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									SKIP Newsletter
October 2009, Number 12
Positive parenting mosaic launched
A huge beautifully crafted mosaic in a Wellington shopping centre is being used to
encourage parents to use positive parenting.

The mosaic was made as part of a positive parenting SKIP local initiative project run
by Johnsonville-based organisation, Childspace Early Childhood Institute and
supported by Save the Children.

“We wanted to use a creative approach to provide positive parenting information,”
says Childspace Director, Toni Christie.
One parent said, “I liked hearing how other families deal with things. It made me feel
better that my partner and I weren’t the only ones going through it.”

“Creating a mosaic gave us an opportunity to talk in a relaxed way while also building
our self-esteem and having a bit of fun. And, now we have a visual reminder that all
the community can share.”

“We shared with parents the six principles that children need to become happy,
capable adults. They are love and warmth, limits and boundaries, consistency and
consequences, talking and listening, guidance and understanding and a structured
secure childhood,” Toni says.

These positive parenting messages feature in the 2.5 metre square mosaic and was
developed over an eight week period by 24 parents from Johnsonville and
surrounding Wellington North suburbs.


Whakawhanaungatanga — An
opportunity to support
SKIP parent educator Debbie Rewiri knows from her own experiences as a young
mother how important it is for parents to get support. She credits a caring neighbour
and Playcentre for changing her life.

“As a runaway from the age of 12 years, I was determined to leave school and home
as soon as I turned 15 years old. The school recognised I could succeed and tried to
find ways to support me, but after a three month period the school principal
begrudgingly signed my leaving certificate,” says Debbie.

“I went straight to a hostel in Auckland, got work, met my partner and got pregnant.
When I found out I was pregnant we moved to Rotorua to live in my parents’ house
as all my family were living north of Auckland.

“Suddenly, I was sixteen, at home with a baby, and isolated from everyone I knew. I
attended antenatal classes but the other women were at least 10 years older than me
and the neighbours were my parents’ age group and so kept their distance.
When Debbie looks back she realises she was suffering from post-natal depression:
“My partner was supportive, but we lacked the ability and insight to do anything, and
anyway, everyone thought I was a ‘great mother’ because the house was spotless
and so was my baby!”

It was when Debbie was eighteen and living in Turangi that her neighbour took her
under her wing and changed her life.

“She heard me losing it one day as I was yelling and screaming at the kids. She
came over and talked to me – named what she heard and suggested the next time
I felt stressed, to send them over to her,” says Debbie.

“She wasn’t judgemental and I trusted her. So I did send my son over and this was
the start of a pattern where he would see I was getting stressed and escape by
taking himself off to her house – while I had time out.

“The other thing she did was take me by the hand to Playcentre. I was suddenly part
of a lovely group of parents, all experiencing the same thing I was.

“This was the beginning of a journey that would lead me into a variety of volunteer
and paid work, learning about how children grow and develop and the importance of
a child’s first three years, human relationships and how humaneness is a process
that is learned.

“I believe children deserve the best we can give them. I am passionate about my
work because I know we can all be part of creating a better future for our children.”

Debbie has a wealth of experience in facilitation, training, mediation and mentoring.
She has been a facilitator in the Alternatives to Violence prison programme and a
parent educator in the Parents as First Teachers programme in Turangi. In 2000 she
became a specialist Ahuru Mowai and Born to Learn trainer for Family Start and
Parents as First Teachers programmes, a role she continues to perform, as one
of the leading trainers. She also provides training and provider support in the
Atawhaingia te Pa Harakeke programme and is a Brainwave trust facilitator and
SKIP trainer.

Debbie has appeared on TVNZ’s Good Morning show talking about positive
parenting, teen parenting, storytelling, stress, brain development, managing
behaviour, supermarket survival and how to survive Christmas and school holidays.
She is scheduled to appear in more parenting segments later this year.

The relationships she formed 30 years ago continue today with the neighbour and
the Playcentre parents.


