Docstoc

Impauer How To build Self Esteem

Document Sample
Impauer How To build Self Esteem Powered By Docstoc
					 Green With Envy?
How to Overcome Jealousy
 Green With Envy? How to Overcome Jealousy


 No one likes to feel jealous, but most of us do feel this emotion at one time or
 another. However, although jealousy is part of the human experience, it doesn’t have to
 rule our lives. Let's take a look at what causes this challenging emotion and see what
 we can do to overcome it.


 Causes of Jealousy


    1. Scarcity mindset. Have you ever felt as though someone else's success and
       happiness takes away from your own? If you believe that the world is an
       abundant place, jealousy becomes far more difficult. This negative emotion can
       sometimes be merely a symptom of a scarcity mindset.

            Consider that if someone you know is doing really well, you are also
            helped by their success. They're more enjoyable to be around. The
            positive feelings that they have will naturally be spread to everyone
            around them. This is a good thing. Would you prefer to be surrounded by
            people who are struggling and unhappy?

            Those who are doing extremely well can also serve as inspiration; they
            show us what is possible. Being surrounded by people who are excelling
            where you’re challenged may actually help to lift you to a new level of
            success.


    2. “You vs. Them” mindset. Jealousy is very much based on the ego. To feel jealous,
       you must believe that reality is a “you vs. them” situation. If someone else gets
       that fantastic new car, now you can't have it. They won, so you must have lost.
       But there are essentially an unlimited number of great cars, houses, boyfriends,
       girlfriends, and jobs.



                                         1
   3. Jealousy begets more jealousy. Those who are routinely jealous seem to
      attract a lot of situations that cause even more emotional pain.

           For example, if you lose that great promotion to someone else and are
           oozing jealousy, then you're probably not going to seem very attractive to
           some great new girlfriend. Then you're jealous about that, and so on.



Secrets of Success in Overcoming Your Jealousy


Jealousy can also serve as a guide. The things that fill you with the greatest sense of
frustrated desire are likely the things that you want the most, but currently don't
have.


If you're incredibly jealous of someone's romantic relationship, your emotions are
simply a wake-up call. They’re really telling you that a great relationship would be a
meaningful addition to your life, so it would be good to focus on bringing a fulfilling
relationship into your life.


Now that you’re paying attention to what your jealousy is really telling you, you have
a good idea of where you should be focusing your energy.


When you use your jealousy in this fashion, you're accomplishing several things:


   1. Depersonalizing the issue. When you view your jealousy as simply feedback
      from your brain, you're far less likely to go to an unproductive place in your
      mind. This emotion isn’t about your inability to have something you want.
      Instead, it’s just letting you know what you want.



   2. Allowing jealousy to serve as guidance. Now you’re using your negative
      feelings to propel yourself forward in a positive direction.



   3. Improving your life. As you focus on obtaining what you desire, you're bound to
      improve your life. Once you take care of a couple of the bigger items, there


                                          2
                                        won't be much left to be jealous about anyway.


                                   Recognize that jealousy is largely the result of a scarcity mindset. If you truly believe
                                   that there’s plenty to go around, you aren't capable of being jealous. Work on that
                                   and you'll see that someone else’s success doesn’t limit your own.


                                   As you can see, jealousy can be used as tool to serve you and improve your life. Ask
                                   yourself why something makes you so envious and then seek to resolve it. Be savvy
                                   about your emotions, and jealousy can actually work for you instead of against you.




                                                                              3



Powered by TCPDF (www.tcpdf.org)

				
DOCUMENT INFO
Shared By:
Categories:
Stats:
views:2
posted:9/27/2012
language:simple
pages:3