to attend was for the presentation of his      band music and he was very involved            was very committed to our ideals but
scroll to mark his 40 years of service to      with the Boarshurst Brass Band Club in         mobility problems, particularly over the
the Association.                               Greenfield where he made many good             last 12 months, limited his freedom to
   Shortly after this event he suffered a      friends.                                       participate in the events as widely as he
very bad fall which caused breaks in his          Harry was a dedicated member of the         would have liked.
shoulder and arm, resulting in a great         Association and since his enrolment in            Ken and Marie were among some of
deterioration in his health in general,        Oldham Circle in 1967 he supported and         the early pioneers of owning a villa in
which before had always been extremely         attended meetings and all the Circle           Spain and they spent much time there,
good. He was unable to attend further          social events. He would have accepted          increasing with retirement, and being
meetings or social events and his wife         the position of Circle president and been      visited by family and particularly their four
Imelda was taken ill during this period.       very successful if he had not suffered the     grandchildren. Their wide circle of friends
   The Requiem Mass on Thursday 18th           early loss of his lovely wife Anne. He         were often on the receiving end of their
March at his parish church, The Sacred         completed his 40 years membership and          generosity being invited to spend time
Heart, Uppermill, was well attended by         was presented with his scroll at home as       with them. The villa could well have been
family, friends, business colleagues and       he was not fit to attend meetings. He          a hotel!
Catenians from the Circle and Province.        maintained a close relationship with other        Sadly Marie, who had her own
   He was one of the best and will be          ex members of the tank regiment and            successful career, first in hairdressing
sadly missed.                                  always marched in their annual parade to       followed by teaching, broadcasting and
                       May he rest in peace    the war memorial. He passed away on            also as an author, died of motor neurone
                                               Remembrance Day, 11th November 2009            disease in 2003.
HARRY CHRISHAM                                 and his son Ian stated that when he had           Ken’s eldest son, Tony, wishes to
Ken Regan writes:                              to leave us that would have been the day       express the sincere thanks of the family
Harry Chrisham                                 he wanted.                                     to members of the Association for the
was born in Oldham                                His Requiem was well attended with          support given to Ken during his illness.
on 14th May 1922                               fellow Catenians, members of the tank                                  May he rest in peace
and attended St                                regiment, family and friends. He is a sad
Anne’s School,                                 loss to his family, Oldham Circle and the      ROBERT WALKER
Holdham. His                                   Association in general.                        The Brothers of
parents died when                                                     May he rest in peace    Wakefield (West
he was 14 and he                                                                              Riding) Circle were
was brought up by                              KEN CRONSHAW                                   shocked to hear of
his brother John                               Mike Duffy writes: To the deep regret of       the sudden death
and sisters Mayme and Alma. He also            the Brothers of Hexham and Tyne Valley         of their Circle
had a sister Kathleen who died when            Circle Ken Cronshaw died on 29th June          President,
she was very young.                            following a short period of illness at the     Bob Walker, who
   On the outbreak of World War II he          age of 83. Ken’s Requiem was attended          collapsed at his
immediately joined up and saw active           by many Catenians and friends along            home on 18th
service in North Africa fighting against       with past colleagues from the former           March 2010 less
Rommel’s Africa corps. On returning from       North Eastern Electricity Board.               than two weeks before the end of his
Africa he was sent on the D-Day landings         Ken was born in Lancashire and,              Presidential year. He was 78.
for the liberation of Europe, and fought in    leaving school at 14 with no qualifications,   Mike Starford writes: Bob was born in
all the major battles, travelling from the     worked tirelessly at night school for many     the east end of London on 28th
French coast to the Baltic. He told me         years to gain his professional                 November 1931. His naturalized parents
that one of the things that affected him       qualifications. Following a spell on           were Lionel and Hilda Walker, originally of
the most was when his division came            Teeside he, his wife Marie and three           Romanian Jewish stock.
across the concentration camp at Belsen        sons, moved to Tyneside in 1960 and his           Bob’s grandfather had been in the silk
and he could not believe what he saw; he       career climaxed as Assistant Chief             trade which involved residing in China for
referred to it as man’s inhumanity to man      Engineer of the North Eastern Electricity      a period, where Bob’s father,
and I think this event helped shape his life   Board based in Newcastle upon Tyne.            coincidentally, was educated by the
and make him the kind and generous             Ken’s success in electrical engineering        Jesuits. The family also owned jewellers’
person he was. After the liberation of         was all the more surprising given that he      shops and a cinema.
