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B ridal FEBRUARY 2012 BRIDE ON A BUDGET BRIDEZILLA Getting married Are you a doesn’t need to bridezilla? break the bank A SPECIAL SUPPLEMENT TO THE VIDETTE Page 2 Bridal, The Vidette February 23, 2012 Engagement Information Wedding Information Full name of bride-to-be: _____________________________________ Full name of bride-to-be: ______________________________________________ Her place of residence: ______________________________________ Her place of residence: _______________________________ Bride-to-be’s parent(s): _____________________________________ Bride-to-be’s parent(s): __________________________________________________ Their place of residence: ____________________________________ Their place of residence: ___________________________ Occupation of bride-to-be: __________________________________ Occupation of bride-to-be: ______________________________Her education: __________________ Her education: ____________________________________________ Full name of future groom: ___________________________________________ Full name of future groom: __________________________________ His place of residence: _______________________________ His place of residence: ______________________________________ Future groom’s parent(s): _________________________________________________ Future groom’s parent(s): ____________________________________ Their place of residence: __________________________ Their place of residence: ____________________________________ Occupation of future groom: _________________________________His education: __________________ Occupation of future groom: _________________________________ Where ceremony was performed (day, date, time and location, if known): ____________________________ His education: ____________________________________________ _____________________________________________ When is the wedding (day, date, time and location, if known): Any special highlights of the ceremony: _______________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Officiated/performed by: ___________________________________________ Contact phone number for further information (not for publication): Reception was held where: ______________________________ _________________________________________________________ Maid/matron-of-honor: __________________________Bridesmaids: _______________________________ Best man: ____________________________________Groomsmen: _______________________________ P.O. 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Miller House Catering & 360.249.3311 email@example.com Deli HOQUIAM MASONIC BUILDING February 23, 2012 Bridal, The Vidette Page 3 ride Bon a B udget Getting married Pick a date Once you’re on the same page, you doesn’t need to need to pick a date if you haven’t already. If you are not in a hurry, a break the bank year gives most people time to plan and pay for expenses as they come up. By Marisa Salzer The time of day can also have an The Vidette impact on your budget. For example, if you host an afternoon wedding, C ongratulations, you’re guests will expect less than they would engaged! But wait — you of an evening wedding, such as dinner may be asking (or worrying) and entertainment. yourself: “don’t weddings cost a lot of money” or “this is my second wed- Pick a place ding, how much do I want to Where you will get married depends spend?” on cost, location (indoors or out- The good news is, with resources, doors), accommodation (how many you can have the wedding of your guests can it hold and how much dreams in Grays Harbor by thinking parking does it accommodate) and outside of the box and not breaking wedding theme. the bank. As a budget-minded person, Some ideas for a place to host a remarrying for the second time (and wedding for free or for very little cost last!) this past August, I am excited to include the beach (check the tides), a share some of my tips with you. backyard, state and city parks (parking fees may apply, and some cities may What kind of wedding? charge a small rental fee for use of the The first thing to do is to sit down park’s pavilion), a church you or your with your future better half and dis- fiancé is a member of or even some- cuss what kind of wedding you both place wacky and unusual — the place envision. There may be some things where you first met or went on your your fiancé had in mind that you had first date (if it is a business, speak to no idea about that are important. the owner or manager — they may be (Mine wanted a “stranger” to marry more than willing to help, especially if us, preferably a “little, old man” … it brings them more business). his words, not mine.) According to Linda Burnett of the Pick a budget. How much can you public affairs office for the Washing- afford to spend on your wedding? ton State Parks and Recreation Com- Your