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Connect Locations Friends of the Family Cabarrus County Special thanks to the current members of our Friends of the Family Giving Society, for 952 Copperfield Blvd. Concord, NC 28025 their generous gifts or pledges of $1,000 or more. 704.786.7918 Mr. and Mrs. Stephen Chris and Cami Grasher Mr. and Mrs. Brent Milgrom Alexander, Sr. Mr. Robert W. Greene Mr. and Mrs. Joseph D. Mecklenburg County Mr. David Barnhardt Mr. and Mrs. John M. Gruca O'Connor, Jr. 601 E. 5th St., Ste. 400 Dr. Sharon M. Roncevich Ms. Gail K. Hamilton Mr. and Mrs. Mark J. Pierman Charlotte, NC 28202 704.332.9034 Vol. 6 Issue 1 Baxter and Mr. Lawrence Mrs. Emmie A. Hancock and Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey N. Pilon G. Baxter Mr. Jerry T. Hancock Mr. and Mrs. Donald E. Ms. Abbie G. Baynes and Mr. Steven R. Nason Dr. and Mrs. Willard V. Helmuth Renick Ms. Rachel R. Robinson 9601 Holly Point Dr., Suite 200 Huntersville, NC 28078 A Dark Side to Prince Charming 704.655.8745 Mr. and Mrs. David Berryhill Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy Bookout Ms. Sarah H. Jensen Mr. and Mrs. James Johnson Mr. and Mrs. Craig M. Savage Ms. Laura C. Simic “If you see something out of kilter, go with your gut – ask questions, Domestic Violence Court Services Mr. and Mrs. E. Lee Fazzi Ms. Gene Burton Anonymous Mr. and Mrs. Juan Lopez- Ms. Alicia Sowisdral Ms. Neel Stallings 720 E. 4th St., Ste. 204 do something,” says Marilyn Young, mother of a domestic violence victim. Ms. Nancy Church Ibanez Mr. and Mrs. Matt Sullivan Charlotte, NC 28202 Mr. Bernard B. Clark and Mrs. Mr. John A. Marx Mr. Jack Szczepek 704.336.4126 “Jessica was our free spirit, was the one. I was never gether,” recalled Marilyn. Margaret E. Burke Mr. Matt R. Coben Mr. and Mrs. William A. McClelland Ms. Sharon J. Thacker Ms. Krista S. Tillman The Shelter for Battered Women our oldest child of three,” began Marilyn Young, a comfortable with him as I could feel he had a dark “They seemed happy. We saw them often.” In This Issue Ms. Barbara H. Conrad Mr. and Mrs. William H. Mrs. Aana Lisa J. Whatley PO Box 220312 Mr. Charles J. Cooley McDonald Ms. Patti Wheeler Charlotte, NC 28222 small smile spreading across side, but I tried to be sup- But the dark side was 704.332.2513 Tree House Child Mrs. Parker S. Crosland Mr. and Mrs. M. Dennis Mrs. Patricia W. Wheeler her pained expression. portive and happy for her, real. Mr. Glenn E. Dahlen McGarry Mrs. Andree White-Snow and Advocacy Center Union County “She was a lot of fun to be for her sake.” “Jessica wanted every- Mr. Graham W. Denton, Jr. Mr. and Mrs. John A. McMahon Mr. James G. Snow Receives National Ms. Julie Dill Mrs. Kelly H. Mehler and Mr. 105-A E. Jefferson St. with, always into some- Christian and Jessica met thing to be good so she hid Accreditation………..3 Ms. Joyce Everett Scott Mehler Monroe, NC 28112 thing.” at a computer training class his abuse of her from us,” 704.226.1352 “Jessica dreamed for and soon discovered other explained Young. Art With Heart years of finding her Prince common interests. They Christian isolated him- Moves to Center- Charming,” she continued. dated for 18 months while self, displaying low social “She was certain Christian Jessica studied to be a den- skills. He preferred spend- Stage@NoDa………..5 tal hygienist at Central Pied- ing time on his computer. Non-Profit mont Community College. Christian then began keep- UFS Counselor’s Organization Christian, five years older, ing Jessica isolated from Documentary had already embarked on family and friends. He was Perversion of Justice U.S. Postage a career in computer controlling, using threats Debuts at the Light PAID technology. Prince and physical assaults to get Factory…………….…5 Charlotte, NC 601 E. Fifth Street, Suite 400 Charming pro- his way. He was also com- Permit No. 2719 Contributions…....….6 Charlotte, NC 28202-2914 posed and they pulsive about wanting a new were married home, nice furniture and a Jessica Rae Yo ung by a justice of new car immediately. By murder/suicide. Simms Ag e 21 t by her the peace. “ age 25, Christian was “Nothing in life or faith Jessica was sho March died husband and nth short 4, 2002 one mo hday. of her 22nd birt cribe All $200,000 in debt. can prepare you for the s des Jessica’s parent ul young her as a beautif “bright lady who was the of their seemed The couple experienced hideous damage done by a and shining star life, had well as a prolonged flu their second sawed-off shotgun fired at d lives.” She love other great trust for loved deeply people and r and sister. her brothe promising She had a of her as a future ahead st when her dental hygieni they be- winter together, preventing