Premarital counseling is a tool used by soon-to-be-wed couples that allows them to learn more about
each other before taking the brave leap down the aisle. These days, faced with high divorce rates,
couples are opting to go into marriage as students and spend time studying what makes a marriage
successful. This is a crucial for many young couples as the society approves more and more of younger
couples who move in early and jump into taking the big step. Marriage is an important and difficult
commitment and couples are rightfully justified in studying each other and what makes a marriage
Financial strain is one of the leading reasons for divorce. Imagine being able to put all of your concerns
about your future finances as a couple on the table. Imagine getting your significant other's honest
thoughts on the matter before the situation actually arises. If you have ever done business strategy
work, you might have heard of a method called SWOT analysis. SWOT stands for strengths, weaknesses,
opportunities, and threats. As a SWOT analysis takes a look at a business, premarital counseling does the
same. It looks at the strength and weaknesses of a couple. It identifies opportunities for growth, and
brings future relationship threats to the table. Through a facilitated dialogue, a couple can openly
discuss the ins and outs of their relationship. They will be able to discuss strategies for dealing with
financial strain thus allowing them to be better equipped as a couple to handle the pressure and burden
that comes with financial problems.
In additional to preparing couples on how to deal with potential problems, premarital counseling also
aims to clarify on the intentions for getting married. It brings a couple to glimpse their future to see
now, if they feel their relationship has what it takes to make it through the bad and the worse. Before
you sign-up for counseling, you need to find out who can conduct your session. Good thing you have
quite a few options.
Premarital counseling can be provided by licensed marriage and family therapists. In the United States,
couples can search the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy to look for a practitioner
in their area. Once you find a therapist, don't hesitate to call and ask a few questions. They are there to
address your needs and concerns and you should put down the phone or end the visit feeling
comfortable. Your partner needs to feel the same as well.
Priests and Pastors
There are many groups handling premarital counseling. You have the Christian faiths like Catholics,
Baptist, Protestants, Evangelicals and many more, who conduct regular premarital counseling for
couples. Many of these Christian faiths require the counseling prior to marriage. For the Catholic Faith, it
is usually the parish priest who conducts the premarital counseling session. The priest will interview the
marrying couple, ask them questions on how they met, how their relationship is going now and why
they wanted to get married. A Pre-Cana, or a seminar, will also follow the counseling session.