budget may determine how mission, weddings require a special many people can be invited or how activities permit, even if they are on much you can spend on your wedding the beach. There is a $10 application details. For my wedding, we invited fee plus $100 deposit for 0-100 peo- our closest family members and ple, $200 deposit for 101-200 people friends, opting to host a reception a and $300 for over 201 people. For the couple of months after our wedding South Beach area, call (360) 267- for everyone else. 4301 and North Beach area, (360) You will also need to discuss how 289-3553. State parks can also offer many people you would like to invite. shelters, barbecues and picnic areas; It helps to make a list of guests instead Sandy Bahr | For The Vidette of just throwing out a number. See Budget on 4 Getting creative can be budget-friendly. Seashells make an inexpensive beach-themed accessories. Page 4 Bridal, The Vidette February 23, 2012 Budget: budget to have them custom made. I ordered mine through Etsy.com as possible. Don’t be afraid to shop online. I Speaking of Etsy.com, I found my flower girl dresses (handmade too!) rately) to compliment our beach set- ting wedding. Not only was the cost Continued from 3 because I didn’t have the equipment did, mainly because I hate trying on for far less than I could find on any considerably less than purchasing or to do it myself. clothes and it wasn’t my first mar- other website or store. I also found even renting, he can use the separates call the park for more information. Many craft and department stores riage, so I didn’t need the whole dress matching father-and-son ties (hand- again for other occasions. Keep Grays Harbor’s unpredict- carry inexpensive do-it-yourself kits, shop boutique experience again. Be made again) for my husband and son. You may also want to consider bor- able weather in mind when choosing which only require a printer. You can sure to measure yourself correctly I was able to coordinate with the gal rowing an outfit from someone you an outdoor location (August and Sep- jazz up the invitations even further by and read the fine print on returns who made the flower girl dresses to know, or even hitting the consignment tember are the best months), and if filling the envelopes with confetti, before you hit the “buy now” button. send fabric to the tie-maker so every- and second-hand stores for something you expect several guests from out of embellishing the invitations with ink, Be sure to have a backup plan if you thing was matching. to match your wedding and budget. town, it may be best to pick a venue ribbons or even a vellum overlay. change sizes before the big day and that offers a place for guests to stay. be prepared to have your dress altered. The suit Pictures Officiant But beware — there are many knock- Fortunately there are many options, Depending on how serious you Do-it-yourself vs. planner For those of you choosing not to be off dresses for ridiculously low prices ranging from store-bought to rented. want to get with photography, you’ve One of the benefits of doing it married in a church, did you know that are made overseas. If it’s too But no one says that the suit has to be got a lot of options. yourself is that you have control over that you could have your best friend good to be true, it probably is. traditional or even a tux. My husband One such option is to head over to every detail, and one of the downsides or even your sister/brother marry Once you’ve found your dream selected a very nice linen set (the of doing it yourself is that you are you? Regardless of denomination, dress, scour the Internet again and see pants and jacket were bought sepa- See Budget on 5 responsible for making sure every- anyone can be ordained online for if you can find a better deal at a differ- thing goes as planned. free. In addition to free ordainment, ent, reputable website. Again, be sure I planned my own wedding because I’m creative and had time to do the projects I had in mind, plus I had a lot the Universal Life Church offers information on how to perform a wedding, sample vows, marriage and read the fine print before purchas- ing. If you’re looking for something Make A New Start! Tired of throwing away your of creative people willing to help. laws by state and more. Visit www. perhaps less traditional, the good A wedding planner can take a load themonastery.org. news is there are a lot of options avail- money on rent every month? off your plate; be sure to let them Because my husband wanted “a able for very low prices. For example, Put that monthly payment toward owning know upfront what your budget is. stranger … a little, old man” to marry Etsy.com features many handmade or a home instead! Favorable mortgage rates They may have several ideas within us, I took to the Internet and found a vintage dresses that are unique and and low property prices make now the your budget. “stranger” that I liked enough to inter- sure to be a showstopper. Scour the perfect time to buy, and I can help. If you decide to plan your own view, through weddingwire.com. Plug second-hand stores — though there Talk to me today! wedding, don’t be afraid to ask for in your zip code and you can find all may be several dresses from the ’80s help from family members and kinds of services available in the area. with the poofy sleeves (not that there’s friends. 