Te Aroha Noa sows seeds of
change in Palmerston North
families
Many families in the Highbury suburb of Palmerston North credit a local
organisation with helping them to build a safer neighbourhood and stronger local
families.
Director of Te Aroha Noa, Bruce Maden, says “We take a considered approach to
working with families and the community. Everything we do, from building a park to
providing parenting education is based on developing respectful relationships, trust
and communication. The process is constantly analysed to make sure it is meeting
the needs of the family.”

In fact, the way Te Aroha Noa Community Services works with families is at the
cutting edge of innovation in wha-nau and family practice. The theory and the
process they use has now been documented in a research report by Te Aroha Noa
staff in collaboration with researchers from the Social Work and Social Policy
Programme at Massey University.

The report The Spinafex Effect: Developing a theory of change for communities was
funded by the Families Commission’s Innovative Practice Fund.

Te Aroha Noa provides a blend of services that include early childhood education,
child development, counselling, communitybased social work, an after-school activity
service, adult learning and a second-hand clothing shop.

The range of services Te Aroha Noa offers also includes activities like
an annual camp at Foxton beach, monthly Family Fun Nights, Hāngi Nights, Family
Resource Days to show parents what’s available to support them, and a School Expo
to help parents with transitioning their children to school.

Emma Mills provides an example of how Te Aroha Noa works. “I started helping in
the kitchen when my children were here for play group – then I became a parent
educator so I could understand more about child development. I had left school
at 14, so when my children were old enough for school, I began taking adult
education classes at the centre so I could help them with their homework.
My next goal is to finish my certificate in Early Childhood Education.”

Massey University Social Work Professor Robyn Munford says “Te Aroha Noa’s
development of a theory of change is at the forefront of practice development and we
believe the report will be a valuable resource for other community organisations
wanting to learn from their experience.”

Chief Commissioner of the Families Commission Jan Pryor says “There’s growing
understanding of how important it is that community services be family-centred and
that they draw on the strengths of their clients to work together to change aspects of
their situation. It’s an issue that the Commission is passionate about and we are
supporting several projects in this area.”

The report has drawn on the spinafex plant as a metaphor because the spinafex
thrives in difficult environments, grows beneath a turbulent surface to produce
stability, sends out roots across a wide area – creating new growth.


Which principle are you practising
today?
One of the key aspects of SKIP that Barnardos worked so hard to embed in its
organisation, are the messages contained within the Six Principles.
“It often became obvious within our organisation, that people who were not directly
working with children and parents, or who did not have a component of parenting
education as part of their job, couldn’t really see why they needed to pay special
attention to SKIP or the Six Principles” said Jean Ellerby-Mutu, Barnardos SKIP
Learning & Development Co-ordinator.

Jean went on to say “We started to realise that these principles could also be applied
when working with older children and in fact, ultimately that they applied to all
relationships, not just adult to child. Jean became more inclined in conversations and
workshops to ask people how they demonstrated these principles to their wives,
partners, neighbours and work colleagues, and asked how they received guidance
at work, or felt cared for and respected, or knew what the rules and boundaries
were.” Suddenly the principles were alive for everyone.

“Giving serious thought to how you demonstrate and model the principles was very
entertaining. Some people had huge revelations and we had a lot of laughs
particularly about how we often unknowingly relate to our partners” said Jean “What
we are teaching; we need to be modelling, and we need to take time out to think
about how we demonstrate these principles ourselves. You think you are aware
of what you are doing, believe me, you are not!”

Jean has recently been a part of developing SKIP resource pages on the Barnardos
internal website. These are a great introduction to SKIP for all new staff joining the
Barnardos team. “I’ve tried to make it relevant for everyone” says Jean, “whether you
are a parent educator or working in accounts”.

