La Leche League of Southern California/Nevada
Volume 103 ~ No 3 Area Leaders’ Letter July – Sept. 2006
IN THIS SUMMER ISSUE
1 What My Group Did for
3 Will You Help “Change” the
4 Leaders Are “Surfing” with
Their Peers in Cyberspace
5 Area Council (AC)
6 Managing an AC Position
7 The Best Part of the 2006
7 Mothering Through
8 You Couldn’t Pay Me
Enough to Do This Job! Johnny and Nancy Puckett, LLL Leader with Whittier Group, August 2005
8 Getting to Know You
9 Golden Boob Award What My Group Did for WBW 2005
9 A Lone Leader but Not By Julie Johnson, LLL of Whittier AM and PM and LLL of Montebello
10 Why I Am Still a Leader Our activities for WBW involved several events.
10 Safety Tips at Meetings
11 Midnight 1) We attended a World Breastfeeding Week (WBW) event at Kaiser
11 Pat Brewster 2006 High Permanente Hospital in West Covina. Our LLL Group staffed a
School Scholarship: table and handed out Meeting Notices and other LLL information.
Winning Essays To attract people to the table we held a drawing for several items,
15 Contact Information for including THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING and a sling.
Executive Council, Board Visitors to the table filled out their contact information for the
Members and AACLs drawing. We asked permission to add them to our mailing list.
Attachment to this issue: 2) At Series Meetings, we asked Group mothers to collect coins
2006 Area Conference Audio during July and to bring the coins to a Group Meeting or to a
Recordings Order Form for WBW event in August. We used the coin collection letter available
Leaders without online access. on the LLLI website. (The sample letter is on page 3 of this issue.)
Also see note on p. 13.
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What My Group Did for WBW 2005 (continued from p. 1)
3) Starbucks® in Montebello offered to host a How much money did you make?
WBW event for our Montebello Group and
provided free coffee and scones for all attendees. After expenses (cost of t-shirts, printing WBW
We encouraged mothers to attend and materials and postage were the largest expense),
bring the coins they collected in July. WBW activities netted $2,081.44. Since the
As an incentive, all attendees were purpose of WBW fundraising is to raise funds for
given drawing tickets and we gave LLL at ALL levels, 50% of the proceeds
away copies of WHOLE FOODS FOR ($1,040.72) went to LLL of Montebello and LLL
KIDS TO COOK, tote bags and coffee. of Whittier. The remainder was sent to our Area,
LLL of Southern California/Nevada. Then it was
4) Since the 2005 WBW theme was Family divided further between the Area, LLLI and
Foods, Loving and Healthy, we decided it would Western Division projects.
be nice to attend the local weekly family fair and
farmer's market during WBW. We contacted the Did you win any prizes?
organizers of the farmers market and received
Yes we did! Both LLL of Whittier and LLL of
permission to set up a table for free. One mother
Montebello won gift certificates to LLLI for $50
from our Group made a tri-fold display that went
each. We also won a U.S. Western Division
along with the theme. To attract mothers to our
scholarship in the amount of $150. It can be used
table, we gave away infant sized t-shirts imprinted
toward any LLL-sponsored conference.
with "I was born to be breastfed." These shirts
were ordered from the LLL in the USA website: What do you plan to do with the money?
www.lllusa.org/lllusa/wbw.html. Each mother
received a bag filled with LLLI information as well One project we implemented was to purchase
as promotions from the event sponsors. We • 24 copies of BREASTFEEDING PURE AND
provided space in the bag for $30 donations. SIMPLE in English and Spanish
Sponsors making a donation of at least $100 were • 1 copy of BREASTFEEDING YOUR PREMATURE
featured on a poster at our event table. The BABY
sponsorships paid for the expense of the t-shirts • These books were donated to a local hospital
and then some. and placed in the postpartum rooms for
mothers to read.
5) We arranged to have dinner at a restaurant • Another project we achieved was to purchase
within walking distance from the farmer's market. 20 pads of the "Breastfeeding Tips" tear-off
We encouraged Group mothers to visit our table at sheets. We will stamp the pads with our Group
the farmer's market and then eat at the restaurant contact information and distribute them to
afterwards. The restaurant donated 20% of the total local pediatricians and obstetricians.
sales back to our Group. • Finally, we plan to purchase LLLI’s DVD of
MOTHER’S MILK: A BREASTFEEDING GUIDE
and donate it to local libraries. .
LLL of Whittier/Montebello’s invitation and publicity flyer for the 2005 WBW activities is on page 3.
IMPORTANT! New Address for Mailing Membership Dues to the Area!
Please send LLL membership fees to:
Jan Hann, Assistant Area Treasurer/Deposits
21382 Pensacola Circle
Huntington Beach, CA 92646
Note this change in all your membership/financial files. Please discuss this
change with your co-Leaders and Group/Chapter Treasurer. Thank you.
Questions? Contact Jan Hann at email@example.com or (714) 962-0795.
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Coming Events of Interest
May to September 30, 2006: Plan a WBW activity–a great opportunity for LLL to become more visible in your
community and raise money for your Group. Discuss WBW ideas with your co-Leaders and Group helpers.
More ideas are in THE LEADER’S H ANDBOOK and on the WBW Web site: www.lllusa.org/lllusa/wbw.html.
GRAND PRIZE: The top participant who collects at least $3,500 and reports results to the World Breastfeeding
Week Celebrations (WBWC) Registrar, through Sharon Fairborn by 11/8/2006, will receive FREE registration
to 2007 LLLI Conference, four nights at the Chicago Hilton and transportation to the Conference. (Total prize
value not to exceed $1,500.) FIRST PRIZES—GUARANTEED PRIZES: ALL individual participants who collect
$2,000+ WILL receive a free registration to the 2007 LLLI Conference in Chicago OR a $500 educational
scholarship to attend any LLL sponsored educational event in 2007. If you have questions or need ideas for
WBW, contact Sharon Fairborn, Area WBW Coordinator at: firstname.lastname@example.org or (949) 673-2741.