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The invite and who not to invite, invitation good news is that you can still look options run from do-it-yourself to amazing without breaking the bank. you Spoke to her father… custom made. Deending on how Keep in mind it may take a few you Talked with the minister… many people you plan to invite, you months before your dress is ready, so may have enough money in your you need to get started on this as soon have you Talked to your nancial planner? Toll-Free 1-800-569-3030 Brumbaugh Insurance Services Dennis Brumbaugh, LUTCF Agent CALL NOW (360) 249-4341 February 23, 2012 Bridal, The Vidette Page 5 Budget: visit a craft store and ask for some florist supplies based on your needs. one wedding aspect you may want to leave to the professionals. However, it the cake topper or cake decorations by purchasing them yourself and hav- sure to get a contract, hear a demo and check references. Continued from 4 At the very least, you will need florist doesn’t have to cost hundreds of dol- ing the bakery use them on the cake. tape (it comes in white or green), pins, lars. There’s no law that says you Food Grays Harbor College to see if there ribbon of your choice to cover the have to eat cake, especially if you or Music and entertainment Depending on what time of day are any photography students willing stems of the bouquet and boutonniere your guests are not fond of it. Baker- For my wedding, I asked my best your wedding is, don’t sweat it — to capture the special day. Contact and possibly florist wire. The Internet ies also offer cupcake and cookie friend to download a list of songs onto you’ve got a lot of options. I hosted a Sarah Alvarez in the media services is a hotbed of ideas and instructions options in a cake-like structure. CDs. We played our wedding songs potluck for everyone in the backyard center at the Spellman Library, (360) for do-it-yourself wedding flowers. Consider purchasing a ready-made on a portable stereo on the beach of the beach cabin we rented. In the 538-4055 or email@example.com. You will need to remember that with cake from a local grocery store and when we were married and then invitation, we requested guests to Another option is to have formal fresh flowers, you will need to budget having them inscribe your names on played the other songs on a stereo at bring a potluck item in lieu of gifts. pictures taken beforehand at a studio, yourself some time to complete the it or the like. If this doesn’t float your our reception. It was easy and simple. You can also host a themed buffet, and have friends and family members project the day before the wedding. boat, do your homework and call all Other options may be to hire a single featuring desserts, cheese and cracker take candid shots during the wedding. of the area bakeries, including those at musician (guitar player or piano play- variety, barbecue or even finger foods. Disposable cameras given to children Favors and decorations the grocery stores to get pricing. Con- er) for a period of time. It may be All are really easy to pull together and can yield some really funny and cre- Making favors can be so much fun sider having them deliver it or desig- cheaper than renting a DJ and a dance pick up ready-made from most gro- ative shots — you’ll be surprised. because there is a lot you can do. I nate a friend or family member to floor or venue for a night. Craigslist cery stores or even bulk stores at a purchased inexpensive beach buckets pick it up. lists musicians and entertainers for reasonable price compared to having Flowers with shovels and filled them with However, you can save money on hire under the services section, be your reception catered. Here’s where you can get really beach balls, squirt guns and bubbles creative. For example, for my beach for the children who attended. For the wedding I opted not to use fresh flow- adults, I had bubbles that had our B P ers in my bouquets and boutonnières. I used seashells, feathers, beads, rib- names and wedding date on it. It was small, but the guests could keep it as …for Every Important Moment bon, dried flowers and raffia! With a a memento. few florist supplies, a hot glue gun Immediately following a holiday, and bamboo skewers, they turned out check department stores for decora- to be breathtakingly amazing! I