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There's a saying {comes to|involves} an {end|finish}." {while|whereas} that statement {may be|could also be|is also} {a bit|a little|a trifle|to a
small degree|somewhat|slightly|alittle} of exaggeration, {there is|there's} a reason why married sex is butt {of many|of the many} jokes.

The Male {and female|and feminine} Sex Drive {important|necessary|vital} {differences|variations}
According to Michele Weiner-Davis in her book The Sex-Starved {marriage|wedding} (Simon & Schuster, 2003), “Sex
{experts|specialists|consultants} estimate that one out {of every|of each} {three|3} couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire one spouse
is hot when {the other|the opposite} {is not|isn't}.“ So, why is this?

For starters, men {and women|and ladies|and girls} tend {to have|to possess|to own} {very|terribly} {different|totally different|completely
different} perceptions of sex. {while|whereas} men {don't|do not} {actually|truly|really} {think
about|believe|consider|suppose|deem|trust|admit|accept|have confidence|have faith in|rely on|place confidence in} sex {every|each} seven
seconds, as {many|several} believe, studies show that {they do|they are doing} {think
about|believe|consider|suppose|deem|trust|admit|accept|have confidence|have faith in|rely on|place confidence in} it {more|additional|a lot of}
{often|typically|usually} than {women|ladies|girls}. {according to|consistent with|in keeping with|in line with|in step with|per} Laumann, E.,
Gagnon, J.H., Michael, R.T., and Michaels, S. in their book, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices {in the|within the} {united
states|us|u. s.} (University of Chicago Press, 1994), {the majority|the bulk} of men {think
about|believe|consider|suppose|deem|trust|admit|accept|have confidence|have faith in|rely on|place confidence in} sex {every day|a day|each
day|daily|on a daily basis} or {several|many} times {a day|each day|every day|daily|on a daily basis}, whereas {the majority|the bulk} {of
women|of girls|of ladies} {think about|believe|consider|suppose|deem|trust|admit|accept|have confidence|have faith in|rely on|place confidence
in} sex {only|solely} {a few|a couple of|a number of|some|many} times per month or {a few|a couple of|a number of|some|many} times per week.
Men {and women|and ladies|and girls} are created differently. When it {comes to|involves} {getting in|getting into|stepping into|moving into|going
in|entering into} the mood, men tend to be {susceptible to|vulnerable to|liable to|prone to|at risk of} {more|additional|a lot of} immediate sexual
stimuli, {including|as well as|together with} {touch|bit}, smell, sight, thought or fantasy. Women, on {the other|the opposite} hand,
{often|typically|usually} {rely on|believe|consider|think about|suppose|deem|trust|admit|accept|have confidence|have faith in|place confidence
in} an emotional {connection|association|affiliation} and environmental factors to become aroused. So, oftentimes, {a man|a person} {can
be|are often|will be|is|may be} {ready to|able to|able to} go {within|inside|among|at intervals} seconds, {while|whereas} {it may|it's going to|it
should} take {a woman|a lady|a girl} {several|many} minutes or longer.

Adding {to this|to the present|to the current} complexity, a woman's sex drive {is largely|is essentially|is basically} {based|based mostly|primarily
based} on her monthly hormonal changes. "There are natural, biological reasons for the ups and downs---the fluctuation---of sexual
{desire|want|need} in {women|ladies|girls}," says Diana Hoppe, MD., in her book, Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You (Health Reflections Press,
2010). She explains, "[Mother Nature] encourages increased sex drive at {certain|sure|bound} key times that are {beneficial|useful|helpful} to
our species from a biological and evolutionary standpoint."