Europe he was sent back to the UK and          was colour blind and needed assistance            Bob was one of three children with
was marked fit for action in the Far East      to wire an electric plug!                      sisters Sylvia and Brenda.

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      His parents moved north to Batley in         They bonded successfully and enjoyed              A second practice was soon opened in
   West Yorkshire, a wool textile town, where      many happy social events and holidays           neighbouring Normanton. Tom and Denise
   they were received into the Catholic Church     during their time together, including           had two children, Andrew, who after
   at St Mary’s, Batley. Following the death of    Barbara accompanying Bob as his escort          qualifying in Optometry at Bradford
   his grandfather, his grandmother remarried      when attending all the Catenian functions       University in 1978 joined his father as a
   gaining a new surname of Walker.                and social events in his Presidential year.     partner in the business and Helen, who
      Bob was educated at St Joseph’s school          A man of integrity, good humour and          until recently ran her own marketing
   in Batley and Pitmans College in Leeds          infectious enthusiasm he will be sadly          company, and now heads up marketing at
   where he excelled in business studies and       missed. Bob’s Requiem Mass was                  Bradford University.
   secretarial practice. After leaving college     celebrated at his own church by the Parish        Tom joined Wakefield Circle in May 1954
   Bob worked firstly at the local Fox’s Biscuit   Priest, Fr Mark Naughton, attended by           encouraged by his father-in-law, the late
   factory followed by a spell at Hudson and       many Catenians and friends. Our                 Arthur Quinn, an existing member of the
   Knights, soap manufacturers in Leeds.           sympathies go out to his daughters, his         Circle at the time. He was twice Circle
   After completing National Service in the        sisters, his grandchildren, his extended        President in 1966 and 1984 and also
   RAF Bob changed careers and spent the           family and his good friend Barbara.             served on Provincial Council 3 South for a
   remainder of his professional working life                              May he rest in peace    short period. Tom was an active Catenian,
   in the house building construction industry                                                     very rarely missing a meeting, who always
   employed firstly at Costains and then Tays      TOM PATTERSON                                   supported Circle social events. Tom could
   and eventually to Barretts where he was         The Brothers of                                 always be relied upon to bring a large
   appointed Area Manager for that part of         Wakefield (West                                 number of guests in support of the Circle
   Yorkshire. However he was always                Riding) Circle were                             Annual Dinner and Dance.
   ambitious to set up his own business and        saddened at the                                   In 1992 Tom fully retired at the age of
   he saw a niche in the housing market            death of a long                                 72 and became the primary carer for
   which gave him the opportunity to set up a      standing member,                                Denise. Denise suffered from the
   successful kitchen design and installation      Tom Aitchison                                   progressive and debilitating illness of
   firm, a business that grew over the years,      Patterson, on 11th                              Alzeimer’s for many years, needing
   providing the dual satisfaction of a sound      July 2010 in                                    constant and increasing support in the
   commercial living and a fulfilment of an        Pinderfields Hospital,                          home. His shining example of honouring
   entrepreneurial venture. Even after             Wakefield, after a                              his wedding vows ‘in sickness and in
   retirement his business interests continued     short illness. His health had noticeably        health’ was exemplified by his unselfish
   on a consultancy basis.                         declined in recent months but the               devotion to his wife. Tom was by her side
      He met his wife Dorothy Moyser, also a       suddenness of his death was unexpected.         continuously and yet never complaining
   convert, from Driglington near Morley at a        Mike Starford writes: Tom was born in         or ruing his predicament, just responding
   local dance (so folklore tells us) and after    Wakefield on 13th June 1927 to Tom and          compassionately and lovingly to her every
   due courtship they married at St Patrick’s      Emily Patterson, the youngest of two boys;      need. Sadly Denise died this year less
   church in Birstall in 1955, moving house        his elder brother Selwyn survives him. His      than three months before Tom’s.