also tions or possible party favors at a deep made hair clips for the flower girls discount (think Valentine’s Day or the and the girls who attended the wed- Fourth of July). Even if your wedding ding. They take very little time, and will not take place during the same are a real showstopper. time of year, the colors of the holiday If you’d like to use fresh flowers for may match your wedding. BonellPhotography.com your wedding, you will want to con- Make it homemade — canning sider the time of year and what is in fruit preserves, vegetables or even season. Buying flowers in pre-made those prized Chanterelles can make a bouquets will be considerably less expensive than having a florist arrange beautiful presentation at your wed- ding. Top each jar with a fabric to MAKE THAT the flowers. Also, if you happen to plan a wedding during the time the daffodils and tulips are blooming, you match your wedding, matched with a complementary ribbon and tag to commemorate your wedding. It’s a SPECIAL OCCASION could supply your entire wedding at a very reasonable cost by visiting the Satsop Bulb Farm. (Did you know gift that is practical, yet beautiful. The cake EXTRA SPECIAL you can also get married there too?) 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Things to consider when a bridesmaid (or bride) is pregnant B rides-to-be thinking of asking • Nonalcoholic drinks: From can be arranged so your bridesmaid a pregnant friend or family bachelorette parties to the wedding can sit down when she needs a rest. member to be in the bridal itself, be sure there are plenty of • Declined invitation: Some preg- party should know such a request is nonalcoholic and decaffeinated nant women will jump at the chance common. Recent findings indicate drinks she can enjoy. Pregnant to be in the wedding, while others that around half of all weddings now women need to have a lot of water to may realize their limitations and pre- have at least one member of the meet the physical demand of preg- fer to attend only as a guest. Have a bridal party showing off a baby bump nancy as well. another person in mind in case your — sometimes it’s even the bride her- • Travel: In the latter months of the bridesmaid invitation is declined, and self. pregnancy, many doctors advise do not hold it against the person if she Barring a medical condition, there against air travel. Spending long hours feels she won’t be able to commit is no reason a pregnant woman can’t in a car may be uncomfortable as during her pregnancy. be in the wedding and fulfill her obli- well. If you were thinking about hav- • Patience: Although all eyes are gations, so feel free to invite that ing the wedding far away, these are generally on the bride on her special — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. special someone to be in the wed- things that must be taken into consid- day, having a pregnant bridesmaid Having a pregnant friend or family member as a bridesmaid (or ding. There are just a few things to eration. You may want to revise your may garner a share of “oohs and bride) just takes a little extra planning. consider to help make it easier on plans if your heart is set on having this aahs” and attention for her as well. everyone involved. Think over these woman in the bridal party. It’s a humble bride who can share her things. • Ceremony: It can be tiring for a spotlight for a while. And remember, • Gowns: One of the things brides pregnant woman, especially one in the “something new” at your wed- and bridesmaids often fret about is the last trimester, to stand for a long ding may be that new baby who is on the gown they will be wearing. While period of time. If you are having a the way! nonpregnant members of the bridal long, religious ceremony, see if a seat — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. party won’t fluctuate much in weight from the day of their first fittings to the wedding day, a pregnant woman is growing with new life within her Let us design from the moment of conception. This a customized will have to be taken into consider- ation. Some maternity designers cre- wedding package ate bridesmaid dresses for pregnant to ﬁt your decorative women, but they may not exactly ﬂoral needs and budget. match the other gowns in mind. Ask the bridal store if alterations can be We use only the made to a standard gown, including ordering a much larger size, adding Call us for your freshest ﬂowers to elastic panels or another way to create unique and ensure the gown will stretch over a growing belly. Also, be considerate Rehearsal Dinner artistic arrangements and choose a gown in an empire waist style so that it is flattering for or other Special that will hold up beautifully throughout the pregnant bridesmaid. • Shoes: While pregnant, some Occasion! the day. women’s feet swell. Having strict restrictions on footwear