Keeping in Touch Listening: Seek first to understand, then
to be understood.
from “We all want to be heard, to be understood.
College Hill Fundamental Academy There’s nothing more frustrating than trying
Glenda Bauer, Principal to get a point across to people, but they miss
March, 2003 what we are trying to say. The key to
effective communication lies with our ears,
not our mouths. For example, our words
The mission of College Hill Fundamental only account for about 7% of
Academy is to educate all students to communication. When we seek first to
meet their full potential by giving them understand, we not only gain the other
the tools they need to carve out their person’s perspective, but we gain their full
own destiny. attention to listen to use later. When people
feel understood, they are a lot more
receptive to trying to understand others. The
key to real influence is in the ears. Two
Future Dates: ears, one mouth; think about it.”
March 3 – Testing Grades 2-6
Instructional Leadership Team An excerpt from the “In The Family”
meeting, 2: 15 pm newsletter by Premier, A School Specialty
March 4 – Student Of the Month,
Grades 3-6 8:00 am Deployment Issues:
K-2- 8:45 am American School Counselor Association has
Parents welcome! pulled together some resources about how to
help kids deal with the deployment of a
March 7 – Mid-Terms go home loved one. Following is some general
information to share with your students,
March 13- Field Trip- Kdg. to Shrine parents, school personnel and community.
Circus, 8:45 am Also, these Web sites and resources may
also be helpful.
March 17 – Instructional Leadership Team
meeting, 2: 15 pm Understanding Reactions to Separation in
Children: Emotional responses vary in
March 18 – PTA Board Meeting at 7:30 pm nature and severity from child to child.
Field Trip-Kdg to Parky’s Farm Nonetheless, there are some common ways
Field Trip – Gr. 5 & 6 to in how children feel when their lives are
Convention Center-Waterfest impacted by acts of terrorism.
Fear: Fear may be the main reaction, fear
March 19 – School House Symphony, 12:15 for the safety of you and your family as well
pm as those involved. A child’s picture of
Field Trip – Kdg to Parky’s Farm deployment and war may include a bomb
dropped on their home. Their worries may
March 24-Principal’s Staff Meeting, 2:00 seem unreasonable, but to them, they are
pm quite possible. Children will hear rumors at
school and may let their imaginations run
March 26 – Field Trip – Room 9 to Library wild. They may think the worse, however
unrealistic it may be. Other fears may be
March 27 – Field Trip- Room 8 to Newport experienced as a result of media coverage
Aquarium 9:30 – 12:45 pm (radio, television, newspapers).
Loss of control: Military actions are Control the environment of your home.
something over which children have no Limit the exposure your children (up to
control. Lack of control can be third grade) have to TV or overhearing
overwhelming and confusing. Children may discussions with your spouse or friends,
grasp at any control which they can have. especially if your child exhibits signs of
high anxiety levels, such as crying,
Anger: Anger is not an unusual reaction. nightmares, asking the same questions
Unfortunately, anger is often expressed to repeatedly and general overall
those with whom children are most secure. anxiousness.
Children may be angry at people in other
countries. Children should be allowed to Allow for dialogue. Ask your children
express their feelings during this time. what they’re thinking or feeling about
the situation and why. Do more
Loss of Stability: Deployment interrupts the listening than talking.
natural order of things. It is very unsettling.
Stability is gone, and this is very When discussing the situation, stick to
threatening. the facts. Dispel rumors. Stress the
seriousness of the situation without
Tips for Parents: increasing their fears, so that children
don’t make light of it.
Keep routines as normal as possible
Reassure your children of your
Be honest commitment to their safety, as well as
the commitment of other significant
Acknowledge feelings people (teachers, relatives, friends) who
can help care for them.
Take stock of your attitude
Don’t project your fears onto your
Pursue new interests and hobbies-keep children. Children will reflect your level
busy of anxiety. Monitor and regulate your
level of anxiety and feelings.
Help children communicate with the Remember, your children will absorb
loved one who is away-letters, e-mails, what they are exposed to in their
Keep a sense of humor Be aware of your children’s non-spoken
language, such as facial expressions,
Be flexible eyes, mood, tone and overall behavior.
What they don’t say is as important as
Find someone to talk to what they do say.
Counselors and teachers are willing and
ready to help your children. Keep the
lines of communication open.
College Hill Fundamental
Academy Hit by Soccer Fever!
Many of our children competed in the Fall
SAY Soccer season leagues. Several of the
teams, because of their winning records,
advanced to the SAY Soccer City and State
150 ways to Show Kids You Care Championships. Our school champions are:
1. Stay with them when they’re afraid. Boys Kickers Team (10-11 year olds): “The
2. Invite them over for juice College Hill All Stars”: Benson Browne,
3. Suggest better behaviors when they act Moses Dobbs, Joel Evans, Dylan St. Pierre.
out. City Championship Qualifiers
4. Feed them when they’re hungry
5. Delight in their discoveries. Girls Passers Team (6-7 year olds): “The
6. Share their excitement. Red Roses”: Kenya Hogan, Sidney Davis,
7. Send them a letter or postcard. Kayla Moore, Khalia Young,
8. Follow them when they lead. City Championship Qualifiers
9. Notice when they’re absent.
10. Call them to say hello. Boys Passers Team (6-7 year olds): “The
11. Hide surprises for them to find. White Tigers”: Carson Browne, Alex
12. Give them space when they need it. Bullock, Sabir Grimes, City Championship,
13. Contribute to their collections. State Semi-finalists
14. Discuss their dreams and nightmares.
15. Laugh at their jokes. Congratulations to our players! See you on
16. Be relaxed. the field!
17. Kneel, squat, or sit so you’re at their eye Mrs. Debbie Browne
18. Answer their questions.
19. Tell them how terrific they are.
20. Create a tradition with them and keep it.
21. Learn what they have to teach. Comments/Questions?__________
22. Use your ears more than your mouth. ____________________________
23. Make yourself available. ____________________________
24. Show up at their concerts, games, and ____________________________
25. Find a common interest. ________________________
Watch for the next 25 ways in our April (parent/guardian signature)
Glenda Bauer, Principal