WORRY by keara


									The Official Newsletter of the Ocean Shores Lions Club P.O. Box 938 Ocean Shores, WA 985691

Ernie Nelson, President 289-2314 JoAnn Balmer, Editor 289-4159 ____________________________________________________________

Secretary’s Corner by Tom Milligan
Boy time sure goes fast, this year (2009) is already 1/12 gone and we are in the final part of the Lions year. The election committee has been appointed and are getting ready to meet to appoint Candidates for officers for next year (2009-2010). The election has to be held prior to April 15, 2009. The first reading of officers nominated shall be February 26, 2009. Members will be notified at least 14 days prior to the reading. We have busy 2 months ahead of us with a fund raiser on the 14-15 of February and one on March 7-8. Then the Spring Conference on March 13-14. This year we can have two voting delegates and two alternates. One each for each 10 members or major fraction there of. We have 24 members. I hope all members will attend the Habitat for Humanity Fund Raiser Program on the 24th of February to be held at Ocean Shores Convention Center. Cost is $20.00 per person. It will be a fun time. The first home in Ocean Shores for Habitat for Humanity is coming along just fine. Take care and have fun. Tom

March 5 Board Meeting 9:00am Pirate’s Cove No host breakfast March 7-8 Beachcombers Fun Fair Convention Center Fundraiser March 12 Membership Meeting 12:00 Lions Building March 13-14 District G. Conference Long Beach March 17 St. Patrick’s Day March 18 Charter Dinner Hoquiam Lions, Elks Club Aberdeen 5:00 social March 26 Membership Meeting 12:00 Lions Building

The Center has been quietly doing their work through all the flu bugs that have been plaguing us. The latest that we are exploring is to put an Alzheimer’s Support Group in place. This was a suggestion made by a lady who has a need to be part of support network to deal more effectively with her Early Alzheimer spouse. Is there any of you who be interested in being a facilitator for a group of this kind? If so, talk to JoAnn, Peggy or Alice. If you would like more information on such a group or know someone in our community that needs something of this kind SIGN UP IN THE CENTER. If you are an RSVP volunteer, if you did not receive a form in the mail then please it pick up at the center. If you are not a member of RSVP this is an opportunity to pick up an “Enrollment Form” to fill out. This has to be done every so often. Peggy Berry and JoAnn Balmer have been attending the Senior Provider Meetings once a month in Aberdeen. This networking provides us with information on what is available in Grays Harbor and Pacific Counties to better serve our senior population. Hopefully, we will be hear from O3A concerning a “Living with Chronic Conditions Support Group” in the near future. They have to have enough people to make it feasible and they have to allocate the funds to put the class in place. If you are interested in attending such a

group sign up in the center and we will let you know when it is available. Aging in Place
In 2007, the Washington State Long-Term Care Financing & chronic Management Task force made recommendations for expanding opportunities that best ensure families have the information and tools necessary to care for their loved ones. A proposal is before the Legislature in the form of HB 1330. This bill completes the work of the Long-Term Care Task Force by calling for:  Expanded Family Caregiver Support --target support services and respite care help to sustain family caregivers.  Navigation and Planning --- expands Aging and Disability Resource Centers (ADRCs) which help consumers navigate available services.  Improved Chronic Care Management --promotes communication among providers regarding patients with multiple chronic conditions improves health outcomes and saves money. Keep your eye on this bill for its passage would improve people’s lives, help families keep their loved ones at home, and curb the rate of growth in Medicaid expenditures for expensive nursing home care.

A nation, as a society, forms a moral person, and every member of it is personally responsible for his society


Habitat wishes to thank the Lions for assisting in the fundraising efforts for the second Habitat house. We are providing emergency bags for the raffle at the event and Lions bought a table.