   to Ossett and were to be happily married        parents owned a family jewellers in the           In recent years I had the privilege of
   for 49 years before her death in 2005.          centre of Wakefield. Tom was educated in        taking them both Holy Communion each
   They were blessed with three daughters,         Wakefield and after leaving school he went      Sunday morning. Latterly Denise needed
   Helen, Adrienne and Sarah and in time           on to complete his National Service in the      more professional care support for longer
   five grandchildren. Bob was a                   Army which included a spell at the War          periods and at the same time Tom’s health
   Francophile and with Dorothy and the            Office in London. On demobilisation he          and mobility started to decline. They both
   girls would visit France each year for their    studied Optometry and graduated from            moved into a warden supported private
   annual holiday towing his caravan to all        Bradford University in 1950 in conjunction      complex where their independence and
   parts of the country.                           with owning an independent jewellers shop.      privacy could be maintained but help was
      Bob joined Wakefield Circle in 1983 and        In the same year he was received into         available when required.
   was active from the beginning, becoming         the Church, shortly before marrying               Tom’s life was devoted to his family and
   Circle Secretary, Circle and Provincial         Denise Quinn at St Austin’s in Wakefield.       work but in his early years occasionally
   Membership Officer, before being installed      This was the start of a spiritual journey       he allowed himself the luxury of an up
   as Circle President for the Catenian year       which would see him attend daily Mass           market car and took an interest in
   2009/2010. As Circle membership officer         until infirmity in old age reluctantly          woodworking and turning as a hobby, with
   Bob was the most successful in living           prevented him from safely making the            the occasional game of golf.
   memory ‘recruiting’ nine new Brothers           daily journey.                                    He was also a member of the
   during his tenure, mainly from his own            Initially Tom started his professional        Wakefield Lions where he devoted many
   parish of St Ignatius in Ossett. His            career as an Optometrist for the Sydney         hours visiting the sick and elderly. Tom
   charitable work included successful fund        Goldwyn Practice in Leeds before deciding       served on the Wakefield Local Optical
   raising for the upkeep of the local             to relocate to Dublin where his wife,           Committee for many years.
   Wakefield Hospice in his capacity as            Denise, had family connections, setting up        His Requiem took place at St Austin’s
   secretary of the Ossett support group.          his first optician’s practice in Middle Abbey   Church, Wakefield, on the day that would
      During his time as a widower he met by       Street. After two years he decided to move      have been their Diamond Wedding
   chance, as a consequence of being involved      back to Wakefield and set up his first local    Anniversary, attended by many Catenians
   with the ‘Ossett Strollers’, a local walking    practice in the upstairs rooms above his        and friends. Our sympathies go out to
   group, a retired NHS nurse and widow,           mother’s jewellers shop in Westgate,            Andrew and Joan, Helen and David, his
   Barbara Kitson, which provided for them         where he was born. When his mother              two granddaughters Rachael and Laura,
   both the catalyst to enjoy a close cherished    retired in the early 1960s he expanded the      his surviving brother Selwyn and his
   companionship which had eluded him              business, moving to the ground floor at the     extended family.
   following the death of his beloved Dorothy.     same address.                                                         May he rest in peace

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FRANK DOWSON                                       Frank joined the Catenians in 1961 and     - the Irish Catholic community in the West
The Brothers of                                 was twice President of Leeds 3 Circle. He     of Scotland. Priests throughout the
Leeds 3 Circle were                             was the trumpet playing member of the         Strathclyde area were visited and
saddened at the                                 Bowry Boys, a renowned barbershop             befriended and encouraged to tell their
death of Frank                                  singing group that won many Catenian          parishioners about the new Bank.
