3-5 Feb 2012 Training Notes- Hand In Hand: Children’s and Families Ministry conference Nurturing Faith in Children Dont gossip about church infront of children. Foundation- unordered- (pre-school)-> ordered (primary)- group faith- peers -> choosing (secondary) – question, search, test, choose Rough guideline, can be different order. Pray for God to help families make the right decisions (Eg sport Sunday morning but mid-week kids homegroup)- encourage, alleviate guilt Give children opportunities to: - Respond/ make personal commitments (in context of journey of faith) - lead worship - preach - pray for the sick - serve (refreshments/ sound desk/ projector/ fund raise/ band)- shadow others first - listen to God (what would God say to you?)- feedback to church part of body of Christ Belong-> believe-> behave? Or believe -> belong-> behave? Big bible challenge, buy Bible reading notes Visit children Dealing With Disruptive Behaviour and Keeping Control PMT- Pre Ministry Tension! PRAY - Participation- Helpers/ puppets to watch behaviour and join in activities, discuss triggers after, get children to tell you if other children deserve a sticker etc, quiz/ challenge. Seating plan- Bad behaviour- give one: one mentor, sit child next to you in circle (gentle touch). Quiet child- sit opposite you in circle (Eye contact). - Preparation- Relax, pray and read Bible first. Lengthen out well-prepared activities, shorten ill-prepared ones. Concentration levels- 12 min max (1min for each yr of age) TV images change every few secs. Brain breaks eg pat tummy rub head/ simon says. Children- where are they at? Eg if hyper, do active game first. Activity- interactive and visual eg put an object in the circle, get children to be creative (what could it be?), look for something in the story (Eg make a noise at a certain word/ who gets angry?), vocal variation, quiet corner - Positive- attitude (you, them, program) Ignore bad behaviour, reward good (praise, teams and points, stickers, upfront roles) Be authoritative, clear and firm but not cross eg ‘we don’t do that here’ - Prevention- reason for bad behaviour? Talk to parents (ask other parents to), use a buzzer/ horn/ whistle/ clap/ hand in air/ finger on lip/ signal and freeze to get attention/quiet, have object to hold when talking, have ‘share chair’ beanbag where children can offload Rules, - simple eg (respect yourself, respect others, respect God), reasons, red and yellow cards (older children) Routines,- eg special needs, visual timetable, explain, turtle time- curl up and listen to hymn/ talk to God- what do you think He wants to say to you? Listen Relationship- know kids, use their names, home visits- include parents Let children fiddle/ multi task Reaching Out to The Community Dream big. Hand in hand with God. We are God’s best resource, united together. Pass baton to young volunteers- our ceiling of success is their platform of opportunity! Community- Research its needs. What is our community? PICK- Matt 4 (invest in few, encourage) REMEMBER- Purpose, how we felt as children ACT- Purpose, focus and invest Matthew 28: 11 In Training for the Long Haul Hebrews 12: 1-3- don’t stop until God calls you out Persecution- world not worthy of them. Children are church of the future and of right now! Equip them for the long haul. Reflect- look back and forward not just immediate demands. Greater vision. What hinders you? Throw off. From Global to Local ‘Today’- Youtube- 50 percent of population (2.2 billion) is young. 1 third of children in the world have never heard about Jesus. Less than 3 percent in Sunday school. Vision is beyond our lifetime- they will do greater things than us. Aim Lower- Youtube- Nothing is more important in the church today than children’s ministry. Empower children to reach out to others. In many countries- revival. Eg Africa 20000 church plants of children. Rate of children increasing – unique period in history. Focus- Jesus. God provides resources- He loves children more than we do! Eg feeding 5000, boy is nameless- about Jesus! Mothers Day government trial of parenting course- launch parenting courses. John 27: 21- united church. Last 10 yrs- worst natural disasters of all time. Releasing Children to Minister in All Age Worship Individual gifts/ passions- Identify, ask God, parents and children Teaching/ academy/ power pack groups- eg preach/ lead/ dance/ drama/ band/ heal/ plan service- gifted teachers for children, practise in children’s groups before doing it in family service. Build character and confidence. Double act- child and adult lead together. Children’s prayer team- children come in and pray for adults. Recruiting and Training Volunteers Together Everyone Achieves More Team building, empowering, encouraging, clear communication Recruitment- exciting, invite, opportunity to invest in precious children- privilege and joy, important and valuable ministry (commission volunteers), personal invitation, see try decide Challenge- recruit men (include technology/ sport), all ages, people