can make a Call now for a pregnant woman uncomfortable. (360) 532-6563 free consultation! Low heels or ballerina slippers can be comfortable and fashionable. The Ask for Christina Kost (360) 249-8382 other members of the bridal party Marni’s may also thank you for choosing a sensible shoe. “Your Friendly Flower Shop” Petal Pushers • Breaks: Many activities during the wedding are bound to be tiring. But someone who is pregnant may feel it more than others. Ensure your mama-to-be has ample time to sit and ﬂoral & gifts rest. Also, try to have planning meet- 1 0 0 B r u m f i e l d Av e . We s t , S u i t e 5 ings near a restroom where she will be comfortable. February 23, 2012 Bridal, The Vidette Page 7 Are you a Bridezilla? Give F ew brides-to-be want to be • Extreme dieting. If dieting many want to have the “perfect” wed- tagged as a “bridezilla.” becomes extreme, including dramatic ding, fixating on every detail and However, engaging in cer- calorie control, binging or purging, it spending excessively to achieve per- tain behaviors just might earn them can be unhealthy and dangerous. Put- ceived perfection is bridezilla behav- that dubious distinction. The term ting appearances before well-being ior, entering a marriage in debt can likely was coined in a Boston Globe may constitute bridezilla behavior. strain newlywed bliss. article in June 1995. Since then, it has • Failing to spend time with a • Fighting with friends and fam- been widely used for an overbearing, fiance. When wedding planning and ily. Brides may bicker with their difficult and perfectionist bride. meetings take precedence over spend- moms over seating arrangements and Bridezillas have several traits in ing time with your fiance, it can set a hairstyles, but they might just be common. If a bride-to-be sees her poor course for the future marriage glossing over their evolving mother- behaviors on this list, she may want to and strain the current relationship. child relationship. Fighting just to make changes quickly or risk alienat- • A “me-first” attitude. It’s unpro- fight and draw attention to oneself is ing friends and family members. ductive for a bride-to-be to think that bridezilla behavior. • Talking about the wedding non- her family, bridemaids and others • Expecting preferential treat- stop. Getting married is exciting and involved in the wedding will drop ment. Many bridezillas are rude to stressful at the same time. It is good everything for the sake of the event. wedding vendors and think that they for brides to have enthusiasm about Although it is expected that a bridal deserve something extra. Brides the big day, but speaking incessantly party will partake in some tasks and should remember that these people over every little detail, especially responsibilities, they are not the prop- work hard, often with couples who when the conversation often veers to erty or employees of the bride. are emotional and feeling the stress of B idal complaints can be off-putting. • Going well over budget. While spending large amounts of money. — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. Turn Y ur O d Jewelry AFFORDABLE into a new wedding set or cash. BRILLIANCE WE BUY GOLD & SILVER HIGHEST PRICES PAID Same day evaluation and payment based on current market prices. W lso ake rade- ns. 601 W. Wishkah, Aberdeen (360) 532-8232 Page 8 Bridal, The Vidette February 23, 2012 W hy do We do T hat? Tradition, tradition The Jewish tradition of break- ing glass at a wedding dates back to the destruction of the C hances are those who have held different meanings in the past. ger has a blood vessel that goes ancient temple in Jerusalem. attended a wedding have Saracen brides carried orange blos- directly to the heart. Taking place at the conclusion witnessed some popular tra- soms for fertility. Others carried a • Wedding cake: The traditional of the Seven Blessings, the ditions take place. The bride wears combination of herbs and flowers to wedding cake evolved from Roman breaking of the glass is meant to a veil, a court of wedding attendants ward off evil spirits with their times when the cake was originally symbolize the breaking of the accompanies the bride and groom, aroma. Bouquets of dill were often made from wheat. It was broken Jewish people’s hearts at the and birdseed, rice or flower petals carried, again for fertility reasons, over the bride’s head to ensure fer- destruction of the temple. In are tossed. But have you ever won- and after the ceremony, the dill was tility. All of the guests eat a piece addition, the tradition is meant dered why? The wedding customs eaten to encourage lust. for good luck. Single women used to remind the Jewish people that are ripe with tradition and harken • Bridesmaids: There may be to place a piece of wedding cake even at the height of their happi- back to days when superstition