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					Erika Russell
• Stalking can be defined as unwanted
  contact, which directly or indirectly
  communicates a threat or places the
  victim in fear.

• It is also defined as the willful,
  malicious, and repeated following and
  harassing of another person.
• Typically, stalking is a series of actions
  that puts a person in fear for their safety.
• A stalker can be someone you know well
  or not at all.
• About 75% of stalking cases are men
  stalking women, but men stalk men,
  women do stalk women, and women stalk
Research suggests:
 • 1 out of every 12 women will be stalked
   during their lifetime.
 • 1 out of every 45 men will be stalked.
 • 87% of stalkers overall are men.
 • 77% of female victims are stalked by
   someone they know.
Research suggests:
• The average duration of stalking is 1.8
• 61% of stalkers made unwanted
  phone calls,
• 33% sent or left unwanted letters or
• 29% vandalized property, and
• 9% killed or threatened to kill a family
Simple Obsessional Stalkers

 • Most common type.
 • They have some prior relationship with
   the victim, usually an intimate one.
Love Obsessional

  • Have had no existing
    relationship with the victim.
  • Many of these stalkers target
Erotomanic Stalkers

  • Delusionally believe that they
    are loved by the victim.
  • This is the rarest type.
Other Stalkers

  – Some stalkers harass their victim
    out of hate as opposed to love.
  – Occasionally, stalking becomes a
    method of revenge for some
    misdeed against the stalker, real
    or imagined.
  – Stalking can also be used as a
    means of protest.
A stalker might:
• Follow you and show up wherever you are.
• Call you repeatedly, sometimes hanging up.
• Damage your home, car, or other property.
• Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-
• Monitor you phone calls or computer use.
  A stalker might also:

• Use technology, like hidden cameras, global
  positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
• Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
• Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
• Find out about you by using public records or online
  search services, hiring investigators, going through
  your garbage, or contacting friends, family,
  neighbors, or coworkers.
There are several traits that are
common amongst stalkers:
 • Mood, anxiety, and/or substance abuse
 • Low self-esteem and social insecurity,
 • Narcissism,
 • Intense jealousy
 • Morbid infatuation
• Stalking is serious, often violent, unpredictable,
  dangerous and often escalates over time.
• No two stalking situations are identical.
• Many stalkers change behavior over time and escalate
  the frequency or the intensity of their contacts.
• Ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands who stalk are often
• Some of the most dangerous stalkers give little or no
  warning before they attack.
 There are several signs that are good
 indicators of stalking behaviors:
• Persistent phone calls and gifts despite being
  told not to contact in any form,
• Waiting at the workplace or in neighborhood,
• Threats,
• Manipulative behavior, and
• Defamation (the stalker often lies to others
  about the victim).
             You tend to:

• Feel fear of what the stalker might do.
• Feel nervous, irritable, impatient, and on
  the edge.
• Feel vulnerable, unsafe, and not know who
  to trust.
• Feel depressed, hopeless, overwhelmed, or
• Feel stressed, including having trouble
  concentrating, sleeping or remembering
• Have eating problems such as appetite loss,
 forgetting to eat, or overeating.
• Have flashbacks, disturbing thoughts, feelings,
 or memories.
• Feel confused, frustrated, or isolated because
 other people don’t understand why you are
• As early as possible, tell him/her that the
  relationship is over.
• Inform the person that no further contact of
  any kind is allowed.
• Avoid using tones or phrases that could be
  misconstrued as implying a second chance
  or playing or hard to get (mixed messages).
• Be respectful.
• Keep evidence of the stalking; when the stalker
  follows or contacts you, write down the time, date,
  and place.
• Keep emails, phone messages, letters or notes.
• Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages
  and any injuries the stalker causes.
• Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or
  a domestic violence or rape crisis program. They
  can help you devise a safety plan, give you
  information about local laws, refer you to other
  services, and weigh options such as seeking a
  protection order.
• Develop a safety plan, including things like
  changing your routine, arranging a place to stay,
  and having a friend or relative go places with you.
• Contact the police.
• Get a court order that tells the stalker he/she must
  stay away from you.
• Tell family, friends, roommates, and coworkers
  about the stalking and ask for their support.
• Tell security staff at your job or school and ask
  them to watch out for your safety.
•Communicate with the stalker or
respond to their attempts to contact you.
    – Discipline yourself to avoid contact
      with the stalker.
    – This includes ANY and ALL contact
      which could easily be misinterpreted by
      the stalker such as:
      • Calling to ask for someone else’s
        phone number,
      • Counter harassing, and
      • Sending letters back.
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