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									How to French Kiss




You have seen it done often in the movies and probably on the street in darkened corners. The
French kiss is a timeless and passionate gesture of romantic affection. Whether you live in Paris,
France, or Paris, Texas, you can learn how to kiss like the French do without an embarrassing
faux pas!

STEPS:

1: Moisten your lips. Dry lips do not move well together. Just a light brush of your tongue over
your lips right before you kiss will be sufficient to moisten them. Don't lick your lips all the time,
though, as this can dry them out further. Instead, use lip balm regularly. You never know when
someone will go in for the smooch.
2: Moisten your lips. Dry lips do not move well together. Just a light brush of your tongue over
your lips right before you kiss will be sufficient to moisten them. Don't lick your lips all the time,
though, as this can dry them out further. Instead, use lip balm regularly. You never know when
someone will go in for the smooch.

3: Angle your face. If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will
not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make
sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side.




4: Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are
close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed or
seeing triplicate. However, you don't need to always close your eyes; some people enjoy keeping
their eyes open and seeing their partner when kissing.




5: Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss. The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but
do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat your partner; instead, open your lips
very slowly. If you were learning to speak French, you would probably start with the basics,
vocabulary and grammar, before trying to write poetry. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of
kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. Even after
you have added French kissing to your romantic repertoire, it is usually better to start a kiss with
closed lips.
6: Go Dutch on the decision to French. Kissing should be a shared decision. You need to have
permission to French kiss someone, but when your lips are locked with theirs you may not want
to stop and ask, "Hey, this is great, but can I put my tongue in your mouth?" Open your lips
slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and
one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against
your partner's lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss. If your
partner's tongue does not respond in like fashion or if they pull away, you will have to save the
French kiss for another time when you are both ready.




7: Explore with your tongue. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss,
slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into
their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue
with your own will be very pleasant. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can
be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues. Start lightly. Usually, if the
other person wants more, they will come and get it.
8: Go slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must
take it slowly. Do not hurry and instead, take time to explore each other's mouths.




9: Breathe. If you’re kissing for an extended period, it’s easy to forget to breathe. Believe it or
not, gasping and turning blue is not romantic. Take small breaths through your nose as you kiss.
As you and your partner grow comfortable with the kiss, you can try breathing through your
mouth a little: sharing breaths as well can be romantic (but not everybody likes it).

10: Mix it up. Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you feel
comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add
variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than
the tongue. Hold the kiss longer or shorter and explore the art of kissing.




11: Use your hands. While you should keep your hands polite, especially on a first kiss, you
don’t necessarily want them just dangling at your sides. As a general rule, start with your hands
on your partner's hips and then slowly move them around their back or up to the face and hair.
Another turn on for the first kiss is to gently caress their shoulder while you kiss. It shows you
are comfortable with him or her. Gently hold your partner's face with your hands on their cheeks
and their neck, or wrap your arms around your partner in an embrace.
12: Read your partner's body language. Everybody kisses a little differently, and each person
enjoys different things in a kiss - there is no "right" way to kiss. What separates good kissers
from bad is an ability to read a partner's body language and to be responsive to their partner. Of
course, if your partner pulls away or seems uncomfortable at any time, understand that you have
to slow it down. Good kissing requires give-and-take, so read your partner’s body language and
pay attention to clues (sighs or moans) that tell you you’re doing something he or she likes. Let
your partner kiss you back, and move with him or her as long as you’re comfortable with what
he or she is doing. Listen for clues that tell how much your partner is enjoying a particular
kissing maneuver. If you hear a sigh or moan, or they begin kissing you back with increased
intensity, realize that they are responding with fervor.




13: Develop your style. Good French kissing, like good kissing of any kind, requires practice.
You will get better as you do it more. In addition, the more practice you have with one person,
the more comfortable you will feel kissing them and developing a style that suits both of you.
 14: Talk about it. A lot of people have difficulty talking about intimacy, but open
 communication is important to all parts of a relationship. If you really like the way your partner
 kisses you, let them know. If you don't like something, also let your partner know that, but
 approach it delicately and compliment them at the same time on something they did that you
 liked. Even if the kiss goes all wrong, it can still be an intimate affair if you can both laugh about
 it together! Make sure when you kiss you are having fun doing what you are doing. And don't
 kiss just anyone; make sure it is with someone that you really like and care about.




Tips
              Freshen your breath. You never want to have bad breath when
               you are about to kiss someone, whether the kiss is a French kiss
               or not. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh
               breath is especially important. Practice good dental hygiene.
               Always have breath mints or mint-flavored gum if you think
               there is even so much as a hint of a chance you might kiss.
               Avoid foods that leave an unpleasant aftertaste or residue,
               particularly garlic, coffee, onions, milk, and corn.
              Teeth are a sensitive subject. You definitely do not want to
               bump teeth with each other. It is not only awkward, but can
               hurt. It might inevitably happen at times, so do not worry when
               it does. You may want to try rubbing the backs or fronts of the
               teeth of the other person with your tongue. This can create a
               ticklish feeling that might enhance your kiss. Not everyone
               enjoys having someone's tongue rubbing on their teeth, and
               many do not like to touch teeth with their tongue.
              Not everybody likes to be kissed the same way, so while your
               former partner might have enjoyed one method of kissing, your
               new love might not. You need to learn to read signals and adapt
               to a style that's comfortable for each of you. This works in
               reverse, too. Just because someone doesn't kiss you like you
               are used to does not mean they are a bad kisser. As long as you
               are comfortable with the kiss, try to be open-minded, as you
               just might like the new style.
              Be an active partner. If someone is French kissing you and you
               want them to do so, do not just sit there but get into the kiss.
               Reciprocate their actions, and alternate taking the lead on the
               movements of your tongues and lips. If you are uncomfortable
               with any part of the kiss, do not be afraid to pull away or gently
               close your lips. This will give your partner the hint.
              There are no rules for how long you should hold a kiss. If you
               feel uncomfortable at any time, break the kiss; otherwise, just
               enjoy it until one or both of you slowly pull apart, usually
               together. It is extremely romantic to lightly suck your partner's
               upper or bottom lip as you part. You might find yourselves
               returning to kissing, after each of you takes a breath.




Warnings
               To some people a hard tongue is a turn-off. Keep tongue and
                lips soft and supple. Think of the pressure used to lick a soft
                service ice cream cone, no probing with a stiff tongue unless the
                other enjoys it.
               You can still French kiss if one or both of you has braces, but
                you should be careful to prevent the braces from touching each
                other. Also avoid touching the braces with your tongue (you
                might accidentally cut it). Check out How to Kiss with Braces.
               Excessive saliva can build up during a French kiss, and that can
                interfere with the romantic moment. Swallow periodically
                without breaking the kiss. If you have trouble doing that, do not
                be afraid to pull away for a moment. Smiling when you pull
                away can reassure your partner that you're just taking a small
                break, not rejecting their affection.
               Be aware that French kissing may transmit infectious diseases
                such as herpes and infectious mononucleosis (also known as
                mono).

If you ever feel uncomfortable or do not want to move forward with any move your partner is
attempting, pull away and let your partner know that you want to stop. Be firm. It's okay to say
no

								
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