and arguments over dresses and how under their pillows in the hopes of ness, they must never forget the myth often ruled the day. many bridesmaids to have in a wed- finding their own husbands. destruction of the temple. Dur- • Throwing rice: Today it has ding party now, but in ancient times • Father accompanying the ing the ceremony, the groom become de rigueur to blow bubbles, it was “the more the merrier.” That’s bride: This tradition symbolizes that will stomp on a glass wrapped toss birdseed or release doves when because bridesmaids were another the bride’s father endorses the choice in a cloth. Though it’s meant to the bride and groom leave the house measure to keep the bride safe in husbands and is presenting his remind the bride and groom as of worship newly betrothed. That’s against evil spirits. Essentially the daughter as a pure bride to that man. well as their guests what the because savvy individuals found bridesmaids were decoys for the • Kissing the bride: In older times, Jewish people have been through that raw rice can pose a hazard to spirits — dressing like the bride to a kiss symbolized a legal bond. There- throughout their history, this tra- birds pecking in the area. However, confuse the spirits or maybe help fore, the bride and groom kissed to dition has become a ritual many rice throwing is an old custom that deter them to leave the bride be. seal the deal on their betrothal. look forward to despite what it’s dates back to the Middle Ages, • Wedding rings: Wearing of There are many traditions sur- intended to symbolize. In fact, when wheat or rice where thrown to wedding rings dates back to ancient rounding a wedding that people the shouts of “Mazel tov!” once symbolize fertility for the couple. Egypt. The round shape of a ring simply accept. But understanding the glass has been smashed typi- • Bouquet: Nowadays, the bride symbolizes eternal love. The ring is their origins can make the ceremony Traditional wedding cake cally begins a joyous celebra- carries a beautiful bouquet of flow- worn on the fourth finger of the left more meaningful. dates to Roman times when it tion. ers. But the purpose of the bouquet hand because it is believed this fin- — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. was broken over the bride’s — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. head to ensure fertility. COMBINING HOUSEHOLDS? Need a bigger place? Burkhamer Property Services can help you ﬁnd a new home & ﬁnd tenants for your old home. We promise reliable & professional Property Management Services at an affordable price. CALL TODAY! 249-2740 “Excellence in Service is our Goal” February 23, 2012 Bridal, The Vidette Page 9 P opping the Q uestion Tips to encourage her to say ‘I do’ A ccording to David change color or fade. It symbolizes it up and stick it in an envelope “Remember, the proposal bride-to-be and chances are Tutera, wedding guru a relationship that will endure. with a love note and his name on and engagement doesn’t have she’ll jump to say, ‘yes,’ ” says and party-planning Also, choosing a lasting metal it.” to be expensive to be memora- O’Connor. expert, “Men should propose means that your engagement ring There are many other proposal ble. Simply keep in mind the with personality, making it echo can become a family heirloom, ideas that can secure this special personality and likes of the — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. something meaningful to your passed down from generation to moment. Consider these tips, cour- weddings Customevery budget relationship with one another generation. tesy of O’Connor. and do it in a place that high- When selecting a setting, experts • Make it personal. Propose at lights your love story.” That cer- including Tutera and O’Connor a place that has great meaning for tainly sounds like good advice. recommend putting some thought your relationship — where you But while women seem to have into a design that is classic because first met, or the place where you the knack for conjuring up per- fect wedding-related ideas, men tend to be a bit clueless on the subject. this will be a ring that she will cher- ish through the ages. “Choose a setting that truly reflects how you feel about your first said “I love you.” Think about the romantic places you have visited together that can serve as the perfect backdrop for for Naturally, the first element partner,” says Tutera. a proposal. involved with a proposal is buy- Although the ring is a very • Think back to all of those ing an engagement ring. “This is important component of the entire chick flicks you were persuaded not just any ring ... it is ‘the’ ring proposal, make it memorable. into watching. Was there a pro- that she’ll cherish for the rest of “How did he propose?” is often posal scene that she gushed about her life, and may possibly pass the first