Is there a magic cut off period when Offspring become accountable for their own Actions? Is there a wonderful moment when Parents can become detached spectators in The lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing? When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few Stitches in my daughter's head. I asked, 'When do You stop worrying?' The nurse said, 'When they get out of the accident stage'. My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, And was headed for a career making License plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher Said, 'Don't worry, they all go through This stage and then you can sit back, relax Enjoy them.' My dad just smiled Faintly and said nothing. When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime, Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come Home, the front door to open. A friend said, 'They're trying to find themselves. Don't worry. In a few years, you can stop worrying. They'll be Adults''s. My dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. By the time I was 50 , I was sick & tired of being Vulnerable. I was still worrying over my Children, but there was a new wrinkle. There Was nothing I could do about it. My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. I Continued to anguish over their failures, be Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in Their disappointments. My friends said that when my kids got married I Could stop worrying and lead my own Life... I wanted to believe that, but I was Haunted by my dad's warm smile and his Occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right? Call me the minute you get home. Are You depressed about something'? Can it be that parents are sentenced to a Lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of Human frailties and the fears of the Unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue That elevates us to the highest form of life? One of my children became quite irritable Recently, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've been Calling for 3 days, and no one answered. I was worried'. I smiled a warm smile. The torch has been passed.

To Those of You Born 1930 - 1979 TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE 1930's, 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's!!
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes. Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-base paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads. As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat. We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And, we weren't overweight. WHY? Because we were always outside playing...that's why! We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. And, we were O.K. We would spend hours building our gocarts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever. We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, although we were


told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes. We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever. The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all. If YOU are one of them? CONGRATULATIONS! Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it ?

The quote of the month is by Jay Leno: 'With hurricanes, tornados, fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu and terrorist attacks, are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?'

Sham Site Is a Scam: There Is No “National Do Not E-mail Registry”

Have you submitted your e-mail address to a “National Do Not E-mail Registry” that promises to reduce the amount of spam (unsolicited e-mail) you receive? If so, you are the victim of a scam, according to the Federal Trade Commission, the nation’s consumer protection agency. The Web site at “unsub.us” mimics the language, look, and navigation of the Web site for the National Do Not Call Registry, a legitimate free service of the federal government. The unsub.us site is not run or authorized by the FTC.

The FTC is concerned that the “unsub.us”site could be part of a high-tech scam that uses a deceptive Web site to trick consumers into disclosing their e-mail address or other sensitive personal information. This site may be a ruse to collect valid e-mail addresses to sell to spammers. The result could be even more spam for consumers who sign up for this “registry.” Or it may be even worse – some scammers have collected information through bogus web sites like this one that mimic those of legitimate organizations, and then used the information to commit identity theft. The FTC is advising consumers not to submit their e-mail addresses or any other personal


information to any site claiming to be a “National Do Not E-mail Registry.” The agency’s Bureau of Consumer Protection says the best way to avoid scams like this one is to keep your personal information to yourself – including your e-mail address – unless you know who you’re dealing with. Should you get an e-mail claiming to represent a “Do Not E-mail Registry,” an organization to stop spam, or even the FTC itself, report it to the FTC at www.ftc.gov or 1-877-FTC-HELP. If you believe you have already been scammed, file your complaint at www.ftc.gov, then click on www.ftc.gov/idtheft to learn how to minimize your risk of damage from identity theft. The FTC is studying the feasibility of creating a National Do Not Spam Registry, and will issue a report in June 2004. At this time, there

is no legitimate “National Do Not E-mail Registry.” The FTC works for the consumer to prevent fraudulent, deceptive, and unfair business practices in the marketplace and to provide information to help consumers spot, stop, and avoid them. To file a complaint, or to get free information on any of 150 consumer topics, call toll-free, 1-877-FTC-HELP (1 877-382-4357), or use the complaint form at www.ftc.gov. The FTC enters Internet, telemarketing, identity theft, and other fraud-related complaints into Consumer Sentinel, a secure, online database available to hundreds of civil and criminal law enforcement agencies in the U.S. and abroad. Media Contact: Office of Public Affairs 202-326-2180

Doing Well Through Tight Times
By Olaf Egeberg

As the economic crunch deepens, you are probably finding more members of your organization to be hurting. So I’m sending on some information that should be helpful. It’s information that isn’t normally considered when we look for solutions to our money problems.
Debt pressures, rising food, gas and other costs, more foreclosures, more job loss, more despair. What do you do if you don’t have enough money to live on? Besides seriously cutting your expenses, shopping at thrift stores and looking for discounts, it’s easy to feel helpless. So stop for a moment and open up your thinking to consider other approaches for meeting your needs, other options that require less money, or none whatsoever. Here they are is some suggestions for your consideration:

1. INNOVATE – Pause, step back and let your mind find other ways to get something you want (or a good alternative), ways that are less costly or use other values besides money. Explore possibilities. Create more choices. Reach. There are likely to be more options than you’ve thought of. So free your thinking and be willing to go through some comfort boundaries. Because innovative ways to get what you want might require you to do something you have never done before. 2. USE A NON-MONETARY EXCHANGE – When you pay for something with money it’s an exchange. In many situations other values, besides money, can also be used for an exchange. The objective is simply to have a mutually satisfying transaction. Certainly airline tickets, gas bills, bank loans and such can only be paid for by money (federal currency). But by using a non-monetary exchange where possible (when individuals are offering what you want) money is saved so it can be used where money alone is required.


