There is a vast difference between teaching and controlling your children

							      There is a vast Difference between Teaching and Controlling

                                       your Children
Parents especially need to teach and educate children about life in the right way. Rules
 cannot be imposed; they have to be understood. Parents do not need to control their
      children; they need to teach their children what is right and what is wrong.

Children always learn from what’s taught to them and they will mirror what is being taught to
them, along with various behaviours they are exposed to. This they bring out when they are at
the nursery, in school and among peers in the classroom as well. The behaviours that they
reflect and put on are heavily influenced by those they live with. These may be picked up from
                                           elder siblings or parents and at times even their
                                           nannies.

                                           It is vital that children are not exposed to something
                                           that is immoral or unethical simply because they
                                           would begin to accept that as the norm and would
                                           often find themselves in a situation where they would
                                           be left out from the crowd because of what they
                                           think.

                                           Parents especially need to teach and educate
                                           children about life in the right way. Rules cannot be
                                           imposed; they have to be understood. Parents do not
                                           need to control their children; they need to teach their
                                           children what is right and what is wrong. This alone
                                           can avoid bad characters that children put on as they
                                           grow up because they have been told to listen and
                                           follow, rather than to understand and reason,
                                           between right and wrong.

                                          Parents also need to keep in mind that teaching is
                                          very different from controlling. A parent who controls
a child in and about, would end up with a child who blindly follows out of fear rather than
understand the ‘what’s’ and ‘why’s’ about how society functions or how things work. This will in
turn make them carry on with the other challenges that they face in life, as they grow up, in a
similar manner.

Parents who teach their children about the rules and basics of social behaviour take a different
approach and will have all the necessary patience to ensure that everything is taught and not
force fed into the child’s mind. This allows for a better understanding and helps children to
reason and think as to ‘why do they have to behave when amongst elders?’ or “why do they
have to learn or study?” Children need to know about the facts of life early, so that they can
apply what they have learnt and help build a better future for themselves as they grow up. What
this also does, is that it allows children to choose for themselves by communicating directly with
their surrounding environment. Teaching your children instead of controlling them also helps
them to become better decision makers this is why most nurseries in Dubai follow the same
principle, by enacting through plays and skits about good and bad behaviour and about how
people accept it. Teachers in many international nurseries in Dubai as well as abroad have
been well trained to teach and not control children. Teaching children in a warm and friendly
manner automatically brings them under their own control and understanding; which is why
most prefer to do it that way although it is a tough option.