close range,” whispered lly cut life was tragica estic short due to e. violenc dom gan life Christian from working for Marilyn. “God gave me to- more than a month. Bills time to say goodbye. I continued piling up. He stayed with Jessica for two became severely depressed. days. She never woke up, The physical abuse in- but she would cry when we creased until Christian was talked with her. I sang to out of control. Police in- her. I kissed every part of vestigators determined that her body. The doctor, with Jessica’s story is told visually as a Silent Witness what occurred on the first tears in his eyes, said we during domestic violence presentations weekend in March was a (continued on page 4) www.unitedfamilyservices.org Donate Old Patricia Stoy Kurt E. Stubenhofer President’s Column: Phones, Sarah C. Tabb Our volunteers: priceless Sharon J. Thacker who accompany fited all nonprofits, in- Save Lives Joan Underwood Jessica M. Vance women to court and cluding United Family Dr. and Mrs. David C. help them through the Services, is companies’ United Family Services gives refur- Voellinger protective order proc- encouraging their em- bished, donated cell phones to Phyllis A. Wagner ess so they can be free ployees to volunteer women leaving The Shelter for from abuse. There are and even providing the Sandra Wallace Battered Women to help keep many volunteers at The time off from work to them safe. The rest of the phones Juanita B. Washington Ask any nonprofit Shelter for Battered do it. These companies are recycled through the Shelter Elizabeth A. Watkins agency director about Women who do every- understand that their Alliance, a national program based Aana Lisa J. Whatley the value of volunteers thing from providing commitment to the in Florida. Andree White-Snow and to their agency and you child care, to preparing community extends In the four years United Family James G. Snow will probably hear meals, to helping at the beyond contributing Services has been collecting Mr. and Mrs. Madison B. phrases such as “We Holiday Store, painting financial resources to phones, the agency has realized Wyche, IV Mah Jongg Marathon at home of Audrey Herman held December 10, 2006. The group donated couldn’t accomplish rooms and speaking in their own employees. over $20,000 in contributions funds plus two carloads of items for The Shelter. Listed l to r from rows 1 to 4. Amanda Wilson, what we do without the community about It’s good business and which we use to help our clients United Family Services victim advocate; Brenda Gayle, Phyllis Romaine, Regina Resnick, Barbara TRIBUTES Acree, Audrey Herman, Fran Kaplan, Jeannie Cabillis, Evelyn Goodman, Ann Lyman, Shari Gold- them,” or “absolutely the effects of domestic builds team spirit, but who are victims of domestic vio- Jay Leach & Melissa bery, Sharon Rubenstein, Helene Cullen, Zelma Fink, Eileen Cantor, Millie Corday, Marie Rock, integral to accomplish- violence. also builds a culture of lence and sexual assault. Mummert and Annie Ella Miller, and Roz Hussney ing our mission.” These Then there are the volunteerism in the So clear out those drawers, phrases pertain to the community groups who community. by Jeannette Manning glove compartments and closets many volunteers who “adopt” the agency and Volunteers have and dig up those cell phones you Gene Burton by Virginia L. Robert Dub Swab by Anonymous Sally Beauty Company, Inc. help United Family Ser- help raise money to tremendous value. no longer use. If you can collect Martin Cathy Chauncy Carmel Presbyterian Church Sharon Presbyterian Church vices carry out our im- supports our various They are an integral cell phones and cell phone equip- Central Steele Creek SOAR, Inc. portant programs and programs. The Art with part of what United ment at your school or business, MEMORIALS ORGANIZATIONS Presbyterian Church Town of Unionville services. Heart committee or- Family Services is call Vernette Rucker at Mrs. Terry Cutliff by A & B Transportation Charlotte Friends Meeting UNC-Charlotte United Family Ser- ganizes the annual art about. They enhance 704.367.2708 for instructions. This AZDEL, Inc. Allstate Insurance Company Cogentrix Energy, Inc. vices has all types of auction to support the the services that we is an easy, no-cost way to raise Mrs. Terry Cutliff by Alston & Bird LLP Colony Furniture Shops, Inc. volunteers. Members of domestic violence pro- provide by adding addi- funds for people who need our Lauretta Chisolm Amity Presbyterian Church The Community Center of our Board of Directors volunteer to assure grams. The Men for Change group not only tional value. They add that extra little smile help. (l - r) Jude Harding with Matchmaker Tennis poses with