July 20-23, 2007 is the LLLI Conference in Chicago.
From December 1, 2006 to January 15, 2007, the LLLI Conference will
offer an online option for Leader Early Bird registration for only $395.
Look for information from LLLI.
Flyer used by LLL of Whittier and LLL of Montebello for 2005 WBW Activities
Will You Help “Change” the World?
Thousands of breastfeeding families, their supporters and health care professionals around
the world will participate in World Breastfeeding Week activities this year from August 1 - 7.
World Breastfeeding week was proclaimed by the World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action in
conjunction with the World Health Organization and UNICEF. All participants will be
promoting the goal of increasing the incidence and duration of breastfeeding worldwide.
We need your help! Throughout the month of July, La Leche League of Whittier and La Leche
League of Montebello are asking you to save your change. It is a simple, inexpensive and fun way
you and your family can help us help mothers and babies share the experience of breastfeeding!
At the end of each day, just empty your purse or wallet, pockets, etc. of any change you’ve collected
that day into a container. You’ll start out the next day with only bills, so you’ll be “breaking” more bills
and collecting more change each day. At the end of the month, total up your change and donate the
money to La Leche League! All donations are tax deductible.
A fun way to get the whole family involved is to have a scavenger hunt. Look throughout the house
and car for all the hidden change you can find. Think: couch, drawers, closets, old clothes and
purses that haven’t been used in a while. This is an easy way to donate a small amount to a
worthwhile cause, without spending any “extra” money…just money that isn’t otherwise being put to
Bring your donation, either in coins or a check made out to “La Leche League,” to our World
Breastfeeding Week Celebration at the Whittier Family Fair and Farmers‘ Market, to be held on
Wednesday, August 3, from 5 pm to 7 pm. Join your friends and family, receive a free gift* from La
Leche League and participate in some fun drawings.
The La Leche League International mission is to help mothers worldwide breastfeed
through mother-to-mother support, encouragement and education, and to promote a
better understanding of breastfeeding as an important element in the healthy
development of the baby and mother.
*Gifts are limited to one per family, quantity limited so come early!
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Summertime often brings time to appreciate our families in new ways, as we go places together, visit relatives, enjoy each
other and remark on the changes since last summer. And we also can appreciate our “family” that is La Leche League,
both in our local Groups and in our visits with other Leaders at workshops and conferences or in emails or postal mails.
In summer the rhythm of our lives change, yet underneath much stays the same. Our families are fed, clothed and
enjoyed; mothers in our LLL Groups have babies, breastfeed and need support. The articles in an Area Leaders’ Letter
can reflect the sparkle of summertime and the constancy of mothering and La Leche League.
Johanna Horton, from USWD Dimensions, July 1996
Leaders are “Surfing” with Their Peers in Cyberspace—You Can Too!
By Nancy Ferland, from Northwest Notes, Fall 1996, Area Leaders’ Letter for Washington
Updated for 2006 and adapted for League Spirit by Fran Dereszynski, ALLE
Who says LLL Leaders are kitchen table not a representative of LLL until she is an
operators? Well, this may be true if your computer accredited Leader. (*See note below.)
is on your kitchen table! Today many Leaders • Artificial baby milk companies, religious groups
around the world are “surfing” the Internet and and groups of an anti-breastfeeding nature have
enjoying every minute of it. With the advent of the found their way to LACTNET (which may have
email address, the regular postal service (called a few thousand subscribers) and they may have
unidentified representatives who are “listening
“snail mail” by cybernuts) might as well be the
in” to see what breastfeeding support persons are
pony express of the old West! saying about them or their products.
Thanks to many Leaders who pioneered In our “fast-paced, hurry-up, I need it yesterday”
LLL on the Internet over the past ten (now world, the Internet has set the pace for information
20!) years, Leaders all over the world can retrieval. Yet on a slower-paced human level, it’s
chat with each other 24 hours a day. As Leaders nice to know that LLL Leaders can still provide a
expand their neighborhood across the country, it’s mother with the human touch of one-on-one
important to remember these points:
• Unlike private email, anything printed online
becomes available to anyone who reading that site. *Ed. Note: There is a Yahoo! group list for Leader
• Once you send a message, it cannot be recalled. Applicants and the LAD in our Area. Contact Karen
Lyons, CLA or an ACLA for more information.
• When a Leader identifies herself as an LLL Leader,
she becomes a representative of LLLI. LLL’s Have you joined yet? All Leaders are invited to
image is literally on the line. Therefore it is each join LLLI’s online Community Network (CN). Sign
Leader’s responsibility to choose her words on at http://community.llli.org and automatically
carefully, using caution not to use derogatory terms receive a semimonthly LLLINewsletter by email. It
or references that could be misconstrued. will summarize recent messages sent by LLLI as
• Never discuss inter-organization relationships or well as links to the full text of each message. You
name the mothers we help. Doing so puts the can choose to join other CN discussions or only
Leader and LLLI at risk for slander and libel suits. receive news from LLLI. LLLI appreciates all the
work you do and the CN is LLLI’s way to keep all
• It is never appropriate for a Leader Applicant to Leaders informed. Go for it!
identify herself as an Applicant online as she is
F T NOTE from Fran, League Spirit Editor
League Spirit is the Area Leaders’ Letter for Leaders in Southern California/Nevada, published four times a year to build
connections between Leaders and to share leadership experiences. All Leaders are invited to submit material—Series Meeting
tips, telephone helping ideas, fundraising ideas or membership tips. Every thought you share counts. Remember, it’s your
Leader’s letter—let your thoughts and ideas be shared! Don’t worry about grammar or spelling. Send articles any time via
postal or email to: Fran Dereszynski, 5502 Maryport Drive, Huntington Beach, CA 92649 or email@example.com. Thank you.
