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adult residents. The program also provides a sense of
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2010 Winter Newsletter
Neighbor to Neighbor
PO Box 463, Ouray 81427 325-4586
Doreen Pulbratek, Senior Coordinator
FRIENDSHIP: A Prescription for Health
Loneliness is like hunger or thirst. It’s a sign that something necessary for your survival
is missing says John Cacioppo, Ph.D. director of the Center for Cognitive and Social
Neuroscience at the University of Chicago.
Of course, there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. Many people are solitary
by nature or by choice and may not be content as social people.
Those who are lonely, on the other hand, seem more likely to withdraw when stressed than
those who have a social network, according to one study by Dr. Cacioppo. They may not turn
to others for comfort or support, and can feel overwhelmed by the stress of daily life.
Loneliness can have physical effects as well. These may include an increased risk of high blood
pressure, Alzheimer’s disease, dementia, memory loss and sleep problems.
Making friends isn’t always easy, especially as we get older. Still it’s possible to strike up new
friends no matter what your age. If that’s a priority for you, consider the following ideas from
Extend yourself. Make an effort to interact with others. Try volunteering or community
service. Invite others over for dinner.
Expect the best. Lonely people may expect rejection. Such expectations can lead to a
self-fulfilling prophecy, says Dr. Cacioppo. Try looking for people’s good nature.
Be selective. Good relationships are beneficial for both people involved, Dr. Cacioppo says.
There’s a chance to trust and be trusted, to support and be supported, during times of need. It’s
better to have a few close relationships than to have many casual acquaintances that still leave
you feeling lonely.
Develop an action plan. Consider the things that you enjoy doing and participate in those
activities. For instance, if you’d like to be more active, join a walking group or bowling league.
If you like to read, getting involved in a book club may be a good way to meet people with
By opening yourself up and reaching out to others, you may be surprised by the rewards – new
friendships and a healthier you.
The above article is taken from “Taking Care, Healthy Living After 50”, May 2009/vol. 11
by Vicci Spencer:
The holidays were such a fun time in Ouray County, as there were many wonderful events that
we could attend. The Miracle on 34th Street was a delightful movie matinee presentation, the
Ouray County Chorus entertained us as always, and The Nutcracker wowed us again. Neighbor
to Neighbor was there to provide transportation to all of these events. One evening the week
before Christmas, Neighbor to Neighbor volunteers drove the seniors around the City of Ouray
to look at and enjoy the many Christmas light displays. We then returned to the First
Presbyterian Church were we had dessert and hot drinks. John, playing the saxophone and
Virginia Ast were kind enough to lead us in caroling.
In January, again, we had some great times together. Our movie matinee was a thoroughly
enjoyable afternoon with popcorn and lemonade. We were entertained with the documentary,
“Young at Heart” and in February we plan to see the movie “Cocoon.” On the 20th we learned
how to play Mexican Train after volunteers treated us to a supper of homemade soups and
salad, along with Eleanor Leeper's famous homemade bread and some very delicious desserts.
We had a lot of fun and plan on playing again sometime soon.
We have wonderful things planned for 2010 and hope that our Ouray County seniors will join
us. On February 15th, after the Monday lunch, we will have our second monthly meeting of the
Knitter’s Circle. Our first gathering in January was a success with many beginners learning
from the more experienced knitters. We plan to make newborn baby caps for a hospital in
Africa. Thanks to Carol Harper for getting this organized.
If you would like to learn more about the social events we have planned, please call Doreen at
Neighbor to Neighbor, 325-4586. We would love to have you join us!
SOMETHING TO MAKE YOU SMILE!!
Two 90-year-old women, Rose and Barb had been friends all of their lives. When it was clear
that Rose was dying, Barb visited her every day.
One day Barb said, “Rose, we both loved playing women's softball all our lives, and we played
all through High School. Please do me one favor: when you get to Heaven, somehow you must
let me know if there's women's softball there.” Rose looked up at Barb from her deathbed and
said, “Barb, you've been my best friend for many years. If it's at all possible, I'll do this favor
Shortly after that, Rose passed on.
A few nights later, Barb was awakened from a sound sleep by a blinding flash of white light
and a voice calling out to her, “Barb, Barb.” “Who is it?”, asked Barb, sitting up suddenly.
