Marriage and Family Strengths and Needs by dfhdhdhdhjr


									Marriage and Family Strengths
          and Needs

          Recurring Themes
     Marital and Family Strengths
 Different Families, Different Strengths
         Kin and Community
 Strengthening Families Through Family
              Recurring Themes
• A. Families are dynamic; they will always
  continue to change and there will always be
• B. Families are diverse; they form a composite of
  race, ethnicity, social class, gender, and lifestyle
• C. Families satisfy important societal and personal
  needs; societal health and stability depend in large
  part on strong and stable families.
• D. Families need societal support; the family
  needs greater societal and institutional support to
  overcome problems and grasp opportunities.
     Marital and Family Strengths

• A. Marriage may be seen as a forum for
  negotiating the balancing between the desire for
  intimacy and the need to maintain a separate
  identity through interpersonal competence.
• B. Marital strengths versus family strengths:
• 1. Childfree couples generally have more time for
  each other and substantially less psychological,
  economic, and physical stress.
• 2. Many of our marital skills probably develop
  alongside our family skills.
• 3. The relationships of families with children
  generally have greater stability because the
  emotional cost of a breakup is much greater when
  children are present; in addition, children help
  fulfill our need for intimacy.
• C. Essential aspects of successful marriage:
• 1. Numerous studies show a strong correlation
  between a couple's communication patterns and
  marital satisfaction.
• 2. Commitment is a continual growing of a
  relationship, involving the willingness and ability
  to work together. Commitment to the sexual
  relationship within marriage is a very important
  aspect of marital strength.
• 3. Commitment involves give-and-take in order to
  be together and nurture the marriage relationship.
• 4. Commitment to success is an essential
  component in the formation of strong marriages
  and strong families.
              Family Strengths
• A. Family strengths are those characteristics that
  contribute to a family's satisfaction and its
  perceived success as a family.
• B. Family goals are unique to each family.
• C. Perfection in families exists as an ideal: Family
  quality can be seen as a continuum.
• D. Family quality varies over the family life cycle:
• 1. The overall cohesiveness of the family is
  severely tested at times; although it often emerges
  stronger, it may have experienced periods of
  distrust, disorder and unhappiness.
• 2. Families are idiosyncratic; each is different
  from all others.
• E. The Family Strengths Research Project found
  that six qualities stood out repeatedly in successful
  families including appreciation; spending time
  together; commitment; good communication
  patterns spiritual wellness; and ability to deal
  with crises.
• F. Ten areas of strength in successful families
  include commitment; affirmation, respect, and
  trust; communication; responsibility, morality,
  and spiritual orientation; rituals and
  traditions; crisis management; ability to seek
  help; spending time together; a family wellness
  orientation; and a balance between cohesion
  and adaptability.
• G. Commitment involves the promotion of growth
  of other family members:
• 1. Commitment is a prevailing characteristic in
  strong families of all forms.
• 2. Commitment to the family involves the
  participation of family members in a worldview
  that encompasses more than only self-centered
• H. Affirmation, respect, and trust are essential to
  family health.
• 1. Supporting others in our family and being
  supported and affirmed in return are important in
  maintaining a feeling of satisfaction and
• 2. According respect to our family members for
  their uniqueness and differences and encouraging
  members to develop their individuality is also
• 3. Criticism, ridicule, and rejection will undermine
• 4. The establishment of trust that family members
  can be relied on encourages the
• development of self-confidence and a sense of
  responsibility for oneself and others.
• 5. Parental role modeling is a crucial factor in the
  development of qualities that ensure personal
  psychological health and growth.
• I. Our tones of voice, body language, eye contact,
  silences, a touch, or a gift are all forms of
• 1. In strong families, communication is direct.
• 2. Strong families talk a lot, trust one another, and
  are good listeners.
• 3. In times of conflict, strong families keep
  communication focused on the issues rather than
  the personalities of those involved.
• 4. Communication has been described as a huge
  umbrella that covers all that transpires among
  human beings.
• 5. Communication facilitates other family
• J. Responsibility, morality, and spiritual
  orientation are important for healthy families.
• 1. The acquisition of responsibility is rooted in a
  sense of self-respect and an appreciation of the
  interdependence of people.
• a. Successful families realize the importance of
  delegating responsibility and of developing
  responsible behavior.
• b. Parental acknowledgment of a job well done
  goes a long way toward building responsibility in
• c. Healthy families know the importance of
  allowing children to make their own mistakes and
  face the consequences.
• 2. Healthy families develop a sense of right and
  wrong, a moral code, in their children based on a
  firm conviction that the world and people around
  us must be valued and respected.
• 3. Families with a spiritual orientation see a larger
  purpose for their family than simply their own
  maintenance and self-satisfaction.
• 4. Spirituality gives meaning, purpose, and hope.
• a. By traditions and rituals, families find a link to
  the past and a hope for the future.
• b. Strong families often have a sense of family
  history, strengthening a sense of connection to its
• L. Research consistently identifies the capacity to
  deal effectively with family crises as a
  characteristic of strong families. Members of a
  strong family unite to face the challenges of a
• 1. The cumulative effect of other family strengths
  enables strong families to deal with crises.
• 2. Strong families are able to accept changes
  resulting from crises and to see possibilities for
  growth in them.
• M. Effective crisis management is associated with
  the family's ability to be open to resources outside
• 1. Strong families acknowledge their
• 2. Strong families' experiences of interdependence
  within the family better equip them to recognize
  the interdependence among families and
• N. Making time for family is an interlocking trait
  that brings together other characteristics found in
  strong families: It expresses commitment to the
• 1. Spending time together is necessary to develop
  adequate communication and to build cohesion.
• 2. Healthy families give play and leisure time high
• O. Having a family wellness orientation means
  making a conscious decision to live our lives in
  ways that move us toward optimal health in
  physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and
  social dimensions.
• 1. Wellness is positive, proactive, and focuses on
  being healthy and whole.
• 2. Families oriented toward wellness take
  advantage of educational opportunities that help
  them gain perspectives on family developmental
Different Families, Different Strengths

