"LIFE SKILLS TRAINING"
Life Skills Making Decisions • To make the best decisions possible, you will need to be aware of the people or things around you that can influence your decisions. • You also need to learn an organized method for making decisions. 3 C’s of Effective Decision Making • Step 1 – CLARIFY the decision to be made • Step 2 – CONSIDER the possible alternatives • Step 3 – CHOOSE the best alternative Making Decision Page • Make a list of the most important decisions that you have to make every (or every other) day. These decisions can be for school, at home or with friends. Indicate with a check mark on who influences you. Putting the 3 Cs in practice • Read each of the decisions described and (1) CLARIFY the problem, • (2) list and then CONSIDER the possible solutions and their likely consequences, and • (3) CHOOSE the best solution Making Decisions • Pick two decisions that you have to make now or sometime in the near future. Briefly describe the situation then use the 3 Cs. Smoking Myths and Realities • Myth: Cigarettes are not as dangerous as people say TRUE or FALSE Myth 2 • Its easy to quit smoking TRUE or FALSE Myth 3 • Most People smoke cigarettes TRUE or FALSE Myth 4 • Smoking is cool and socially acceptable TRUE or FALSE Smoking Worksheets • First page… Write down the class estimates of the % of teenagers whop smoke, drink and use marijuana (and other drugs) at least once a month. Then compare to the national survey. My Reasons for not Smoking • List all that you can think of…. Alcohol • Alcohol is absorb through the walls of the stomach and intestines, .directly into the bloodstream. • It slows down brain activity • Alcohol affects both bodily functions and behavior… Myths and Realities • Myth: The best way to get high is to Drink And Take Drugs… • Myth: Its cool to drink… • If I get offered a drink, friends will think I am a wimp if I say no…. • Its okay as long as I limit the drinking to beer and wine only…. Reasons for Not Drinking • List as many as you can think of… Marijuana (Ms` jane) The Effects… • Heart to beat faster • Raises blood pressure • People less steady • Makes people sleepy • Makes it harder to pay attention • Makes some depressed • Many same internal effects as with cigarettes Reasons Not to do the Jane • List as many reasons as you can think of: Advertising…Is it good? • Advertisers TARGET certain groups of people… various methods…. – Celebrities – Voice of Authority – Scientific evidence (just bull) – Comparison tests (another bull) More Methods • Demonstrations • Bandwagon Appeal • Sex Appeal • Sophistication appeal • Fun/Relaxation • Popularity Appeal Practice Analyzing Ads • Watch Ad then complete the Activity Violence and the Media • List TV Shows/Movies that you recently watched. (At Least 4) Did they show any of the items to the right? • Pick a certain show from above and then write a description. Was there any violence? Take a Reality Check! • Do Activity……. Coping with Anxiety • How many have ever felt any anxiety? • If you state that you never have…your are lying to yourself! Coping Mechanisms • Sit quietly in comfortable position • Close your eyes • Slowly relax your muscles, start from your feet and go up… • Imagine yourself on a beach totally alone with the wind in your hair, sun on your shoulders and birds chirping and singing.. • Do this 10 minutes a day • or when you feel stressed Deep Breathing • Breath in deeply from your diaphram to a count of 4 • Hold it for a count of 4 • Breath out slowly for a count of 4 • Repeat 4 times Coping with Anxiety • Situation: Having to speak in front of a class for 5 minutes • Signs: rapid heart beat, sweats, dry mouth…. • Next page: Rate how anxious you usually feel in each situation from the first part.. Coping with Anger • The Warning Light… picture a light inside your head. It flashes a warning when you need to stop and Think before speaking or acting. • Count to ten and take deep breaths. • Look the other person in the eye. • Use Self-Statements Communication Skills • Both Verbal and nonverbal • Give examples of both… • Can be good or bad.. • Often misinterpreted…. • Complete Activity… Skills for Avoiding Misunderstanding • The sender sends one message for the receiver sees it differently • 1. Send the same message both verbally and nonverbally • 2. Be specific • 3. Ask Questions • 4. Paraphrase Social Skills • Learn to Act: pretend, play a role • Start Small: practice in easy situations • Prepare yourself: Practice, Mirror, Scripts… Meeting New People • Start the conversation with something you both may have in common. • Give compliments/ Makes the other feel good. • Lets do an example….. Keep It Going… Conversation • Ask questions • Tell a story about yourself • Get the other to talk about themselves • Let them know you are listening • Be happy • Verbal clues/Nonverbal clues How to End It… Conversation • Should be smooth • Don’t cut the person off • Use good nonverbal clues • Be sure the person knows – You are about to leave – You enjoyed the conversation – You hope to meet up again Assertiveness but not bossy • Say no – State your position – Reason behind position – Be understanding How to ask for Favors • State the problem and make sure the person understands that problem • Tell how you might change the problem. How can that person be part of the solution How to Say It… • Loudness of Voice • Eye Contact • Facial Expressions • Distance • Do activities Resolving Conflicts • 1. Stay Cool – Take a deep breath – Count to 10 – Tell yourself that you are too “cool” to be angry Resolving Conflicts • 2. Cool off your opponent – Say “Its not worth fighting over – Use your sense of humor Resolving Conflicts • 3. Listen to the Other Person – Eye Contact – Restate what is said then “is that right?” – Keep your physical distance Resolving Conflict • 4. Stand Up for Yourself – Use I statements – Give your reasons… – Stand Tall – Speak with confidence Resolving Conflicts • 5. Show Respect – Don’t say what is wrong with the other person – Try to understand why the other may think what they think – Agree if you can – If you are in the wrong..Apologize Resolving Conflict • 6. Solve the Problem – Compromise – Consider all solutions – Ask: Why, Why Not, What If…. – Consider the Consequences