Holidays For The Divorced Dad by faizkha

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									Holidays For The Divorced Dad

Holidays are difficult not only for the children but for the parents as
well. It is even more difficult for the father. In the advent of the
divorce it is usually the dad who leaves the home and getting back in
there is not only awkward but a little hard; it’s not your territory
anymore.

Divide and Conquer

Discuss with your ex wife scheduling. Include the children and ask for
their opinion on the matter, plan activities that you can all spend in a
neutral territory. Try not to overcompensate by giving your children an
over abundance of gifts. Gifts won’t make the situation easier. What’s
more it will only spoil your children.

Make it easier for the kids   by going shopping together. Help them pick
gifts for their mom and the   new step dad. Shopping is usually girls
bonding time, by doing this   your children will see that you are really
making an effort to be with   them.

Quality Time

Even the most trivial things make for fun activities. Involve the kids on
stuff like writing greeting cards, licking the envelope close and
sticking on the stamp will make them feel like you need them. Gift
wrapping also makes for a great activity.

If you live somewhere that has snow use this as an opportunity to have a
great time. Play around. Snow ball fights, toboggan, skiing, snowboarding
or building a snowman could be a nice bonding time.

Another way to spend some quality time with the children during the
holidays is by filling the house with decorations. Find the perfect
Christmas tree for the house, it is also recommended that you bring them
along and let them choose the tree themselves, decorating the Christmas
tree with the kids is a fun experience for divorced dads. This can also
help you connect with the children after going through all the mishaps
that divorce brings.

Showing them that you care

During the holidays, giving the kids gifts is a way to show kids that you
love them, but writing them Christmas cards is a way of showing them how
much you love them and letting them know that despite it did not work out
with you and their mom, you are showing them that your relationship with
them will always be the same. Writing them cards for them to read on
Christmas day is way better than giving material things. It is showing
them what you feel deep inside and letting them know that they are always
in your heart.

Day out with the kids
Holidays can be very lonely for divorced dads, which is why it is nice to
plan a day out with the kids. You can plan a road trip with them,
visiting their grandparents. Being on the road with your children is
also a nice way to bond with them once again. Ask them to plan the trip
with you can excite the kids, ask them where they want to go to spend
their day with their father.

Bring along your cameras to document the special day you have with them
for all of you to cherish. When the kids are all grown up, they can look
back on these pictures and videos of you with them, by this time they
understand that despite their parents are divorced, they still have a
father in you.

								
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