Playing on the Edge by carlatara


More Info
									Playing On The Edge
By Carla Tara – The Intimacy Expert

Last fall I had a striking experience as I was walking in Central Park. The weather was mild and
the trees were just starting to green. My soul was soaking in the beauty of nature and felt very
peaceful even in the middle of New York City.

After a meditative moment of gratefulness and peace, I felt pulled by shouts of joy toward a
children’s playground sculpture in the park. Kids were having a great time experiencing the
freedom of movement exhilarated by others like them expressing themselves with passion.

It was clear that boys and girls had a different way of expressing their joy of life.

Most boys were playing daring games such as crawling on rocks and looking around to see if
someone was admiring them. As though further energized by people like me looking at them,
they kept climbing and jumping even faster, taking less and less time to secure their footing well
before taking the next step. Parents were split between being worried and proud.
Being admired taking risks seemed to tuned the kids on. Perhaps taking risks is a masculine

But then I saw a girl who seemed to outdo most boys. That was impressive.

However most of the other girls were playing on the ground enjoying sharing their toys with
others and pushing each other on the swings.

I tried to analyze why it was so. Was the diversity in play because of socialization? Instead of
answering my question, I decided to enjoy the diversity and the genuine pleasure experienced by
the boys and girls playing and also by the men and women who were present there to create
safety for them.

Would our sexual life be more spontaneous and exciting if we gave
up the analyzing and trying to make sense of how nature wants to
express itself through us?
I feel grateful to be alive and decided to play a little more freely myself.

Some wise person said: “If you are not on the edge you’re taking up too much
space. “
How are you playing in your life?

Are you allowing yourself to take some risks by pushing your boundaries of safety without
falling off the rocks?

                           Carla Tara is an internationally-acclaimed intimacy and relationship
                           coach, who masterfully integrates a variety of tantric approaches with
                           body-oriented psychotherapy. She is known for the strength and
                           creativity of her work as a relationship and sex coach to both individuals
                           and couples, helping them rediscover the passion of their relationships,
                           and deepen intimate connections.

                           You can find out more on her website at

Photo: Encounter on a Net, by Diana Blackwell,

To top