Below is an excerpt from the Six Principles page of their website:

“Apart from using the Six Principles to support parents to build loving and well-
functioning relationships with their children, we need to consider how we use these
principles in all of our relationships…with our work colleagues, our partners,
teenagers, friends and wha-nau. It may be helpful for example to make a list
describing how you demonstrate the Six Principles in your relationships.

1 How do I demonstrate love and warmth?

2 Do I listen well and what behaviours do others see that demonstrate that I am
listening? Do I talk clearly and ascertain that others have understood me? What is
my tone of voice like? What is my body language communicating? Do I speak more
respectfully to adults than to children?

3 How well do I explain things and offer guidance? What do I do that demonstrates
understanding?

4 How do I decide what limits and boundaries I set for others? Do I negotiate these or
set them myself? Am I clear about what other people expect from me?

5 Do I allow others to experience the consequences of their actions or do I always
intervene and ‘rescue’? How do I demonstrate consistency or am I quite
unpredictable at times? Do I follow through with what I say I will do?

6 How do I try to create a structured and secure environment not only for my family
but also for my work colleagues and my friends? What things have I done to enable
others to be more successful?
Barnardos – quick tips on
conscious parenting
“If parents are more aware of how they parent and the impact this has on their
children, then they are more likely to make changes,” says Jean Ellerby-Mutu, SKIP
Learning and Development Coordinator for Barnardos.

“By using each and every opportunity that we have, we can begin to move closer
towards Barnardos and SKIP’s vision to have a society where all children can
grow up with positive and loving relationships where their childhood is valued and
their hope and potential are nurtured,” says Jean.

“It’s hard to get people to change by just giving information. You have to reach
people on an emotional level. I have found that when parents understand a child’s
developmental stages this can bring a whole new perspective to a situation and
can change the way parents view a situation”.

Barnardos has developed these tips about how we can all help support parents:

      Create opportunities for parents • to get together and chat.
      Create more formal gatherings where families might watch a DVD and
       discuss it, participate in a workshop, hear a speaker or discuss concepts such
       as whakapapa, whanaungatanga or mana kainga in child rearing practices.
      Improve your knowledge about child development, parenting styles and
       positive discipline so that you can respond confidently to parents’ questions.
      Distribute parenting information, articles and posters to places where parents
       gather such as the sports club, library or local marae.
      Find out about SKIP resources and other resources that are available to
       support parents, and keep a good supply in our place of work or with us.
      Find out about Barnardos Parent Help Line (0800 4 PARENT) and get some
       of its pamphlets and fridge magnets for parents when their questions or
       problems are more complex than we can answer.
      Normalise parenting difficulties and let parents know it is OK to ask for help.
      Create opportunities for groups of parents and carers to discuss questions
       such as What do you want for your child in the future? What sort of childhood
       memories do you want your child to have?
      Start conversations with parents or carers like:Did you see that programme
       last night on TV about babies’ brain development? and share your learning!




Glad to See You!!
SKIP parenting messages are reaching a wide range of ethnic women in Hamilton
according to SKIP co-ordinator for Shama Ethnic Women’s Centre Trust, Zinai
Siviter.
Shama provides support, advocacy and programmes to strengthen and empower all
ethnic women in the Hamilton region.

They have recently introduced a “Glad to See You” evening session that celebrates
mothers and caregivers as champions.

“It provides an evening forum for those unable to attend the Wednesday morning
playgroup and parent support sessions and provides another opportunity to promote
the SKIP positive parenting messages,” says Zinai.
Fifty four mothers and grandmothers are attending the “Glad to See You” evenings
representing a wide variety of ethnicities. These include people who are:
Japanese, Columbian, Filipino, Chinese, Moroccan, Iraqi, Solomon Islands, Indian,
South African, Malaysian, Korean, Hungarian, Pakistani, Papua New Guinean, and
Nigerian.

