Love _2 - Love Thinks No Evil by chenboying

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Relationships are…
The meaning of life. The only things that last.

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“We all stumble in many ways.”

James 3:2

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How We Respond To Hurt…
Rumination
Retribution Repression
– Thinking ourselves to death. – I don’t get mad, I get even. – I’m fine, really. Just fine. – Forgiveness is the key to happy relationships.
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Reconciliation

Colossians 3:9-14
…and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him… …put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another… Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.

Love Defined in 1 Cor. 13
Love suffers long is kind thinks no evil not rejoice in iniquity rejoices in the truth

is not jealous
does not brag

bears all things
believes all things

is not arrogant
is not rude does not seek its own is not provoked

hopes all things
endures all things
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Love Thinks No Evil
logizomai – “to reckon, impute, count”
An accountant's word which literally means “to keep a mathematical calculation.”
“does not take into account a wrong suffered” (NASB) “does not remember wrongs done against it” (ICB) “keeps no record of wrongs” (NIV)

“is not resentful” (RSV)
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Used Of God’s Pardoning Act
(logizomai)

Romans 4:6-8
6 just as David also describes the blessedness of the man to whom God imputes righteousness apart from works: 7-8 „Blessed are those whose lawless deeds are forgiven, and whose sins are covered; Blessed is the man to whom the Lord shall not impute sin.‟
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“Forgiveness is a beautiful word, until you have something to forgive.”
~ C. S. Lewis
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“The rule of an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth cannot sustain itself forever;
ultimately both parties end up blind and toothless.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi
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The most important single concept in Christianity is that of forgiveness.
cf. The Prodigal Son
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God Loves To Forgive
Micah 7:18-19
18 Who is a God like You, pardoning iniquity and passing over the transgression of the remnant of His heritage? He does not retain His anger forever, because He delights in mercy.

19 He will again have compassion on us, and will subdue our iniquities. You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea.
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God Loves To Forgive
Psalm 103:8-14
8 The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in mercy...
10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. 11 For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
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God Loves To Forgive
Psalm 103:8-14
12 As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. 13 As a father pities his children, so the Lord pities those who fear Him. 14 For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.

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Do We Love To Forgive?
Luke 17:3-4

Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, “I repent,” you shall forgive him. And the apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith.”

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Do We Love To Forgive? We must NOT first require a brother to repent before we have a heart ready to forgive.
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Two Aspects Of Forgiveness
1. The HEART – Eagerness To Forgive Matt. 18:35 - “So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.” 2. The PROCESS - Repentance Required

Luke 17:4 - “if he repents, forgive him.”

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We Are To Forgive Like God
Colossians 3:13 …forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. Christ died for us while we were yet sinners (heart), and our sins were forgiven AFTER we repented and obeyed the gospel.
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We Are To Forgive Like God
Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. God so loved the world that He gave His only Son (heart), and our sins were forgiven AFTER we repented and obeyed the gospel.
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Examples Of “Heart” Forgiveness
Luke 23:34 - Jesus
“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.”

Acts 7:60 - Stephen
“Lord, do not hold this sin against them!”

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Examples Of “Heart” Forgiveness
Mark 11:25
“Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions.”

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“Heart” Forgiveness

The ONLY way relationships can be maintained in families or churches is for us to have a heart eager to forgive.
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“Heart” Forgiveness

Instead of resolving relationship problems we tend to harbor resentments and hold grudges.
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Love Thinks No Evil
1. Love assumes the best. It does not quickly find fault, assess motives, or form negative opinions of others. (Matthew 7:1-5) Instead, love is eager to make allowances for the perceived mistakes of others and put a charitable construction on them.

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Love Thinks No Evil
1 Cor. 13:7: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things…” Love puts the best possible construction on what people say and do. Love seeks to protect and cover the failings of others, however hurtful they may be.

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Love Thinks No Evil
Prov. 10:12

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all transgressions.
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.

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Love Thinks No Evil
2. Love is quick to forgive. It does not become resentful and bitter.

Love Does Not Carry A Grudge or Hold on to Resentment.

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Remedies To Resentment
1. We must quickly resolve anger! Eph. 4:26-27 gives a serious warning about unresolved anger. Unresolved hurt and anger allows the devil a foothold from which he can attack every area of our lives!

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Remedies To Resentment
2. We must follow God’s ways of handling problems with brethren. Matthew 18:15
Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.

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Remedies To Resentment
2. We must follow God’s ways of handling problems with brethren. Matthew 5:24
Therefore if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.
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Remedies To Resentment
2. We must follow God’s ways of handling problems with brethren.
 We must not talk with others about

how someone has hurt us. That is called tale-bearing or gossip. hurt, or resolve issues scripturally.

 We must either cease to dwell on our

Matt. 18:15 and Matt. 5:24 ARE NOT OPTIONAL – they are commands.
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Remedies To Resentment
3. We must confess our own sin in allowing resentment to form. When we harbor resentment in our heart toward those who hurt us, we are just as guilty as they are in the eyes of the Lord.

Our own forgiveness depends on admitting our wrongs, 1 John 1:9.

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Remedies To Resentment
4. Past events must be given to God! We must not allow the hurts of yesterday to become a ball and chain around our neck that strangles the spiritual life out of us, and perhaps even causes others to stumble! God will give us the grace to forgive, if we will follow His ways of dealing with our hurt. 1 Pet. 5:7

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If I Am Unforgiving and Resentful…

I Am Nothing
1 Cor. 13:3

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Will You Become A Christian?
Hear the Gospel (Rom. 10:17) Believe in Jesus as the Son of God (Mark 16:16) Repent of Your Sins (Acts 17:30) Confess Jesus as Lord (Romans 10:9-10) Be Baptized for Forgiveness of Sins (Acts 2:38) Live Faithfully until You Die (Rev. 2:10)
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