Charlotte DiCi Services Inc. Connect that the agency is fulfill- raises money for the or caring touch that Sara Stebbins, chairman of the Jingle Bell Ball. The event Duke Energy Corporation ing its mission and is a agency, but also edu- makes a big difference attracted 400 celebrants and raised more than $9,800 for Foundation good steward of the cates the community in the impact that we The Shelter for Battered Women. Foundation For The resources contributed that domestic violence have on someone’s life. Carolinas by the community. We is not just a women’s The federal govern- Greater Mt. Sinai Baptist Connect have Rape Crisis volun- issue. Matchmaker ment estimates the Church is published quarterly by teers in Mecklenburg, Tennis organizes the value of a volunteer’s United Family Services, HARD TARGET Martial Arts Cabarrus and Union annual Jingle Bell Ball, time at $15.95 an hour 601 E. Fifth St., Ste. 400 Helen Adams Realty counties who staff the with the proceeds of in the State of North Charlotte, NC 28202 The Junior League of North rape crisis hotline and more than $9,800 go- Carolina. At United 704.332.9034 Carolina make visits to the hos- ing to the agency this Family Services, we (l - r) Time Warner Cable employees King's College pital at all hours of the fiscal year. All these consider it priceless. Please send comments day and night to sup- activities take countless Mike Hawood, Roberta Farman and National Children's Alliance PMECF and questions to port someone who has hours to coordinate. Mark Pierman Jessica Graham, Director of Public Providence Day School Gene Burton at been sexually abused. One of the recent President and CEO Affairs, proudly present United Family Providence United email@example.com or There are volunteers trends that has bene- Services' Vernette Rucker with five 704.367.2705 cartons of used cell phones. Methodist Church 2 7 Tree House Child Advocacy Center Thank You for Your Support Earns National Accreditation support groups, medical evaluations and forensic in- terviews. The CAC is a Health Department, the 20th Prosecutorial District Attor- ney’s Office, Union County Gifts from individuals and organizations listed below were received during July, August and September of 2006. Despite our best child-friendly place for inves- Sheriff’s Office, Monroe Po- efforts to be accurate, sometimes errors are made in our listing. If your name has been inadvertently omitted or your gift re- United Family Services’ House to become opera- tigative team interviews, lice Department, Union ported incorrectly, please accept our sincere apologies and notify us by calling the fund development office at 704.367.2705. Tree House Child Advocacy tional and now accredited is case coordination, medical County Department of So- Center (CAC) in Monroe a true example of commu- examinations, advocacy and cial Services, South Pied- INDIVIDUALS has been accepted as an ac- nity collaboration in caring court education/ mont Community College, Ana M. Adkins credited member of the Na- for children throughout Un- accompaniment for children Carolinas Medical Center- Michael J. Andoloro tional Children’s Alliance, ion County,” stated Brandy victims of sexual assault and Union and United Family Autumn E. Bagley joining over 375 other Redmile, Tree House Coor- their non-offending caregiv- Services. members across the United dinator, pictured to the ers. Services are also offered Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Bezner States in meeting national right. in Spanish. Janelle C. Blackburn standards for treating chil- The Tree House staff as- Located in the United Gene Burton dren and teenage sexual sists child victims of sexual Way building in downtown Zerrick Bynum assault victims and their assault and their families, Monroe, The Tree House Gaye W. Champion non-offending family mem- making sure they receive all meets a critical need in Un- bers. The Tree House the appropriate services to ion County. The concept for Julie M. Chrisman opened in 2005 and earned give them the best chance at the Tree House originated Mr. and Mrs. Joseph L. accreditation less than nine surviving their trauma and with Union County’s Sexual Corah months later. restoring normal lives. Assault Response Team Mr. and Mrs. Robert W. “The relatively short These services include crisis (SART). SART participants Cramer time it took for the Tree intervention, counseling, include the Union County Eva Cruz Iris E. Cumberbatch More Than 80 Families Served at UFS’ 2006 Holiday Store Glenn E. Dahlen Christine and Steven T. More than 80 families participated in this Davis year’s Holiday Store held for those served Mr. and Mrs. Mark de Sharon Thacker, UFS Vice President for Programs