“Many ethnic mixes and languages make the progress slow but by providing larger,
coloured pictures, action words or role play, it has helped mothers and caregivers
gain confidence in conversation and comprehension. The group is also very
supportive to those who don’t understand English. Activities for the evening included:

• ‘Silly’ Games – fun games that reflect parenting style and portray childrens’
challenging behaviour, like popping a balloon with written directions inside for
mothers to role play a parenting scenario.

• A Cultural Presentation – this has given each culture an opportunity to present how
they were disciplined and how they parent their own children.

• Shared Dinner – sharing of ethnic dishes.

• Open discussion and group work – ways to implement a SKIP strategy is discussed
and reviewed at the next meeting. This has encouraged mothers to see the outcome
of positive strategies.

• Health and Fitness – Dancing exercise was added to finish the evening so mothers
could feel rejuvenated and relaxed.

The Trust’s SKIP playgroup runs on Wednesday mornings from 9.30-11.30. Activities
include play activities for the children, shared morning tea, small discussion groups
for the parents, and SKIP resources are given out.




Three year funding available for
established change makers
The SKIP local Initiatives Fund is now able to fund community groups for a three year
period.

This new three year funding is available to community development projects that
have already delivered three or more SKIP Local Initiatives.
Many community organisations that have been delivering successful SKIP projects
over a number of funding rounds have requested longer-term funding arrangements
so they can meet the demand from the parents in their community for more SKIP
project activities and for more long-term projects.

Longer funding allows community organisations to plan for evolving projects and
show a commitment to parents and community organisations that the projects will be
there to follow up what they have begun.

The current budget for the Local Initiatives Fund remains at $1.2M per year. This
means we expect to fund each applicant in line with the level of funding they had
received in their previous projects.

All projects must have tangible, attainable goals that can be achieved by the
completion of their project as three year funding is not the beginning of ongoing
funding.

To apply for three year funding eligible groups will need to apply through the normal
SKIP LIF application funding rounds. They will then be assessed by the selection
panel against additional criteria and priorities along with the applications from groups
for 12 month and 18 month projects.

You can see the additional criteria and priorities on our website
www.skip.org.nz/funding


The SKIP Bilingual Wall Frieze –
More than something to brighten
the bedroom wall!
The 12 frames of the SKIP bilingual wall frieze show easy ways we can not only build
a strong relationship with the newest member of our whānau but help to ‘wire their
brain’.

Most brain development takes place after birth, so we have many opportunities to
help our baby develop a healthy brain. This will help them to reach their full potential
in life.

Through simple interactions and everyday experiences, using our five senses, we
can stimulate our baby’s brain cells to connect into neural pathways. By repeating
activities with our baby, particularly during the first three years, we help to strengthen
these pathways and lay a foundation for all their future learning.

Whether the connections are for learning mathematics or for loving relationships,
they are strengthened simply through play and interaction, especially with people the
baby knows and trusts.

To order your copy of the SKIP bilingual wall frieze for under 2’s email
skipinfo@msd.govt.nz or fill out the order form on the back of this newsletter.

Teach me about our family
• Then I know I am not alone.
• I learn best from the people who love and care about me – I’ve learned to trust
them.
• When I’m born I can easily learn two or more languages as long as I hear them
spoken to me regularly.

Tell me you love me
• My early relationships affect all my future learning, growth and development.
• Being touched and loved is essential to my healthy brain development.
• I hear you best when you talk to me slowly and in a higher pitch – this is called
‘parentese’.

Sing to me
• It’s a lovely way to learn language and to learn about our culture and to have fun
with you.

• The repetition, rhythm and rhyme I hear when you sing attract my attention – I learn
best when I’m interested (and when you make my life interesting!).

Copy my sounds
• When I talk to you and then you talk to me, I know we belong together.

• My brain makes connections for language best when you talk to me face-to-face.

• Sometimes I gurgle and babble and when you copy me you are teaching me about
conversations.

Tell me I’m wonderful
• At birth my brain prefers the sound of human voices above all other sounds and I
can recognise voices I heard when I was in the womb – I’ve made connections for
that before I was born!

