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Chapter 1 – Everything you need to deliver a
memorable eulogy

Writing and giving a eulogy is a way of saying farewell to
someone who has died that, in a sense, brings the person
to life in the minds of the audience. For some people, the
opportunity to speak during the funeral service about the
person they knew is a welcome one. But even if you’re

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used to speaking in public, finding words to say can be
difficult because of the special circumstances involved
with a funeral.

You may be coping with your own grief. You may feel a
heavy burden of responsibility to make sure you say the
right things. For those of you that do not enjoy speaking in
public this adds yet another element – fear - into an
already emotional period in your life. What do I say?
How long do I talk for? What are the right things to say
and what are the wrong things to say? What happens if I
break down? How do I appropriately honor this person?

This book may seem long, but the majority of the book
contains content and ideas that you can use in your
eulogy. If you are a speaker that feels confident in front
of a large audience or you are short on time, skip ahead to
Chapters 4 & 5.

This book is part of a S.O.S. (Special Occasion Speech)
series. Through our proven process, we will help save you
from the SOS distress signal you feel right after someone
asks you to give a eulogy. Each one of the SOS books has
a very narrow scope. This particular book was written to
help non-professional speakers deliver a thoughtful and
moving eulogy. We recognize that this type of speech is
very difficult, very unique and very meaningful. It is your
chance to think about and express the value of the life that
was lived. We also recognize that you are under severe
time constraints, so we have spent countless hours
researching appropriate content ideas and speeches that
will allow you to have more time with your loved ones.

While the focus of the book is on eulogies, we bring you
through a proven step by step process that will provide
you with a framework for preparing and delivering any
speech. We have compiled all the tools and tips to make
your speech a memorable one. This book contains:

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Some carefully selected eulogy quotes, anecdotes, poems
and other speech content ideas
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A proven system called PODIUM Notes that takes you
through every stage of developing and delivering a
memorable speech

Why do so many people dread getting up and speaking in
front of other people? How come some people are so
good at it while others stumble their way through it? How
do people craft a memorable eulogy that strikes the right
chord with the audience? How do people overcome their
fears of public speaking?

There are three things that drive peoples’ fears. First is a
fear of the unknown. For many, this eulogy will be their
first, and far too many don't know the appropriate
etiquette or protocol in delivering this particular type of
speech. The second is time. Unlike many other speeches,
you don’t have adequate time to prepare for a eulogy.
Indeed there’s very little, to no, warning. Finally, people
are concerned about what they should and shouldn’t say
and how to strike the right chord in remembrance of the
one they loved.

In this book, we will spend some time discussing what
normally occurs at a eulogy and some simple do’s and
don’t. We will also help you navigate through some of the
popular traditions.

Finally, not knowing what to say or how to say it can also
created some anxiety. We will help you craft that special
message while also providing examples of other eulogies


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via our website, www.podiumnotes.com .

Everyone who has ever played a sport has learned a
process. They have learned the rules of the game, winning
strategies and a way of playing the sport. There are
different ways to approach the game but the fundamentals
are pretty much always the same. The same is true when
it comes to public speaking. The discipline and effort that
athletes give to their sport is equal to what you should
give to public speaking. Like bringing you through the
five stages of a golf or tennis swing, there are five distinct
stages of going through the development and delivery of a
speech.

We have coined the term PODIUM Notes because people
use notes as a crutch – hopefully now you will just use the
PODIUM process. PODIUM Notes provides you a
template or a framework for approaching a speech. The
acronym PODIUM stands for:


P reparing: How to effectively prepare for a eulogy.
O vercome: How to overcome your fear of public
speaking
D evelop: How to develop your eulogy
I nterest: How to make the eulogy memorable for your
audience
U nrehearsed: How to deliver a eulogy without looking
like you had to rehearse it
M easure: How to take measure of both your audience
and the speech

In chapter two of the book we will talk about how you
should prepare for a presentation. As Yogi Berra once
said, “If you don't know where you are going, you will
wind up somewhere else." We will share with you how to
craft an end outcome that you can work towards. We will
also share with you some of the best research sites

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available that you can use to gather background material
for your speech. Finally we will provide you some
logistic strategies to make sure you are fully prepared for
the day you are to deliver the speech.
Research has shown that one of the worst fears that people
have is standing up in front of an audience and giving a
speech. A February 2001 Gallup poll found that 40% of
adults have a fear of public speaking. Some people are
fine giving a business speech on a topic that they know,
but are much less confident when the time comes to give a
eulogy. Wherever you happen to be in the spectrum, we
can aid you through a systematic approach to overcoming
your fear or lack of confidence in delivering a speech.

