Celebrating the Journey Excerpt for PDF by Rachelm10


									Copyright © 2010 Ashley L. Hill

      All rights reserved.

     ISBN: 0615651445
  ISBN-13: 978-0615651446
I dedicate this book to my niece, Destiny, who inspired me to take a
stand for the truth and to be a better example for her

   Introduction                           1

1 The Death of the Fairytale              Pg 2

2 Identity Crisis: Who Am I?              Pg 14

3 Pebbles to Boulders: What Do You See?   Pg 28

4 Alone But Not Alone                     Pg 43

5 The Power of Education                  Pg 70

6 Who Is This Woman?                      Pg 93

7 Forward Thinking                        Pg 104

8 Resources                               Pg 108
I want to thank God for giving me the strength, wisdom, and peace to be
who He created me to be. I am nothing without Him.

I want to acknowledge the two people that brought me into this world – my
parents because they have never given up on me. Thanks, Mom and Dad! I
want to acknowledge my brothers, Antoine and TJ, for being a great source
of support. In addition, I thank my extended family for their prayers and

I want to thank my therapist, Monica Hayden, and my friends who have
continued to support me on my journey.

 I want to acknowledge the great team of people who have helped me put this
story to words. I sincerely appreciate all of you!
I never thought I would be “that” girl. “That” girl who had goals and dreams but became entangled in the fight of her
life. “That” girl has now started her journey with God of recovering what was once lost – her joy, her passion, her self-
                       esteem, and her desire to make the world a better place. “That” girl is me.

          I believe that everyone has a God-given calling on his or her life. Thus, everyone has a
responsibility to discover and fulfill the call in order to help someone else. I am on a journey to
discover who I am, so that I can fulfill God's plan for my life. I am learning that in order to reach the
world, I must first reach me and discover my identity. I have mastered the art of faking it for far too
long. It is time to step into my truth.

     I invite you along this journey with me in the discovery of truth. You may find yourself
discovering more of your truth in the process.

     Understand that this journey, not the destination, is a celebration. Yes, I have cried and
experienced the rage and anger, but this is a joyous occasion because the "toxic merry-go-round" can
stop, if you want to end it. Did you know you have that kind of power?

     Here is my disclaimer for this book. This book will challenge you to look within and deal with
the parts of you that are broken so that you can start living! Yes, hard work is involved but success
depends on your willingness to do the necessary work. I am right here with you to encourage you
and give you that push towards authenticity and purpose.

      I made one of the most difficult decisions of my life so far to stop the flow of toxicity into my
life. You don’t have to participate in this cycle year after year after year. The cycle ends the moment
you recognize that you have the power! Stand up and walk in your purpose!

To life, happiness, and truth,

       When we walk in our truth, we are aligned with our purpose and destiny. We are able to influence the
lives of others and make a true difference in the world. Yet, we can’t reach the world while broken in body,
spirit, and mind but from a place of wholeness. In wholeness, we can make things happen.

     Yet, I choose to see myself as a young woman worthy of love, respect, and the best that life has
to offer. For that reason, I don’t refer to myself as a victim of my past. I am not the same woman
who started out at the beginning of this portion of my journey. My perspective on life and entire
world has changed. Of course, I am still dealing with the aftermath of the relationship and the death
of my fairytale, but I choose to focus more on what lies before me. I will no longer allow fear to run
my life. I will share my story with boldness. I can now keep my promise to be a great example for my
niece, Destiny.

     Along this journey called life, I am celebrating my freedom to embrace the truth as I pursue
success in every area of my life. I am celebrating the milestones that I have achieved to be where I
am today in my personal and professional life. I have no interest in returning to the “old” me because
I am too busy rediscovering myself to face the life events ahead of me.


                                              Life Lessons
     Life certainly has a way of teaching us about others as well as ourselves. I had expected to figure
out finally why my former husband would say and do certain things, but I learned more about myself
in the end. Through the rediscovery process, I am learning that my journey is not all about me. I
want to help encourage someone else along the way. I want to share with you a few of the many life
lessons that I have learned so far in this journey.

     “The sun will rise and set again.” I smile when I think about this phrase that I would tell
myself through the time when I had to make difficult decisions to leave the past behind. Even now,
when I have moments when I feel down, I tell myself that life continues. The sun doesn’t stop its
functions because we have to deal with issues. Likewise, we shouldn’t stop moving forward because
of challenges on our journey. I encourage you not to allow any circumstance or people to hinder you
from moving forward with your purpose.

      “Take nothing for granted.” Even before I entered into this stormy season of my life, I had
always considered myself appreciative of the people and blessings in my life. However, now that I am
on the other side of the difficult situation, my gratitude has reached another level. First, I have a
greater appreciation for God and His hand on my life. Prior to attending college, I knew some
characteristics of God, but I didn’t know that He was a friend, heart specialist, and mind regulator,
and more until I needed His direction in getting off that toxic merry-go-round. Next, I have so much
gratitude that I am here today. Yes, I could sit around and be angry because of my situation, but I
would rather spend more time being thankful for my life and fulfilling my purpose. Thirdly, I am
thankful for the little things like peace or being able to come to my home and sit in the silence. I
don’t have to deal with anymore anxiety attacks because I don’t know what insults will be hurled at
me when I come home. I am at peace and all is well. Next, I am so grateful to have had the
opportunity to further my education. I don’t take it for granted that I was able to successfully attend
and graduate from undergraduate and graduate school. Those goals are no easy challenge, but I am
grateful that I accomplished them. Lastly, but definitely not least, I am grateful and thankful for the
people in my life. My family, therapist, and friends kept me uplifted and encouraged. They didn’t
spread the details of my situation all over town or judge me. At the times when I wanted to give up,
these people called me, sent text messages and emails, prayed for me, and gave me guidance. I am
forever grateful for each of the

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