• From birth to around 6 months I can hear and process any sound from any
language in the world and after that, I’ll be ‘wired’ to respond to the languages our
family speak.

I love to learn
• Everything I see, hear, smell, touch and taste helps my brain cells to connect up
into pathways.
• At birth my brain is unfinished. It needs lots of input from my world to connect and
develop.

Listen to me
• I try and tell you how I’m feeling using my face, my body, my cries and other
sounds.

• When you respond lovingly to me it helps my brain make connections for handling
my emotions and I learn to trust my world.

I can watch
• I will copy what I see you do and what I hear you say.
• 80% of my learning comes from what I see.
• By 12 months, my eyes, my hands and my brain are working together and I can see
as well as most grown ups.

Let me do things over and over again
• Repeating experiences makes those pathways in my brain stronger.
• Because of all those new connections being made, my brain is growing bigger.
Give me things to play with

• Whenever I’m playing, I’m learning!

• My brain gets information as I explore things with my senses. I learn a lot in my first
year about what things are by using my mouth!

Make me feel special
• I need to know that someone loves me, no matter what.
• If I have learned to trust my world, I will be much more curious and confident to
explore!
• Stress is toxic to my brain, because stress hormones can destroy connections I’ve
made.

Read my favourite story again and again
• I love knowing what’s going to happen next – I’m making new connections and
strengthening the ones I’ve already made.
• Connections in my brain for understanding language work better when I see the
pictures and hear you talk about them at the same time.


Conscious Parenting at Parents
Centre
Parents Centres across the country have been delivering Parenting with Purpose and
Magic Moments for 24 months. The courses have been attended by over 250
parents.

Developed by Parents Centres and supported by the SKIP team these programmes
introduce the concept of positive parenting techniques. The nine weekly sessions
allow parents to share their stories and experiences and to explore positive ways of
interacting with their child or children together.

Parents are encouraged to reflect on how they were parented and then to consider
how they are now consciously parenting – are their techniques working and what is
working well?

Parents Centres has the largest parenting based infrastructure across New Zealand
and the benefits of these programmes include the opportunity for ongoing support
networks for parents to create the right environment for positive parent techniques.

“During the development of the programmes we recognised that it’s never too late to
explore new methods of parenting and that it is a life-long skill but “getting it right”
from the start is important,” says Viv Gurrey, CEO of Parents Centres.

“One of the real strengths of the programmes is that they allow people the time and
space to reflect on themselves and their parenting styles. Discovering and exploring
alternative ways of disciplining children along with learning about positive coping
strategies features strongly throughout the programmes.
“Creating an opportunity for parents to come together to share their stories has been
exciting and rewarding.”

The following feedback was collected from courses in Otago and Invercargill:
• “It opened my eyes to the importance of spending quality time together as a family”

• “Every parent in New Zealand should do this course and that it should be run every
night in the town hall so everyone gets to come!”

• “The most important thing I learned from this programme was how important my
role as a parent is in shaping the person my child will grow to be.”

• “I really realised that I have an effect on my children – more than just as a parent.”

• “I learned the need to work at our relationship is very important but it is also
important to spend time on you as a parent.”

• “I recognised that stressful situations as a parent are unavoidable but I learned
ways I could manage them better.”

• “The group’s discussion was brilliant. I realised that discipline should have a
positive outcome – punishment is negative, understanding that discipline and
punishment are different.
I discovered what type of parent I am.”

• “I learned strategies for coping with inappropriate behaviour and consequences and
problem solving techniques. I enjoyed learning about creating opportunities for my
child to make positive decisions by themselves.”

For more information go to: parent centre website www.parentscentre.org.nz


Catching the Wave
Tokoroa mother of three and wife to the local police officer, Deborah King writes of
the transforming experience she had attending a SKIP training course recently.