question her girlfriends or another movie moment that down to her children in the will ask once she has gotten stood out? Consider recreating that future,” says Tutera. Jewelry engaged. feeling in the proposal. If need be, expert, Michael O’Connor offers, Whether taking place at the man up and rewatch her favorite Call for your consultation today! “There’s a very good chance the beach or a page right out of a movies for ideas. bride has a platinum engagement fairytale, many women dream of a • Consider spontaneity. Sim- (360) 533-4560 ring in mind. It’s possible that memorable proposal. ply scratch “Will you marry me” she’s even offered hints about it, In a recent contest on Glamour. in the sand while walking on the leaving magazine photos on the table or admiring a ring in a jew- elry store window.” Like gold, platinum is a great choice for engagement rings and com, contest entrant Briana D. from New York offers the following hint, “I have always dreamt of a fairy- tale proposal and what better way to drop the ball than to draw out the beach and hand her the ring in a seashell. • Do it the old fashioned, and tried-and-true way. Bend down on one knee with a rose and ring in Barnes Florist Making Scents Since 1959 wedding bands because it won’t ring design that I have in mind, fold hand. The Perfect Wedding “A beautiful community gathering place along the Chehalis River.” D A Rotary Log N Pavilion Seating C for 200. people E Arlene Hoiland Certiﬁed Instructor will choreograph your wedding dance. Only $50 per hour Photo by MP Merril Photo To get dancing call… (360) 533-1412 There are still many open dates, call: Arlene Hoiland is formerly with Arthur Murray & Fred Astaire 6939 North Bank Rd. Dance Studios and formerly a West Coast Grand Champion Aberdeen, WA 98520 Ballroom Dancer. Page 10 Bridal, The Vidette February 23, 2012 D o I t Y ourself W edding money on an extra envelope. • Check with your town if you need a permit or variance for having so many cars parked by the house in the event of a backyard wedding. Other- wise you could be facing a fine. T hose thinking about tying well-planned wedding is the best oneself. Candles can be stockpiled face for placing tables or creating a • Many different foods can be the knot in the months to start. relatively easy and provide a very dance floor. cooked in advance and frozen instead come may be discouraged Grab a notebook and start making affordable means of ambient light. It may pay to ask an electrician to of hiring a catering service. by how expensive weddings can be. lists of all the things you will need: Plan out centerpiece ideas and figure help string some lights to better illu- • Consider favors that also double But with a little ingenuity and a • location out which components can be bought minate the area. as table centerpieces. hands-on approach, couples can have • tables and chairs and stored. Then items can be assem- • Bouquets can easily be made with a wedding that is inexpensive and • linens bled at leisure. Wedding stationery is Other Tips and Tricks store-bought flowers, some floral tape memorable at the same time. • food one thing that will have to be bought • Fruit is less expensive than flow- and decorative ribbon. According to CostofWedding.com, • silverware and glassware well in advance so there will be time ers for centerpieces. • Restrict the bar to wine and beer, on average, U.S. couples spend • invitations enough to print save-the-dates, invita- • Include postcard response cards and you’ll save money on expensive $26,542 for their weddings. That does • photography tions and response cards, as well as in wedding invites. The postage is liquors. not include the cost for an engage- • music mail them. less, and you don’t have to spend — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. ment ring or wedding bands. With • officiant An informal wedding may mean such a high price tag, some couples • music couples can get simple attire. Buying wonder if they can afford their dream • centerpieces and other decor off the rack may mean a smaller price wedding. DIY wedding can be the answer. • cake or dessert • lighting tag for gowns. Gentlemen may be able to fare with sportcoats and slacks. Visit us for our Smart couples are realizing that the money they would normally spend on • attire • flowers Keep your eye out for deals in advance. complete selection a big wedding at an outside venue can be put to better use, either through Work in Advance Enlist the help of family and friends to get many of the tasks completed. of wedding… buying a new home or fixing up one Many items necessary for a wed- Upon asking, many couples find there they may already own. Furthermore, ding can be bought in advance. Some are members of the family who have for couples who are picky about couples find that purchasing low-cost skills: There may be a