Anger and Rejections
Rejections are normal and we all are told no on many occasions. Some persons
have difficulty handling rejections and may react hastily to the other person involved. If
you walk in a bank and apply for a loan and are rejected you might stomp out the door
shouting obscene talk to the lenders. This is not an appropriate way to handle the
situation. This in fact can get you in trouble and it is obvious that rejections are triggers to
your emotions that enforce your anger. Now that you see this is a trigger you will need to
learn how to cope with your anger and emotions. We can start with the technique to work
through your anger by reducing your stress. If you are a spontaneous person then you will
need to learn how to cut back on stressors. If you feel pressured in the morning before
going to work, try picking out the clothes you will wear for that day the following
evening. This will provide you an extra few minutes during the morning to prepare for
work. If you are running like a mad person to meet classes, then you might want to set up
a schedule for your self that includes time management. This can help you learn to
prepare ahead and stay on top of things without rushing. Instead of roaming thoughts
through your head about what you, need to do each day, try handling one task at a time.
This works wonders once you practice and continue with your strategy. When you feel
angry, try taking a few deep breaths before you speak. You may also want to practice
exercising since this burns energy and often reduces your chances of exploding when
your emotions are threatened. If you cannot handle rejections, coach your mind to believe
that the person is not centering you out. Repeat over in your mind that no is a positive in
many cases. For example, if you are married, you enjoy going to the bar to chat with your
friends, and your husband does not want you to go, and then think why he said no?
Obviously, your husband cares about you since he knows that danger is potentially high
at bars. He does not want you to get hurt therefore, he is saying no in your best interest. If
the bank turns you down on a loan there is a legit reason. Maybe your credit report needs
some repairing, or maybe they felt you income would not cover the loan amount.
Therefore, you best interest was at heart again. We all hear no throughout our lifetime
and most times, it is for the best reasons. If you apply for a job and are turned down, it
might be in your best interest, since the employers felt that your skills were not on the
level that the job required of you. Alternatively, you may be over qualified for the job and
when you are rejected, the employers are merely saying we do not have the cash to pay
you for what you are worth. Thinking positive is always great for managing anger. If you
are prompt to explode when your emotions are interrupted then it is difficulty to manage
your life. If you are angry most likely, all areas of your life seem like an uphill travel.
When you gain control this often benefits everyone, including your self. Your life starts
to improve and your mind is thanking you for removing stress from its cavity. If you are
prone to beat your self up when rejections come your way, you might want to find a
positive side of your being and enforce it in your mind repeatedly. Practice makes perfect
and this is a great way to train your mind so that you gain control of your mind and anger.
If you are frustrated easily, it is probably because you do not take time out of a day for
your self to relax. There is nothing wrong with relaxing. Therefore you can sit down for
30 minutes each day and yoga or think of nothing at all. Finally, we are closing so I
wanted to let you know that once you practice the strategies for dealing with anger, pat
your self on the back each time you make effort and achieve.