“Smacking was the only way I knew how to discipline my children, and they are very
well mannered and are a blessing to our family, so the last thing I thought I needed
was a parenting course,” Deborah says.

“I’d heard about the SKIP course because it is so widely advertised here in our town,
but hadn’t done anything about it until Jenny approached each and every one of us at
a family fun day at the pool.

“It was an absolute eye opener for me I was really surprised at how wrong I was,
even though my children are well behaved and pleasant.”

“I’ve learnt so much more about myself as a parent. Things would have been very
different with my two older children if I had the information from this course then. If all
parents could get SKIP training then a generation could be changed, and our young
people would become not only be better parents but better people in general.

“This journey has impacted my life so much so that there are areas in my life that will
never be the same.
“I feel very strongly that all parents should have the opportunity to attend this course.
It is vital that we equip our children with the tools to be parented positively and this
has to start with the parents of today.

“Attending this training has been a real privilege. It might be a small ripple in the pond
but in my pond this course was a very big wave.”




Tikanga Māori and positive
parenting
Conversations about positive whānau relationships were the motivation behind a
Korowai wānanga held in the far North town of Taipa earlier this year.

The SKIP funded project wove a tikanga Māori perspective on positive parenting
throughout the wānanga while learning the historical methods of making feather
cloaks.

Wānanga organiser Whaea Eleanor Cope-Albert says, “We had a safe environment
so the whaea me ngaa tamariki could korero, cry, laugh and work through issues
they were dealing with alone.”

“Having busy hands allowed the conversation to flow across topics like how children
cope with their parents broken relationships, bullying of siblings, dealing with
tantrums and young children soaking up all the parents’ attention.”

Several parents were able to address significant parenting concerns and take new
action with their children during the wa-nanga with the support of other weavers.

A core group of ten women attended all of the sessions with a further 20 parents
joining in some sessions throughout the week.

The wānanga has inspired the group to continue learning the tikanga and art of
korowai weaving and to form an ongoing korowai class to give women and their
whānau support in the issues they are dealing with as parents and grandparents.

“It provides an excellent forum for wha-nau to share their thoughts and personal
experiences about being a parent in a caring environment while learning more
about the korowai taonga, says Whaea Eleanor.

The wānanga was one of a series of eight positive parenting activities the pepi patch
are delivering over 2009.

To find out more visit www.pepipatch.webs.com



Call Me Dad
‘Call Me Dad’ is a book, by dads, for dads who want encouragement and advice
about parenting. It’s packed with information on everything from pregnancy and
preparing for the baby, to the end of that first unbelievable year.
Scott Lancaster, Eric Mooij and Stefan Korn are the directors of DIYFather, a global
organisation for fathers that was set up in response to a lack of parenting advice or
support geared towards men.

In this book, the authors draw on their own experiences as well as tips from other
fathers. ‘Call Me Dad’ provides helpful advice about all aspects of being a dad, such
as:
• What to expect during pregnancy: Antenatal classes, medical appointments, birth
plans and preparing for the big day.
• Working out the logistics: Deciding who’s going to look after the baby, where the
baby will sleep, what essential items you need to buy and what not to buy.
• Surviving the birth: what you can expect and where you fit in as a dad during
labour.
• Life after birth: how to survive the first days when you don’t have a clue what you’re
doing! Suggestions for what you can do to support your partner.
• Establishing routines: Feeding, sleeping and hygiene tips and techniques.
• Different exercises you can try with baby at different stages, from baby massage to
playing catch.

Find out more at www.diyfather.com


Warehouse parents doing OK
“What do you want your children to remember about you?” was the question for men
at the Warehouse North Island Distribution Centre (DC) in South Auckland recently,
asked by SKIP parent educator Alfred Ngaro.

In September last year he facilitated work-based discussions about being a dad with
dads at the DC, as part of a joint project between SKIP, The Warehouse and DIY
Fathers. These sessions led to dads sharing their stories and photos for a booklet
which was distributed free throughout Warehouse stores to
celebrate Fathers Day 2008.