Married Sex {and the|and therefore the|and also the} Rut
In addition to the physiological {differences|variations} between men {and women|and ladies|and girls}, the external
{environment|surroundings|setting|atmosphere} {can also|also can|can even|may also|may} play {a significant|a big|a major} role a couple’s
diminishing sex life. Between {the kids|the youngsters|the children}, work, chores, and {other|different|alternative} priorities of {everyday
life|lifestyle|way of life|existence|standard of living|daily life}, it becomes {harder|more durable|tougher} and {harder|more durable|tougher} for
{a couple|a few|one or two|a handful|some} {to find|to seek out|to search out} the time {the desire|the will|the need}

One partner {may|might|could} {view|read} sex as a priority {while|whereas} {the other|the opposite} sees it {merely|simply|just} as a nice-to-
have, {or even|or maybe|or perhaps} a chore. To one, {the lack|the shortage|the dearth} of sex becomes {a significant|a big|a major} void,
{while|whereas} to {the other|the opposite} {it may|it's going to|it should} be no {big|massive|huge} deal. {and the|and therefore the|and also
the} lack of communication on {the subject|the topic} {only|solely} perpetuates {the problem|the matter}.
Sex and Intimacy {important|necessary|vital} in Marriage?
If not resolved, {the lack|the shortage|the dearth} of sex {can|will} {turn into|become|turn out to be|develop into|be converted into|grow to
be|transform|change into} a long-term marital {problem|drawback|downside}. "When this disconnect happens," says Weiner-Davis
{during|throughout} a 2004 live WebMD discussion, "intimacy on all levels begins to drop out. They stop having meaningful conversations.
They stop sitting next {to each|to every} {other|different|alternative} on the couch, laughing at {each|every} other's jokes, spending time
{together|along}. In short, they stop being friends." And with this, {the marriage|the wedding} becomes open to infidelity.

Sex serves its own {very important|vital|important} purpose {in a|during a|in an exceedingly|in a very} {marriage|wedding}. This physical bond {is
a|may be a|could be a} {way|method|means|approach|manner} of celebrating intimacy between {two|2} {people|individuals|folks}. Studies show
that couples who are having sex are happier than {those who|those that|people who} {are not|aren't|don't seem to be}. Denise A. Donnelley,
associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University who has studied sexless {marriage|wedding} says, “Happy couples have
{more|additional|a lot of} sex, {and the|and therefore the|and also the} {more|additional|a lot of} sex {a couple|a few|one or two|a handful|some}
has, the happier they report being.”

Getting {in the|within the} Mood When a Partner {is not|isn't} in the Mood
Though {it may|it's going to|it should} not be what it once was, sex {can|will} become fun {again|once more}. {but|however} {it may|it's going to|it
should} take {a little|a bit|a trifle|to a small degree|somewhat|slightly|alittle} effort. "Have sex {when you|once you|after you} {don't want|don't
need|don't desire} to,” says Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago and author of {the passion|the eagerness|the
fervour} Prescription (Hyperion, 2007). Berman adds, “Many times, arousal comes before {desire|want|need}. Once you get going, {you'll
probably|you'll likely|you will likely} {find yourself|end up} enjoying it. {and the|and therefore the|and also the} {more|additional|a lot of} you
{experience|expertise} sex, the {more|additional|a lot of} your body {will|can} condition itself {to want|to require|to need} it."

Maintaining {an active|a lively|a vigorous|an energetic|a full of life} and fulfilling sex life {in a|during a|in an exceedingly|in a very}
{marriage|wedding} {may not|might not} {always|invariably|continuously|continually|forever|perpetually} be {easy|straightforward|simple},
{but|however} it {can|will} {and should|and will|and may} be done. By understanding that sex {is a|may be a|could be a} necessary ingredient {in
a|during a|in an exceedingly|in a very} healthy {marriage|wedding} and committing {to making|to creating} it a priority, {a couple|a few|one or
two|a handful|some} {can|will} set the wheels in motion to {a better|a far better|a much better|a higher|a stronger|a more robust|an improved}
sex life. {a better|a far better|a much better|a higher|a stronger|a more robust|an improved} sex life in {marriage|wedding} {means|suggests
that|means that} {a better|a far better|a much better|a higher|a stronger|a more robust|an improved} {marriage|wedding}.

				
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