July 15 October Issue Oct. 15 Dec/Jan Issue
Jan. 15 April Issue April 15 July Issue
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Area Council Openings
Thinking of changing your Leader Status? If so, first contact your AACL to keep her informed of a status
change. You might even think about considering one of these Area jobs. Please contact the Department
Coordinator to find out about the responsibilities and the time commitment for the position.
Area Conference Department: If interested in a position, contact Sue Garcia, Area Conference
Supervisor: SGarcia199@aol.com or (714) 962-0883.
• Conference Bookstore Assistant or Co-Manager
Area Finance Department: If interested in a position, contact Ellen Shell, Area Finance Coordinator:
Ellen@shellfamily.org or call (818) 486-1961.
• Baby Fair/Expo Coordinator
• Financial Entry
• Leader Profile Resource Assistant
• Medela Grant Liaison
• Nametag Manager
• Web Site Resource Specialist
Leader Applicant Department: If interested in a position, contact Karen Lyons, Coordinator of Leader
Accreditation: firstname.lastname@example.org or (909) 240-4001.
• Associate Coordinator of Leader Accreditation (ACLA).
• Isolated Applicant Coordinator
Leader Department: Associate Area Coordinators (AACLs) are needed. If interested, contact Holly
Hollander, Area Coordinator of Leaders: Hollyholl1@aol.com or (818) 999-1899.
• AACL for No. Counties – Coastal
• AACL – at – Large
• AACL – Reserve Leaders
Professional Liaison Department: Assistant Area Professional Liaisons are needed. If interested,
contact Ann Russell, Area Professional Liaison: email@example.com or (858) 486-1961.
• AAPL—LA Beaches
• AAPL—Las Vegas
Publications Department: If interested in a position, contact Lupe Forsang, President of the Area
Board of Directors: Forsang@aol.com or call (760) 948-3228.
• Area EMail Announcements Manager
• Area Publications Coordinator
• Wet Set Gazette Editor
LLL of Southern California/Nevada League Spirit July – Sept 2006 page 5
There are several Area Council positions open in our Area. The following article is “food for thought” if you are a
Leader who is interested in something new and different. As you read it, think about yourself, a co-Leader or a Leader
whom you would like to recommend for one of the positions on page 5. Fran Dereszynski, League Spirit Editor
Managing an Area Council Position
By Sheri Hodinko, from Visions, January 2005, Area Leaders’ Letter for Virginia/West Virginia
An Area Council (AC) position, me? No way! Have meet the needs of your family and still do the AC
you ever thought about this to yourself? Maybe you job effectively. Now that you know a little more
think that because your children are young, there is about AC positions and their requirements, you
no way you can handle anything other than the basic may still be wondering, “How do I fit it all in?”
responsibilities of leadership. While you might think and “Will I really be able to do the extra work that
this, it may not be true! Did you know that AC jobs may be required?” Here are helpful hints to
are made to be mother-sized just as other LLL accommodate the work of the position. They
positions are? Joining the AC is a great way to meet worked for me and other AC members:
other people beyond the Group and donate your time
and talents in new and interesting ways. 1. Make use of available minutes, both in and out of
the house. If your children are painting happily
When my children were three-and-half and and don’t need your interaction (as mine do right
two-years old and I just found out I was now), it may be a good time to check your email.
pregnant with another child, I took on the job If you are waiting in the parking lot at your
of Associate Coordinator of Leader child’s school, you could use those ten minutes to
Accreditation (ACLA). I was interested in catch up on some LLL work.
being involved beyond the Group. I wondered 2. Keep your work accessible so that you can use
if the extra workload would be realistic for me small bits of time to accomplish tasks. This
enables you to get things done even if a few
in my situation. However, I felt the job was the
minutes are available.
right fit for my interests and me. Be sure to 3. Stay organized! Use a calendar and files to stay
keep the following suggestions in mind: on top of what and when you need to get it done.
4. Multi-task when possible. Some people are better
1. Find a job that matches your interests,
at this than others, e.g., can make a phone call
strengths, work style and family life.
while emptying the dishwasher or filing papers.
2. Inquire about the job before you accept it so
5. If you can manage to stay up later than your
you know what will be expected of you.
children, this is a great time to get concentrated,
3. Ask a lot of questions to be sure you
uninterrupted work done. As an alternative, some
understand the nature of the job and the
mothers find that waking up earlier in the
workload. Before I accepted the ACLA
morning works as well to accomplish tasks.
position, I exchanged many emails with a
representative of the Leader Accreditation Something else that has worked for me is that my
Department to be sure I completely understood
“nursing chair” is the chair at the computer. I
the job description and requirements.
didn’t necessarily plan it that way. I have nursed in
Something else that concerned me was the that chair from the beginning. Now it provides me
possibility of time commitments outside the home. the opportunity to read my email. Appropriately,
My children were not happy without me for long the majority of the time, I’m probably nursing my
periods of time or at an LLL event that lasted all son while reading an Applicant’s personal history.
day. I was anxious about my ability to attend any Last but not least, remember that you are a
“extras,” such as AC Retreats held in my Area. volunteer and that all these jobs are meant to be
Although AC members are expected to make an mother-sized. LLL is built on the strength of its
effort to attend Area events—such as the Area volunteers and recognizes that family
Conference, Leader Enrichment Workshops, and commitments come first. While most Area jobs
Area Council Meetings—members have the have a minimum term commitment, many
flexibility to consider their own circumstances and positions require intermittent work or are
family needs. While these occasions are fun and a temporary committee assignments. So the next
great way to learn and meet people, it is time you see an announcement about an open Area
understood that there are times when working at position, won’t you consider it? The Area would
your position exclusively at home allows you to love to work with you!
