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					Fear as a Root of Anger

                 Fear is the ultimately underlying source of anger. If you have a mental illness,
      substance abuse problem, or difficulty with managing your anger fear is the source of
      your problem. When you learn to deal with fear then you are taking the steps to take
      control of your life by taking control of your anger. One of the best solutions for dealing
      with fear itself is to use rational self-talk techniques. If you are a person that strives on
      negative thinking, such as oh well, that is the way it is and it was going to happen
      anyway, there is nothing I can do about it. If this is you then you need to rethink this
      statement, since in most instances, you can prevent or else you can change what happens
      in your life. This negative thinking leads nowhere and often increases a person’s chance
      of exploding when anger develops. Most people are shallow in the mind when they refuse
      to see the positive in life. If you believe that you are hopeless, which is obvious in the
      above statement then your anger will rule you and you will always have additional
      problems in life. If you go to a bar, drink a few beers, leave and are pulled over you
      cannot say oh well, that is the way it is. You set yourself up for the failure and heartache,
      therefore if you would have took a designated driver or took a cab home this would not
      have happen in the first place. If you are the type of person that lives off if then you are
      also setting yourself up for failure. What if the sun drops from the sky tomorrow and
      never reappears. This irrational thinking leads nowhere and creates a fear. What if the sun
      dropped from the sky tomorrow and never reappears? Therefore, what, you cannot do
      anything about. Change what you can change and leave what you cannot change alone.
      One day at a time, my friend is where it is happening. A person might set them self up for
      anger eruptions by pondering on something that was done a week ago. Let go and let free
      your self from the pressure, since you cannot undo what has already been done. It is gone
      so why worry about last week when today is here. It is important to learn to appreciate
      what you have and what you do, rather to stress your self over things that are not in your
      control. If you have difficulty, making decisions you might want to remember that we all
      have to make decisions in life. Decisions mean that a problem is current and needs to be
      resolved. This does not mean that world has tumble, rather it means you need to take the
      steps for solving the problems. You could start by evaluating the problem carefully. What
      does the problem entail? Next you can review your choices for solving the problem and
      pull out your resources to deal with it. After you have finished you will want to collect all
      necessity needed to resolve the problem. Finally, you will need to review you choices,
      decisions, the problem, and all the needed information to resolve the problem. Once you
      come to a conclusive decision then take the step to handle the issue right away. Putting
      things off only makes matters worse. If you made a good decision and outcome prove
      fruitful, be sure to pat your self on the back for doing a good job. Do not linger on what
      if, since if it has not happen yet, it probably never will. On the other hand, if it does
      happen it might be a result of your decision, attitude, behavior, et cetera. This does not
      mean the problem cannot be addressed and changed to make your life livable. Life is full
      of problems and we all have our share to deal with. Do not let your emotions get the
      better of you by allowing your anger to control your life. Remember fear is the root of
      anger and when you master fear, you are on your way to success. Finally, fear is healthy
      if it is used wisely.

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