Dowson on the 5th                               singing competitions. He proudly                 However, Brendan was keen to ensure
November 2009 at                                introduced two of his sons Michael and        that the Bank did not get a reputation for
the age of 85.                                  Peter into the Association. He was a keen     serving that community only and this
   Peter Dowson, his                            sports fan following Leeds United in the      highlights two of his main qualities.
youngest son and                                glory years but also enjoyed watching            Firstly, the business acumen to realise
fellow Leeds 3                                  cricket and rugby and playing golf at         that overplaying the Irish Catholic card
Brother, writes:                                Horsforth Golf Club.                          might result in the Bank being unable to
Frank was born on 14th March 1924 in               Frank was well known for his building      tap into the rest of the market. Secondly,
Horsforth, Leeds. He attended St                skills; he built a number of small boats as   his strong aversion to discrimination of any
Margarets School in Horsforth and then          well as making constant improvements to       kind - though in those early days Brendan
Aireborough Grammar School where he             the family home. Frank was a proud            and his family occasionally experienced
took and passed his school certificate          Yorkshireman, straightforward in all his      anti-Catholic and anti-Irish sentiments in
gaining a distinction in English. After         dealings. He enjoyed his many family          the West of Scotland.
leaving school he started an                    outings and celebrations and was an              Other communities were targeted for
apprenticeship as a joiner’s improver;          excellent and considerate host. He bore       business development including the
eager for adventure he tried to join the        his illness with good grace and a sense of    Chinese and Jewish communities in
RAF at the age of 16. He looked older           humour, never complaining and died            Glasgow. Under Brendan’s leadership the
than he was and was told to come back           peacefully at home with his loving family     Allied Irish Bank firmly established itself in
next year. He returned on his 17th birthday     around him.                                   Scottish business life.
and joined the RAF. He enlisted as a pilot         His Requiem was very well attended            Though loyal to the Bank, Brendan was
and was sent to Canada to do his pilot          with many Catenian friends in the             first and foremost a man of great principle.
training, It was during this time he lost his   congregation, and as I like to think, he is   When there was industrial unrest in the
best friend in a training accident; as a        now FLYING WITH THE ANGELS,                   1970s, Brendan, an active member of his
young man this affected him quite badly.        God Bless you Dad.                            trade union, came out on strike for some
                                                                       May he rest in peace   months in support of his fellow workers.
With the help of his commanding officer he
continued his training and gained his                                                            On his retirement, Brendan threw
pilot’s wings. After completing his training    BRENDAN SOMERS                                himself enthusiastically into co-founding
he stayed in Canada at flying training          The Brothers of                               McFarlane Homes, a charity offering
school and was an instrument flying             East Kilbride Circle                          residential care and supported living
instructor. Frank felt at this time he wasn’t   mourn the death of                            accommodation for adults with a learning
contributing to the war effort so he asked      Brendan Antony                                disability some of whom also have a
for a transfer. He was posted to a night        Somers who died                               physical disability.
flying squadron in Burma to fly                 suddenly on 29th                                 Brendan was perhaps drawn to this
Beaufighters and Mosquitos. After the war,      August 2009.                                  challenge by his own personal experience.
then a warrant officer, he signed on for a         Michael Barrett                            His son Robbie was badly brain damaged
further three years’ service and was            writes: Brendan was                           at birth due to a lack of a proper oxygen
posted to RAF Church Fenton as an               born in Dublin on 9th                         supply to his brain.
instrument flying instructor.                   May 1936. He was                                 Brendan took great pride when
   Around this time he met his wife of 61       educated at O’Connells Christian Brothers     McFarlane opened its first residential
years, Doreen, and converted to the             School where, in addition to his sound        home at Netherlee in Glasgow in 1995.
Catholic Faith; they married in 1948. He        academic performance, he represented             With Brendan’s help as Managing
left the RAF in 1950 and went to work in        the school at athletics and hurling. After    Director, McFarlane Homes has grown.
the building firm of his father in law          leaving school, Brendan joined the Allied     It now boasts a total staff of 67, one of its
Clarence Charles; sadly his father in law       Irish Bank in Sligo in 1954 where he met      most senior staff being - to Brendan’s
died in his early 50s in 1955. Frank            and married Claire, a Sligo girl. Brendan     great joy - his daughter, Ruth.
finished the housing projects they were         and Claire were blessed with five children,      At Brendan’s Requiem Mass, his former
working on and this gave him the                Martina, Ruth, Rachel, Robbie and Louise.     colleague and friend, Nial Loakman listed
inspiration to start his own business.             His career progressed and he became        Brendan’s many interests reflecting that he
   He built up a successful builders            Assistant Manager of the branch in            was a man who enjoyed life to the full and
hardware and timber wholesalers                 Falcarragh, Co Donegal for five years.        took a great interest in other people.
