Arrows In The Quiver by n1r8S1


									                         Arrows In The Quiver

Psalms 127:4,5. Our children are like arrows in the hands of a mighty
warrior. We keep them in the quiver until the time we shoot them out into
the world. Today it’s hard to imagine having a quiver full of children. No
warrior would go into battle with just 1-3 arrows yet we’re comfortable
with 1-3 children. Sometimes even one child seems like too many because
even one child can be a handful.

Verse 5 uses the word “happy” in association with having a lot of kids. If
you want to make the average adult unhappy, surround them with large
numbers of kids for long periods of time. Does the Bible have a clue? Does
God have any idea what it takes to raise children in this day and age? The
reality is a baby, a toddler, or a young child back then is no different
than one today. The environments have changed, but more importantly, the
people raising them, we have changed and we don’t associate a lot of
children with our happiness.

Part of the problem is we have lost the warrior spirit and mentality
therefore, we don’t see the value of a quiver full of arrows. A warrior
wants as many arrows as he can carry because he understands their value in
the battle. Today we don’t see our kids assisting us in battles we see them
creating battles. Therefore, we feel that children are to be educated,
tolerated, and, when they turn 18, emancipated. We say, “Happy is the man
who has emptied his quiver”. But then, that empty nest syndrome hits us
because we realize that we’ve missed opportunities that we’ll never get
back and we begin to wonder if we have adequately prepared them to face the
world. We begin to worry as verse 5 says will they be put to shame or will
they be able to successfully deal with all the traps and pressures that the
enemy has placed out there?

This teaching isn’t about dictating how many children we should have or
placing blame or taking credit for our children’s successes and failures.
You could be a great parent, yet your child can miss the mark when you
launch them. You could be a terrible parent, yet your child could be
successful and hit a bull’s-eye when you launch them. Our goal is not to
judge, but to improve on those things that we can to help the children that
are still in the quiver. Our goal is to be happy when they are in the
quiver, not just happy when we shoot them out.

Ezekiel 39:1-3. Before you ever decide to have children make sure you are
in the right army. Gog may sound like God, but you better believe there is
a big difference. If we want our children to even have a chance in life we
have to transfer out of the army of Gog by getting saved and joining the
army of God. The problem with so many of our youth today is either they or
their parents are in the wrong army or they are AWOL from the right army.
When you’re in the army of Gog, God is against you and your bow and arrows

will be rendered useless.

When we say, “Children are a blessing, but…” that’s Gog talk. A warrior
doesn’t say arrows are a blessing, but I only want one or two. A soldier
doesn’t say bullets are a blessing, but I only want one or two.
Realistically there are limits to everything, but the mindset, however,
must always be, no matter how few or many are in my quiver, how can I
maximize and use what I have most effectively? The mindset must be
maximization not toleration then evacuation.

The only way to maximize what is produced by our arrows is to understand
that they are to be arrows in our hand. You, as the parent, are the warrior
and must ask yourself, “Are my children arrows in my hand or am I putty in
their hands?” Who is the real warrior in your household? If you’re the
warrior then they shouldn’t be wearing you out. You should be wearing them
out. Children are not shy to tell you exactly how and where they want to be
shot. “Can you shoot me over to the mall? Can you shoot me $25? Can you
shoot me the keys to the car, a cell phone, and new clothes? Can you shoot
me over to this all night party?” Unfortunately, the world is also teaching
them to be warriors and when it goes against Godly judgment parents have to
boldly say, “That’s not where I’m aiming you!”. As parents we have to set
our sights high for our children because if we allow them to persuade us to
aim low we will shoot ourselves in the foot. We have to remind our children
that we are in the army of God not the army of Gog.

When you are a godly warrior parent, your kids are going to get mad at you.
But the Bible says happy is the man not happy is the child. If we spend our
time trying to excessively and lavishly make them happy, there is a high
probability that when they become adults they won’t be happy and neither
will we. We have to tell these little pointed arrow heads that we’re not
trying to make their lives miserable, but they are in training. We have to
constantly communicate to them where we’re trying to launch them to and get
them to believe and buy into it. They must understand they are arrows in
our hands.

Our job is to aim our child at a target. No warrior randomly shoots an
arrow. He has a target in sight. Being a warrior parent is more than
providing for the basic needs of our children and then at age 18 shooting
them out the house just as high and far as we can. It has to matter to us
where they land. Many parents can’t aim their children because they were
never aimed. That’s not your fault, but it can’t be your crutch either. God
can help you develop the warrior skills that your parents didn’t pass on to

Many parents can’t aim their children because even today as adults they’re
not aimed at anything. As warriors, our children need to see us aimed at
more than the TV, the couch, the refrigerator, the telephone, and the mall.

