LIFE SKILLS TRAINING by bharathvemaluri


									Life Skills
     Making Decisions
• To make the best decisions possible,
  you will need to be aware of the
  people or things around you that can
  influence your decisions.
• You also need to learn an organized
  method for making decisions.
     3 C’s of Effective
      Decision Making
• Step 1 – CLARIFY the decision to be
• Step 2 – CONSIDER the possible
• Step 3 – CHOOSE the best
   Making Decision Page
• Make a list of the most important
  decisions that you have to make
  every (or every other) day. These
  decisions can be for school, at home
  or with friends. Indicate with a
  check mark on who influences you.
    Putting the 3 Cs in
• Read each of the decisions described
  and (1) CLARIFY the problem,
• (2) list and then CONSIDER the
  possible solutions and their likely
  consequences, and
• (3) CHOOSE the best solution
      Making Decisions
• Pick two decisions that you have to
  make now or sometime in the near
  future. Briefly describe the situation
  then use the 3 Cs.
    Myths and Realities
• Myth: Cigarettes are not as
  dangerous as people say
            Myth 2
• Its easy to quit smoking

            Myth 3
• Most People smoke cigarettes

              Myth 4
• Smoking is cool and socially

TRUE     or     FALSE
  Smoking Worksheets
• First page… Write down the class
  estimates of the % of teenagers
  whop smoke, drink and use marijuana
  (and other drugs) at least once a
  month. Then compare to the national
    My Reasons for not
• List all that you can think of….
• Alcohol is absorb through the walls
  of the stomach and intestines,
  .directly into the bloodstream.
• It slows down brain activity
• Alcohol affects both bodily functions
  and behavior…
    Myths and Realities
• Myth: The best way to get high is to
  Drink And Take Drugs…
• Myth: Its cool to drink…
• If I get offered a drink, friends will
  think I am a wimp if I say no….
• Its okay as long as I limit the
  drinking to beer and wine only….
Reasons for Not Drinking
• List as many as you can think of…
     Marijuana (Ms` jane)
        The Effects…
•   Heart to beat faster
•   Raises blood pressure
•   People less steady
•   Makes people sleepy
•   Makes it harder to pay attention
•   Makes some depressed
•   Many same internal effects as with
  Reasons Not to do the
• List as many reasons as you can think
 Advertising…Is it good?
• Advertisers TARGET certain groups
  of people… various methods….
  –   Celebrities
  –   Voice of Authority
  –   Scientific evidence (just bull)
  –   Comparison tests (another bull)
         More Methods
•   Demonstrations
•   Bandwagon Appeal
•   Sex Appeal
•   Sophistication appeal
•   Fun/Relaxation
•   Popularity Appeal
 Practice Analyzing Ads
• Watch Ad then complete the Activity
 Violence and the Media
• List TV Shows/Movies that you
  recently watched. (At Least 4) Did
  they show any of the items to the
• Pick a certain show from above and
  then write a description. Was there
  any violence?
  Take a Reality Check!
• Do Activity…….
    Coping with Anxiety
• How many have ever felt any anxiety?

• If you state that you never
  have…your are lying to yourself!
     Coping Mechanisms
• Sit quietly in comfortable position
• Close your eyes
• Slowly relax your muscles, start from your
  feet and go up…
• Imagine yourself on a beach totally alone
  with the wind in your hair, sun on your
  shoulders and birds chirping and singing..
• Do this 10 minutes a day
• or when you feel stressed
      Deep Breathing
• Breath in deeply from your diaphram
  to a count of 4
• Hold it for a count of 4
• Breath out slowly for a count of 4
• Repeat 4 times
    Coping with Anxiety
• Situation: Having to speak in front of
  a class for 5 minutes
• Signs: rapid heart beat, sweats, dry
• Next page: Rate how anxious you
  usually feel in each situation from
  the first part..
     Coping with Anger
• The Warning Light… picture a light
  inside your head. It flashes a warning
  when you need to stop and Think
  before speaking or acting.
• Count to ten and take deep breaths.
• Look the other person in the eye.
• Use Self-Statements
     Communication Skills
•   Both Verbal and nonverbal
•   Give examples of both…
•   Can be good or bad..
•   Often misinterpreted….

• Complete Activity…
    Skills for Avoiding
• The sender sends one message for
  the receiver sees it differently
• 1. Send the same message both
  verbally and nonverbally
• 2. Be specific
• 3. Ask Questions
• 4. Paraphrase
         Social Skills
• Learn to Act: pretend, play a role
• Start Small: practice in easy
• Prepare yourself: Practice, Mirror,
   Meeting New People
• Start the conversation with
  something you both may have in
• Give compliments/ Makes the other
  feel good.
• Lets do an example…..
       Keep It Going…
• Ask questions
• Tell a story about yourself
• Get the other to talk about
• Let them know you are listening
• Be happy
• Verbal clues/Nonverbal clues
        How to End It…
•   Should be smooth
•   Don’t cut the person off
•   Use good nonverbal clues
•   Be sure the person knows
    – You are about to leave
    – You enjoyed the conversation
    – You hope to meet up again
        but not bossy
• Say no
  – State your position
  – Reason behind position
  – Be understanding
  How to ask for Favors
• State the problem and make sure the
  person understands that problem
• Tell how you might change the
  problem. How can that person be part
  of the solution
        How to Say It…
•   Loudness of Voice
•   Eye Contact
•   Facial Expressions
•   Distance

• Do activities
    Resolving Conflicts
• 1. Stay Cool
  – Take a deep breath
  – Count to 10
  – Tell yourself that you are too “cool” to
    be angry
    Resolving Conflicts
• 2. Cool off your opponent
  – Say “Its not worth fighting over
  – Use your sense of humor
    Resolving Conflicts
• 3. Listen to the Other Person
  – Eye Contact
  – Restate what is said then “is that
  – Keep your physical distance
       Resolving Conflict
• 4. Stand Up for Yourself
  –   Use I statements
  –   Give your reasons…
  –   Stand Tall
  –   Speak with confidence
    Resolving Conflicts
• 5. Show Respect
  – Don’t say what is wrong with the other
  – Try to understand why the other may
    think what they think
  – Agree if you can
  – If you are in the wrong..Apologize
       Resolving Conflict
• 6. Solve the Problem
  –   Compromise
  –   Consider all solutions
  –   Ask: Why, Why Not, What If….
  –   Consider the Consequences

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