So what can you offer that others might be interested in having? What goods, services, experiences, entertainment, talent, information or other offering might the other person be interested in having? Just say: “Instead of money, how about a mutually satisfying exchange? I can give you ... (list a few offerings that the other person might be interested in).” Your nonmonetary exchange can either be for full payment (no money needed) or partial payment. If the person likes the idea and wants something you can offer, then see if there can be a mutually satisfying exchange. Holding even more promise, however, than “Innovation” and the “Non-Monetary Exchange” is working with others to get what’s needed. Indeed, these financially insecure and hurting times seem to prod us to become good at working with each other for what we need. We are being prodded, I believe, to learn a security that we have not had before. And the following three actions allow that to happen. 3. CO-OPERATE – Co-operation is a good example of working with others to cut down the need for money. Whether you are co-operating for transportation, housing, food, child care, equipment, senior care or a vacation cabin, and whether you are co-operating with one other person to get what you are both interested in, or whether you are working with many people, a co-operative effort can do a lot to lower your costs. I used to live in a community that had a food co-op of non-perishable foods. Being in that co-op made it possible for me to have a basic but healthy diet for a little over $1 a day. Even though that was back in 1988 when the dollar was worth more, it was still a very good deal. 4. BE IN A “GROUP EXCHANGE” – Creating non-monetary exchanges with others in your area becomes a lot easier to do if you create a “Group Exchange.” A Group Exchange consists of individuals who are interested in non-monetary exchanges and use an “Exchange Directory” as their basis. The various goods, services or enjoyments that participants are offering are all listed in the Directory, along with contact information. If you want baby sitting, healing massage, yard work, fire wood, dance lessons, transportation, computer assistance, healthy cooked meals or whatever, then look in your Exchange Directory. If someone is offering what you want then contact that person and see if you can work out an exchange. A big advantage

to the Group Exchange program is that you don’t have to explain how a good exchange works, because everyone in the group already knows. Everyone’s a player. 5. HELP YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD ORGANIZE FOR SUPPORT – By “neighborhood” I mean a walking distance community (10 minutes, more or less, border to border). It can be several blocks of single family housing, or include buildings, or be a single apartment/condo building with maybe 500 households all under the same roof. Neighborhoods are our secret weapon against tight times. With so much of your money going to things like housing, food, child-care, entertainment, transportation, eating out, health care, travel and other needs, it’s easy to see how you (and every neighbor) can do well on less money if your neighborhood is organized to be more helpful in these areas than it’s been. Take steps, therefore, to have your neighborhood become a more helpful place. All it takes to start things going is a conversation with enough neighbors, or a gathering in your home or elsewhere where you can discuss, with a few others, what can be done to uplevel your neighborhood to be the supportive and economical community it needs to be now. It’s a gathering to clarify what you want to have together and to decide what the next steps should be. Even if, in the beginning, you can only give two hours a week towards getting your neighborhood up and running, that is two hours of neighborhood helpfulness that wasn’t there before. By your action everyone gains. Because there is a lower cost to living in a neighborhood that is organized for support than there is living outside of one. And with fuel costs going up and cars contributing seriously to global warming, working with others who are only a short walk away makes our neighborhoods all the more a KEY for our support through these tight times (and a key into our better life ahead). So there we have it—five ways to cut down your need for money. It is all evolutionary action, action for having a more helpful and enjoyable life together, action for taking more charge of our lives in these difficult times. Bravo!


Ocean Shores Lions Club P.O. Box 938 Ocean Shores, WA 98569

We have cleaned up the membership list (thanks Tom) and now is the time to grow! The following is what you can do:  Pick up your Directory --- lets keep up with the loyal members we have.  Everyone can carry a membership application in their pocket or purse.  Be thinking about the picnic event we want to have this summer for the community. No idea is too wild.  Talk up the Lions where ever you go. The membership committee is working on a newspaper piece.


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