gourmet chef, details, having a DIY event ensures items at discount stores turns out to be a disc jockey, a photographer or even that they can control details and have less expensive than renting. For someone who can officiate the vows. them as personal as they would like. example, inexpensive glasses and sil- verware can be bought at dollar stores. Readying the Venue Since 1959 Getting Started Later on these items can be kept, sold Because couples will be doing the A DIY wedding is one that will or even donated to shelters. work themselves, it’s best to start take much more work than simply Tablecloths don’t have to be the several days in advance. Be sure the hiring vendors and leaving the details traditional kind. It may be less expen- grounds are well groomed and land- to them. But the money saved with sive to purchase pieces of fabric from scaped. Ensure there are no tripping sweat equity can be substantial. A a fabric store and dressing them up hazards and that there is a sturdy sur- A ring to build a future on. Beautiful Gifts For your wedding or shower Fiestaware Since 1926 Harbor Drug & Gifts Jewelry Store, Inc. February 23, 2012 Bridal, The Vidette Page 11 S ecrets to a L ong and H M appy arriage S ome might say a long playing the protector to his wife. In divorce as the only solution instead of celebrity marriage is one reality, marriage is more of a partner- discovering ways to remove the cause that endures the duration of ship, and truth and trust are often at of strife. Divorce can sometimes be the newly betrothed’s trip down the the basis of good marriages. the easy way out when you think aisle. We’ve seen Britney Spears There are many other “secrets” that about the work that goes into keeping dissolve a marriage after 55 hours marriage experts will offer to couples a marriage working. Experts say that and Kim Kardashian call it quits seeking the magic formula: there are a few issues, like adultery, after 72 days. • There’s no such thing as the abuse and drug/alcohol addiction, that But some couples have been perfect marriage. Some couples cre- may be reasonable catalysts for together for 50, 60 years and say ate an image of what they think mar- divorce if personal safety and sanity is they’re still as much in love as they riage is supposed to be, and that being compromised. were the day they spoke their “I dos.” image that often goes “poof” once • Make time for romance. It’s eas- What do they know that others do reality sets in. Even soulmates are ily said but not so easily done. Too not? bound to frustrate or irritate one often married couples forget what it According to clinical psychologist another from time to time. was like to date when all of their Couples who have stayed married for decades often put each and relationship guru Dr. Phil • Couples should express their attention was spent on each other other first and share a mutual respect. McGraw, “We all need to be flexible frustrations. Bottling up frustrations instead of the house, kids, work, etc. and to compromise in marriage, but can eat at a person and eventually Today there seems to be even more your spouse than you take. If he or stranger? Probably not. Good mar- you’ve got to be true to your core destroy a marriage. Talking about the distractions, from e-mails to texts to she is doing the same, you’re working riages are based on a foundation of traits and characteristics, what I call things that are bothering you with pressure and obligations at the office. collectively for the benefit of the mar- respect and love. It’s easy to lose feel- your authentic self.” Some couples your partner opens up a discussion Happy couples find the time to spend riage instead of yourselves. ings of love if the respect is gone. enter a relationship projecting a per- and can help you work through quality time with their spouses — • Respect each other. Often cou- Couples can realize that there are sona they believe the other person things. even if that’s only 10 minutes of alone ples having troubles realize they treat some thorns that come with the roses wants -- one that really isn’t what • Divorce should not be seen as a time a day. strangers better than they treat each of marriage, and staying happy they’re all about. This could be a viable option. Couples who want to • Put “we” first. Many people other. Would you use the insults or together does take work for it to all be woman trying to fill the role of her bail on the marriage at every turn operate on a “me” mentality. When unflattering terms that you sometimes worth it. husband’s nurturing mom or a guy could be directing their energy toward you’re part of a couple, give more to throw at your spouse with a complete — Metro Creative Graphics Inc. Custom Wedding Packages All-inclusive and custom Wedding Packages available. 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