“Who is it?”
“Barb -- it's me, Rose.”
“You're not Rose. Rose just died.”
“I'm telling you, it's me, Rose,” insisted the voice.
“Rose! Where are you?”
“In Heaven,” replied Rose. “I have some really good news and a little bad news.”
“Tell me the good news first,” said Barb.
“The good news,” Rose said, “is that there's softball in Heaven. Better yet all of our old buddies
who died before us are here, too. Better than that, we're all young again. Better still, it's always
springtime, and it never rains or snows. And best of all, we can play softball all we want, and
we never get tired.”
“That's fantastic,” said Barb. “It's beyond my wildest dreams! So what's the bad news?”
“You're pitching Tuesday.”
Life is uncertain - eat dessert first
A NOTE FROM DONNA…..
Last June I had the privilege of attending Rural Philanthropy Days in Crested Butte. This was a
gathering of approximately 300 folks involved with nonprofit organizations on the Western
Slope. It was a chance for these organizations to meet personally with foundations, mostly
from the Front Range, that were possible funding sources for their various projects. There were
also two days of incredibly helpful workshops on improving Board effectiveness, building
social capital, increasing the recognition of the role nonprofits play in our communities,
building nonprofit capacity, and improving regional collaboration. The conference also enabled
the funders to better understand rural Colorado.
There were two things that stood out for me when all was said and done. First, in spite of the
internet, (which is largely, but admittedly, not always, a fabulous tool), the most important
means of communication remains person to person and face to face. If you need something or
want to get something done, it is most effectively done via a personal plea or presentation,
Secondly, and most important, I could not help but be encouraged by seeing 300 plus people
from Grand Junction, Gunnison, Lake City, Telluride, Montrose, Delta, Crested Butt, Olathe,
Ridgway and Ouray who are working unbelievably hard to make a difference in our corner of
the world. The projects they were involved in ranged from riparian issues in our rivers and
streams, to clean energy, to libraries, the arts, health organizations, food banks, disadvantaged
children, museums, PBS stations, Hospice, women’s groups, Hispanic aid, and our own San
Juan Riding Program, Voyager, Ridgway Ouray Community Council, Weehawken Creative
Arts, Second Chance, the Friends of the Wright Opera House, the Ridgway Library, Ouray
County Arts Association, and Neighbor to Neighbor.
In spite of what we read in the newspaper and hear on the television, these are people on both
sides of the aisle and all points in between, who have a heart and dedication to making ours a
better world. And this is only in one region of Colorado. Expand that across our state and the
nation and you find the American spirit this country was founded on, our willingness to roll up
our sleeves and do what needs to be done!
There are approximately 35 non profits groups in Ouray County today and I know many of you
are involved, or have been active in the past, in more than one. The County owes you all a huge
debt of gratitude as, without what you are doing and have done, this would not be the special
place it is. Know that you are making, and have made, a huge difference in many lives.
God Bless You All,
DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO COULD USE SOME HELP?
Our biggest challenge at Neighbor to Neighbor is providing services to all the seniors and
homebound in need. In Ouray County there are over 800 people over the age of 60 and 200
over the age of 75. We are meeting the needs of only a few of these people. Do you have a
relative, neighbor or friend that might need some of our services? We offer the following:
Transportation: In our Senior Van and in private vehicles to meal sites, medical
appointments, shopping and special events.
Meals On Wheels: Lunch delivered right to your door Monday thru Friday.
Senior Lunches: Every Monday we offer a nutritious and tasty lunch in Ouray.
Companionship: Through our senior lunches, friendly visits, friendly phone calls, or
attending special events.
Access to community resources: Call the Neighbor to Neighbor office.
Handyman Services: Assistance with small home repairs.
Bookkeeping Help: Sorting mail, Paying Bills, insurance paperwork
Grocery Shopping: Either with you or for you.
Call the Neighbor to Neighbor office at 325-4586 for more information.
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Pictures of some Special Events including a picnic in Telluride to see the Fall colors,
“Goodbye” lunch for Roger and Angie Henn, 4th of July Parade, local children helping the
seniors by serving lunch, Picnic at the Pumpkin Patch, Christmas lunch and other senior