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The Best Part of the 2006 Area Conference…
Thoughts from Tina Pulice, AACS: Thoughts from Marla Morgan, Ridgecrest, CA
The best part of the Area Conference has As a relatively new Leader attending my first Area
always been to reconnect with friends, Conference, I was hopeful for a Conference experience that
fellow Conference staff members and would reenergize my passion for breastfeeding, to gain back
Leaders. Many times we just pick up the those feelings I first felt when I started the Leader application
connection where we left off at last year’s process. I so enjoyed seeing the many mothers and fathers
Conference. I really love seeing everyone again who want the best for their children and was even surprised to
and making new friends. It is interesting to see see a newlywed couple without children in attendance—that
the connections with the teens and young adults who also was very inspiring to me. I enjoyed the informative sessions
work during the Area Conference weekend. They might not and feel that my Conference experience has indeed allowed
say it, but their mothers tell me that they, too, look forward to me to become enthusiastic about breastfeeding again. I also
seeing each other again. They pick up where they left off from enjoyed the Leader Education Seminar and felt honored to be
last year’s Conference. It is so nice to see our kids reconnect recognized as a new Leader, as well as just being in a room
too. I consider the Area Conference to be my “LLL family with so many Leaders who share the same desire as I do—to
weekend!” simply help mothers with breastfeeding.
May 25-27, 2007 is the next Area Conference. Planning starts in the fall. For updates, log on to: www.lalecheleaguescnv.org
Mothering Through Breastfeeding
By Karen Lyons, Coordinator of Leader Accreditation, LLL of Southern California/Nevada
One of the best things about being in the Leader Although I stay home with my children, I am (was?) the
Accreditation Department (LAD) is seeing how an type of person who always needs to be doing
Applicant expresses her thoughts and experiences with "something." Breastfeeding reminded me that the
the philosophy of LLLI. When she writes about her "something" was holding and caring for my baby.
baby or child, it speaks volumes about her mothering.
When you nurse, you do so much more than just feed. It
Looking at her words can also guide the
provides comfort, closeness, calmness and touch.
A/CLA as she works with a new Applicant. Breastfeeding pulls together all the basic needs for a child.
The first of the concepts, "Mothering through I think sitting down to nurse forces you to sit and think
breastfeeding is the most natural and effective and really appreciate your baby/child, even if you can't
way of understanding and satisfying the needs of the fully understand why he cries all the time. But in
baby," is a beautiful one. It reflects the purpose of remembering earlier days, I now realize how in tune I
LLLI—that our organization values "mothering through was with my son, even when I strongly doubted my
breastfeeding." newfound mothering skills.
“LLL wants to attract prospective Leaders who I think one of the most amazing things that I had never
have or are willing to develop the knowledge, experienced before was the strong bond that formed even
experience, and skills needed to help mothers from the very earliest days of nursing. Not only was nursing
breastfeed and gain a better understanding of the way that I would satisfy my child's needs then, the
mothering though breastfeeding. intimate relationship that resulted has been a way for me to
from LLLI Policies and Standing Rules Notebook, understand and anticipate his needs and read his moods
Appendix 18, “LLLI prerequisites to Applying for even now. I remember on one occasion when he was only a
Leadership—Guidelines for Leaders” few months old, my husband saw him balanced on my hip
and remarked, "When you hold him, it's different than when
This concept is about the mother-baby relationship and anyone else holds him. It's like his body just fits right onto
its importance. I recently looked at some LAD files. The yours." Through satisfying his needs with nursing, a
following phrases are taken directly from various files beautiful relationship began.
of Applicants who are now accredited LLL Leaders.
When you have an informal conversation with a mother
Choosing to breastfeed was part of a natural in your Group, listen for comments that relate to this
progression of decisions that I made about the way first concept or any of the concepts. Remember what
we would start our family. you heard. Compare her oral thoughts with the content
of these written quotes. Listening to her thoughts will
Nursing has also deepened my general observation and
give you a clue that she may be a prospective Applicant.
understanding of her – is it magic perhaps? – and it has
enhanced my reading of her cues as she tried to As we look for mothers to invite to learn more about
communicate her needs. leadership, let's look for mothers who truly appreciate
the value of mothering through breastfeeding. That will
This mothering thing is not about rules and formulas; it is
about knowing your kids; the breast is the best and easiest help us continue the LLL we know and love for future
way to really know them and provide for them. generations.
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You Couldn’t Pay Me Enough to Do This Job!
By Michele Moore, from La Mesa, Winter/Spring 2001, Area Leaders’ Letter for Kansas,
Previously reprinted in DA Access, No. 20, Winter Spring 2002
The first time I uttered this phrase to a fellow Leader, I things do get done and it is not “in spite of” my
hoped she didn’t misunderstand me. Thankfully, she children, but rather because of them.
just shook her head, smiled and said to me, “I know
what you mean.” But it took me months of pondering The mentoring and interaction I have experienced
that statement to understand what it really meant for me. through LLL helped increase those “mothering
moments” I can be proud of. When I witness other
Those words were really meant as the highest mothers lead their children through different stages and
compliment to an organization I love. When I first use loving guidance, it helps me become ready for my
became a Leader in 1996, I was excited by almost own journey. Nursing as a nurturing way of mothering
everything about leadership. I couldn’t wait to lead my has been proven over and over through my experience
first meeting, take that first call and help mentor my with LLL. This constant reinforcement through
first Applicant. Needless to say, there have been countless examples is worth far more than any
countless meetings, calls and Applicants, but I still paycheck.
retain that excitement. It has turned from excitement
over the unknown to excitement over furthering a cause I would never take a paid position where I was “on call”
that I now embrace more fully than ever. 24/7, yet I willingly pick up the phone at any hour
knowing what it takes to call a Leader after 10 p.m. I
It now seems time is my most precious commodity, yet have been on both ends of the phone line and I am
I devote much more time now than I would have ever happy to return the support I received.
expected. Why? Well, to volunteer gives me inspiration
that one person can really make a difference. We will As I reflect on why I choose to spend my energies
never know how many women we inspire when we involved with LLL when there are so many worthwhile
answer a call or conduct a meeting and a friend tells a organizations, I am reminded time and time again that
friend and so on. If being an LLL Leader were a paid La Leche League is one of the few (if not only)
position, I know I would not get the same satisfaction organizations that will take me with my children, take
from spending my time on a project, knowing I had to only the time I am willing to give to it (even at midnight
do so at the exclusion of my children. I often take calls when everyone else is finally asleep) and that doesn’t
or solicit donations while holding and nursing a baby, mind if I work 14 hours one day and then don’t do
cooking a meal or helping my older children with a anything for two or three weeks. I now know why I
project. I know that there is no “boss” who would have stuck with this “job” longer than any other in my
understand how anything productive gets done. Yet whole life—because it isn’t a “job” at all. You couldn’t
pay me enough to do it if it were.
