HowtoCommunicateConfidently by simochipo


									                           How to Communicate Confidently

One thing common to all great communicators is that when they speak, everybody
listens. However, communicating to people is one of the greatest fears for most of the
human beings, and especially when it comes to public speaking. Most people dread
public speaking more than death! Do you ever wonder why you don’t seem to get
listened to by others even though you too have many ideas to share? Then read on, this
article is just for you.

Confident communication however, is more than what you speak. It takes into account
your body language as well.

What’s inside the mind of a Successful Communicator?

Confident communicators aren’t a know all

Of course, you need to have good knowledge about the subject you are talking about, but
what actually matters is not what you say, but how you say it. Successful people don’t do
different things, they do things differently. The first step is to believe in what you say.
You must be fully convinced in the idea and only then will there be conviction in the tone
of your voice. Your voice now is equipped with the power to hold people’s attention.
Once you have conviction in your voice, and what you speak is useful for the other
people and it actually helps them or gives some credible information, you get
appreciation. This certainly peps up your self-confidence!

Confident communicators don’t let people make them nervous

Most people suffer from fearing catastrophes that never happen. Most people tend to
make a very high imaginary impression of other people in their minds.
So much so that their mind starts believing that other people are perfect. This creates an
unfair comparison between their own personality and the imaginary personality of other
people that they create. This thinking breeds a fear of meeting and talking to other
people. It lowers their confidence and they fear what it will be to meet and talk to these
“perfect” people. However, in real life nobody is perfect and you must realize this.
Everybody has their own set of faults and weaknesses. It’s important for you to realize
that every human being is essentially imperfect. This will give you greater confidence to
go out and face people.

Take it or leave it. You snooze, you lose

Ideally you must be the best of your moods and carry a pleasant demeanor when you go
out and meet people. However, it might not always be possible and it may so happen that
you are not fully prepared to communicate, or you are a little tense over some other
matter. A confident communicator, though, develops an ability to keep control of his
emotions. This quality helps the communicator to keep control of the situation. You may
still not be in a good moodb but you must make sure that you keep indecisiveness at bay.
Your indecision will fritter away your focus and energy and you fail to make any impact.
If you decide to communicate. Be yourself, have faith in yourself and go ahead.

Mind your body language

Your gesture, postures and eye contact probably talk louder than your words. Body
language cuts across all barriers of communication such as language, time, place,
knowledge and so on. Your body language starts getting interpreted unconsciously by
everyone around. People start forming impressions about you the moment you make an
eye contact and body language certainly contributes a considerably large part of the
impression you make.

A few facts you must know

      You may have a sad expression on your face because of some other matter, but
       the person you are talking to may feel that you don’t approve what he says,
       leading to misunderstanding.

      A steady gaze may convey intensity, anger, aggression or strong interest. Little
       eye contact may imply lack of confidence or shyness.

      Open hands may convey honesty and openness; however, making a lot of hand
       gestures might mean that you are being nervous.

Confident communication, including words and gestures, is something that you do not
perfect in a day. You must grab every opportunity to communicate. Try to check your
communication skills, your strong points and the mistakes you make along with the
overall affect on the other person. Try to learn from your experiences and there is no
reason why you can’t make it. Get going. Good luck!

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