Colonial Heights Middle School Guidance Newsletter
Get Ready, Get Set… Do your Children Act Entitled?
by Dr. Jonathan Swinton, Ph.D., LMFT
Do your children seem to be demanding things you
Online SOL tests for all students
never had at their age? Are you frustrated with your
enrolled first semester in history and kids and their lack of respect toward you and others? If
civics, and for all 8th graders enrolled in science so, you're not alone.
will be administered on January 16th and 17th. All
students taking an SOL in January will participate “There has been a shift in culture and expectations
in an online SOL simulation during their history or among young people today. “What’s in it for me?” is
science classes the week of January 7th. SOL now the constant refrain. Children are especially
tests will be administered during the regular 90- susceptible to this attitude, as they absorb it
minute instructional block. As the tests are everywhere. They watch television where parents are
untimed, students who do not complete the SOL disrespected by their kids. They see manipulative
test in 90 minutes will be able to continue working advertising convincing them to expect their parents to
on the test. provide the newest best thing.
“These and other similar influences lead kids to have
Parents can help students perform their best on
unhealthy expectations regarding the role their parents
testing days by ensuring they get a good night’s
play in their lives. Parents can enable these entitled
sleep the night previous and eat a good breakfast
expectations. Could you be doing this? Let’s see if any
that morning. This provides the brain with the of these feel familiar.
fuel it needs to work at peak efficiency.
• You allow your children to interrupt your phone
conversations because you don’t want your children to
Looking Ahead feel unimportant or stifled.
• You sacrifice everything to make sure your children
CHMS will hold its annual career are on the best competitive sports team.
day Tuesday, March 26th.
Students will have the chance to choose two • You automatically defend your child when a teacher
career presentations to attend. reports a problem, and don’t consider the possibility
that your child misbehaved or didn’t complete the
If you would be willing to make a 30- assignment.
minute presentation about your
career to a classroom-size group of • You make separate food for each child because mac
students, please contact Mrs. & cheese or crackers is “all my kids will eat.”
Lauchner for more information. We
“It is, of course, important to allow children to feel
need a minimum of 25 speakers and
heard, but they also need to learn respect for their
would love to hear from you!
parents’ space. Helping kids excel is not a bad thing,
and giving them something they want isn’t either, but
kids can come to expect that parents will provide
Lisa_Lauchner@colonialhts.net funds, transportation, and other resources for anything
and everything they want to do, rather than learning
***** that sometimes they have to work for it or learn to do
Last Chance for Yearbook Personalization
“The overall problem is that parents allow their kids to
If you would like to order any be the ones calling the shots. Parents fear that if they
personalization on your yearbook, the don’t do everything for their children, their children
last day to order is Jan 28th. Go won’t be successful in the future. They fear that their
to www.jostensyearbooks.com or call relationship with their children will be threatened if
1-866-282-1516. they enforce rules or boundaries in the home.”
Check February’s newsletter for part 2 of this article
No NJHS meeting in January and Dr. Swinton’s tips on how to change the
expectation of entitlement in your children.