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Dinning Etiquette II— Table Manners


									Dinning Etiquette II—
               Table Manners
Knowing your ‘b’ and ‘d’s
Bread on the Left, Drink on the Right

                   b d
Hold both hands in front of you, palms facing
 each other. Using the tips of your thumb
 and forefinger, make circles on each hand.
 The remaining three fingers in each hand
 point upwards. Your left hand will form a
 "b" and your right hand will form a "d".
 Bread (b) is on the left, and drink (d) is on
 the right.
Where to put your napkin?
 Napkins belong in your lap. Large napkins
 can be folded in half or with a quarter
 folded over the top. They should never be
 tucked into your shirt like a bib.
 Wait for the host to unfold his napkin
 before unfolding yours. In a banquet setting
 or at a restaurant, simply place your napkin
 in your lap as soon as you are seated.
 If you have to leave the table during the
 meal, say a soft "excuse me" to the people
 on either side of you, leave your napkin on
 your chair (not the table) and push the
 chair under the table as you leave.
Where to put your napkin?
 When you have finished dinner and are
 about to leave, loosely fold the napkin and
 place it to the left or right of your plate. Do
 not refold your napkin or wad it up on the
 table either.
 Never use your napkin as a tissue, but
 have one close by if you think you'll need to
 wipe your nose during the meal.
 Ladies should blot their lipstick with a
 tissue before eating so that they don't soil
 the cloth napkin and glassware.
Passing food around the table
 Roll baskets, butter, cream, salad dressings, sugar,
 salt and pepper - if they're within your reach, pick
 them up and start them around.
 Pass food from the left to the right and refrain from
 helping yourself first. Those items should make a
 complete pass around the table before you get
 your turn.
 If a passing pattern has already developed, go
 with the flow.
 If asked for the salt or pepper, pass both together.
 Butter, spreads, or dips should be transferred from
 the serving dish to your plate before spreading or
Passing Food Around the Table
 Whenever you pass something with a
 handle, such as dressings, pass it
 with the handle facing the other
 person so that they can grasp it easily.
 Only reach for items that are in front
 of you. Politely ask others to pass
 items out of reasonable reach.
 Food is served from the left.
 Dishes are removed from the right.
Butter your bread
 Place the butter first on the bread plate
 before buttering your bread.
 Break up your bread or rolls into one- or
 two-bite morsels for buttering and eating.
 Butter only the piece you are preparing to
 Whatever you take up to your mouth to eat
 should be eaten in one or two consecutive
 bites. Your tablemates don't want to see
 the part that didn't quite fit in your mouth
 placed back on your bread plate!
How to drink soup properly?
  Draw the spoon away from you and
  quietly sip the soup from the side of the
  spoon. Tilt the bowl away from you to get
  to the last drops.
  If you need to set your soup spoon down,
  place it in the bowl. Do not put it on the
  dish under the bowl until finished.
  If there is no plate, rest the spoon in the
  bowl. Follow these same guidelines for
  any dessert served in a bowl.
  Salads should be prepared so that they
  consist of bite-size pieces. But if the salad
  contains leaves that are too big to eat, use
  your salad fork to cut them into smaller
  pieces. And if that doesn't work, use your
  dinner knife.

(But only use the knife when all other
  methods have failed. Why? Because you'll
  also need that knife for the main course,
  and after you've used it for the salad,
  there's no place to put it so that it doesn't
  also disappear with the salad plate.)
Main Course
 Pace your speed of eating to that of your
 tablemates so that you don't make them feel
 Eating "American Style“:
  1. Cut your food with the fork in your left hand
      and the knife in your right hand.
  2. Cut only one piece at a time.
  3. Then lay your knife down along the top edge
      of the plate and transfer the fork to your right
  4. Bring the food up to your mouth with the tines
      on the fork facing upward.
  5. Don't stab your food or hold the silverware with
      your fists. And be careful not to gesture or
      point with your silverware, whether or not it
      has food on it.
Main Course—continued

 If you must remove something from your
 mouth as you eat, take it out the way it
 went in. In other words, if it entered your
 mouth on a fork, remove it with your fork. If
 it was finger food, use your fingers to
 remove it. Hold your napkin in front of your
 mouth to mask the removal, then place the
 item on the side of your plate. Don't try to
 hide it under the plate, because as soon as
 the plates are cleared it will be left behind
 on the tablecloth! Don't hide any paper
 trash you've accumulated during the meal
 under your plate either. Just place it on the
 edge of your bread plate.
When finishing

 At the conclusion of the meal, imagine
 your dinner plate as a clock and place
 your utensils in the 4:20 position. It's
 considered rude to push your plates
 away, stack them up or hand them to
 the server. Place your loosely-folded
 napkin on the table just as you stand
 to leave, not before.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
 Start eating hot food when it is served, do
 not wait for everyone else to begin.
 For soup, dip the spoon into the soup, from
 the edge of the bowl to the center, moving
 away from you. Only fill it 3/4 full to avoid
 spilling. Sip, not slurp, from the edge of the
 spoon. Do not insert the whole bowl of the
 spoon into your mouth.
 It is proper to tip a soup bowl slightly to get
 all of the soup.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Never turn the glass upside down to
  decline wine. It is more polite to let
  the wine be poured and not draw
  attention to yourself. If you are asked
  about wine and will not be drinking,
  quietly decline.
  Do not ask for a doggy bag unless it
  is an informal dining situation.
  Do not smoke at the table.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Do not ask to taste someone else's
  food. Similarly, do not offer a taste of
  your food to someone else.
  Taste your food before seasoning it.
  For hard to scoop items like peas, use
  your knife or a piece of bread to push
  the items onto your fork. Do not use
  your fingers.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Do not talk with your mouth full.
  Cut only enough food for the next
  Chew with your mouth closed.
  If soup is too hot to eat, let it cool in
  bowl. Do not blow on it.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Practice good posture. If not eating,
  place your hand in your lap or rest
  your wrists on the edge of the table.
  Do not put your elbows on the table.
  If hot food is burning your mouth,
  discretely drink something cool to
  counteract the food.
  When dining out, order foods that can
  be eaten with utensils.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Meeting materials or briefcases
  should be placed under your chair
  until it is time to discuss business.
  Try to pace your meal to finish at the
  same time as your host or the
  majority of the group at the table.
Other etiquette rules for dinning
  Do not blow your nose at the dinner table.
  Excuse yourself to visit the restroom. Wash
  your hands before returning to the dining
  If you cough, cover your mouth with your
  napkin to stop the spread of germs and
  muffle the noise. If your cough becomes
  unmanageable, excuse yourself to visit the
  restroom. Wash your hands before
  returning to the dining room.
Casual Dinning Expectation

 When sharing chips and salsa at your
 favorite Mexican food restaurant with
 your friends, do not concern yourself
 with transferring salsa to your own
 plate. However, do not double dip. In
 other words, do not dip your chip, bite
 off a piece, and then re-dip your chip.
Ordering Wine at a Restaurant


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