Why is It Bad Luck to See the Bride by mcclainmy


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									Why Is It Bad Luck to See the Bride?
It’s just 24 hours until the big day, and you say goodbye to your spouse-to-be, knowing you won’t see
each other again until you’re at the altar. You set off for an evening of fun with the ladies while he’s off
with the guys, taking in one last night of single life.

It Doesn’t Make Sense
The man’s not allowed to see the bride the day before the wedding, it’s bad luck they say. It’s tradition.

                              For that matter, you’ve carefully hidden your dress from his view since you
                              first bought it (showing everyone except him). In this way, the wedding
                              becomes an extremely secret affair that seems to find joy in hiding things
                              from the groom.

                              It’s all done in the name of keeping away bad luck. But what bad luck could
                              seeing your spouse-to-be possibly have on a marriage?

                              For that matter, why is it so important to hide your dress from the one
                              person you want to see it most? Is it really a matter of bad luck, or do
                              these traditions have deeper meaning lost to the history books?

When asking about traditions in a culture, it’s always best to assume that a tradition was created for a
good reason back in the day. That reason may become lost to the sands of time, but the actions of the
tradition tend to live on.

Tradition Arranged Marriages
It just so happens that the idea to not see the bride before the big day came from a time of arranged
marriages. Two families would agree to let their sons and daughters marry in order to gain some
political, land, or other kind of increase for their
own family.

Fathers would give away their daughters. The
arrangement was made and the date was set,
but the groom-to-be was not allowed to see his
future bride until the day of the wedding.

The bride’s parents feared that if he were to do
so, he might find her unattractive and call off
the deal altogether. As an insurance policy, part
of the deal came with going completely blind
into the marriage.

The bride’s veil was even designed to keep her features hidden until the last possible second. It was all a
ploy to increase the odds that the groom would go through with the wedding.
So the bride (and her dress by default) was kept completely secret until the day of the wedding. Once
the vows were said, the groom could finally look upon his wife.

He could have backed out at any time should he have seen his bride before the day of marriage if she
proved to be unattractive. Therefore it was bad luck for the bride’s family to have it any other way.

Perhaps that’s why they say love is blind. Up until the wedding vows were complete, blind was the only
way love was sealed in marriage.

As arranged marriages have ceased in many of today’s cultures, the tradition remains, even though they
has less meaning now. Today, many couples uphold the superstition that it’s bad luck for your marriage
if you see each other a day before the wedding.

Veils are still worn and dresses are still kept secret. Even though he’s not going to reject her on the
wedding day, it’s still a fun tradition to upkeep.

Chapel of the Flowers holds weddings in Las Vegas. Las Vegas weddings especially are filled with
traditions that are fun to keep, even if their origin seems lost in the sands of time.

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