In chapter 3, you will learn that the most important thing
you can do to eliminate your fear is something you already
do well!!! Finally one of the ways to reduce your anxiety
is to do the first step well – preparation.

A eulogy is very different from a business presentation
which is quite unlike a wedding toast. Although the
PODIUM Notes process still applies, the structure and
development of the speech is much different. In Chapter
4, we will provide you with development outlines that will
help you with any type of eulogy. With the framework in
hand, you’ll be better able to you organize your thoughts
and research.

Have you ever been thoroughly engaged by a speaker?
What was it that attracted and retained your interest? I am
willing to be that it was how they brought in interesting
anecdotes, quotes, jokes or other types of speech content
that helped provide color to the topic or to a particular
individual. I am also willing to be that you may not
remember the speech very well, but you do remember the
story or poem that they used. In chapter 5 we will share
with you some great resources and tips that professionals
use to add interest to any speech. We have gone through

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the www.podiumnotes.com database and selected some
great eulogy material, saving you countless hours in
research.

In Chapter 6 we will show you how to look unrehearsed
while you deliver your eulogy. One of the major mistakes
people make when they deliver a speech is that they
become too formal or mechanized in their approach.
When they speak, they are a mere shadow of their former
self. One thing people forget is that at a funeral, almost
everyone will know you. They know your mannerisms,
they know your speaking style, and they have certain
expectations about your speech. We will provide you with
some practice techniques that will help you deliver a
memorable eulogy in your own style.

The last step in the PODIUM Notes process is called
Measure. In Chapter 7 we will talk about measuring the
content of your speech. We will show you techniques
that will show you how to be prepared to make changes to
your speech at a moment’s notice - particularly when or if
there will be multiple speakers.

In the next chapter we will:

Learn a professional writer’s technique for coming up
with ideas for the eulogy
Decide on which tone you should use
Learn how to use an online tool to help you develop and
save ideas for your speech, and
Review invaluable research links on the web


Chapter 2 – Fast track preparation techniques

Joe Paterno, who has been the head coach of The
Pennsylvania State University's college football team
since 1966, once said “The will to win is important, but

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the will to prepare is vital.” Whether you are on the
football field or at the podium, preparing for the event is
the most important thing you can do to both eliminate any
anxiety and to deliver a great eulogy.

There really is no definite rule about who can or must give
a eulogy. Often it is a family member or friend. There
does appear to be a growing trend where more than one
speaker will stand before those gathered to talk about the
dearly departed. In fact, some families are asking
members of the audience to stand up and say a few words
about their memories of the deceased. If no one feels
comfortable giving the eulogy, a member of the clergy can
step into the role.

In this case you will have to provide the clergy with
background information about your loved one so they’ll
be able to personalize the eulogy. Below is a list of
questions to help you begin to think of some of things you
may want to say about your loved one.

At this point in the process, just write down you ideas -
you’ll be able to filter them later. Use the professional
writers secret to help stimulate some ideas by asking who,
what, why, where, when and how. We have attempted to
list some questions that should help you begin to think
about the various areas where you maybe able to find
some content for your eulogy.


Who…
Who can I reference? Is there a famous person that
personifies the deceased? Is there a quote that you can
use?
Who can I quote from the family about the deceased? Ask
your friends and relatives if they have any interesting
stories about the deceased. Ask them what they remember
most about him or her.

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Who else was the deceased close to?

What…
What obstacles did this person overcome?
What successes did she or he have?
What were their talents?
If the deceased was married, what strikes you as different
about this couple or relationship? Why was this marriage
so special?
If they were a father or mother, what kind of parent were
they?
What admirable qualities did this individual possess?
What are the highlights of the loved one’s life story?
What are the little characteristics – what he or she did or
said, habits, pastimes and passions, likes and dislikes?
What did I like about this person? What did other people
like about this person?
What are the three things I admired or will remember most
about this person?

Why…
Why were you selected to give the eulogy? Can you
reflect on your special relationship in your eulogy?
Why is this loved one such a great human being?

Where…

Where did you first meet the deceased? Is there anything
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