When a loved one is dying, being prepared Consider preplanning with a funeral home. funeral mass or the urn present must be
will ease the emotional pain during this Select the funeral home carefully and made; both are acceptable in the Church.
difficult time. Preplanning all that is remember value is more than just cost; it (When the casket is present at the funeral
involved when death occurs will be a is the combination of cost, service and mass, cremation occurs afterward.)
comfort to the dying and to the family. flexibility. Funeral homes are corporate or Selection of the location for the placement
This planning should include as much as independent; consider all the options. of the cremated remains should be made.
possible on the spiritual, emotional, legal Remember, the tradition of a wake and a You may choose columbarium space at
and financial levels. funeral mass are critical steps in the either the cemetery or St. Matthew
grieving process. Columbarium. The urn may also be
As Catholics, we can benefit from the buried in a cemetery plot. For information
Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick. This Are the wishes of your loved one to have a on the parish columbarium, availability of
wonderful Sacrament can be administered casketed burial or cremation? If casketed space and associated cost, please contact
days, weeks or even months before a burial is selected, make sure family is Antoinette Usher at the church office:
loved one is called home to God our aware of the location of the cemetery deed 704-543-7677 extension 1025.
Father. Please call the church office to set (if a cemetery plot already exists). If a
up a time for a priest to visit your loved cemetery plot has not already been Is the estate in order? Financial planners
one and administer this Sacrament (704- purchased, be sure to ask the funeral and attorneys should be contacted to make
543-7677). In the event of an emergency director at the funeral home you choose sure wills, trusts and insurance is in order
occurring evenings or weekends, please what options exist for available cemeteries for the state of residence. Be sure you are
contact the church office and follow the and the associated grave site cost. Grave well informed about your gross estate and
prompts for the emergency line. sites are available for purchase to St. potentially associated estate taxes. Do you
Matthew parishioners and their families at know what you need to know about a
Preplanning the funeral liturgy is also the Garden of St. Matthew located at health care power of attorney? Do you
suggested. Selection of readings and Forest Lawn East Cemetery in have one? What about a living will? Do
songs as well as mass time can be made Weddington. you have one? Are survivors aware of
through the Bereavement Ministry office. where important legal documents are
If possible, involve your dying loved one. Should cremation be selected, understand located? In the event the immediate
It is important that the liturgy reflects the that the choice of the proper funeral home survivors would require a legal guardian,
wishes of the dying as well as the family. is absolutely critical. Not all funeral the guardian(s) should be identified to
Please call Rita Brennan at 704-543-7677 homes have crematories. Some funeral protect the legal and financial interest of
extension 1007 to schedule an homes will not have your loved ones these survivors. Also, an attorney can
appointment. cremated remains available for up to two help determine validity of documents
weeks after death has occurred. A choice drawn outside of the state of residence.
between having the casket present at the
When the passing of a loved one occurs, if My Loved One is Dying,
a funeral home has been predetermined,
contact the funeral home immediately.
The funeral director you have worked with
or director on call will start their process.
Once this call has been made and the What Should I Do?
process started, please call the church at
704-543-7677. If this call is received
during normal business hours, the
receptionist will ably assist you and
connect you with the Bereavement Office.
If the call is placed after the office has
closed, please follow the prompts for the
When death occurs and a funeral home has
not been predetermined, immediately call
the church office at 704-543-7677. Again,
if this call is received during normal
business hours, the receptionist will ably
assist you and connect you with the
Bereavement Office. If the call is placed
St. Matthew Catholic Church
after the office has closed, please follow
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the prompts for the emergency line.
Moved by the Spirit!
The best advice would be to make any
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arrangements well in advance of need. It
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is much easier to make an intelligent
decision before being forced to do so.
Know that in your time of need, the faith
community of St. Matthew is here to