How many psychiatrists does it take to
change a light bulb? One, but the
light bulb has really got to want to
Behavior as a component of
Personality is thought to be comprised of:
– values, those abstract qualities that give
meaning to our lives
– attitudes, perceptions derived from these
– behaviors, any actions based on one or more
Of these, behaviors are thought to be the most
The behavior modification model
desire to change
– Too intimidated to express thoughts and
– Forfeits rights and freedoms
– Acts to intimidate others and gain control.
– Includes manipulation, intimidation,
Assertiveness - Defined
Ability to be comfortably strong-willed
about thoughts, feelings, and actions.
An inner resource to deal peacefully with
Expressing personal rights and feelings.
Assertiveness behavior style
Focuses on specific issues and problems.
No belittling or attacking.
Expresses opinions, defends rights.
Open, tolerant, considerate.
Confronts and resolves issues.
learn to say no
learn to use “I” statements
use eye contact
use assertive body language
practice peaceful disagreement
avoid manipulation (intimidation, content
substitution, personal-character attacks, avoidance)
respond rather than react
Steps to initiate behavior
select an undesirable behavior
ask yourself how motivated you are to
change this behavior
think about what changes in your
perceptions and attitudes must
accompany this behavioral change
specify what new behavior you wish to