Getting to Know You: Send Your Contribution to League Spirit
We want to get to know you! Complete these statements below. You may opt to reply to all statements or as many
as you like. Send your responses by email or postal mail to Fran Dereszynski, ALLE, at 5502 Maryport Drive,
Huntington Beach, CA 92649 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Thank you.
Today’s date Places where I have lived
Leader’s name Favorite book
Accreditation date The most challenging part of mothering is
I became a Leader because When I get a few moments to myself, I
Group I lead with/other LLL activities I do I help my children make memories by
I started attending LLL Meetings because My favorite part of mothering is
What I like most about being a Leader is People might be surprised that I
Husband’s/partner’s name and occupation Before I had children I
How I met my husband/partner When my children are all grown
Children’s names and ages
If you are pondering or thinking about changing your Leader Status, please first speak to
your AACL—send her an email or give her a phone call. Discuss your thoughts and options
with her before you make a decision. Thank you. Holly Hollander, ACL
LLL of Southern California/Nevada League Spirit July – Sept 2006 page 8
Golden Boob Award Presented to Adele Delgado
On Friday, May 26, 2006, at the Leader Education After the Area Conference, Adele wrote:
Seminar, the Golden Boob Award was presented to
Adele Delgado. This award is given to a person who I guess there is more than one reason to give me
has gone above and beyond what is expected to help the Golden Boob Award. I was so surprised! If I
LLL in our Area and has done a job that no one else were better at thinking on my feet when I received
would eagerly step forward to do. The name of the this award, I would have mentioned that I should
recipient is a secret until the day of the presentation. share it with my son, Dustin. Although he is 29
Adele served as the Area Supply Depot Manager for and single, he stored most of the supplies at his
the past ten years. She initially volunteered to “just house (the ”house trailer” next to our house). His
help out with the billing” and soon become the china cabinet was filled with books, supplies and
Supply Depot Manager—a job that lasted an entire the files for pamphlets. I guess he was so used to
decade. Adele’s job ended when the Supply Depot being around LLL supplies that he did not
was closed last fall. Thank you, Adele, for the many consider it odd to have breastfeeding books in his
years that you helped the Area! living area.
In LLL of Southern California/Nevada, there are almost 20 Groups with a lone Leader.
A Lone Leader—But Not All Alone
By Vera Richardson, from The Circle, Summer 2001, Area Leaders’ Letter for Ohio
Reprinted in Selections, (La Leche League Eastern and Western Division Publication) October 2002
I have found, in my time as a lone Leader, both the loss of those deep friendships. I also realize that
challenges and advantages. In my case, I became a because they were there, my life will always be richer
lone Leader when co-Leaders moved away for it. You may be surprised to hear that I
or when Leader Applicants moved after I have found many advantages to being a long
had worked with them for some time. These LLL Leader:
are some of the challenges I have found:
• I have, by necessity, delegated more
• The Group gets only one Leader’s responsibilities to Group workers.
perspective. • It feels less like the Leader’s Group
• The lone Leader (unless she gets help and more like a Group that belongs to
from another Group Leader) has to the members as well.
lead every meeting, every month. • There aren’t any other Leaders to
• All the LLL Leader responsibilities disagree with you!
fall on one Leader, as there is no one • Planning meetings and other decisions
to share the load. are quicker.
• There is only one Leader to answer questions • There’s no doubt about whether a task was
and to support the mothers and babies who completed. If you did it, it’s done.
attend the meetings.
• There is only one Leader to take all the phone The biggest truth about being a lone Leader is that I
calls. am never truly alone or without support. I have many
• There doesn’t seem to be enough time to do all other Leaders to call upon: my AACL, ACL, APL
of this! and other Leaders all over the Area and the world. So
if you are a lone Leader, please remember you are
One other challenge, perhaps the hardest, is missing never truly alone!
former co-Leaders when they move away. I grieve
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Why I Am Still a Leader
By Martine Samocha from En Face, March/April 2005, Area Leaders’ Letter for Missouri
I’ve been a Leader for more than 11 who need it. Plenty of parents can chair the high school
years now. My first “baby” is 17 years trivia night or plan the middle-school camping trip. I have
old and my “baby baby” is nine. All my unique knowledge and over a decade of experience to
children are weaned, potty-trained and share with my small corner of the world. LLL still fits into
sleep through the night. (Yes, it does my life. It is a way I can give back that will not interfere
eventually happen!) In fact, all my with my daytime job or parent-teacher conferences or
children are in school full-time and have been for years. college visits. In fact, my training as a Leader makes me a
Instead of shopping for children’s car seats and preschools, better real estate agent. I have learned how to listen non-
I am shopping for children’s cars and colleges. So why judgmentally, to help clients work through contradictory
haven’t I moved on? Why am I still a Leader? First of all, feelings and accept the fact that each family knows what is
even though I am no longer a nursing mother, I am best for them. My clients love the service I give them and I
absolutely still a mother. The parenting support that LLL have learned it by being a Leader.
provides does not end when a child weans or goes off to
school. My children still require loving guidance and I Another reason I am still a Leader is because of all the
need help as my children enter new ages and stages. Teens friends I have made in LLL over the years. Most of my
are as challenging as toddlers! La Leche League provides best friends are Leaders! If I retired, those women would
me with people who understand how I want to parent and still be my friends, but we would not have the occasion to
who give me a patient, listening ear. Because my children do as many things together. LLL is the one activity I am
are older, I have a great depth of parenting experience to involved in that is not primarily for another family
call upon. As I learned from the Leaders with older member. I consider my Leader time as “me” time—time
children when mine were little, now I am the Leader who that meets my needs before my family’s.
guides the younger mothers with their little ones. I am And, of course, I still love babies! I enjoy helping moms
constantly refreshed and energized by their enthusiasm and through those early days and years and to hear a mother
I never have to lose my touch with young children, as I am say that LLL made all the difference. I feel called to be a
around them often. part of that, to make a difference.
