Bullying parents by c9L2e73


  Prevention and Intervention in Schools

Cross Timbers Middle School
  Counseling Department
               Defining Bullying

Bullying is when a student or group of students
    engages in written or verbal expression, or
    physical conduct that:

  –   Will have the effect of physically harming a student, damaging a
      student’s property, or placing a student in reasonable fear of

  –   Is sufficiently severe, persistent, or pervasive enough that it
      creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational
      environment for the student.
Bullying is:

   Aggressive
   Intentional
   Involves an imbalance of power
Bullying may be:

   Repeated over time
   Acted out in many different forms.
Bullying is NOT:

   A normal childhood activity
   A rite of passage
   The target’s fault
   Unpreventable
Bullying can happen in 5 ways:

   Verbal: Ignoring, isolation, put downs, name calling, teasing,
    gossip, threats.
   Physical: Blocking, pushing, kicking, fighting, physical restraint.
   Sexual: Innuendos, touching, slapping, pictures, jokes, sexual
    harassment, assault.
   Property: hiding belongings, theft, extortion (blackmail),
    vandalism, destruction.
   Cyber: Direct or indirect attacks using cell phones, computers,
    email, social networking sites or other electronic means to accomplish
    any of the above types of bullying.
For the target, bullying is a “loss”

   LOSS of safety
   LOSS of self-esteem
   LOSS of belongings
   LOSS of control over their own life.
Is it really bullying?

   Not every incident that students report will fit the
    definition of bullying.
   Adolescence is often a difficult time
    –   Moving from elementary school to middle school
    –   Changing friends, social groups, and status
    –   Coping emotional and physical changes
   Often situations involving some “bullying” type
    behaviors, such as name calling or exclusion, is part
    of normal peer conflict, and can be worked out with
Effects of Bullying on the Target:

   Physical Effects              Emotional Effects
     –   Stomach aches             –   Alienation
     –   Weight loss/gain          –   Loneliness
     –   Headaches                 –   Low self-esteem
     –   Drop in grades            –   Insecurity
     –   Drug or alcohol use       –   FEAR
     –   Sexual acting out         –   Depression
     –   Suicidal                  –   Withdrawal
         thoughts/statements       –   Aggression
     –   Homicidal                 –   Anger
         thoughts/statements       –   Thoughts/acts of revenge
Results of Bullying
   Violence
     –   The Secret Service did a study on school violence and found that bullying
         was a factor in over 40 school violence incidents including:
               –   Barry Loukaitis, 14, Moses Lake, WA February 2, 1996
               –   Joseph “Colt” Todd, 14, Stamps, AR December 15, 1997
               –   Eric Harris, 17, and Dylan Klebold, 18, Littleton, CO April 20, 1999
               –   Charles “Andy” Williams, Santee CA March 6, 2001
               –   Elizabeth Catherine Bush, 14, Williamsport, PA March 7, 2001
   Suicide
     –   Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 15-25 year olds and sixth
         among 5-14 year olds.
     –   500,000 teens attempt suicide every year.
     –   5000 succeed.
               –   Phoebe Prince, 15, Northampton, MA, January 2010
               –   Eric Mohat, 17, Mentor, OH, March 2007
               –   Jeremiah Lasater, 14, Acton, CA, October 2010
               –   Megan Meier, 13, St. Louis, MS, 2006
    Warning Signs that a Child is being

   Frequently the target of teasing, intimidation, domination at school
   Has a derogatory nickname
   Regularly has bruises or injuries that can’t be explained
   Has belongings taken or damaged
   Few or no close friends at school
   Frequently socially isolated
   Chosen last for teams or other activities
   Less assertive or lacks the skills to respond to teasing
   Appears weak or easily dominated
   Tries to stay close to a teacher or other adult during
    passing periods, lunch or other free periods.
  Factors that contribute to bullying

 Family    Factors:        conflict in the home, lack of
 attention, lack of supervision, modeling of aggressive
 Individual     Factors: active and impulsive
 personality, craves attention, insecure.
 School    Factors: overall climate of the school
 is uncaring or indifferent, perception of students is
 that teachers know about bullying and don’t care,
 disrespectful interactions are ignored or tolerated.
3 Types of Bullies:

   The Confident Bully:
    –   Physically strong, aggressive, high self-esteem, popular, but
            More likely to use violence, theft and destruction of property.

   The Anxious Bully:
    –   Academically weak, less popular, low self-esteem, insecure
        and with a need to control, may be immature and envious.
            More likely to use teasing, name-calling and social isolation.

   The Bully / Victim
    –   Bullies in some situations and victimized by bullies in other
        situations, poor social skills, generally unpopular, may taunt
        and provoke bullies.
85% of students are NEITHER
    bullies nor victims.

              These are the SILENT
              MAJORITY and they
              can build positive peer
              pressure against
Why is someone targeted?