employing over 50 people, selling out the       However, in 1972 the Bank was looking         A connoisseur of brandy; a keen golfer;
business in 1975 to Mallinson Denny, who        towards Britain for further expansion and     a passionate follower of football - the
kept him on as Managing Director until his      decided to open its first branch in           fortunes of Celtic in particular; an
retirement in 1985.                             Scotland. Brendan was chosen as its           enthusiastic snooker player.
   Frank and Doreen have six children           Manager.                                         The most important things to Brendan
Anthony, Michael, Robert, Peter, Catherine         This was quite an upheaval for the         were, however, his family, his faith and his
and Julie. He always said none of the           whole family but with Claire’s calm and       many friends. He had a highly successful
children came into the world empty              steady support, he threw himself into the     career but he never forgot his roots. He
handed as they all presented new                challenge of establishing the Allied Irish    was the first to acknowledge that the
challenges and opportunities. He was a          Bank as the first Irish bank in Scotland.     success he enjoyed would not have been
proud grandfather of 10 and great                  No networking opportunity was missed.      possible without the unfailing support of
grandfather of two.                             There was of course an obvious port of call   his family - and Claire in particular.

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       In 2001, prior to major heart surgery,        He married Mary on 16th August 1952        LT COL CHRISTOPHER
   Brendan prepared for the worst by              and they had three children, Philippa,
   penning a farewell note to each of his         Michele and Martyn. An indication of how
                                                                                                ‘GEORGE’ FRIENDSHIP
   family members, including Robbie.              successful they were as parents was that      George Friendship, a
       The text of that note which sadly now      Philippa was awarded an OBE for services      member of South
   has been opened reads as follows:              to the Inland Revenue and Martyn an           Leicester Circle, died
   “My beloved son Robbie                         MBE for services to Her Majesty’s             in March - a merciful
   This undoubtedly is the most difficult of my   Prison Service.                               release from a long
   farewell messages to pen, because you             After retirement, Alan was able to         and debilitating illness
   will never comprehend its content, nor         resume his enjoyment of travelling            that he endured with
   understand how truly I love and have           and he and Mary visited many                  great fortitude and his
   always loved you. In these last ten years      countries on holidays and Alan was            customary patience.
   I have grown ever closer to you and that       always in great demand to talk about          When he first became
   in itself has been a joy for me.               their experiences. Golf was one of his        ill, and whilst he could still write, he
   You truly are ‘duine le Dia’ -                 many hobbies and he was Captain of            produced the following ‘pen-portrait’ of
   a person with God’...                          Springhead GC in 1977.                        himself:
   ...I know that you will be perfect at home        He also was a past Secretary of the        “George Friendship is a Cornishman,
   in heaven. I pray that God and His Holy        local bowling club and played bridge          whose father was also a Catenian. Born
   Mother will hold you and your mother safe.     and chess.                                    1939, he was educated at Chaddesley
   To my wonderful, rascally and truly loved         In the last few years of his life his      Corbett, Worcestershire, and at Downside
   son Robbie ‘Sian, beannacht agus mo            activities were reduced because he            School, Bath. He first spent just over a
   gra go deo - farewell, my blessing and         developed macular degeneration and was        year as a Benedictine monk and when
   my love forever.’                              unable to drive. He remained as jocular as    sacked from the Abbey, became a regular
   May God protect you always.”                   ever and there was always someone who         soldier for 25 years, serving overseas in
       Brendan is survived by his wife Claire,    was willing to transport him wherever he      Malta and three times in Germany. In 1983
   his five children and three grandchildren,     wanted to go.                                 believing that it was time to grow up and
   to whom we extend our prayers and                 Alan joined Hull Circle in November        do something more worthwhile, he
   sympathy. He is greatly missed by              1977 and within a short time he was           became a schoolmaster and a
   them, by the members of his Circle and         elected Secretary. He was so efficient        housemaster at Ratcliffe College, finally as
   by the many other people whose lives           that he remained in the post for 10 years,    Head of the Junior School. He taught
   he touched.                                    even though the role was more                 religious studies, history, and theology and
                          May he rest in peace    demanding then because there were no          was the colonel commanding the Ratcliffe
                                                  personal computers and no emails.             College Combined Cadet Force. Joining
   ALAN BARNSLEY                                     In those 10 years Alan very rarely         the Catenians in 1984, he was at some
                                                  missed a circle meeting and remained a        time Circle Secretary, President in 1990/1
   Bernard Swift
                                                  very active member until he died. Just a      and later Provincial Secretary and
   writes: Brothers of
                                                  month before his death he was as              Provincial President in 1996/7. Married to
   Hull Circle were
                                                  articulate and humorous as ever in his        Jane, they live in Rearsby although their
   saddened to hear
                                                  own inimitable way as master of               son and two daughters are long flown the
   of the sudden
                                                  ceremonies at the Annual Dinner Dance,        nest. They have two grandchildren.