• A. recognition of the commonality
• B. Ethnicity is a complicated and ever changing
• C. Family strengths associated with African-
  American families include: (1) an extended
  kinship network; (2) flexibility of roles; (3)
  resilient children; (4) egalitarian parental
  relationships; and (5) strong motivation to
• D. Latino families often live in nuclear families
  near other families in the extended family
• 1. Latino culture emphasizes the family as a basic
  source of emotional support, especially for
• 2. In Puerto Rican families, the role of mother is
  central and is expressed in the term marianismo.
• 3. Mexican-American families tend to emphasize
  the needs of the family above those of the
  individual: A child's padrinos (called compadres
  by the parents) are an important part of the family
  support system
• 4. Family strengths associated with Latino
  families include: being family centered; strong
  ethnic identity; high family flexibility; a
  supportive network of kin; egalitarian decision
  making; and family cohesion.
• E. Responsibilities to aged parents and to close
  relatives are fundamental to the family institution
  of Asian-American families.
• 1. In Chinese-American families, the concept of
  hsiao (filial piety) involves a series of obligations
  of child to a parent.
• 2 . Strengths of Japanese-American families
  include: (1) close family ties indicated by strong
  feelings of loyalty to family; (2) low divorce rates;
  and (3) a complex system of values and techniques
  of social control.
• 3. Due to patterns of immigration and disruption
  of family relations, Vietnamese-Americans have
  developed variations in their traditional extended
  family household and kin system.
• 4. Strengths of Asian-American families include:
  filial piety; family as a cohesive unit; value of
  education; feelings of loyalty; and extended family
• F. Native Americans are a diverse group.1. In
  general, Native American families see human life
  as being in harmony with nature.
• 2. Relations with kin are often characterized by
  residential closeness, obligatory mutual aid, active
  participation in life cycle events, and the presence
  of central figures around which family ceremonies
• 3. A special role for the elderly has historically
  been recognized as a strength in Native American
• 4. Strengths of Native American families include:
  extended family network; value placed on
  cooperation and groups, respect for the elderly;
  tribal support system; and preservation of culture.
           Kin and Community
• A. Whether we are married or single, we have
  relationship needs.
• 1. We need to nurture others by caring for a
  partner, children, or other intimates both
  physically and emotionally.
• 2. Social integration involves being actively
  involved in some form of community, through
  knowing others who share our interests and
  participating in community or school projects.
• 3. The knowledge that assistance from others is
  available keeps us from feeling anxious and
• 4. We need intimacy with people who will listen
  to us and care about us.
• 5. We need reassurance as to our skills as persons,
  workers, parents, and partners to maintain self-
• B. Few aspects of family life exist to which
  relatives do not make a significant contribution.
  Even when extended families are separated
  geographically, they continue to provide
  emotional support.
• C. In addition to kinship networks, many families
  have extensive networks of affiliated kin and
  friendships. The strength of kinship ties depends
  more on feeling than biology.
• 1. The wellbeing of the family depends not only
  on its own resources, but also on the support it
  receives from the community in which it is
• 2. Despite the complexities of modern life, the
  families that love, shelter, and teach us remain
  America's greatest national resource: They deserve
  to be nurtured, strengthened, and protected.

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