As warriors they need to see us looking at more than the daily routine.
They should hear us discussing long term plans and strategies. That builds
their self-esteem and gives them more confidence in our ability to launch
them. Why do children idolize music and sports personalities? Because they
see these people aimed at something and doing a good job of hitting the
target. We have to do the same thing to increase our children’s confidence
in where we’re aiming them.

The warrior first identifies and accesses the target. What and where is the
target? If the target is too far or otherwise out of range the warrior must
make an adjustment. Because once the arrow is shot it can’t be adjusted.
It’s either going to hit or miss the target. It’s therefore up to the
warrior to make the necessary adjustments before the arrow is shot. Many
parents have targets that will be impossible for their children to hit if
they don’t make some adjustments. Adjustments must be made spiritually,
relationally, physically, educationally, socially, and financially. It does
no good to identify a target if we don’t realistically access the
probability of hitting it and make the necessary adjustments before
releasing the arrow.

The warrior must have stability in the bow arm. If the bow arm is shaky the
target will not be hit. Children need stability. When the parents are shaky
it not only impacts their aim, but it also causes the child to doubt they
can hit the target once they are launched. Children need to witness
stability in marriages, home life, finances, church involvement, and
spiritual commitment. The more stability the child witnesses in the parent
the greater the chance of success.

The warrior must have strength in their string arm. If you have ever held a
real bow then you know how difficult it can be to pull back the string. The
arrow can only fly as far as the warrior is strong. Two of the greatest
strengths you can display for your children are moral/spiritual strength
and work ethic strength. Those strengths alone are enough to launch a child
when strength in other areas is lacking. Many parents have launched
children successfully when they themselves didn’t have the strength of
money or education. With moral/spiritual strength and a strong work ethic
our children have a better chance of not just hitting the target but
sticking to it. The arrow may hit the target but does it have enough behind
it to penetrate and stick in the target? We can hit the target of sending
them to college, but will they stick it out and graduate? We can hit the
target of getting them a job, but will they stick it out and develop a
strong work ethic? We can hit the target of getting them married, but will
they stick it out and not get divorced? We can increase our chances of
success when our string arm is strong.

Don’t believe the lie that the string arm is strengthened primarily with

more money. Money can’t guarantee success. Rich kids drop out of college
too. Rich kids get fired from jobs too. Rich kids get divorced too. You
don’t score the victory if the arrow doesn’t stick. And to get the arrow to
stick we need not just the strength of money, but the strength of our faith
and a strong work ethic.

The warrior must have focus. You can’t just tell the child what the target
is. The child must see you looking at the target. The child must see you
doing the necessary things to ensure the arrow hits the bull’s-eye. What
does your child see you focused on the most? When you, as the warrior,
don’t focus, you cause the child to pick up their own bow in an effort to
launch himself. Nine times out of ten when children do this they will be
aimed at a target that you don’t approve of. Hosea 7:14-16. Our focus
cannot be fixed on corn and wine. In other words, we can’t be so focused on
prosperity. God has strengthened our arms as warriors, but our focus has to
be on His will. When we aim and focus on the wrong things, it’s our
children which we are trying to shoot into the world, that end up getting
shot. Our focus on God will help keep our Princes and Princesses from
falling. When we say we’re shooting at one thing, but our focus is on
something else our bows will deceive us and we will miss the mark and our
children will suffer.

Jeremiah 50:9. If you have ever held a real bow and arrow you may have
noticed that it can be hard to bend the bow. When we develop as expert
warriors the bow bends for us, it yields to us. That represents us bending
life so we can get a shot off rather than life always bending us. Our goal
is to hit the target. Our goal is to train our arrows on and have them to
be successful against Babylon, which represents the world. We don’t want
our arrows to return to the quiver in vain. Experts don’t shoot, miss, and
then go retrieve the arrows and return them to the quiver. There will
always be some prodigal sons and daughters that come back home. Or we may
have to go out and get them and bring them back to the quiver, confirm
them, love them, and try it again. But our goal is to keep them in the
quiver until they are ready to face the world. Our goal as expert warriors
is to train the next generation of warriors. Then when they return home
they are successful, godly warriors who will one day have arrows in their
own quivers. Amen.


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