Why am I still a Leader? I’m good at it! My years in LLL How long will I be a Leader? I honestly don’t know. There
have also educated me exquisitely as a breastfeeding are times when it makes sense to me to retire and go on to
counselor. I have met and learned from Dr. Jack Newman, another stage of my life. For now, I do know that LLL
Dr. Thomas Hale, Dr. Bill Sears, Kittie Franz, Chele leadership is still the right thing for me to do. My
Marmet, Betty Crase…the list goes on and on. It seems a daughters are already counting on a Leader-Grandma to
terrible waste to keep this knowledge from the mothers help when their own children arrive!
If you are thinking about changing your Leader Status, please first send your AACL an email or give her a phone call.
Discuss your thoughts and options with her before deciding. Thank you. Holly Hollander, ACL
Child Safety Tips at Series Meetings
From Northwest Notes, Spring 1997, Area Leaders’ Letter for Washington, updated 2006 for League Spirit by Fran Dereszynski, ALLE
You may want to discuss these points with the mother number of older children are present, it may be helpful
before she volunteers to hostess meetings. If meetings are to assign this task to one or more others.
not in a home, a Leader, co-Leader, or Greeter can check • Has an adult accompanied a child who has gone to the
on these aspects at the meeting. bathroom and assisted with hand washing afterward?
• Are doors closed so toddlers don’t leave the room? • Has an adult accompanied a child to the snack table?
• Are all strollers parked outside or do they have the • Is someone keeping an eye on the older children so
brakes on so that stroller-pushing toddlers can’t harm they talk quietly?
babies on the floor? • Have you considered ending the formal part of the
• Has the room been checked for additional unsafe meeting if the noise level is too high? Or the toddlers
objects (pens, crayons, markers, push pins, knobs on need time to be with mom?
the stove, knobs, buttons on computers, VCRs, TVs, • After the meeting, has the room been restored to its
electronic devices, etc.)? former state?
• Are the cabinets closed? We need to keep children • If there are spills or food on the floor, do a quick
away from any unsafe items. wipe-up. Did someone bring a portable hand vacuum
• Is someone keeping an eye on the older children so or sweeper to use for a quick clean up? Some Groups
that they keep both feet on the floor and walk (not have a helper who does this.
climb on furniture or run near little ones)? If a large
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Announcing! Pat Brewster 2006 High School Senior Scholarship Winners
Congratulations to graduating high school seniors, Tracy Lyons and Ava Forsang, daughters of two LLL Leaders! A $200
scholarship was presented to each student on May 28, 2006 at the Area Conference luncheon when they read their essays.
The Impact of La Leche League and Breastfeeding in My Life
By Tracy Lyons, 2006 Graduating High School Senior
Little did I realize the effect that my mother’s Growing up with LLL concepts around me has also
dedication to La Leche League would have on my contributed to decisions about parenting in my own
life. In my early high school years, I learned the family. Not only will I breastfeed longer than the
power that came to me with the threat of cultural norm, I plan to incorporate LLL philosophy
formula-fed grandchildren, and used it such as being attentive to my children’s needs, even
accordingly, but apparently that wasn’t the at night, through co-sleeping. I also plan to keep my
only impact from my exposure to La Leche baby close by enjoying the benefits of using a sling.
League. Other important methods of parenting that I plan to
incorporate in my own family include concepts of
“My mom is in this club thing…” “Well, it’s like a nutrition, discipline, the importance of the role of the
club for all these moms…” “Okay so they talk about, father, and also childbirth methods. With my mom’s
um, breastfeeding…” “My mom is a Leader in an commitment to these topics, I’ve been surrounded by
international organization for mothers to develop values that La Leche League emphasizes and
better relationships and help their babies through therefore had the opportunity to learn and appreciate
various methods of parenting, nutrition, discipline, the benefits brought by following them.
and especially breastfeeding.” That was basically the
evolution of any discussions about La Leche League Having La Leche League concepts all around me
or the role my mom had within it. Never, ever in my throughout my youth gives me a head start in
wildest dreams did I think I would find myself understanding important conclusions to help my
reflecting on LLL concepts about breastfeeding with children grow as healthy as possible. I have learned
anyone, let alone my co-workers and friends. Nor did more about the benefits of breastfeeding and have
I expect that I would get a lower grade on my Sudden had the opportunity to share these philosophies with
Infant Death Syndrome report because I focused “too those I come in contact with. I’m grateful to have La
much” on the importance of breastfeeding and co- Leche League as a part of my life, because of my
sleeping, for not equally representing the opposing mom, and I hope to learn more throughout my
side. mothering years.
By Rachel Russ, from Northern LLLights, Spring 2002, Area Leaders’ Letter for Minnesota/the Dakotas
from Selections (La Leche League Eastern and Western Division Publication), No. 8, October 2002
The house is silent,
everyone is asleep.
I smell the scent of freshly washed baby hair,
I tuck in the blanket your grandmother made
for you as you settle in to nurse.
In the dark I feel your hand search for mine—
little wrapped around big.
I remember these moments
with your sister.
I am determined this time to hold on to you,
as long as you’ll let me.
Your sighs lull me back
to a peaceful sleep.