   death of Alan
                                                  a role he had carried out for 30 years.           Interests: Season ticket at Tigers, WW1
   Barnsley, aged 85,
                                                  For a similar period he and his wife Mary     enthusiast. Francophile, ecumenism.
   when having lunch
                                                  set up the tombola stalls, sold tickets and       George’s funeral Mass, at Ratcliffe
   at a pub after
                                                  gave out prizes at dinner dances and Big      College, would have pleased him. He was
   visiting local
                                                  Band Nights.                                  in the presence of his family, former
   historic churches
                                                     The church of Our Lady of Lourdes in       colleagues at Ratcliffe College, members
   with a group from his parish. He led an
                                                  Hessle was packed for Alan’s Requiem          of the Rutland & Melton Cancer Support
   extremely active life until God called him
                                                  Mass with family, friends, Catenians and      Group, parishioners, villagers, and many
   to his heavenly reward.
                                                  people from the many societies in which       Catenian friends. Inside the coffin was his
   He was a devout Catholic, a true
                                                  Alan had been involved. Alan’s son Martyn     crucifix, presented to him as a monk, and
   gentleman, was well liked by everyone
                                                  delivered a touching and highly amusing       on top was a bouquet of flowers in the
   with whom he came in contact and was
                                                  eulogy which illustrated many of Alan’s       colours of Leicester Tigers.
   an inspiration to family, school children,
                                                  attributes.                                       The opening prayer was said by the Rev
   staff and colleagues.
                                                                                                Lorna Brabin-Smith (Vicar of Rearsby), the
     He was born in Newcastle on 14th                All three children were taught at
                                                                                                reading by his friend, the Anglican vicar of
   March 1925, the oldest of three children.      St Thomas More School and Alan put into
                                                                                                Syston, Mass was said by Fr Tony Furlong
   He joined the Merchant Navy when he            practice his principle of fairness by
                                                                                                - a former colleague at Ratcliffe. Psalm 23
   was 16 and travelled to most parts of          treating them as all the other children so
                                                                                                was sung to the theme tune of ‘The Vicar
   the world.                                     much so that he asked Martyn for a ‘sick
                                                                                                of Dibley’. George had a high sense of
     When he was 25 he decided to get             note’ even though he knew he had been
                                                                                                duty and honour. He did things properly;
   a job ‘ashore’ and successfully applied        off school ill!
                                                                                                he made a difference.
   for a teaching post at Welton High                Alan will be missed greatly by family,
                                                                                                    The next time you enjoy a fine curry,
   School in Hull where he remained for           friends and Catenian Brothers and our
                                                                                                particularly if it is accompanied by a good
   18 years.                                      sympathies go to his loving wife Mary,
                                                                                                pint of bitter (George was particularly partial
     He left in 1968 to become Deputy             his children, in-laws, grandchildren,
                                                                                                to Wells’s Bombardier) give a thought to
   Head at St Thomas More Junior High             great-grandchildren and the rest of his
                                                                                                George, and his family and his friends.
   School and then Head in 1980 and               family.
                                                                                                They miss him.
   retired in 1987.                                                      May he rest in peace                            May he rest in peace

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