What is success?
• Success is staying on course to your
desired outcomes, and experiences,
creating wisdom, happiness, &
unconditional self worth along the way.
Having potential doesn’t guarantee
success, you have to work for it in
order to achieve your goals.
• Quality of our lives is determined by
the quality of the choices we make on
a daily basis. Successful people stay on
course to their destinations by wisely
choosing their beliefs and behaviors.
• People with high self esteem know that
no one is perfect. Successful people
accept what cannot be changed. They
take action to change negative habits
into positive ones.
Which category are you in?
• Inner Critic: a role that judges • Self talkyou make at the fork
us as inadequate. Blames us for whatever
goes wrong in life, and finds faults with in the road, so kick the stinkin’
anything about us. thinkin’!
• Notice inner critics, especially
• Inner Defender: the flip in bad situations. Raise your
side of the inner critic. Instead of judging
ourselves, inner defender judges others.
self esteem by: offering
positive explanation of the
• Inner Guide: The best choice! problem, question importance
The inner guide is a wise inner voice, of the problem, and offer
making the best of any situation, and evidence that your judgments
finding possible solutions for mistakes. are incorrect.
Wise Choice Process
• The wise choice process will empower you to take full responsibility for
creating your life as you want it to be despite the inevitable challenges life
• What’s My Present Situation?: Identify your problem and make it a
• How would I like my situation to be?: Goals and future outcomes.
• What are my possible choices?: Create a list of possible choices to your
• Likely outcome of each choice: list outcomes to your list of choices.
• Which choices will I commit to doing?: choose the best choices to the
list to commit yourself to
• When/How will I evaluate my plan?: Create a scheduled plan to give
yourself goals with your situation.
• (Values x Expectation =
Motivation Scale yourself 1-
10 )This concept says that
your level of motivation in
college is determined by
multiplying your value score
by your expectation score,
to see how high your
motivation score is.
• Value isn’t found only in
outcomes, it’s also found in
experiences. Practice what
you wish to be!
• Heighten motivation that accompanies personal meaningful goals. Once
you identify life roles, think of long term goals for each one.
• Dated: Motivated goals have deadlines
• Achievable: Motivating goals are challenging, but realistic.
• Personal: Motivating goals are your goals, not someone
• Positive: Motivating goals focus your energy on what you want
rather than what you don’t want, such as distracting side projects.
• Specific: Motivating goals state specific thought out plans, with
Acting on Purpose: Do
important actions before they
become urgent. Harness the
power of Quadrant II. Quadrant I Quadrant II
(important, and (important, not urgent)
QI: Not the best, and not the urgent) stress, develop rich full life, find
worst, people in this quadrant ulcers, and nervous creators!
just need to work on a
schedule to better their time. breakdowns
Q II: Best place to be, Quadrant III Quadrant IV
successful students rank in (not important, urgent) (not important, not
this quadrant. activities not urgent) time wasters.
important to our goals
Q III and Q IV: Worst place to
be, victims rank in these
quadrants, and need to work
on reaching Quadrant II
•Get contact cards from students in all
of your classes
•Seek help from instructors
•Create a project team
•Start a study group
•Manage your time wisely (with a
•Eat a healthy breakfast to keep
•AND BE ON TIME