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How La Leche League Has Influenced My Parenting
By Karen Lyons, LLL Leader from Walnut, CA, and Mother of Tracy, 2006 Graduating High School Senior
Being a parent is hard At La Leche League meetings, I enjoyed watching
work. Babies don’t come the mothers with their babies and children. They
with instruction manuals genuinely seemed to enjoy parenting! After each
and each baby is baby, I returned to La Leche League along with
different! All parents returning to breastfeeding. It became less about the
have to choose, “how” of breastfeeding and mothering, and more
consciously or not, about the “why”, and changed from getting help and
where they will look to support to giving it to others. Eventually, that evolved
learn about parenting. into a desire to be a La Leche League Leader. I am
grateful that I am able to give mothers accurate
Many people end up parenting just as their parents information and support as they pursue their goals.
did. “That’s how Mom and Dad raised me, and I
turned out ok” is their rationale. Had I followed my My family benefited a lot through my involvement in
parents’ example, I would have breastfed my La Leche League. As I returned to meetings over
children, but only until a year, because “if they’re old time, I learned more about La Leche League
enough to ask for it, they’re too old.” It would have philosophy. Before I ever read the concept
been so sad to have missed out on nursing toddlers. statements, I was familiar with them through the
examples of the Leaders and mothers at the meetings.
It is amazing how many people – many of whom I learned about “people before things” and the value
aren’t even parents – dispense parenting advice. If I of little people’s feelings. I appreciated the father’s
had followed the advice of the media, some role more, and realized that feeding my children
“girlfriend’s guide” could have given me advice, like healthy foods benefited them. I learned to discipline
that formula could have been helpful, even though I more effectively.
was breastfeeding. After all, everyone needs regular
breaks from being a parent, right? No, parenting as I’m grateful to La Leche League for all that I’ve learned
the media suggested didn’t work for me. through being involved over the years. This
organization has taught me that there are resources
A lot of parents trust their doctor, even for parenting beyond the example of my parents, the media, or my
advice. That definitely wouldn’t have worked for me. doctor. Guided by the LLLI concepts, I’ve generated a
I don’t like getting parenting advice from a doctor, unique parenting method that works for my family. Life
and my children were so healthy, we rarely saw the would not be the same without LLL, and I cannot
doctor anyhow. imagine that anything else would have worked as
So how did I parent? I picked and chose what would
work best for my family, because no one method is Articles selected for publication may be edited for
“one size fits all,” just like no two babies are the length, clarity and adherence to LLL journalistic
same. guidelines. Copyright of articles and items printed in
League Spirit is assigned to La Leche League unless
With the only certainty in our daily existence being change, and a
rate of change growing always faster in a kind of technological
leapfrog game, speed helps people think they are keeping up.
LLL of Southern California/Nevada League Spirit July – Sept 2006 page 12
The Child of a La Leche League Leader
By Ava Forsang, Graduating High School Senior
I was never surrounded with statues honoring the years’ Area Conference, I taught a hula class to a
female mammary glands. We never had slogan group of children who were in the same age group. I
breastfeeding bumper stickers on our cars or anything know that most of those children were probably
of that sort. All that was significantly different was breastfed. I spoke slowly with dramatic hand gestures
that my mom spent most of my childhood on the and repeated everything. I actually had to speed
phone helping mothers. Breastfeeding in my home things up because I noticed the children’s facial
was the normal way to feed a baby. As a daughter of expressions and they seemed bored. They wondered
a La Leche League Leader and a child who was if I was breastfed. I was truly amazed at how quickly
breastfed, I’m very comfortable with the subject of the children picked up on everything. It was
breastfeeding. refreshing because I was allowed to share
more of my knowledge with them and they
In the ninth grade I took a child development absolutely loved the challenge. I have
class. One of the assignments was to take home always heard about the benefits
a life-like robotic baby. As if a robot baby could of breastfeeding but witnessing the actual
be life-like, we couldn’t even cuddle without it difference was astonishing.
registering as child abuse. The teacher gave us a
choice to breastfeed or bottlefeed. I, of course, chose I now have a niece, Bella, who is ten months old.
breastfeeding. She gave me a pin with a blue ribbon She was the first baby I am close to—where I had the
attached to it; at the end of it was a round magnet. I privilege of witnessing the actual process of
called it my “breastfeeding metal.” Then she told me breastfeeding a newborn. It was the most beautiful
that out of thirty students I was one of two students thing I have ever witnessed. My sister, who always
who chose to breastfeed. The other student was my was a mother figure to me, seemed more like a super
best friend, Pablo—I convinced him that hero at that moment.
breastfeeding was best. In the end, I was glad to have
chosen the breastfeeding metal. When the robot baby Over all, I had a very loving childhood. I was always
cried in the middle of the night I merely put the baby cuddled and danced around the house. In fact, I’m
on my chest with the magnet on its lips and fell still cuddled and I still dance around the house. In my
asleep. I didn’t have to worry about holding the bottle family we perceive breastfeeding as a normal
wrong and having it register as “neglect”. occurrence. I was never embarrassed of my mom or
La Leche League. On the contrary, I am proud of
I’m a Polynesian dancer and teach a children’s hula them both and I’m grateful that my mom is a part of
class at a dance studio. I have to speak slowly, use La Leche League.
dramatic hand gestures and repeat everything. At last
2006 Area Conference CDs & Audiotapes Planning for the Future!
Master Duplicator’s Order Form Help us plan the 2007 Area Conference!
Log on to www.lalecheleaguescnv.org to view
the Order Form on the Conference pages and Planning starts in September. Send your topic
under “Forms” (Leaders area). It is attached to and speaker ideas to Sue Garcia, ACS, at:
this issue for Leaders without Internet access. SGarcia199@aol.com or 18207 Santa Sophia
Share the Order Form at Series Meetings. Circle, Fountain Valley, CA 92708.
Groups and Chapters may order CDs or tapes for
use at Enrichment Meetings. Those who attended Log on to www.lalecheleaguescnv.org to
the Conference or who were not able to attend complete the 2006 Conference Evaluation Form
can learn more about breastfeeding and parenting on the “Leader area” and on the Conference
from the recorded sessions. pages (for public input, too) for those who
attended the Conference in May. Thank you!