   Size: being a different size -- smaller or bigger – for your age.
   Differences: having a characteristic that makes you stand out like being
    African-American at a mostly white school, a girl in a shop class that's crowded
    with boys, or having a disability that makes you walk or talk differently.
   Reaction: getting anxious or upset very easily.
   Social factors: not having many friends, being alone a lot; or not having
    a lot of confidence and not standing up for yourself.
     –   Some kids get bullied as a result of a single thing that happened, like an embarrassing
         moment that took place in front of other people.
   Opportunity: being at the wrong place at the wrong time.
   Reputation: Usually, once someone is singled out by a bully, other people
    will know that person is a target and start bullying her or him, too.
What can parents do?

   Talk to your child about bullying.
   Be aware of bullying warning signs.
   Contact the teacher, counselor or
    administrator as soon as possible.
   Help your child develop and practice bully
    resistance skills.
   Make a plan with your child about how the
    bullying situation will be handled.
What should parents NOT do?

   Confront the bully or the bully’s parents. This
    probably won’t help and might make things worse.
   Tell your child to “get in there and fight.” Bullies are
    usually stronger and more powerful than their
    victims. Your child could get hurt.
   Blame your child. Bullying is NEVER the victim’s
   Promise to keep the bullying secret. This gives the
    bully permission to keep bullying.
       WHAT CAN MY
        CHILD DO?

If he or she is being bullied:

   –   Keep Calm:       bullies love it when you react with tears or anger. Don’t
       give them the reaction they are looking for.

   –   Report it:     Bullies will harass you as long as they think they will get
       away with it. By reporting it and continuing to report it, you send them a
       message that you are not going to take it.

   –   Use the buddy system:             Most bullies look for easy targets. If
       you are alone, you are much less likely to have someone stand up for

If he or she is being bullied:

   –   Make a joke:       This approach throws the bully off guard and
       lets them know that they are not going to get the reaction they are
       looking for…. However, don’t make the joke at the bully’s
       expense—that would just make YOU the bully.

   –   Be assertive:         Look the bully in the eye, and stand up for
       yourself in a positive way.

   –   Walk away:       Remove yourself from the situation as quickly as
       possible. Get help from a teacher or other adult.

If he or she sees someone bullying others:
   –   Choose to get involved.
   –   Tell the bully to stop.
   –   Tell them that bullying is not okay in our school.
   –   Distract the bully.
   –   Get help.
   –   Support the victim.
   –   Ask the victim to join your group.
   –   Offer a positive or encouraging comment.
   –   Do not Laugh, participate, or stand around watching it
   –   Report it.

If he or she is bullying others:
   –   Ask yourself when, why and how you bully others.
   –   Learn to treat everyone with respect.
   –   Pay more attention to other’s feelings.
   –   Think about the potential consequences of your actions.
   –   Apologize to your former victim(s).
   –   Talk to someone about the problem.
   –   Take positive steps to help yourself. Some adults who were
       bullies as children often end up with all sorts of problems -
       failed relationships, few friends, frequent job changes, even
       prison records.
   –   Save yourself future grief by stopping bullying now.
What procedures are in place to
respond to bullying?

   Every incident of potential bullying is investigated by
    the teacher or an administrator within 10 days.
   If the incident is determined to meet the criteria of
    bullying, the staff person will have the student fill out
    an incident report form to document the incident.
   An intervention will then be implemented.
   The type of intervention will depend on the results of
    the investigation.
Bullying Documentation to be filled out
by the student:

   Name
   Grade
   Date of Incident
   Who was involved in the incident
   When and where did it happen?
   What happened? (Be specific)
   To whom did you report the incident?
Bullying Documentation to be filled out
by a teacher/counselor/administrator

   Findings Summary
   Results of Findings by Campus Personnel
    This incident meets the definition of bullying as defined by FFI (LOCAL)
    Yes ___ No ___
    (If yes, please mark below the appropriate type of bullying displayed.)
   FFI (LOCAL) Definition of Bullying:
    Bullying occurs when a student or group of students engages in written or
    verbal expression or physical conduct that:
    _____ Physically harmed a student/s
    _____ Damaged a student/s’ property
    _____ Placed a student/s in reasonable fear of harm to themselves or their
    _____ Sufficiently severe, persistent, or pervasive that the action or threat
           creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational environment
           for a student/s.
   Action taken for incident/s
Potential Bullying

    Interventions will be applied based on the severity
    and circumstances of the incident.
    Potential interventions include:

   Student conference with a teacher, counselor, social worker,
    administrator, etc.
   Supportive follow up counseling as needed
   Notification of parent of bullying behavior
   Notification of teachers to actively monitor students involved
   Referral to AP for disciplinary action
   Other interventions to be considered on a case by case basis.
What is happening
at Cross Timbers?

   We have implemented clear policies and procedures to address bullying
   We trained all staff on bullying.
   We trained all students on bullying issues and have follow up activities planned
    throughout the year.
   We have increased supervision in the hallways, making it mandatory that all
    teachers supervise the hallway every passing period.
   We created an anonymous reporting form that students could access through
    our website.
   We investigate every incident of potential bullying, through the counseling
    office, and offer supportive services for both the bully and the target.
   We created a centralized log of all bullying incidents and the interventions.

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