and Services, stands with by The Shelter for Battered Women Castrique Headmaster Arch McIntosh, Jr., among 159 Baskets of Hope generated by the throughout the year. Hundreds of commu- Jacqueline D. Fanning 1,300 families of Charlotte Latin School to assist families leaving the Shelter for Battered nity volunteers contributed items, food and Women as they set up new homes in escaping domestic violence. time. Cydne E. Flax Terry Frye Below, Santa meets the Holiday Store guests Mr. and Mrs. Robert W. Mr. and Mrs. Louis E. Linda E. Matney Katherine Reader where they are. Fulton Jerome Earl McLaurin Maria A. Rivera Ramona Gatling Mr. and Mrs. Benjamin F. Mr. and Mrs. Peter F. Morgan Manley W. Roberts Frank S. Grass, Ph.D. Jimison Jennifer Mowrey Michelle A. Schonfeld Mr. and Mrs. Steve L. Mr. and Mrs. Gene Johnson Mr. and Mrs. James E. Robert Servatius Greeno Mr. and Mrs. Hall M. Nash, Jr. Kimberly A. Shafer Mr. and Mrs. Michael D. Johnston, III Erica Neavitt Mr. and Mrs. Mark J. Above: Members of Bank of America's Charlotte LEAD raised $5,500 in con- Hearn Vickie L. Kimray Nancy Nicholson Simmons tributions and two carts full of some 200 toys for the residents of the Shelter Mr. and Mrs. Stuart C. Malia S. Kline Nicole D. Paul Mr. and Mrs. Charles D. for Battered Women's Holiday Store. Pictured here are members of LEAD Hemingway, III Barbara J. Lackey William T. Perry Smith and staff from United Family Services. Row 1: (l - r) Venessa Beatty, UFS; Mr. David H. Henderson Janna Lewis Mr. and Mrs. Mark J. Leigh Ann Smith Tamia McDonald, B of A; Bronwyn Bell, B of A; Jolaine Blankenship, B of A; Allison Hines Mr. and Mrs. Robert Little Pierman Stewart and Colleen O. Mona Basset, B of A and event organizer; Karen Capalad, B of A; Tracy De- Diana Prince lux, UFS Holiday Store organizer; Jane Taylor, UFS Shelter Coordinator; Mr. Jonathan W. Hoffman Mr. and Mrs. William Z. Spencer Monika Cambric, UFS; Mark Pierman, UFS CEO; Gene Burton, UFS; Eva Tai, and Family Lunsford Mr. and Mrs. Michael H. Kayce C. Staehle B of A and event organizer; Katrina Teague, B of A; and Karen Parker Mr. Todd Horsfall Bobby M. Lutz Raus Neel Stallings Thompson, UFS Director of Domestic Violence Programs. 6 3 Prince Charming continued from page 1 UFS Counselor’s Documentary Perversion of Justice needed to tell Jessica it was two choices – stay in a de- Seek Help for time for her to let go.” pressed stupor or gain Debuts at the Light Factory on February 9 “I told her to take the strength by helping others,” Domestic Violence hand of Jesus,” she contin- said Young, who credits Each year more than 10,000 victims of domestic ued. “The life support ma- counseling for helping her Thousands of women and a United Family Ser- Hamedah has been fight- Drugs. While the film de- violence and their children seek assistance from chines were shut off and recover. “I choose to be are serving excessive fed- vices domestic violence ing for over 11 years for tails an American tragedy, it United Family Services. Chances are you know she was gone in minutes. strong because Jessica eral prison sentences in the educator at the Mecklen- release so that she can re- is ultimately hopeful and someone living in a violent situation – someone United States for their mi- burg County Jail, focuses on join her three young daugh- calls the audience to action As we went through the would want it that way. who isn’t sure where to turn for help. nor roles in drug conspira- one of these women. ters, Kasaundra, Kamyra and to believe in the possi- next days, it seemed like a When I came full circle, my If you are being hurt by your intimate partner, cies. Perversion of Justice, a Hamedah Hasan fled a and Ayesha. Filmed over bility of social change. bad dream that I would other children were able to wake up from and she move forward.” help is available. United Family Services can help documentary by Melissa physically abusive relation- the course of four years, Perversion of Justice will would be there. Marilyn Young now tells you explore your options and assist you with Mummert, an ordained Uni- ship to live with her cousin Perversion of Justice follows be shown at 7 pm and 8:30 No more can I laugh Jessica’s story to judges, safety planning, legal advocacy, shelter, emotional tarian Universalist minister who was selling crack co- Hamedah on an emotional pm in the Knight Gallery at with her or just hang out prosecutors, court advo- support, counseling and other services. We can caine. Hamedah did favors roller coaster as she navi- Spirit Square on Friday, with her. My beautiful cates, youth, school and help you and your children begin to heal from the for the cousin, including gates her many appeals. The February 9. A panel