Let’s Get Real: The
Truth About Bullying
By: Ashley Berry, Corinne
Blackburn, and Emily Eaton
Who is the bully? The bully can be:
• Boy or girl
• Large or small
• Popular or unpopular
• Attractive or unattractive
The three kinds of bullying
1. Verbal bullying- This is the most
often reported kind of bullying. It
includes name-calling, taunting, cruel
criticism, and racist slurs. This
bullying can take place in person,
over the phone, or even e-mail.
This kind of bullying is the easiest to
get away with.
2. Physical bullying- This kind of
bullying includes slapping, hitting,
choking, poking, kicking, pinching,
biting, scratching, and spitting. It
also includes destroying personal
3. Relational bullying- This kind of
bullying includes ignoring, isolating,
excluding, or shunning.
The warning signs of a kid that is being
• Stealing money from home
• Has torn or missing clothing
• Plays alone or prefers to hang around
• Takes an unusual route to school
Why Kids Don’t Tell
• They are ashamed of being bullied
• They don’t think anyone can or will
• They have learned that “ratting” on a
peer is not cool
• They are afraid of retaliation
The bystander is the one to see the
person get bullied, but usually does
nothing about it. The bystander is
afraid that if he/she tells they will
become a new target to get bullied.
What Do I Do If I See Someone
Just remember CARES!
Creative Problem Solving- Come up with helpful ways
to deal with bullying
Adult Help- This is not tattling when it keeps others
Relate and Join- Join with and support the victims
Empathy- Try to understand the feelings of the victim
Stand Up and Speak Out- Say, “Bullying is not
What Can I Do If I’m Being
Just Think HA,HA,SO!
Help- When someone bullies you, you can ask other students,
teachers, parents, or siblings to help you
Assert Yourself- When someone picks on you, you can say
“Please stop that. I don’t like it.”
Humor- You can try to find a funny way to deal with the bully
Avoid- stay away from kids who are mean
Self talk- When someone is mean to you, say to yourself “I’m
okay, this is that kid’s problem, and being mean isn’t right.”
Own It- Deflect a put down by owning it. For example, if
someone says “That’s an ugly dress,” you can say “I don’t like it
either, but my mom made me wear it.”
What To Do If You’re Being
Remember to use HA,HA,SO. This
includes: Helping, asserting yourself,
using humor, avoiding mean kids, self-
talk, and owning it.
Also remember that it is your right not
to be bullied. Ask adults and friends
Why Bullying Matters
What Happens To The Bully
Bullies are at risk for problems, too. Bullying
is violence, and it often leads to more
violent behavior as the bully grows up. Some
teen bullies end up being rejected by their
peers and lose friendships as they grow
older. Bullies may also fail in school and not
have the career or relationship success that
other people enjoy.
Why Bullying Matters
What Happens to the Bullied
One of the most painful aspects of bullying is its
relentlessness. The seemingly never-ending nature
of bullying can put a person in a state of constant
fear, and kids who are bullied may find their
schoolwork and health suffering.
Studies show that people who are abused by their
peers are at risk for mental health problems such as
depression or anxiety. They may also think about
Myths Vs Facts
Myth:Name-calling and teasing are just normal parts
of growing up.
Fact: This behavior is not normal and needs to be
Myth:Boys are usually the bullies.
Fact:Girls are becoming more physically aggressive and
the relational bullying they do can be extremely
Myth:If we ignore minor incidents they’ll go away
Fact:No. This behavior will continue unless we
confront it for what it is.
Bullies are very mean,
They’re tall or small and sometimes lean,
All I know is what they do,
Is bully, bully kids like you.
I watched a fight this afternoon,
But I had to go away too soon,
When I left the bully yelled,
“Give me the money by the morning bell!”