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					There has been a surging rate in the number of divorce cases in Tampa and
the rest of the country. The rising trend for divorce is not only an
isolated case within the circle of celebrities as we often see in the
television. Divorce has been increasingly moving closer to home.

According to a well-known family lawyer and divorce lawyer from Tampa,
this phenomenon does not only affect the parents who are the main
subjects of every divorce proceedings. It also has significant and
oftentimes adverse effects on their children.

According to recent studies quoted by the divorce lawyer and family
lawyer specializing on family law, dissolution of marriage,
modifications, paternity, custody, visitation, and child support, only
60% of adult children whose parents have divorced actually get married.
Of this percentage, an astounding 40% ends up getting a divorce, too. The
figures are very alarming compared with the 9% divorce rate of children
from non-divorced parents.

Of course, she adds, that there are also personal issues that attribute
to these statistics. But these personal problems have been seen as
constantly occurring to children with divorced parents. Such is the
implication of the social phenomenon called divorce.

So why do people seek divorce in the first place? There are many reasons
that can be cited, but our divorce lawyer from Tampa cited three most
fundamental reasons and how couples can move away from them:

1. Lack of communication

This is perhaps the biggest reason of most couple who go their separate
ways. As soon as the lines of communications fail, you are sure to place
the marriage on the rocks. A person who cannot discuss their feelings,
cannot talk about issues concerning his or herself, will have a hard time
maintaining a relationship. As the family lawyer in Tampa has said, you
cannot expect your partner to be able to read your mind and guess
whatever it is that you are thinking or feeling about.

2. Improper conflict management

There are four cornerstones when it comes to creating conflict and
managing it. these four are based on how to look at criticism,
defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.

Couples who are bound to get irreconcilable differences are those who say
these statements respectively: Who do you think you are? Why is it always
about me, what about what you did, if you did any? You have no right to
say that I am better than you! I can’t believe you are saying this!

Instead of focusing on these negative emotions, the family lawyer in
Tampa recommend to focus on these thoughts instead: criticize
constructively, take responsibility instead of being defensive and
blaming others, cultivate culture of appreciation, and teach oneself to
take 20 to 30 minutes time outs before making another round of
argumentation.
3. Loss of intimacy

Intimacy is closely linked to open communication lines and it is an
important factor for every relationship to work. Intimacy does not
necessarily refer to sexual activities. In fact, some couple who may have
an active sex life but who are intimate emotionally are more prone to
separation.

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