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Finding Healing with a Memorial Service Losing the people that we care about is a difficult part of life. We all have to experience the loss which comes when a loved one's passes on, and these times tend to try us to the extreme. The people that we love are what make up our lives and give us the direction that we need. They influence who we are, how we think, and what we do with our lives. When one of these people passes away, it tends to leave a hole in our lives that seems impossible to fill. There is real agony that comes with loss and mourning and grief. Dealing with Grief The most important thing to realize in your own situation or as it pertains to others is that grief needs to be felt in order for there to be catharsis. In order to heal, we need to feel the emotions and live with the memories in order to process the loss and to be able to start moving on from it. There is a lot that can be said here about the meaning of life and the context that people need to find in it. Suffice to say, the cycle of life and death is something that affects us all, and every person has to ascribe their own meaning to the process. A great way to feel catharsis and healing is to attend a memorial service for a departed loved one. Most funerals have these events in some form or another, allowing those who are in attendance to work toward feeling peace on the matter. Each memorial service is going to differ slightly from other ones that are attended. They reflect the personality and the religion (or lack thereof) of the deceased, and they are going to likely feature words spoken by those who were closest to them. Moving On Sharing stories and thoughts about the person who has passed on is a great way to be able to look back on the life that they lived and to learn lessons from it. You also will be able to feel the support of others throughout the event, since they will be gathered in one place for a last official remembrance. It is important to note at this point that feelings should be felt during a memorial service in order to encourage healing. Whether it is sadness or anger or disbelief or hopelessness these feelings are real and need to be paid attention to. Whatever your reaction is to the passing of a loved one, you can take heart with the support of others who are in attendance. These events have a way of bringing people together and giving some real context to life. Life is short, so it is critical to learn all that we can while we are here as well as appreciating those who have had the biggest impacts on our development. Saying goodbye and being with other loved ones is an excellent place to process a situation and to start moving on with life.
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