not already involved, people have low confidence and don’t want to commit, people have lower view of childrens ministry PRAY FOR MINISTRY Train and support- prevent burn out- make sure fed as well as give, be clear about time commitment and give opportunities to step down each year- pray about if its right to continue, learn on the job. Vision. In house- equip through skilled people (teachers etc)/ external- eg child protection/ first aid, list of extra ideas/ filler activities Appreciate leaders- all staff thank and encourage volunteers, vicar visits groups, small gifts, annual meal, cards, personal interest Child Theology Information trap- connect with God not just know about Him- experience God is interested in children! WHY not HOW- Bible Teach children to pray- it isn’t bothering God. Don’t rush or prompt. Model chatty style. God loves every word and is close. Ask- when did you feel God close to you this week? Images of God- Distant/ overly happy/ angry/ mysterious/ headmaster God/ buddy Jesus. Try to present all sides of God to children (eg justice, jealousy, love and mercy) Teach about cycle of sin- God doesn’t reject you, not like friend but parent (unconditional love) Sin is like child in dirty sandbox, child happy but making her sick in the sand, father wants her to come out but she wont. Father is sad and hates the sand. God hates sin because it makes us sick. We should run to God when we sin and say sorry. Father happy and takes child away from danger. Preparing Yourself to Teach We are God’s best resource/ Living epistles- kids remember us not lessons. Personal relationship with God through Jesus by the power of the Holy Spirit. Rely on God not yourself. Write and memorise your testimony in a language children understand. God has called you- accountable to Him. Why are you teaching? Motivation. James 3: 1 Responsibility. Shapes future and present of church. Conversion, Consecration (Christ as first in life). 1 Peter 1: 14-16. Spiritual check up. 1- Do I speak the truth? Am I strictly honest? 2- Am I pure in thought/ word/ deed in my relations with the opposite sex? 3- Am I known as a Christian where I work? What kind? 4- If I have concealed my discipleship is it because Im ashamed of Christ? Does my life match my profession? 5- What am I like at home? 6- Do those who know me best respect me most? 7- Do I criticise the church/ Christians in front of others? 8- Do I acknowledge God with grace before meals wherever I am? 9- Do I live day by day in conscious dependence upon God, alert to what pleases Him? 10- Do I make time each day for personal Bible reading, prayer and listening to God? 11- Do I prepare my heart and mind before going to church? 12- Can I work easily with others? Can they work with me? 13- Do I dominate/ want God to advance or me to advance God’s cause? 14- Can I hear other Christians being praised and sincerely enjoy it? Do I praise others? 15- How much of my income do I give to God? 16- In what ways can I see myself growing as a Christian? Commitment (drop other commitments so you can prepare). Conviction (rely on Holy Spirit) 2 Timothy 3: 16, Hebrews 4: 12- Choose a verse to motivate you. Love children- visit, cards, pray, relationship, include in church services/ leadership. Cooperation- prayer partners (leaders pray for children and have someone pray for them), share childrens work with church, support Faith Begins At Home OT- Family was in clans which were in tribes- community, today is smaller. OT- Home life- Bible stories and God were in culture, geography, heroes and everyday life- natural. Today our culture is global media, TV and Internet. How can we learn from Santa Claus myth (invaded media and culture)? Leviticus 1-7- sacrifice a sheep/ child, Jesus is our sacrifice (visual, ketchup!) OT- children part of worship, Sabbath (fun not just what not to do), New Year and festivals (Eg Succoth camp outside in huts with families), today- how can we do this? Qs: What is most meaningful in my life? What significant things happened last year? OT evangelism centripetal (people drawn in through witness), today it is centrifugal (outreach), Neither work we need to go back to OT family model and find a new way. GOOD CHILDHOOD Report 2012 childrens society- UK 4/5 people think family more important than friends, but consumer pressure. 43hr average working week, 23.5 percent of earnings spent on childcare, 1 in 5 struggle to make ends meet. 64 percent of parents think they need to take more responsibility. Highest percent of teen mums. Under 20 percent of most disadvantaged families have a married couple heading them. Most children with behaviour problems come from disadvantaged backgrounds. 85 percent of parents believe parents responsibility to bring up children but only 10 percent do- too busy. Sweden/Spain easier to set boundaries for children- 4 x less on childcare, no consumer pressure. GEORGE BARNA- ‘when a woman comes to faith only 7 percent of families follow her lead whilest for men it is 93 percent’! 