LLL of Southern California/Nevada League Spirit July – Sept 2006 page 13
La Leche League, Mothering and My Family Life
By Lupe Forsang, LLL Leader from Hesperia, CA, and Mother of Ava, 2006 Graduating High School Senior
What a wonderful Being a Leader has given me the opportunity to
memory I have of share new information and knowledge with other
how La Leche mothers.
influenced my My three children, especially my youngest child,
mothering. Twenty- Ava, were all wonderful examples of normal
eight years ago when every day breastfed children. Ava was the
I was pregnant with luckiest baby because she was my live
my first child, I went to the local library and performing breastfeeding baby or toddler at
checked out the book, THE WOMANLY ART OF meetings. Perhaps that’s why she enjoys dancing
BREASTFEEDING. I was in my sponge stage for on stage now.
knowledge about breastfeeding. Little did I know
I was also having my mothering style confirmed I’m grateful that La Leche League encouraged
because La Leche League didn’t tell me what to me to hold breastfeeding as normal human
do but instead made me think about mothering. behavior. There were no bells or whistles about it
While the outside world presented me with because breastfeeding a baby is seen in my
doubts about mothering, La Leche League family as part of the average daily life of a baby.
always had praise and positive words for me. As
My husband and I have attended many La Leche
it turned out, I had similar values and shared
League Area Conferences with our children. We
much of the same philosophy of mothering as La
know the value of family supported events. La
Leche League. It was like being at home and it
Leche League is number one in our book for
was a comfortable fit. The main influences La
understanding family needs. We felt this was a
Leche League has had for me over the years was
healthy family event and wanted our children to
to learn and acknowledge research, be selective,
see the many examples of positive parenting and
see what fits for me and my baby, then sprinkle
breastfeeding. We now have a ten=month old
it with practice, patience and plenty of love.
granddaughter, Bella, and the tradition continues
After years of attending La Leche League as her mother Monica, our eldest daughter, is
meetings our family moved to a new location also a member of La Leche League.
where there were no La Leche League meetings.
I’m happy to continue my volunteer work in La
I kept my membership with La Leche League
Leche League to help a new generation
and read their bi-monthly publication, NEW
of mothers and Leaders to find their own space
BEGINNINGS. It was not until Ava, my third baby,
in mothering. La Leche League leadership and
was born that I felt the calling to be a Leader. I
mothering are both very special experiences that
wanted a chance to continue the tradition of
I will forever treasure.
mother-to-mother support in my local town.
We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big
difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time,
add up to big differences that we often cannot oversee.
Marian Wright Edelman
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Area Department Coordinators and Members of the Area Board of Directors
NOTE: You may wish to add this page to your Leader Directory for future reference.
Area Coordinator of Leaders Area Publications Coordinator LLL of Southern California/Nevada
Holly Hollander OPEN Board Members
6652 Royer Avenue Sandy Patton, Treasurer
West Hills, CA 91307 email@example.com
Hollyholl1@aol.com (562) 431-3902
(818) 999-1899 Sharon Fairborn
Coordinator of Leader Accreditation Area Conference Supervisor
Karen Lyons Sue Garcia Chele Marmet
20602 Vejar Road 18207 Santa Sophia Circle firstname.lastname@example.org
Walnut, CA 91789 Fountain Valley, CA 92708 Gayle McLean
email@example.com SGarcia199@aol.com firstname.lastname@example.org
(909) 240-4001 (714) 962-0883 Tina Pulice
Area Professional Liaison Communication Skills Nancy Williams
Ann Russell Department Coordinator PastTom@aol.com
12621 Hedgetree Court Lupe Forsang
Poway, CA 92064 16019 Cactus Street The Mission of La Leche
email@example.com Hesperia, CA 92345 League is to help mothers
(858) 486-1961 Forsang@aol.com worldwide to breastfeed
(760) 948-3228 through mother-to-mother
Area Finance Coordinator support, education,
Ellen Shell Printed: July 10, 2006 and sent via information, and
3441 Clairton Place postal mail to Leaders who opt to encouragement and to promote a better
Encino, CA 91436 receive a printed copy and who do not understanding of breastfeeding as an
firstname.lastname@example.org have reliable Internet access. For important element in the healthy
(818) 995-7442 Leaders who have Internet capability, it development of the baby and mother.
is posted on the Area Web site:
Contact your Associate Area Coordinator of Leaders (AACL) with Directory Changes, Questions or Concerns
and to send your MGAR. Groups and maps for each District are listed on pp. 22-23 of the Area Directory.
AACL—L.A. Beaches AACL—No. Counties Coastal AACL—San Bernardino/Riverside
Linda Goodman, AACL-At-Large Jenn Lebowitz, AACL Kara Brown, AACL
15221 Cedarsprings Drive 29421 Promontory Place 1782 Pintura Circle E
Whittier, CA 90603 Agoura Hills, CA 91301 Palm Springs, CA 92264
562-696-6077 818-597-2674 951-922-9049
E: APmom44@juno.com E: JCL523@aol.com E: Karabrown43@aol.com
AACL—L.A. North AACL—No. Counties Inland AACL—San Diego/Imperial Counties
Nadja Flanagan, AACL Margo Trueman, AACL Toni Guthrie, AACL
634 Prospect Avenue, #C 558 Yellowbird Street 15980 Turtleback Rd.
South Pasadena, CA 91030 Ridgecrest, CA 93555 San Diego, CA 92127
626-403-9791 760-377-5789 858-385-7977
E: email@example.com E: firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com
AACL—So. Nevada AACL—Orange County
Angela Leavitt, AACL Marie Bevins, AACL
P.O. Box 1675 9048 Ravenhurst Street
Logandale, NV 89021 Las Vegas, NV 89123
angela@LLLSouthernNevada.com E: firstname.lastname@example.org Next deadline: July 15, 2006.
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