From Infancy to Adulthood: The Positive Parenting Handbook by jumandmae


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									From Infancy to Adulthood: The Positive
         Parenting Handbook

            New World Publishing, LLC
               Post Office Box 1534

            Fayetteville, Georgia 30214

                    Copyright 2012

                 All Rights Reserved
Rules are an essential part of the life, safety, and well being of your child. As parents, you
should start making very simple rules for your child as soon as he has the language skills to
understand them. By doing so, you are teaching your child exactly what you expect of him. As
your child grows, develops, and matures, you will find it necessary to change the rules. Family
situations may also be a cause for changes or revisions in the rules. It is always a good idea to
involve your children in the process of making rules, deciding on consequences of breaking the
rules, and establishing rewards for adhering to the rules. It is imperative that pre-teens,
teenagers, and older children are involved in making and changing any of the rules.

After the Rules have been established, they are effective only if they are enforced. When a rule
has been made and agreed upon, make sure the consequence is established. Your child needs
to know and understand what will happen if the rule is broken. It is imperative that parents and
children talk about the rules and consequences as a family and make sure that every person in
the family understands and agrees.

When a child breaks a rule, remind him of the rule and the consequence. You may want to give
him another chance (especially a younger child). However, you should keep in mind that it will
ultimately be more effective if you implement the consequence that you and your child have
agreed upon. Children as young as three years old will accept the consequences of the rule they
have agreed on during an earlier time. If the rules are reviewed at intervals (Family Meeting),
children are more apt to accept the consequences and follow through with them.

As children grow older and reach their teenage years, an agreement on a clear set of rules and
consequences will help them to become independent thinkers, to develop self-discipline, and to
build self-esteem.

Find ways to reward your child for following rules. You can develop a Rewards System by
starting a Rewards Chart or a Star Chart (star stickers on a chart). Reward Charts work well for
children 3 to 8 years old. However, they can work for older children and for children with
special needs. When your child follows the rules, you can encourage him to continue by
rewarding him. In addition, you can use the Rewards System to change unaccepta
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