2009 Grove booklets. We lose 1000 children a week from church. Practical Ideas for Families at Home Nurture family life: - share meals (made by God) - playground (act out Bible adventures eg Jericho) - vegetable patch (experience creation) - family collage GOOD THINGS LEAD TO GOD THINGS- Belonging. Closeness God moments: - ask God about decisions - Bible reading notes - Bedtime prayers - Grace - Games (eg hunt the sheep not the thimble) - Personalize Bible story, put yourself and your family in (eg in car journeys) - What happens next in Bible story? Eg what was Adam and Eve’s first conversation? Ideas: - make new creations from playdoh and name them - Bubble prayers float up to God - Symbols/ actions for prayers - Walk in park- collect treasures for nature table - Visit zoo/ farm - Invent new worlds and name them - Draw what the world would look like if God hadn’t made some things/ what couldn’t you live without? - Throw ball and thank God for things/ pray - Draw where you like to go alone - Build a shelter for a sheep from lego - Pray: God made…. And it was very good. Thank you God. Each - Discuss fav Bible versions - Discuss how Bible stories make you feel - Play charades/ Pictionary with Bible characters - Watch Bible DVDs and discuss how different from Bible and why - Pray after reading the Bible - Change words of nursery rhymes- eg Ring a Ring a Roses Round the Walls of Jericho - Draw things to say sorry for on balloons, pray and pop - I Spy thanking God for things - Colour prayers- draw your thanks - Ask God what He wants to say to your family, draw or write - Special place to focus on God together - Mix up senses eg how does God’s love sound? - Pray eg thank you, today was good because… today was hard because.. - Prayer whiteboard- praise word for the day/ family prayer for the week Releasing Children with the Gospel Matt 28- Possibilities are endless! Fill and funnel children. What difference does knowing Jesus make at school? Simon Says- followers of the way, apply to yourself then children. Psalm 30- tell others about God, know God. Daily Bible and prayer. Children- consider priorities, learn to talk to Jesus, practise evangelising to friends, scenarios, learn to monitor language and behaviour and thoughts, learn to pray and minister. What news have you heard? What have you communicated? How many times have you told someone about Jesus this week? We live in a broken world- not everyone knows Jesus, dangerous church Reaching Unchurched Children Motivation- identity, purpose, love, hope of eternal life Spiritual hunger/ openness this Christmas more people at churches No Bible knowledge explain jargon Strategy- Nehemiah See need, respond, pray, vision, team work, equip team, God equips you Obstacles: Time, business, concerns over safety/ hidden agendas, age range Trial and error, stop/ change if not working and relaunch something else! Delights: Children open, inquisitive, fresh, Gods footprints- share with congregation and thank Him for what He is doing, plan, pray, ask God, inspire, prep, enjoy Often don’t see effects of seed planted. Mid week can be church! Work with other churches Serving God and Following Jesus Psalm 97. Ministry defined by faith not other way round! Put God 1st. Who am I? Most important- child of God. Reflect- where am I at? EG fiery furnace Bible story with 7-11s, idolatory. Ask God how He can be no 1 and model to children. Spirituality and Under Fives OFSTED- must have spiritual element. Awe and wonder. Under 5s experience it more than us- 1st experiences Spiritual paths- provide for each 1. Intellectual (stories) 2. Relational 3. Service 4. Corporate worship 5. Activist 6. Contemplative (silence, fasting) 7. Creation (God made it, show it!) Childrens dreams are vivid but they don’t know how to talk about them/ think they are important. Rebecca Nye- childrens spirituality connects to God. Einstein- learning is experience everything else is just info! Testimonies- explain eg if scared of dream, God can help us Ask parents what their children have been doing and include in group Throw childrens questions back at them to encourage critical thinking Thank you arch- children go under and say thank you for something before worship Relate childrens books to God eg Marvin wanted More Prodigal Son, contentment Talk to children- engage at their level The Power of Sports as a Language for Children Sport is global language. Partnership with other churches. Continue all year. Pull against eachother exercise, count fingers game. Paul- ‘cloud of witnesses’, focus on Jesus, run race before us Clip- 1992 Olympics father helps son Involve men and boys in sports, church set up feminine (listen and talk not do) Cairo 10 wks kids Olympics 40 percent continued in church Liberia- churches disarmed child soldiers with a football! Youtube- global sport video Keep running the race, ends when Jesus returns, starts with Gospel and Peter. Cloud of witnesses, need new generation of runners.
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