discus- daughter was dead.” church groups on behalf of emotional scars left by domestic abuse. wiring money which linked film captures the hurt that sion takes place after the Looking back, Marilyn United Family Services’ Do- her to the drug ring. Prose- her daughters experience in first showing with film- Young recognized there mestic Violence Speaker’s Are you afraid of your partner? cutors wanted information growing up the best they maker Melissa Mummert; were signs of something Bureau and for the North Does your partner: from Hamedah about her can hundreds of miles from Eric Sterling, President of wrong. Jessica wore long Carolina Coalition Against cousin in exchange for im- their incarcerated mother. the Criminal Justice Policy Keep track of your time/mileage? sleeves all the time. There Domestic Violence. munity. Hamedah refused The 30-minute documen- Foundation that works for Discourage relationships with family and friends? were holes in the walls of “I don’t know if what I and was found guilty at trial. tary weaves Hamedah’s and sentencing reform; and Fed- Criticize or humiliate you? their home. say has any effect, but I feel Mandatory federal sentenc- the girls' stories along with eral Judge Graham Mullen. Hit, slap or punch you or your children? ing guidelines gave her judge context from criminal jus- Admission is $7 at the “If you see something it does,” said Marilyn. “I Force you to have sex against your will? no choice but to sentence tice experts about the mis- door. out of kilter, go with your feel Jessica with me when I gut – ask questions, do am speaking.” her to two life sentences. guided government War on If you answered “yes” to any of these questions something,” Young now advises her audiences as a Marilyn Young is one of many or if you feel you are in danger, please get help. If volunteer speaker against volunteers who speak on be- in immediate danger, call 911. Art with Heart Moves to CenterStage@NoDa domestic violence. half of domestic violence vic- The eighth annual Art sponse to patients, training Furnishings. Susan chaired The surviving members tims through our Speakers Other places to find help include: With Heart Art Auction is to medical professionals and the first auction and has of the Young family found Bureau. Each year, approxi- Shelter for Battered Women headed to the spacious, art dating violence prevention been a guiding hand with the murder and suicide dif- mately 10,000 students and 704-332-2513 deco-inspired Center- education. every auction since. ficult to talk about. Eventu- adults benefit from United 24-hour crisis line, counseling, referrals and housing Stage@NoDa on Saturday, The featured artists are a “There is tremendous ally Marilyn suffered an Family Services’ domestic vio- February 10, 2007. sister trio from Georgia, enthusiasm for the sisters’ emotional breakdown. lence prevention education. North Mecklenburg/Lake Norman Started in 2000, Art With each with growing regional work here in Charlotte,” “I came to realize I had 704-655-8745 Heart benefits United Family and national reputations. added Gabrielle Shain- Counseling, victim assistance, referrals Services’ domestic violence Kim Schuessler, Amy Cole Bryson, owner of Shain Gal- Make your reservations programs including The and Christy Kinard- lery which represents Victim Assistance today for 704-336-4126 Shelter for Battered Davenport exhibit distinctly Schuessler and Kinard- United Family Services’ Court assistance and counseling (Monday-Friday) Women and Victim Assis- different painting styles. Davenport. “I literally can’t 2007 Art With Heart tance Court Services. These Over 200 paintings, photo- keep their paintings very art auction. Mecklenburg County Women’s Commission programs provide safety graphs and studio craft rep- long in the gallery.” All proceeds benefit UFS’ 704-336-3210 planning and shelter, coun- resenting 175 artists will be Tickets are $50 in ad- domestic violence programs. Counseling, support groups and referrals seling and support groups, up for bid. vance, $60 at the door and children’s services, sub- “This year’s donated art- can be purchased by calling For details and National Domestic Violence Hotline stance abuse services, court work is at the highest level 704.367.2708 or online at ticket purchases: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and legal advocacy, services since starting the auction,” www.unitedfamilyservices.org. 704.367.2708 Bouquet of Flowers by TTY telephone 1-800-787-3224 for incarcerated women, on- stated Susan King of English- www.unitedfamilyservices.org Kim Schuessler (24”x48”) site emergency room re- man’s Antiques and Fine 4 5
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