The project was so successful the Warehouse distributed the booklet through its
stores again for this year’s Fathers Day. And, the project was also extended to
include follow-up parenting sessions for all the men working at the DC. The sessions
ran during June and were facilitated by Alfred and SKIP parent educator Vicky
Ellison.

As part of the sessions they used the old hand game – ‘rock, paper or scissors?’
except this time it was ‘rock, paper or tree’ as images for the Dads to think about
the way they parented.

“We asked them to each think about their own personal ‘Daddy Stylz’. Were they
‘rock’, paper’ or ‘tree’?” says Vicky. “‘The rock’ represented a very authoritarian or
strict style where there are lots of orders and heaps of rules with very little room
for any negotiation. ‘The paper’ represented the opposite, just like tissue paper – not
very substantial, characterised by a lack of limits and boundaries, and a tendency to
‘give in’ easily.

The ‘tree’ was used to represent a style which is solid and grounded but also has the
ability to be flexible and open to discussion when necessary.”
“We also got the guys to think about where most of their influence and support for
their role as dads comes from.
These discussions showed how our own families and personal experience influence
how we are as dads, and how our own ‘Daddy Stylz’ impacts on our children’s
development and behaviour in different ways.”

“The Warehouse understands that staff wellbeing is affected by many factors,
including family life.

It is impressive that the Warehouse is doing something practical to help promote a
positive family life,” says Vicky.

Stuart Dunn, National Manager – Operations Support at the Warehouse’s North
Island Distribution Centre was pleased to support the work: “It has been a real
pleasure to be involved in this initiative between SKIP and The Warehouse. The DC
dads found the discussions very useful. The great thing that comes out of these
sessions is that they all have something in common, that is, that they are all fathers
or prospective fathers,” says Stuart.

Feedback from dads includes: “I have been a dad for a long time but now I realise I
have to give more.”

“Attending these DC Dads sessions made us all realise the effect we have on our
children and how we can alter the way our kids grow up.”

And, mums haven’t been left out. The mums who work at the Apparel Distribution
Centre and North Island Distribution Centre were so impressed with the DC Dads
project they asked Warehouse Management when it was ‘their turn’.

So Alfred and Moka Ngaro facilitated sessions with over 120 mums so they too could
share their ideas and experiences of motherhood. Their stories and photos will
become a resource for other New Zealand mums and will be launched in partnership
with the Warehouse later this year.

To find out more about the Warehouse DC Dads or the DC Mums project please
contact Victoria Parsons at: victoria.parsons007@msd.govt.nz


Community Conversations
The SKIP team is trying new ways to share positive parenting messages with
communities. Our annual survey of parents shows that parents often seek
parenting advice from early child education centres and from local health
practitioners. SKIP hopes to support these groups by encouraging ways people can
get together and discuss key parenting ideas.

This idea is in the very early stages and the only locality that has had a group
conversation so far is Nelson. Barnardos, Plunket, Family Start Trust and the Nelson
Kindergarten Association worked together to hold community conversations on the
topics: “The difference between punishment and discipline” and “The things that
babies need in their first year”.
Feedback has been good and participants have shared a range of interesting ideas
and views. If you would like to find out more about the Community Conversation
projects contact Carmel Irwin: carmel.irwin003@msd.govt.nz


Books for kids
Check out this website for a list of behaviour books for children. The children’s books
are stories that look at different emotions. Reading these books with their children
gives parents a chance to think about emotions and behaviour from their child’s point
of view! http://webserver.mcl.org/ys/bibbehav.html



Quick Tip
Te Aroha Noa was wondering how to engage with parents and emphasise SKIP
messages at a Funky Monkeys’ performance. They came up with this great idea:

Every adult at the event was given a sealed envelope with SKIP messages inside –
and be asked to put that message into practice for the rest of the day!

								
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