My Ex Acts Like I Don't Exist What's Going On With Him? Well here's the story. My ex and I are both 18, and we were in a serious relationship for year and a 1/2. We spent the night at each other’s houses, did everything together, were always very affectionate toward each other, hardly ever got into fights, and were always laughing. It was absolutely perfect. We were looking for apartments, and were planning on moving in together this summer. Well, a week before graduation (by the way, we were both seniors in high school); he told me that he needed a break and he needed to spend time with his friends before they left for college. Though I was very sad, we remained friends and I understood his reasoning for breaking up. We also both agreed that moving in together would be moving a little too fast for us. SO we decided not to, and we decided that we'd get back together by the end of the month. WELL, once graduation happened, our families took pictures of us, and it felt like we were still going out. The first couple days of summer, I found out about some girl he and I both know. She's a fairly large girl who is a tom boy. She's like "one of the guys" and has been friends with my ex since they were very young. I guess they had been spending a lot of time together. Well I asked him about it, and he told me that they were just friends and that he told her that he didn’t want a relationship. But he began avoiding me. He didn't answer my phone calls, and he was ALWAYS with his friends. One night last weekend, I got a call from him at midnight. I wasn't home, but he talked to my mom and asked her to have me call him when I get home. I called him the next day; he was very nice... but said My Ex Acts Like I Don't Exist What's Going On With Him? he needed to let me go. He told me "I will tell you about it later" and was very nice. Well he never called, and I have yet to hear from him. I've passed him on the road a few times and he pretends not to see me. What is going on with him? I really don't understand.... Answer: Being ignored by your ex is tough but having them pretend that you don't exist after a year and a half long relationship is even worse. Your next move is going to be determined by what you want to accomplish. If you've got no desire to try and salvage the relationship then you're best to simply let him go and move on. However, if really want the relationship back and want to get him back from this girl that he’s currently hanging out with then there are some things you can do to get him to notice you again. Having said that I think it's important to understand that relationships in general can be a tricky thing. One minute everything seems good and the next minute you're standing alone wondering what happened. Unfortunately in life we can't control other people or their actions, but we can control what they see and how they think about us, and that is the root of this problem. He's totally ignoring you, he's not looking at you when you pass each other in the street and he's not returning your calls so how do you get his attention without appearing needy and desperate? Just because he's not talking to you doesn't mean he doesn't miss you. My Ex Acts Like I Don't Exist What's Going On With Him? It's quite common after a breakup to completely block the other person from every aspect of our lives. The reason that we do this is because there is pain associated whenever we interact with someone that we cared deeply for but are no longer with and so the only way to avoid the pain of the breakup is to avoid the person. That's what he's doing to you here. You had a relationship for a year and a half and it's obvious that the two of you spent some serious time together which resulted in some very deep feelings for each other and even though he ended it with you, there's still pain associated with the breakup even if he’s not admitting it to himself. Making him miss you is the key. In a situation like yours, the key to getting his attention again is to make him miss you and in order to do this you need to follow some basic no contact rules. 1. Cut off all communication with him. If you've been calling and texting him nonstop since the breakup stop doing it! Doing this won't make him miss you, in fact it will have the opposite effect. If you want to get his attention, especially when he pretends you don't exist then you've got to drop out of his life completely. Let me take you into the mind of your guy after a breakup: "When I break up with a girl the last thing I need is to hear from her because every conversation is centered on the relationship and getting back together." My Ex Acts Like I Don't Exist What's Going On With Him? "It's difficult to talk to her knowing that she still wants you back, sometimes you don't know what you should say. And whatever you do say won't make her happy, so the ideal thing to do is to avoid her." "If she keeps calling and texting things tend to get out of hand fast, and soon she's angry at you as well as being upset. Breaking up is stressful enough without the additional drama." 2. Make it last. After you've cut off contact with him, the next thing you need to do is to make it last so that he starts to miss you. In most cases, a period of about six weeks will do it. The six week timeline is long enough to let the dust settle and the healing begin. Any hurt or bitter feelings on both sides will have gone away by this point. Also smaller issues that lead to the break up will be forgotten, so you'll only have to worry about the more important ones. Most importantly of all, the six week time period gives your ex some serious time to miss you! Don't be surprised if he calls you before the six week period is up, but if he hasn't, don't worry. He'll be more open to hearing from you after cutting off communication for so long. The Bottom Line If he doesn't miss you then he has no reason to want to be with you. Even if he's not talking to you or he pretends like you don't exist there's still a part of him that misses you but he doesn't want to face it. Use the 2 tips outlined above to get him missing you so you can start communicating again. Now these tips are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to getting his attention again after a breakup. 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